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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I feel tired after I have climaxed three times. Yet is it fair that girlfriends have called me a sex addict for wanting more?
Q. Hi am 27 years old and something is disturbing me when am having sex with a lady after ejaculating i still feel horny and i can continue having sex without having to rest upto the 3rd round that is when i have a refractory period or feel tired.And ...
A. 22 April 2013: What are you doing besides penis in vagina intercourse to keep her aroused and turned on? At some point, she will have her own orgasm (we hope you make sure she does) and just like you, she needs a rest.
You have a refractory period; so will she.... (read in full...)
What's atttactive? And how do you cope if you feel unattractive all the time?
Q. I know this probably gets to be an old topic on here, but I'm going to talk about it, anyhow. It's about not liking the way I look. (I know, eye roll). The thing that makes my situation unusual is, it's not that I don't have attractive features. I ...
A. 21 April 2013: i like the distinction between being blind from birth, or losing sight later on in life. There would be a difference, wouldn't there?
But either way, it's obvious that if you couldn't see your features, you would not be feeling unattractive. So t... (read in full...)
What's atttactive? And how do you cope if you feel unattractive all the time?
Q. I know this probably gets to be an old topic on here, but I'm going to talk about it, anyhow. It's about not liking the way I look. (I know, eye roll). The thing that makes my situation unusual is, it's not that I don't have attractive features. I ...
A. 21 April 2013: i like the distinction between being blind from birth, or losing sight later on in life. There would be a difference, wouldn't there?
But either way, it's obvious that if you couldn't see your features, you would not be feeling unattractive. So t... (read in full...)
What's atttactive? And how do you cope if you feel unattractive all the time?
Q. I know this probably gets to be an old topic on here, but I'm going to talk about it, anyhow. It's about not liking the way I look. (I know, eye roll). The thing that makes my situation unusual is, it's not that I don't have attractive features. I ...
A. 20 April 2013: Did you try to analyze the concept of being blind and how that might alter your perception of yourself?
Check out my profile, there are books listed there that discuss the mind's need to fabricate stuff to worry about…
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm second best in all this, to him. He chooses her over me. What can I do?
Q. I'm in trouble I need help...my boyfriend and me had a girl as a friend but after I trusted her with everything..with the first bump (he thought I was cheating) this while I couldn't even handle any guy even relatives next to me..and she told him ...
A. 20 April 2013: You don't want to lose a man who shouts at you when you are hurt, refuses to help, puts her first and who says he loves you but his actions demonstrates otherwise?
Your self-esteem is so low, to the point that you feel physically ill when you thin... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm second best in all this, to him. He chooses her over me. What can I do?
Q. I'm in trouble I need help...my boyfriend and me had a girl as a friend but after I trusted her with everything..with the first bump (he thought I was cheating) this while I couldn't even handle any guy even relatives next to me..and she told him ...
A. 20 April 2013: You don't trust him. He doesn't trust you.
He would pick her over you.
You sound very desperate to keep him in your life but it all sounds very unhealthy and drama-laden.
I would turn to your other friends, let him go on and do whatever it ... (read in full...)
I miss her a lot. Could time have healed the bad feelings from the past? Or only made things worse?
Q. My best friend (I'll call her B) from uni and I fell out over 5 years ago. It's a long story, but the outline of it was that B's ex started going out with another of my friends (call her C) and because of that B expected me to stop being friends ...
A. 20 April 2013: Whose wound are you opening up? Hers or yours? Yours is open as you are picking at it and thinking about it.
Are you older and more confident? Can you handle the rejection at all?
The situation may be that you two do reconnect and then the relation... (read in full...)
What to do? I'm older, alone and along comes my sexy sister in law? Will it cause problems to date an ex-inlaw?
Q. I'm a widower, I have dated a few women over the years and was not looking for a relationship,I just wanted to get out of the house and have some fun. My wife's brother's X wife called me to ask me how I was doing, I haven't talked to her since my ...
A. 19 April 2013: Obviously you get along with her and find her attractive.
So the question is really, can your family cope with you dating your daughters' aunt?
Does she have children? Because if she does, then you are dating your daughters' cousins' mom.
That's... (read in full...)
What's atttactive? And how do you cope if you feel unattractive all the time?
Q. I know this probably gets to be an old topic on here, but I'm going to talk about it, anyhow. It's about not liking the way I look. (I know, eye roll). The thing that makes my situation unusual is, it's not that I don't have attractive features. I ...
A. 19 April 2013: How would you feel about yourself if you were blind?
Think about that for a while. Don't respond right away. Just use that busy mind of yours that is overanalyzing and analyze that thought for some time.
We all have insecurities about our looks. Y... (read in full...)
MIL from Hell and a Husband that will not live on his own!
Q. Hi, I am a modern girl with some simple dreams. I want to be happy....lead a comfortable and satisfying life. Recently i got married to the love of my life....The problem is his Mother and the locality where he lives. My husband works in a MNC in a...
A. 19 April 2013: It sounds like you are trapped by convention and tradition and the cultural expectations of your area.
The question is really if your husband is willing to break conventions and traditions and the cultural and family expectations in order to give... (read in full...)
Sexually charged BF after a fight?
Q. hello, After my boyfriend and I have an argument and sort things out, he tends to ask for a lot of sexual attention. why does he do this? Thank you....
A. 19 April 2013: Do the fights end with him 'winning' every time?... (read in full...)
Advice on the pullout method
Q. I have been with a guy for over a year now and we have been having sex the entire time we came together on the pretext of just sex on both parts it obviously escalated more due to our time together, well we have been using the pullout method and one ...
A. 19 April 2013: It only takes one good ejaculation that gets away from him for him to deposit sperm right there at the entrance to your uterus, and for you to become pregnant.
Please please please go see your gynecologist and have a frank and honest discussion with... (read in full...)
Is what my sister charges for babysitting unreasonable?
Q. I've got a bit of a dilemma around family and babysitting. I have four children. When I go for a night out I ask my 19 year old sister to look after them. She said ok and I used to give her £20-30 for sitting them. Sometimes it would be at night ...
A. 19 April 2013: I have no idea what the going rate for babysitting in your area might be. Rather than drag family into it, interview a few babysitters and see what your options are.
If you are expected to babysit her child, then there should be reciprocity and you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her but she won't choose me over the other guy in her life
Q. Hi. I will not take your much of time so lets start with my problem. I'm in love with a girl. Its been 3 years since I fell in love with her. I'm 22 years old and she is 20 years. I know her because we are family friends. So the story starts. On...
A. 19 April 2013: Think of her this way: your feelings for her put you on a life path which will now lead you to the partner you were meant to be with. She is merely a catalyst.
Good news is you can fall in love and have strong feelings. Bad news is you just happ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault that I can't remember in detail my first time with my boyfriend
Q. I had been with my guy for a little more than 1 year. He was a Virginia when he met me however, I wasn't. I have my own regrets and mistakes that I made being naive and trusting my exs when they promised me futures. My guy knew and he couldn't...
A. 19 April 2013: Let's review. You've accepted the blame for HIS infidelity. You are accepting the blame for not remember every single itty bitty detail of encounters where your brain is NOT supposed to be working, it's your body that feels things. Basically, he's ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her but she won't choose me over the other guy in her life
Q. Hi. I will not take your much of time so lets start with my problem. I'm in love with a girl. Its been 3 years since I fell in love with her. I'm 22 years old and she is 20 years. I know her because we are family friends. So the story starts. On...
A. 19 April 2013: You made some major life choices based on a hope. A hope which has alas, proven itself to be not reality.
She does know you love her. She just doesn't love you back enough. She likes you, and tolerates your contacting her but you are not her choi... (read in full...)
Has taking the hormone balancing pills done this to me? Have I gradually killed my sex drive this way?
Q. This isn't a relationship problem, but I'm curious about it anyway. Back when I was 18, I started taking a women's hormone balancer. I did this because I always felt I had more body hair than I should, my chest was underdeveloped, and I had an ...
A. 19 April 2013: Sounds like you have two things going on here, one is too much fantasizing about what may happen and imagining what people think. Basically, you're creating narratives that don't have a basis in reality.
Second one is you have physical issues mani... (read in full...)
Experimenting SEX, and I am Virgin
Q. Okay, I'm 13 and I'm a girl and my girlfriend is 15 she tells me she wants me to get a toung ring so I can eat her out . But were BOTH virgins nd I feel that I should finger her first befor I eat her out but I don't know how to tell her or know if ...
A. 19 April 2013: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thought-my-gf-broke-up-with-me-but.html
Definitely do NOT get a tongue piercing (you'd need parental consent first anyway) and do NOT do anything sexual with her.
It's all a very bad idea. If you wait until yo... (read in full...)
Is he using me? Should I just cut off all communication?
Q. there is this guy whom I met online. Two years ago, he said he would try to come back to Singapore to live. He is working and living in Thailand. Two years later, while we are still communicating, he is still there. I asked him if he will honor his ...
A. 18 April 2013: You sound strong and self-aware and confident. Best wishes to you as you continue your journey.... (read in full...)
When me boyfriend and I try to have sex it's very painful. Should I just let him go in anyway?
Q. So I'm 20 and have been with my boyfriend who is 21 for over a year now. I'm a virgin and he isn't. We've tried to have sex and I've found it very painful, it's not because I'm not wet enough because I have been. Whether it's because I'm not relaxed ...
A. 17 April 2013: Did you ask the gynecologist who prescribed the birth control about your hymen? Are you able to get your own fingers into your vagina? If you have, have you tried to get one or two inserted? Can you use tampons? If you can't, you need to see your ... (read in full...)
I am tired of telling people what they want to hear instead of what is actually on my mind. What to do?
Q. My friend asks me my opinion on how I felt about her and her boyfriends relationship. I told her as long as shes happy thats what matters. She then tells me after a short amount of time that she now lives with him. she should have told me that to ...
A. 17 April 2013: A strategy you could try when people ask you a question like this is to say back to them, "You're asking for my input on this? I feel honored that you consider my opinion so highly. So that I can best help you, maybe the best thing to do is to ... (read in full...)
Porn is just images of women on a screen. The men will never meet those porn stars. So why is watching porn such an issue for women?
Q. I am curious about this. It seems that to some women the worst sin a man can commit is looking at porn and I don't get it. T hey are just images on a screen of women he most likely will never meet or ever have a chance with. The chances of him a...
A. 17 April 2013: Some women continually compare themselves to other women. So their man watching porn makes them feel that they are being compared to the sexpot in the porn video, and most of them will not ever be able to look like a porn star.
I know this is a guy ... (read in full...)
He is not the "one". So how can I break up with him? He gets so upset when I mention breaking up.
Q. Hi thanks for reading, I'm looking for advice on how to end my relationship without hurting my boyfriend. We have been together for around 18 months, and he is the sweetest boyfriend I could have imagined... But he is not 'the one'. To be h...
A. 17 April 2013: Break up with him, and do not stick around to comfort him. Tell his friends and family that you've had to end the relationship and you are concerned for his well-being.
If he makes a specific suicidal or self-harming threat, call emergency serv... (read in full...)
I love him so should I break up with him or consider an open relationship?
Q. I've posted on here before and found the answers to be helpful, so I'm back. My boyfriend of about seven months and I are in love with each other despite our differences, which I don't mind since I actually like him as a person. He doesn't believe ...
A. 17 April 2013: Do you like monogamy? Do you want to be in an exclusive relationship?
He sounds like he's doing a great job selling an open relationship to you, he has rationalizations and explanations and I expect he could talk a dog off a meat truck.
I'd g... (read in full...)
Is he using me? Should I just cut off all communication?
Q. there is this guy whom I met online. Two years ago, he said he would try to come back to Singapore to live. He is working and living in Thailand. Two years later, while we are still communicating, he is still there. I asked him if he will honor his ...
A. 15 April 2013: I expect he has a relationship with someone in real life and is trying to let you go by pretending to have a terminal illness.
The erratic spelling and frantic deletion of emails sounds more like an angry spouse or partner who is trying to get him ... (read in full...)
Fiance gets it all in the bed but I am left wanting?
Q. Hello everyone, well I'm getting married in a month. My fiance has proved he's not cheating. Of course I still have trust issues. But that's not the problem today. My problem is he is a little selfish in bed. Whenever he wants sex or a BJ, he gets ...
A. 11 April 2013: Funsize, how did he prove he was not cheating? I'm curious to know what he said, did or demonstrated to you.
As for the sex part, don't do what you don't want to do in bed, just as he doesn't do what he dislikes. If you can be happy with that stat... (read in full...)
He's not my fiancee or husband so I'm struggling with how much to factor him into my new job decision!
Q. I am a mother of 7 year old child. As of January I lost my job and since I've had to wait a bit but I was granted unemployment benefits. I have been to many interviews but recently I interviewed fora position and they bought me in for a second ...
A. 6 April 2013: Congrats on the job! At least you know he cares enough to be a bit bummed. I hope it all works out for you!... (read in full...)
My partner points out my physical flaws, is this passive agressive behaviour?
Q. First my significant other told me he hates my hair. I have sort of wild curly hair that is hard to control. Now that it has grown longer it is more managable. Lots of people have told me they love my hair and would love to have curly hair so ...
A. 5 April 2013: You love a snarky snippy judgmental man? Obviously, you don't like him when he makes comments like that, if you did, you wouldn't be posting here, right?
Tell him when he's put his foot in it.
How long have you been with him? You call him your SO,... (read in full...)
Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 5 April 2013: I second So Very Confused's recommendation of the book by Judith Sills. It is VERY helpful and really makes you understand what may be going on his his head.
Don't take it personally. One of the most basic concepts and so difficult to grasp and ... (read in full...)
My ex wants me to apologize to his mother for raising my voice to her. Why should I?
Q. my ex have a woman while he was with me. i asked him about he said nothing. i ask him about our relationship he said nothing. i found out and keeping to my self, he have made attempt to pull me in back after the two days i found out. i didn't b...
A. 4 April 2013: Why would there be a need to repair a relationship that is over? Is she a grandmother to your children?... (read in full...)
A dating question: Can it work when one person has a career and the other what they consider 'an everyday job'?
Q. Hi I've been single for 16 months now. I've had a few dates, a few casual flings and I'm ready for a serious relationship. I met a guy online a few weeks ago. He's 8 years younger than me, intelligent, funny and we get on really well. In fact I g...
A. 3 April 2013: Hey, good luck! Let us know how things go, I hope you find what you are looking for.... (read in full...)
My ex-fiancee is trapped by her family, she's such a bright woman so why cant she see what is happening? We could have been so happy together.....
Q. Hi. My ex-fiance and I met 5 years ago. In the beginning everything was great. Eventually, however, I began to realize the full extent of the influence her mother has on her. Her mother is her reason for living - and taking full advantage of it ...
A. 3 April 2013: I think if you look up "Narcissism" and "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" you'll see a picture of your ex-potential-mother-in-law and her son. Your ex is just doing what's been programmed into her since birth. It's not her fault, as you ... (read in full...)
Because of my loose vagina my boyfriend thinks I have cheated on him! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend has been complaining that my vagina is now lose and accuses me of cheating and I have never cheated on him. I'm so confused and hurt cause this has affected our relationship so badly what do I do pls. Secondly we've been having issues o...
A. 3 April 2013: If he were my boyfriend, he'd now be my EX boyfriend, for being an idiot and an abusive man and too stupid to deserve me.
If he's making wild accusations, finding fault with you, screaming at you and is this unreasonable, well, he's not going to c... (read in full...)
We are too shy to talk to each other, what can I do to change our current situation?
Q. The moment I saw this girl, the first time I saw her, heard her sing, it made me feel weightless. I was completely captivated. That was 5 years ago, I've still never had real contact with her, I see her when I go to church as she is the main choi...
A. 3 April 2013: Practice this. Say "hello" to her. Then the next time you see her, say "hello, you sang really well today." Then the next time you see her, say "Hi, I wanted to ask you something about how you sing." (Make up a question and ask it.)
See, the stra... (read in full...)
Any advice on sex surrogate therapy?
Q. Hi all, i'm a 30 year single female virgin. I have reached a point in my life, where i'm ready to move towards changing this. Does anyone have any useful info, where to start? I've heard of sex therapy where a sex surrogate is used, in the st...
A. 3 April 2013: Is this a physical thing (such as vaginismus) or a social anxiety thing (where you cannot get close enough to a person to be sexually intimate)?
Talk to your GP, frankly and openly, about your options depending on the root cause of your 'big thin... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friends little sister
Q. Okay so here's the deal.. I'm a 16 year old guy who happened to fall for a 13 year old girl. 1st Question: Is this very wrong and pediphiliac behaviour? I can honestly say that I'm not your quintessential teenage guy: I don't crave sex in relat...
A. 2 April 2013: To the aunts trying to respond on this question; please note it is over 2 years old. I expect the issue has resolved by now, and with that being said, I'm asking for the question to be closed.... (read in full...)
He's not my fiancee or husband so I'm struggling with how much to factor him into my new job decision!
Q. I am a mother of 7 year old child. As of January I lost my job and since I've had to wait a bit but I was granted unemployment benefits. I have been to many interviews but recently I interviewed fora position and they bought me in for a second ...
A. 2 April 2013: It sounds like you have your priorities straight. Child, yourself, your career and then him.
Honestly, what's the worst that can happen? That the relationship doesn't survive the tough spots? Well, if he can't stick around when it gets tough, he's... (read in full...)
Two year long FWB and now he's showing signs of affection!
Q. Is it normal for a FWB relationship to last nearly two years and what does it mean when the guy is showing signs of affection like cuddling, Eskimo kissing and just appearing on a whim?? These things have just started recently in my experience he ...
A. 2 April 2013: He's grown fond of you enough to cuddle a bit but not enough to make you an official girlfriend, I think is what you are saying?
I hate to bring this idea up, but… I think forewarned is forearmed. He may have begun to develop a real romantic rela... (read in full...)
A dating question: Can it work when one person has a career and the other what they consider 'an everyday job'?
Q. Hi I've been single for 16 months now. I've had a few dates, a few casual flings and I'm ready for a serious relationship. I met a guy online a few weeks ago. He's 8 years younger than me, intelligent, funny and we get on really well. In fact I g...
A. 2 April 2013: I think it can work if one doesn't feel threatened by the other. He sounds like he may not have enough self-esteem to bolster his ego when he's feeling lonely and bored.
Why not give him some more time and see how it goes? If he continues with the ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend fantasizes about intimacy with girls!
Q. My girlfriend has recently been fantasizing about having sex with other girls. She has told me that she never has been with another woman or even likes the idea. Then all of a sudden she is having all these fantasies about being intimate with other ...
A. 2 April 2013: Okay, so this is the thing that has you on edge about her?
You're worried she's being unfaithful here and in the other question, you wonder if she's still hung up on her ex because her grandma had a slip of the tongue. So are you wondering if she ... (read in full...)
Awkward moment when her grandmother called me by my girlfriend's ex's name!
Q. So I am at my girlfriends parents house an meeting them for the first time. During this time everything is going well an we talk and really get to know one another. I also meet the grandparents an everything is also seeming going really well. ...
A. 2 April 2013: You're going to break up with your girlfriend because her grandmother had a slip of the tongue? Really?
You must be feeling very on edge in the relationship if this is enough to send you spiraling into anger and blaming your girlfriend for her gran... (read in full...)
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