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I masturbate to gay porn. Does this mean I am gay?

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Question - (31 July 2007) 69 Answers - (Newest, 12 February 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im a 17 year old virgin, im straight, but like to mastrbate to gay/bisexual porn, recently i hav been putting things up my ass 2 help me cum, it feels so great, but im worried i am becoming gay. I hav dremt about having gay sex. wot shud i do? how can i stop this feeling

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A male reader, myowlandme Spain +, writes (12 February 2012):

I think UR not gay, but might be (but anyway what if you are a gay). Anyway many of my male friends watch gay porn, me also. I like it. But I am not gay. Anyway I am curious about other guys penis, and there are many others who for example like video chats just to see others's penis. So this is the sexuality in practice.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2011):

I masturbated to gay porn recently for the first time, and to be honest, it felt better than wanking to straight or lesbian porn but im 100% straight.I guess i was just curious

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2011):

I masturbate to gay porn but I want ot get married and have kids with a woman. I dont think becaue I like gay porn means I am gay. By the way, does any one else walk around trying to imagine what other men's penis' look like or is that just me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010):

I don't believe this makes you "gay."

I know for fact that my husband looks at gay porn. I saw it on his computer once, so I asked him about it. He just looked at me and asked what about it? He wasn't embarrassed or ashamed or anything. He’s comfortable in his sexuality. I’m the same way. I can look at a woman and think that she is beautiful/sexy and may find a woman sexually attractive but I would never act on it.

There is a level of excitement in trying the things we’ve never done before. I’ve never so much as kissed another girl but I’m turned on by seeing a sexual act between two women and even two men. I don’t know why, I just am. Maybe I’m only about 90% straight ?

I had a friend who is studying psychology help me to understand it. She told me "it's simple, just because it turns him on doesn't mean that he's not turned on by you." It has so much to do with the fact that it's taboo. She went on to admit to me that the thought of animal sex turned her on but she would never act on it. (It was way more than I ever wanted to know about her but that’s beside the point)

I heard a very good quote on the radio once..."I don't care where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home."

I don't think you should be worried. Whoever you choose to be with (be it man or woman) should accept you for who you are.

And don’t label yourself. If someone asks just tell them you like sex.

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A male reader, dwmusic United Kingdom +, writes (25 July 2010):

I have had straight friends ask me to show them gay porn, and they told me that they 'barred up" at the sight of it. They showed no other signs of being gay. I have had sex with straight friends on a one off basis, and they returned to heterosexual relationships after having satisfied their curiosity, and yes, we are still friends, maybe even closer now.

There are large numbers of straight men working in gay porn, most famous example is Kurt Wild - check out his Tyra Banks interview with a straight co-star in front of an audience of astonished women. He is totally convincing in gay porn, he kisses passionately, sucks dick, gets fucked by many different men, and loves cum facials. Yet he is married with kids. He identifies as straight, but loves performing to his gay audience.

People are entitled to identify themselves as whatever sexuality they like, and it's not for us to say otherwise. I guess in the end if you're looking for a relationship, they have to want you back, and a straight guy doing gay porn is doing it for the money, however bizarre the concept may seem. He won't marry you.

From your description about fantasazing sex with other men, I think it's likely you're probably gay, but your personal safety and security is paramount. I don't know how accepting your family and friends are of gay people, but it's hell being in the closet. Personally I never had a problem and have been openlyl gay for 40 years, however I have heard of horrific cases of rejection and violence, so tread carefully at first.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010):

I think this is normal. If doing those stuffs give you pleasure is very common, thinking in mens just for sex, pleasure, i guess its normal but if you love mens, wants to built a serious relationship and don't like girls, you can be homosexual.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010):

I think this is normal. If doing those stuffs give you pleasure is very common, thinking in mens just for sex, pleasure, i guess its normal but if you love mens, wants to built a serious relationship and don't like girls, you can be homosexual.

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A female reader, loverz4ever United States +, writes (7 July 2010):

loverz4ever agony auntPersonally I don't think anyone is 100% straight. I think people all have homosexual tendencies, but some prefer one sex over the other. I'm a girl and i've gotten turned on by girls, but I'm more frequently turned on by men. :)

Does that make me bisexual? I think I can consider myself straight, but only 90%. :)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010):

the truth is your body responds to any type of sexual image no matter if its gay straight bi lesbian or transgendered porn, i mean some pornos are really gross but some are beautiful basically watching another guy do it doesnt make you gay

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010):

i am 15 and i can only get "him" hard if i watch gay porn.

and "he" won't get hard on straight porn.

and i like to watch the other boys in the class when they play football."he" gets a little bit hard,only so hard, that nobody can see it but i can feel it, when i watch them.

and i think i am gay, but i think i'll wait until i'm 16 to ask someone out on a date.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010):

I am 14 and i feel the same. I like watching men give oral and in fact i love watching it all but i don't want a relationship with a guy and i don't fancy boys either. at the moment i think I'm straight. I like girls but i love watching gay porn at the moment. Things can change you can be bi gay or straight. i don't know yet but puberty doesn't end until your 21 i have been told so like me your hormones must be going wild (i think).

I don't think I'm gay and the first time i think i ejaculated was to gay porn. if your gay you will soon know i suppose but if you are gay don't hide the fact that you are.

I have worried about the same things on Yahoo answers and as i was told.

Do You Love Boys and want a relationship with them? Gay

Do you love girls and want a relationship with them? Straight

Do you love both and want a relationship with both? Bisexual

I hope i helped

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009):

That's a very interesting question about sexuality, first i want to say I'm french and i'm sorry for my english.

I'm gay and I produce gay porn movie, most of the gay people who know that are telling, I don't watch gay porn only straight porn, and most of the time, I say to people : most of my spectators are straight, and people don't beleive me.

I'm sure that is normal because you want see what you don't practice and make sex is not so different between gay and straight people, I really think that a gay man can make love to a girl (I experimented it) and a straight man can have sex with an other man (I experimented it too) So don't worry about that, it's a very natural thing and if you are really gay, you will know it but don't reject it, this is the worse thing to do if you want to live a happy life;)

And remember safe sex is the only way !

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009):

I've experienced the same thing. It isn't a "problem" at all. If you like it, go ahead. Whether your curious, or are just more aroused by gay porn, it doesn't matter. Besides, vaginas can look pretty freaky, especially for a virgin. You like gay porn, and you like females? Then you can still be straight. It doesn't automatically "make you gay". Whose to determine your gay other than yourself? Just try it, and whatever happens, you should be comfortable with yourself.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009):

Everyone what if watching gay porn is a fetish

and you can just masterbate to it, n not become gay.

I masterbate to gay porn, and it doesn't make me

want to finger myself of anything like that. I feel I am

totally straight, then it is still okay to try things like getting head

by a man. And if you don't like the thing you've tried or

If you don't feel good while or after. Then your straight.

Hope you get what I'm trying to say

or that it help. Someone who has/had the same problem/worry.

---Straight guy---

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009):

why are you afraid?

if you are attracted to males more than females

then you are probably gay or bisexual

its not a bad thing at all

try out some "gay" things and see if you like that more than straight things

hope this helped :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009):

can u picture yourself having sex with men?

do you love men? if you cant picture yoursef with anothr man then your straight.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009):

This what MAY be happening to you...

i REALLY thought i was gay but i just i hade friend girls in years so after i did again i still like girls but LOVE gay porn i think im BI

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009):

I have the same 'problem'

You're not alone

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009):

I'm a 22 years old girl, and since I can remember, I've always liked men. I fantasize about men, get turned on by men, and find lesbian or pornographic images of women very disgusting. But when I masturbate I have to think in images of women having sex or masturbating, simply because it helps me concentrate in what I'm doing, and I can put myself in the place of these women and imagine the pleasure they're having.

Maybe this is the same for you. Maybe you just like gay porn because you can put yourself in the place of these men and imagine what they're feeling, because, after all, they have penises like you.

I personally think that these categories of "gay", "straight" and "bisexual" are very rigid and unrealistic. Few people can really fit in well in them, and seem to create a lot of confusion in a lot of peple. You shouldn't worry so much deciding if you're "gay" or "straight", simply enjoy your fantasies and sexual experiences while they are plesureable to you. And if someday you don't enjoy these things anymore, forget about them.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009):

im 16 and like girls and have kissed girls and all but i too wank to gay porn it doesnt mean i'm gay just curious

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009):

im 18 and going through a very similar thing and have been for the past 6 months or so. i moved away frome my hometown 2 years ago and have no friends or girlfriends as i am pretty far away from any busy places and dont go out much. up until i moved i had always been interested in women an been quite a ladies man. i have only ever slept with 2 girls and really liked it. somehow i have had a good friend fall for me ( he was pretty femenin but always claimed he was strait) and nothing special to look at and a few people have asked me if im gay . i think this is because im quite sensetive and come from a rough part of london, but i also wonder if they can see something i cant. i masturbate to both hetro an transexual porn equally (not full on gay) thats not always arousing to me i just have a thing about chicks with dicks and dont like anything in my ass. im naturally very indecisive can anybody help. (sorry for going on)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009):

Hi, i sort of have the same problem but im 15. First i was wanking and i put my finger up my ass and it felt so much nicer, then i tried bigger things like a candle and it felt nice again, but i thought to my self why am i doing this i hope im not turning gay. But i dont think that i am gay i think that thats what us blokes do experiment with our selves so dont worry about it because i do it and a bet thousands of other guys do it as well. so just keep doing it and have fun.

(by the way i much prefer gay porn to normal so dont worry your self).

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009):

i do the same thing your not alone

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009):

Only if you have sex with a man, then you are gay, but if your trying to achieve the best possible j/o experience then your not

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009):

i'm gay & i do the same things.

there's nothing wrong with it?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009):

well i look at it like this,you only live once so why not try both and see how you get on from there. i too enjoy watching and playing with my self and i thinking of trying it age 21

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009):

I think some straight people enjoy watching gay porn (including me)because there is a sense of curiosity for the unfamiliar. I love to watch girl on girl porn, but I've never had a desire to be with another woman.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009):

Watching gay porn doesn't make you gay. When you're a teenager your hormones do things that are sooo weird. Your hormones want to experiment and try EVERYTHING! You're just going through a phase and it's too early to tell if you are truly gay. Furthermore, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay so, don't feel too scared or worried.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

You're not gay. If you sometimes fantasize about having gay sex but feel no other attraction to men, such as kissing and cuddling them, you might just be bi curious.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

get both types of porn and see which one you get a boner to

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009):

Yo listen, don't sweat it. Personally I get this confusion that you are having but it is no big deal. I am a girl and I like girl on girl porn. I guess it is because sexually it turns me on. but it does not mean i am a lesbian because i usually fantasize about men. You are a virgin and are trying to find ways to explore your sexual wants. Since you have not been with a girl yet , the sexual tensions are getting to you. Just think of this as exploring yourself . if later on you do have sex with a girl and find out that you don't like it, then you should ask yourself that, but until you loose that virginity, have fun and keep busting that nut!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009):

you're gay. i'm 100% sure. trust me on this. and dude, don't get worked up about it. you're fine.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009):

you shouldn't worry so much about it, I've done the same thing before. I'm a straight guy, but I've also had a gay friend who wanted to have sex with me and I just had no interest at all in it. What you like doing by yourself or in your head can be very different from what you do with someone else. A lot of guys will masturbate to the thought of other men even if they're straight, few will admit it because there's such a stigma against admitting something that is actually very natural. I've seen a lot of this and I'm studying adolescent human physchology, it's more common than you think.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009):

hey man, its alright i look at gay porn too. i`m 13 and i have had 4 girlfreinds in my life and ive made out with all of them. im not gay im straight. so, just go with ur gut. alright, man?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009):

I am 18 and going thru the EXACT same thing. I love gay porn for some reason, yet in person, no guys seem attractive to me. I hook up w/ girl and I LOVE it, but for some reason when it comes to masterbating. gay is the way to go for me. I AM still a virgin, so who knows, but I think being BI might be great, you get to have your cake and eat it too!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009):

I'm thirteen and I always wank to gay porn. I like girls and also have a girlfriend but I enjoy gay porn better than regular. I don't know what it is!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009):

No, I have the same thing.

But I have read somewhere that when you masturbate to gay/bi porn that is doens'nt directly mean that your gay or bisexual.

It just means that you enjoy gay sex, but then thats all !

I hope I helped you

greetings,,

16 yearold straight guy

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009):

i've had those kinds of moments to and I am 19.and for some reason I always have been tempted to watch gay porn it turns me on but I began to loving this one girl at school does that make hippocritical maybe but I feel that it might just be like a fetish that u might be having .listen to your heart and it will let u know if your gay or not....

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009):

You may be bi but there's nothing wrong with that. I had the same type of feelings as a teenager and can tell you that I acted on them. I realized that I was bi and accepted that. I do have deeper feelings for women by am turned on by guys too and on occaision get some from a gay friend of mine. I don't see anything wrong with having both if you can.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009):

i have the same problem of jacking off to gay porn.. it makes me get more horny than watching normal porn.. but i cant imagine giving a guy anal or kissing guys. i have only had girlfriends and i know for a fact i like girls. ur probably having a curious fantasy about jacking to gay porn. when i cum from jacking to gay porn, i also feel so wrong at the same time.. but can u imagine doing anal or making out with guys? if u can.. then ur probably gay. but to my knowledge right now ur not.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009):

I am 14 and like the 13 year old gay porn just turns me on but i wud never do it i dont think ur gay cuz im not gay I like girls and have never had a real attraction to a boy. I think we all just want our penises to be treated like theirs pro bably by a girl but watching another guy do it shows u what u look like when ur fingering or blowing a girl its just like a tutorial from both sides

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009):

i do the same thing and even fantasize about people i know ( other men ) But still feel like im straight. while yes, i do have a sexual drive for men i only crush on women. i believe its because i really havn't done much with women. but when i am with women, it feels oh so right. and after i cum to gay porn i always feel oh so wrong. men just make me horny. a women is something that can do both. you would only be gay if you could love another man. i couldn't.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009):

I like watching male solo to masturbate, just because it turns me on. But I don't like gay porn and straight porn because they are so noisy, the sound is so false. I am not ready to have a girlfriend yet so I don't think about having sex with a girl. I like being alone, just make friend but not get married. I guess you are the same and if you just like watching but not in life you are straight.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009):

I'm going in a similar phase than you, and 17 and virgin. Now I have a couple of homosexual friends and I had had a lot of conversations about sexuality, what I understand and believe is that being gay, bi or straight is a feeling not a choice.This may sound a bit ridiculous but I guess you have to think about it, no one would fall for a man or women because of "oh I decide to fall in love with you." it made sound odd, but I guess sexuality is the same as liking your own skin.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009):

I watch gay porn all the time and masturbate to it, and I am only 13. I really enjoy it, but I am not gay. It turns me on but it isn;t something that I would want to do or anything, I just like to watch it... All it does is turn me on, not make me gay. If it is something to jack off to, then it is only for that, not because ur gay, lol...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009):

First, there's nothing wrong with anal sex! Hetero men like anal sex too, but won't admit it. Being a man myself, I realize that masculinity has strict rules and it is fragile thing!

Stimulating the Male prostate by entering in your chocolate factory feels good, however, it is associated homosexual act. Anal sex does not exlusively for gay men!

It is too bad that hetero men will never experience that form of pleasure from their bodies, because it is a threat to their masculinity.

Some women like anal sex too, does that make them a gay or that there is something wrong with them....NO!

As long as your not harming yourself, enjoy the pleasure, after all your human!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009):

I used to go through the same thing and I found out that i like sex with men more than with women and I am now gay all the way I tried to have sex with a girl but I couldnt even get a boner maybe you just need to try it out and see what is for you if you like it up the ass i would say you are gay but i dont know

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008):

dude i so the same thing, only im 16, its just a fantasy and not real so dont sweat it! ;]

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A male reader, Carbon United States +, writes (20 August 2008):

i have done hte exact same things..i believe im straight, but im confused and dont know, personally i have stuck something in my butt, but i didnt get any sensation or anything...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008):

Don't worry. It sounds to me like it's just a fantasy. If you aren't interested in men sexually than you're not gay. Fantasies allow people to go where they wouldn't go in real life. Nobody gets hurt and who's to know? Only you. If you enjoy what you're doing then why should you deprive yourself of a bit of pleasure? Women often fantasise about being with another woman and watch lesbian porn. Does this mean that they're lesbians? No, it doesn't. They're exploring another side to themselves. We've all got one. You're also still young and you're hormones are still all over the place. Give it some time and you may start feeling attracted to men but then again, you probably won't. If you've never had any inkling to be with men then I can't see it happening in the future. Once your hormones settle down the idea of gay porn might become a total turn off and you find that you can only enjoy heterosexual or lesbian porn. .

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008):

this does not mean you are gay. I am however an openly gay 15 year old kid how once thought I was straight, I used to masturbate to women and all that shit, but I slowly started to find women less and attractive. Then while on a porn site I opened a gay porn video and that's when I decided I was gay. And that's all before I was 14. So if you have no desire to do men then you are probably not gay. The moment you do get that desire that's when you should questian your sexuality. And if you are gay be proud a d find a cute boyfriend and show him off to the world.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008):

one time I was looking for something to masturbate to...I finally did. Then a gay/bi porn came on and I continued till I nutted. That made me question my sexuality too...I'm still going through it. Note I've seen gay things and got horny but I have no intrest in having sex with a dude. I've stuck things up my butt to see what pleasure gay people get out of it never did l.I have a girl friend and I used to draw dicks on everything. Could I be gay

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008):

if your not having sex with men and have no desire to have sex with men in real life its a fantasy, your not gay

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008):

I masturbate to girl on girl porn more than heterosexual porn. girls turn me on more sexually but i could never fall in love with a woman. i just find girls more sexually appealing. im so in love with my boyfriend and he does amazing things to me in bed. his care and passion for me is what turns me on about him. but when im by myself, girls with dildos get me off the fastest. hmmph. whatever. any thoughts?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007):

Listen, all the gay people on here are going to say you're gay, and all the straight men who have had bi-fantasies will say you are straight, at the end of the day its up to you, just don't be afraid to be who you are gay or straight, have you ever had more than sexual fantasies for men, or on the other hand have you ever had feelings for girls. You're 17 and its natural to be sexual confused, more people are then you think, its one of the huge secrets in peoples lives.

If you like the gay porn, keep doing it, if it makes you feel cheap, it could just be a quick thrill, sometimes people get off on things that make them confused.

Hope this helps, but don't be scared, just relax and let you who you are come out, maybe there is even no such thing as gay or straight...who knows look up pansexual or pomosexual.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007):

I get off by gay porn a couple of times a month, I consider myself straight though. I'm 20 years old and have had sex with women and men. I consider myself straight.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007):

i went through a similar phase ie crushes on girls gay/bi fantasies etc and i have come to the conclusion that i am str8 cos i havent ever fallen in love with a man i think that the main attraction of gay porn is that its still considered a taboo in this "tolerant" society but like you said u are a virgin so dont make any rash decisions over ur sexuality until ur sure what u want and trust me sex is so much better with sum1u love so dont do it out of desperation but that a different topic altogether lol

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007):

this does not mean u r gay; it may just mean u r interested in gay porn, think if u wld rather have public sex with a man or a woman. ;)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007):

Many straight men have feelings like this its perfectly normal it doesnt nessaserily mean youre gay. its probebly just a fantasy youre having

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007):

it does not nesasseraly mean your gay they may just be fantasies its normal to have same sex fantasies

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007):

Hi, to reply ot you i am a 15 year old male, and i have been having the same feelings as yo, i have a had crushes on 2 girls in the last year, and have always hoped for more then friendship wiht them, but i find my self exclusivly masturbating to gay porn, and when not on a cmoputer, to gay fantasies, but latly i have been more intwersedted in bisexual ponr, pleas epost back if anyone knows what this means

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007):

i have been going through this exact stage that u are descibing, the only thing is im still confused and this stage has lasted about 7 years. who knows when i will find the answers i am looking for, G-d knows!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007):

i'm also 17, male.

had straight sex plenty of times.

although i have thought about gay sex on several occasions, and also used to get off on gay/bi porn.

to be honest i think it's just a phase, the idea of gay sex will most likely sicken you in a month or so.

unless of course, you are gay.

who knows.

maybe i am.

i'm still young.

just go with the flow

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007):

you are still a virgin so until you have sex with a man or woman you cant say what you are, you maybe bi-sexual which im my opinion i think thats what you will end up being. i started getting turned on by women and thought i was gay, i have since had a few experinces with women but it didnt really do anything for my like a man dos. you may br the same but until you've tried both wont know. and now one should judge you for being bi-curios either. its ok for women to get off on watching lesbian porn and it should be ok for men to watch gay porn too. good luck and i hope u find your true sexuality what ever that my be. all i can say is make sure your happy xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007):

you are still a virgin so until you have sex with a man or woman you cant say what you are, you maybe bi-sexual which im my opinion i think thats what you will end up being. i started getting turned on by women and thought i was gay, i have since had a few experinces with women but it didnt really do anything for my like a man dos. you may br the same but until you've tried both wont know. and now one should judge you for being bi-curios either. its ok for women to get off on watching lesbian porn and it should be ok for men to watch gay porn too. good luck and i hope u find your true sexuality what ever that my be. all i can say is make sure your happy xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007):

Okay. My opinions are going to be wildly unpopular but hear it goes.

I think you're just confused. You seem to want both things (women, men) since you have viewed bi porn - and I'm assuming you've also viewed straight porn also. So here's a question: does a gay man watching straight porn make him straight? No. And neither does a straight man watching gay porn make him gay.

I have in the past (when I was in my early teens) involved myself in homosexual activities. But today I am straight. I love and adore women and only want to be with women - but there was a time when I didn't really know what was going on - and I liked what I was doing at the time. I don't regret doing it. I share this with you because I want you to know that you DO have a choice. IF you want to be gay, then you can. IF you want to be straight, then you can.

You need to make up in your mind what you want in a relationship - male or female and determine if being gay or straight is going to help you reach that goal. But make the decision based on your own beliefs and morals and no one elses. That way, if you have troubles with the decision you made you can only blame yourself. And IF you're a Christian, pray.

Just my opinion. Not wildly popular - I'll probably get attacked for it but...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007):

Being straight or gay isn't a choice. It sounds like you say you're straight because that's what you want to be or that is how you would like to see yourself, however it doesn't work like that. Honestly, do you find females attractive - can you imnagine kissing a girl or having sex with a girl? If you can then maybe you are bisexual, but if it is really just men that interest you then you are probably gay.

It sounds to me like you're gay. I went through similar things when I was your age, and I'm gay.

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A male reader, Jamer70 United Kingdom +, writes (1 August 2007):

Jamer70 agony auntYou may be.

Dont hate it like FBK said learn to love whatever you are

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (1 August 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntLearn to love yourself no matter what your orientation. It does sound like you are gay.

-FBK

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