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Husband is making my life miserable because I told both our families of his affair

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Question - (24 February 2018) 4 Answers - (Newest, 27 February 2018)
A female India age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Married for last 25 years. Husband had affair with girl 20 yrs younger to him 5 yrs back.. myself and my 15yr old son badly affected. I had to divulge the matter to my in-laws and my mother. They broke up last year. Last year my mom died. Before she passed away she told my husband that she knew about the girl. He was very upset and told me that I ruined his life. Now he is making our life miserable by not treating us properly. My son is very scared of him. My husband is accusing me of having affair. He has threatened me he will make my life miserable

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (27 February 2018):

aunt honesty agony auntHave you got any family members that you can turn to? Your husband is a very selfish disloyal man. You need to protect you and your son. So try and see if someone will help. If not then hide money and run away if it is your only choice. You need to keep yourself and your son safe.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2018):

If your country is so bad that your police will not protect you the only solution is to run away.Make a plan...hide money...tell no one not even your closest friends and family.If you even tell one person he could find out and you could get hurt.You can do this..you are strong.Run very far...start a new life...be happy..be safe.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2018):

Please consider leaving him or at the very least, going to counseling

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2018):

No one likes to be busted; least of all someone who has cheated on his wife.

If he's threatening you harm, then that's a police matter; and you also have to protect your son. I guess it all depends on where you live in India whether the police will hear you out. Some of our OP's from India have indicated that sometimes the police are apathetic to women who are victims of domestic violence or abuse. So maybe you should surround yourself with your own family-members to keep him in check. Is your father alive?

Since your mother has passed on, maybe it would be nice to invite your father to spend more time with you and your son. Maybe spend weekends at your house. He's probably lonely since your mother has passed. If your parents were divorced, and your father is alive; maybe it's time to grow closer.

Do you have siblings? Entertain your family and keep the house full of relatives. He'll have to be on his best behavior. Since you put him on blast about his affair, why not let everyone know he's threatening you and frightening his son?

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