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I'd like to ask her out but I have misgivings of being thought of as a sleazeball!

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Question - (28 April 2015) 7 Answers - (Newest, 2 May 2015)
A male Australia age 30-35, *lue_warrior writes:

There's this girl in my honors seminar group at university that I have a sight crush on. While a part of me would like to ask her out so that I might be able to get to know her better, another part of me is reluctant to do so. I really don't want to get a reputation as the sleazebag who's hitting on all the female students in the honors class. I'm not sure if it's even appropriate to entertain such sentiments towards someone that I've worked together with on assignments previously. Are my misgivings justified? Any feedback or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance

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A male reader, blue_warrior Australia +, writes (2 May 2015):

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She said yes! Again, thanks so much, everyone!

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A female reader, LiveAnnLearn Serbia +, writes (30 April 2015):

LiveAnnLearn agony auntI agree with other replies, definitely go for it! :) Also, you seem like a really considerate guy and it's sweet that you're even thinking about this instead of just asking her out like many would do.

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A male reader, blue_warrior Australia +, writes (29 April 2015):

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Hey everyone, thanks for the responses so far. I really do appreciate hearing them. Just thought I'd clarify a couple of things. Firstly, I'm not a lecturer and secondly, I have most assuredly desisted from hitting on all the girls in my honors group, lol. There are some other rather attractive young female students in my honors group as well, but this particular lady has a really sweet personality that appeals to me.

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A female reader, like I see it United States +, writes (28 April 2015):

like I see it agony auntUnless I'm missing something and you're in a position of power in the class (assistant professor, TA etc.), it is perfectly acceptable to ask out a classmate. Respect her if she says no, obviously, but feel free to ask.

You'll only be thought of as a sleazebag if you have a history of hitting on girls in this same class.

Good luck and best wishes!

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (28 April 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI'm with Honeypie. It took me several semesters to establish a reputation as a sleazeball. I think you're putting the sleazeball cart before the sleazeball horse. If you are going to become a sleazeball... it takes a lot of time and effort.... (Plus, lots of humiliation!!!!!)....

Good luck....

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (28 April 2015):

Honeypie agony auntSo have you hit on all the OTHER girls in the honors program? If not, ask her for coffee. That really doesn't make you a sleazeball.

Now if you have hit on ALL the other girls and she is just "next" on the list, then yeah... a little sleazy..... but you can still make up for that by being a decent guy. It's not really that hard.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (28 April 2015):

eyeswideopen agony auntIf you just ask her out for a coffee or drink what's sleazy about that? Go for it Buddy!

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