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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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No sex, because he's disinterested? My husband regularly masturbates but our sex life is non existent. What are my options?
Q. My husband regularly masturbates and our sex life is non existent. His explanation is that he is not at all interested in sex, but masturbates when he has a bodily pain and can't concentrate anymore on anything else. We spoke several times ab...
A. 20 March 2013: It sounds as though you want something he can't or won't give you and he knows you will accept the situation, despite feeling hurt.
Go get professional help, with or without him, and maybe you can come to an understanding of why you tolerate this... (read in full...)
Is this guy worth pining over?
Q. I met this guy for the first time through work a few months ago. Previously we spoke with over the telephone and he came across as arrogant and annoying. He doesn't let me finish my sentences. He jumps to conclusions. It’s really infuriating. When I ...
A. 20 March 2013: Good luck to you, I hope your work relationships with your colleagues improve.... (read in full...)
Need self-confidence to lose weight
Q. Hello friends my question isn't really a relationship question but how can I lose weight? I feel very depressed about my weight but I can't seem to lose any weight I have tried many methods but nothing seems to work. I feel like in stuck in a rut. ...
A. 19 March 2013: Good luck! Remember, you just need to make the right choices… it's not rocket science, lol! If you do indulge every now again, that's fine, just make it the exception, not the rule. You'll do fine. ... (read in full...)
Is this age difference too much?
Q. What is the biggest age gap relationship you have known of? I am 26 years old and massively attracted to a 45 year old man. I can't help it it's getting me down, my family wouldn't approve....
A. 16 March 2013: Definitely wait until he is divorced and not living in the marital home any longer before starting a relationship with him. There are hundreds if not thousands of stories from the women who are waiting for their married man to leave his wife… it's ... (read in full...)
Is this age difference too much?
Q. What is the biggest age gap relationship you have known of? I am 26 years old and massively attracted to a 45 year old man. I can't help it it's getting me down, my family wouldn't approve....
A. 15 March 2013: Is he attracted back or is this a one-sided crush?
I know of Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall. She was 26 and he was 89, according to the wikipedia article.
There are many age gap relationships. Is he single? Is he available? Has he told ... (read in full...)
Ideas on how to best support my friend who just been through a break up?
Q. My friend put on her facebook status that she was upset so i asked her what was wrong, turns out she had broken up with her boyfriend of 15 months. I asked why and she said its a long story so i said i would go round and have a chat with her over ...
A. 15 March 2013: Sounds like you've got the start of a good girlfriend bonding evening.
Spend a great deal of time listening, don't offer advice unless asked and if she is stuck in a repetitive groove then let her know, gently.
You don't need to say anything... (read in full...)
My girlfriend goes into "no contact" mode with me when she's angry...why is that?
Q. I've been seeing this girl for about a year and everything is good for the most part, except for when she gets angry or upset about something. We are both in our forties so it shouldn't be attributed to immaturity, but it sure seems that way. For ...
A. 15 March 2013: What kind of person does this? A person who has tantrums and holds her breath until she turns blue, call the wahmbulance.
If you are okay with being emotionally manipulated by the silent treatment, then the relationship may survive. If you want... (read in full...)
Why is my wife loose now? Is it age, cheating, using toys?
Q. I met my wife six years ago, we started dating and our sexual life was great, she felt good and tight and was more active and I was told that sexually I was the first one..we then started a distance relationship like I was in another country and she ...
A. 15 March 2013: http://men.webmd.com/guide/life-cycle-of-a-penis
As I keep on learning about things, it appears that your own sensitivity could be decreasing as well, due to aging.
I think CindyCares has raised a good point too, if you have relied on masturba... (read in full...)
Is this guy worth pining over?
Q. I met this guy for the first time through work a few months ago. Previously we spoke with over the telephone and he came across as arrogant and annoying. He doesn't let me finish my sentences. He jumps to conclusions. It’s really infuriating. When I ...
A. 15 March 2013: From the way you've written about him, he sounds like a bit of an attention-seeking guy who wants people to do what he says.
Let's say he wasn't super handsome, call him ordinary, regular, whatever, would that change your perception of him?
I don... (read in full...)
Why is my wife loose now? Is it age, cheating, using toys?
Q. I met my wife six years ago, we started dating and our sexual life was great, she felt good and tight and was more active and I was told that sexually I was the first one..we then started a distance relationship like I was in another country and she ...
A. 15 March 2013: I would expect her vagina feels "looser" because she's well-lubricated and turned on enough to allow the vagina to do it's normal thing during arousal, which is to "balloon" and allow more room for the penis to enter.
h... (read in full...)
Unexpected bleeding after sex...what could it be about?
Q. Slightly awkward question here but advice is appreciated. After about a year of being single and sexually inactive I've recently become intimate with a new partner. We've had sex a handful of times, always with a condom, and twice now I've noticed ...
A. 15 March 2013: Actually, you should not assume you are bleeding from the sex itself. http://blogs.webmd.com/womens-health/2009/07/postcoital-bleeding.html
I think the sensible thing to do is to go to your gynecologist and have a work up, make sure there isn't some... (read in full...)
Negative responses about breast implants have me questioning what I should do about my body!
Q. I've asked this question before and had some good responses, but I just read another reply to another post and this involved the respondent saying that "as long as she doesn't have breast implants"...in relation to her partner finding another women ...
A. 15 March 2013: "Comments like those of the respondent's partner really upset me and knock my confidence."
Why should comments made by a stranger of an individual preference of his have any relevance whatsoever to your life and your body? You can only have your... (read in full...)
I feel totally empty in this relationship
Q. I have been in a 3 year relationship with a guy. We do live separately. I am in need of some help and advice please. Something has happened to my feelings, before i really loved him a lot, adored him. At work recently ( we worked together for 6 m...
A. 15 March 2013: It sounds as though you lost trust in him, which prevents you from letting go and being present in sexual intimacy.
You've invested a couple of years of your time and energy to him and the relationship and the way he repays it is by allowing anot... (read in full...)
I've had feelings for my teacher for so long. Now he's my ex teacher we communicate a lot online. Does he realize I have feelings for him?
Q. Hi, so ive been besotted and in love with my teacher for 2 years. He is now my ex-teacher and we have been communicating online, via facebook and other things A LOT! Almost everyday, anything from a few minutes multiple times a day or hours for...
A. 15 March 2013: You sound like a stalker.
I've been besotted and in love with my teacher for 2 years.
I feel like he makes me jealous, mentioning his girlfriend and past girlfriends and anyone else female hes met up with, as he knows it hits a nerve. Why be so he... (read in full...)
I'm HIV positive, how do I tell my LDR guy?
Q. Hi guys I'm in long distance relationship.I love the guy with all my heart.We haven't had any sexual connection.My problem is that he is soo crazy about me and he wants to move to my city.How can I tell him I'm hiv positive.I'm afraid to lose him...
A. 15 March 2013: "Harry, we have become so close yet I have been keeping something very important from you. I can no longer conceal this from you, and I will have to take the consequences.
I am HIV positive. I wish I were not, I wish I never had to say these word... (read in full...)
His father is screwing around with visitation/custody
Q. Is there anything I can do to make this situation different? Husband and I separated about 7 months ago and have a 2 year old together. When he left, our custody agreement was to switch every week. That never happened for various reasons. A few m...
A. 15 March 2013: You have some options, I think.
Go back and file for full custody, adding child support. I hope you have an attorney you've been working with, and that you've been keeping a log of the missed visits.
Parents who are going out for an evening ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage my wife to be more interested in intimate moments from time to time?
Q. My wife is very rarely turned on. She is a lovely woman. I am age 77 and have been retired for 2 years. She is 69 and a home maker. We go out a lot, but she is rarely interested in any sex play. We have one child together who is married and ...
A. 14 March 2013: If she's never been very interested, it's going to take a lot of time and patience on your part to reconnect her to her body and her sexuality. Hormonal changes may be playing a role here, as well as her overall health. Take her with you to see your ... (read in full...)
How do I get my manager away from the competition?
Q. I work in the restaurant business. My district manager comes to our store a lot He's been flirty with me until this new girl Got there she's not any hotter than I am. A co worker said we look like sisters. She's my competition.. he still flirts...
A. 14 March 2013: Win him over as in, become his girlfriend? Or win him over as in, have a one night stand with him? Could you be a bit clearer as to your goal?... (read in full...)
Troubling texts from another guy on her phone, but we're about to go on holiday together, what do I do?
Q. Right, so. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years (today funnily enough). We have been very much in love and spend everyday together despite living with parents. A few months ago I saw texts from another guy who she works with. Very...
A. 14 March 2013: I don't see how you can possibly fake that you are okay with the relationship and go on holiday together. Granted, it's bad timing, but you may as well get this over with and have THE TALK with her now.
If her self esteem is so low that she need... (read in full...)
Need self-confidence to lose weight
Q. Hello friends my question isn't really a relationship question but how can I lose weight? I feel very depressed about my weight but I can't seem to lose any weight I have tried many methods but nothing seems to work. I feel like in stuck in a rut. ...
A. 14 March 2013: When I see a heavy person at the gym, I think "good for him!" or "good for her!" People at the gym likely were heavy themselves at one point and understand exactly what you are going through.
Put on some headphones and get into your own private medi... (read in full...)
My Gf has a friend. I'd like to spend cozy moments with her friend. Can I do this successfully and not hurt my Gf?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for two years. But I'm attracted to her friend and I feel like going out with her friend to share cozy moments. I don't want to hurt my gf but at the same time I want to spend time with her friend. Help!! What ...
A. 14 March 2013: You choose either to honor your girlfriend, or to succumb to bodily desires. Which is the wiser, kinder, nobler path?... (read in full...)
How to get over a cat which had to be put down?
Q. My cat died two days ago. I can't stop crying. How do i get through this?. My cat was 16 years old. I had her since she was two months old. She started becoming ill last week ( it may have even been longer than that, but that is when it got worse ) ...
A. 13 March 2013: I'm sorry for your loss; it's very fresh and very painful. I lost my beloved dog recently and I understand your grief. I wasn't going to adopt a new dog just yet because I thought I would be dishonoring his memory in some way. However, a rescue dog ... (read in full...)
Sleep deprived boyfriend has money for everything except an engagement ring. Should I cut my losses?
Q. My boyfriend is sleep deprived. He gets about 4 hours of sleep per night. It's almost like a badge of honor for him that he works nights. He often talks about "day" people who get up in the morning, go to work and come home and eat dinner like ...
A. 13 March 2013: You are in the honeymoon period… this is as good as it's going to get. If you are happy with the things the way they are, then fine. If you are not happy, then take the steps you need to take to change things.
You could try to bring in a thir... (read in full...)
No sex, because he's disinterested? My husband regularly masturbates but our sex life is non existent. What are my options?
Q. My husband regularly masturbates and our sex life is non existent. His explanation is that he is not at all interested in sex, but masturbates when he has a bodily pain and can't concentrate anymore on anything else. We spoke several times ab...
A. 12 March 2013: Are you 100% certain he's heterosexual? He may have a different sexual orientation and doesn't want to tell anyone, especially you.
Go to a marriage counselor, set up an appointment that he can go to as well, then you attend whether he does or not.... (read in full...)
What can I say when boyfriend jokes that I should get pregnant? I feel pressured by his words.
Q. My boyfriend sometimes makes jokes that I should get pregnant. Eg rub my stomach or put his ear to my stomach. Even though I'm not pregnant. He also days things like " if you got pregnant then I'll have to take this new job. I'll support you no ...
A. 12 March 2013: What does he say when you tell him you do NOT want to become pregnant? Have you made that crystal clear to him?
I would let him know that you feel very uncomfortable about his suggestion that it's okay not to use condoms. If he suggests that befo... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like my personal trainer doesn't care?
Q. Why do I feel like my personal trainer doesn't care? Is been a month now with my personal trainer and he's not given me my dietary plan or how much weight I meant to be losing each month. I texted him my email and he said he'd send it but i...
A. 9 March 2013: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-like-this-guy-at-the-gym45.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-got-drunk-and-missed-my-personal-tranining45.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-shy-so-how-should-i-handle-my.html
Okay, Spe... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like my personal trainer doesn't care?
Q. Why do I feel like my personal trainer doesn't care? Is been a month now with my personal trainer and he's not given me my dietary plan or how much weight I meant to be losing each month. I texted him my email and he said he'd send it but i...
A. 9 March 2013: Is this the personal trainer you have a crush on? I think I remember you asking about him…... (read in full...)
Been getting to know a long distance guy, but he doesn't seem to ask me any questions about me on a deeper level?
Q. Dear Cupid, Before I start, this question is related to a long-distance relationship, and I know that there are many people out there that criticize it and are not open to saying anything good about it, so I would appreciate logical answers ...
A. 9 March 2013: My husband is always amazed that when I spend a few minutes with someone I've just met, if they are chatty and open, I can find out all sorts of things about them he'd never thought to ask. As in, where did you meet your wife, how did your husband ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like my personal trainer doesn't care?
Q. Why do I feel like my personal trainer doesn't care? Is been a month now with my personal trainer and he's not given me my dietary plan or how much weight I meant to be losing each month. I texted him my email and he said he'd send it but i...
A. 9 March 2013: If it's part of the agreement for the training, remind him, do it via text and email so you have copies.
Don't pay him until you get the services you contracted to receive.
"PT, still waiting for the diet plan and weight loss targets, per our conv... (read in full...)
My Bf tried to make love to me for the first time. How can I help him relax better next time?
Q. Two nights ago, my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. It was my first time ever having sex, but it wasn't his. Prior to the other night, we talked about having sex before and we basically decided that it will happen when it happens....
A. 9 March 2013: Tips to avoid him losing his erection? Nope, that'll happen from time to time, it's normal, natural and nothing to get freaked out about.
Just enjoy being close, don't feel you have to meet some imaginary ideal of what sex should be. Internet porn... (read in full...)
My fiance is a compulsive liar and it's getting worse. I just don't know what to do about his undermining behaviour. What should I do?
Q. I think I am dealing with a compulsive liar and I dont know what to do. I have been with my fiance for almost three years now and things just seem to be getting worse. When we first met he had told me all of these things. Lies. That his roomate w...
A. 8 March 2013: When you needed him most, he mocked you and didn't help. I think that pretty much sums up what you can expect from him for the rest of your life. Plus trying to figure out the colorful stories will drain your energy.
Sorry he's an insensitive comp... (read in full...)
It's added to my anxiety. My favourite teacher has changed. He's ignoring me. What should I do?
Q. My favourite teacher is not himself anymore, he used to favour me but now it's getting weird, he used to let me off with things; he still lets me off some things about no as much anymore. But it's weird how one week he's nice to me then the next...
A. 8 March 2013: People have all kinds of stressors in their lives they don't reveal to their students, colleagues, friends or even family.
Some in his family is dying. Someone in his family is suspected to have cancer. He's having problems sleeping. His dog died... (read in full...)
My wife has been revealed as a prostitute. Should I forgive my wife?
Q. My wife has been revealed as a prostitute. Should I forgive her? We have been married for five years and have six children (blended family). I have felt our family to have been very happy, loving open and honest. We spend lots of time together, al...
A. 8 March 2013: Should you forgive your wife? I guess that depends on her reasons for working. It's my impression most prostitutes work because they need money, not because they find it sexually fulfilling.
Can the marriage be saved? Not without some prof... (read in full...)
Housemates being horrible. Should I confront them about the way they are behaving towards me? What would be the best way to deal with their continual disrespect towards me?
Q. I'm in my third year at university and this year I moved in with a new group of people as my female flatmates from last year went on years abroad. One of my friends from a sports club was looking for one last person to fill a really nice house he...
A. 8 March 2013: What's the point of confronting them? All it will do is make you look shrill and harsh and will give them more material for drama.
End the drama, move out as soon as you can. As you aren't on the contract with the landlord, they can't come afte... (read in full...)
Dating a gynecologist is bothering me!
Q. I've met this guy recently through friends I like him very much. We've been on couple of dates but my problem is that he is a gynecologist! I can't seem to see through that. I cannot imagine what that is like for a young man. It bothers me to think...
A. 8 March 2013: I find it difficult to believe you've actually been to a gynecologist. If you had been to one, you'd be very aware that it is about the least erotic experience one can imagine. "Try to hold still while I scrape some cells off your cervix. You may ... (read in full...)
I overhear people saying 'why is she with him' because I'm just an average guy whereas she is beautiful inside and out, should I ask my girlfriend what she saw in me?
Q. I have been dating this beautiful girl for abt a year now!she's nice,kinda,a well educated woman she's working at a hospital..she's beautiful not only on the outside but also the inside and that's what attracted me to her! But the only thing that ...
A. 8 March 2013: Eleanor Roosevelt: 'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.'
The comments aren't making you insecure. Your attitude about yourself is making you insecure.
Tell you what, just fake it for today. Fake that you are good enough, ... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years said that he doesn't see us as a couple and he just wants to have fun until he meets "the one"!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years never talks about our future together, whenever i brought it up, he chnages the topic or says future is never certain. Yesterday i made him talk about our future, now he says he doesnt see us as a couple and he ju...
A. 8 March 2013: Your boyfriend has informed you that you aren't his girlfriend. What do you do know? You get all your friends and family to support you as you get over the break up. Sorry it ended with a fizzle, but at least you know now where you stand.
Break ups ... (read in full...)
I complain about getting guys that aren't interested in me, then I get a good guy and I feel so overwhelmed by it!
Q. Hey, I REALLY need advice right now. :( The situation is: I live in a residential college, with 2 of my exs (just really bad coincidence) and a new ex, who treated me less than brilliantly, and my boyfriend. So my boyfriend is a guy that had b...
A. 8 March 2013: He can be a good guy but being overly clingy and needy makes him a bit annoying, eh?
"You're my best mate and my boyfriend, I hope we are close enough so that I can tell you how I'm feeling without drama. I'm feeling suffocated right now, too much... (read in full...)
What do I do with my ex girlfriend's paintings?
Q. I just went through somewhat of a nasty break up with a girl who I exchanged the "I love you"s with. And now I feel hollow inside and used, because of the way she broke up with me and kept me close until she found a new boyfriend two weeks later. ...
A. 8 March 2013: Put them away for 2 months, then take them out (set a reminder on your calendar) and revisit the decision. You don't have to make a decision on them today, do you? I expect your anger will have subsided by then and you'll be able to make a rational ... (read in full...)
Straight female with lesbian tendencies? Wtf?
Q. Good evening everyone, Thank you for stopping by to read my post. I am having a hard time explaining my sexuality. I classify myself as a straight woman, as in if I were to marry I would choose a man. I don't care about labels, but if you do th...
A. 8 March 2013: Why not let go of the labels and categorizing and analyzing? Just experience your attractions and don't feel you have to quantify them or justify them.
Yes, maybe you are attracted to the so-called 'masculine' lesbians because they look manly. Okay... (read in full...)
Do I tell my future husband about this?
Q. I had feelings for my best friend. We were involved in dirty talking. We have not dated each other ever. One day it just happened that we got physical. He pressed my boobs and I gave him a hand job. Nothing happened other than this.I am 21 yr old. ...
A. 8 March 2013: What I meant was, is the man required to disclose an incident such as you describe to his future wife? Will he be shamed or denigrated for having had sexual contact in the way you described?... (read in full...)
Oral sex and the gag reflex
Q. I want to please my boyfriend of 6 years just like he has pleased me all these years. But I have gag reflects and I've even vomit a few times. Is there anything I can do to get rid of gag reflects?...
A. 8 March 2013: He doesn't care if you vomit. Gosh, what a sexy dude he must be. *eye roll*
He likes it deep. Even if you can't tolerate it to the point you expel the contents of your stomach.
" He likes it so much that he doesn't care if there is vomit. But I... (read in full...)
I was foretold that my girlfriend will go on dating sites saying that I neglected her. Now it came true.
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and half. Her ex comes to her house regularly to pick up and bring their son home. He comes in, we talk, there are no bad feelings. Around a year ago he dropped a sarcastic remark relating to my girlfriend ...
A. 8 March 2013: What did she say when you asked her why she went on a dating site instead of talking with you?
Seems you've had a big shock, time to assess the relationship and what you are willing to invest. Also time to find out what she's willing to do to make... (read in full...)
This girl is a manizer and is mean to me. How to deal with her?
Q. Dear cupid, I have never really talked with anyone about this so I thought I would give this website a try, so please bare with me. I guess females would understand this situation the best. I think a lot of women have this sort of problem, but it is ...
A. 8 March 2013: So is this an online group of friends or a group of friends in real life, as in, the social interactions take place mostly in person?
Look, the group seems to be guys plus you. You are the outlier. She's figured out how to keep them focused on her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smokes a lot of weed...should I be bothered by this?
Q. Hello, I have been in a relationship for about a year and a half now. Ever since I met my boyfriend about 2 years ago, I have known about his marijuana use. He is high pretty much all of the time, and he smokes it through out the entire day, ...
A. 8 March 2013: He's high all day everyday? Is there some reason he doesn't want to face life without chemical alteration of his thinking processes?
He's home all day and doesn't have other interests would be a big concern. Daily activities for most people invo... (read in full...)
Do I tell my future husband about this?
Q. I had feelings for my best friend. We were involved in dirty talking. We have not dated each other ever. One day it just happened that we got physical. He pressed my boobs and I gave him a hand job. Nothing happened other than this.I am 21 yr old. ...
A. 8 March 2013: I'd be curious to know what is expected of the husband in this arranged marriage. Does he come to the relationship having had no sexual contact whatsoever?
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Oral sex and the gag reflex
Q. I want to please my boyfriend of 6 years just like he has pleased me all these years. But I have gag reflects and I've even vomit a few times. Is there anything I can do to get rid of gag reflects?...
A. 6 March 2013: He doesn't care if you vomit? And he won't help out by trying condoms. Hm.
You have a selfish boyfriend on your hands.
He can enjoy the sensation of going deep if you use your hands right. As he seems to prefer to allow you to vomit, I would cl... (read in full...)
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