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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Are my friends right and I'm in denial?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I'm usually giving advice on this site, but some of the posts here had me rethink my dating behavior and my good friends recently hint that I might be in denial of something, so here's my story. Throughout my youth, I felt li...
A. 25 September 2013: Hey, good luck in dating. I hope you find someone wonderful, who makes you an even better person. When you are sitting in peace with yourself, I expect the right person will be attracted and you'll know it. :)... (read in full...)
Serendipity after a summer camp. Not Quite!
Q. I met a guy at a church Summer Camp I volunteer at every year. He was coming from another state on a mission to help in the camp. We talked a lot during camp and when he left he gave me his phone number. We spoke a bit on Facebook but not too much...
A. 15 September 2013: Good riddance! You must feel so relieved to have him out of your life. There are many camps out there, no doubt, so good luck to you.... (read in full...)
Does this girl see me as a potential date?
Q. there is this girl ,a very pretty girl in our Workplace whom i chat always with . in our discussion she laughs at my slightest joke. in our workplace girls appreciate very much my sense of humour. i do joke around with them very well. this pretty ...
A. 10 September 2013: Have a nice time on your date! Why not just get to know her a bit better and see how things go? Let us know how it goes!... (read in full...)
Why does this man act totally different to this girl when he is alone with her?
Q. There is this guy and girl who have known each other for years. It seems like he embarrasses her with questions when others are there, and drawing undue attention to her. But when with her alone, he barely speaks to her. It seems he has 'stolen' her ...
A. 10 September 2013: It sounds all very peculiar. As he is not her employer then she might simply avoid any activity that involves going to his home.
Maybe he heard something negative about your relative and is reacting in kind?
Again, I would just keep away from thi... (read in full...)
Why does this man act totally different to this girl when he is alone with her?
Q. There is this guy and girl who have known each other for years. It seems like he embarrasses her with questions when others are there, and drawing undue attention to her. But when with her alone, he barely speaks to her. It seems he has 'stolen' her ...
A. 9 September 2013: "Why would he talk freely and be more questioning towards a girl when his wife or others are around, BUT act a totally different way when he is working with her and no one else is around?"
Potential answers:
-she's a hired employee (she caters f... (read in full...)
He goes to strip clubs and told me I'm not as sexually attractive to him as I was 14 years and 2 of our children ago!
Q. I don’t know what to do anymore. I have been married for 10 years to my husband, we dated for about 2 years before that and we have two children together ( almost 8 and 4 years old) (he also has two from a previous marriage). I just recently found ...
A. 8 September 2013: That's good news, I really do hope it works out for you. Keep on communicating and talking and maybe this all will result in a stronger and healthier relationship. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
How long do you give someone after their break up before you ask them out?
Q. Hi, How soon would you say it is to inadvertadly hit on someone after they have broken up with their ex? I like someone who has come out of a long term relationship (no children or marriage) but I'm unsure how long to leave it before suggesti...
A. 8 September 2013: Isn't it all individual? I think the rule of thumb is one month of recovery time post-split per year of dating.
So at the 6 month mark they are recovering from a 6 year relationship then you are good to go….. and you see how ridiculous that soun... (read in full...)
Why does this man act totally different to this girl when he is alone with her?
Q. There is this guy and girl who have known each other for years. It seems like he embarrasses her with questions when others are there, and drawing undue attention to her. But when with her alone, he barely speaks to her. It seems he has 'stolen' her ...
A. 8 September 2013: Oh, and based again on the reading of the question, I think this girl should get as far away from this man as possible, and not accept any more invitations or offers of 'work' or catering or whatever. It all sounds very lopsided, based on the ... (read in full...)
Why does this man act totally different to this girl when he is alone with her?
Q. There is this guy and girl who have known each other for years. It seems like he embarrasses her with questions when others are there, and drawing undue attention to her. But when with her alone, he barely speaks to her. It seems he has 'stolen' her ...
A. 8 September 2013: Oh good! The OP has answered.
So, how is it that her friends have chosen him over her? That seems very odd to me. You know how we girls all stick together!
So he asks this girl "to help make food preparations for these shows." So maybe he's hir... (read in full...)
Does this girl see me as a potential date?
Q. there is this girl ,a very pretty girl in our Workplace whom i chat always with . in our discussion she laughs at my slightest joke. in our workplace girls appreciate very much my sense of humour. i do joke around with them very well. this pretty ...
A. 8 September 2013: Does she see you as a date?
Why not be a brave man and ask her out on a date? Then you'll know.
I expect she sees you being all flirty and joking with other women. How would she know you are a serious man?
You tell her she is your love yet you... (read in full...)
Why does this man act totally different to this girl when he is alone with her?
Q. There is this guy and girl who have known each other for years. It seems like he embarrasses her with questions when others are there, and drawing undue attention to her. But when with her alone, he barely speaks to her. It seems he has 'stolen' her ...
A. 8 September 2013: So a married man is splitting up best friends? "Girls"? If they were really good friends, a married man wouldn't be able to split them up.
The post suggests that the man is a pain in the ass:
-he embarrasses her in front of friends or others
... (read in full...)
Why would you women wear a ring on your wedding ring finger if you aren't married?
Q. Totally confused over here right about now......... I like a woman who I thought was married because she wore what looked like a wedding ring on her wedding ring finger. At first I thought it wasn't, it looked too plain not a band type ring then I...
A. 8 September 2013: Why might a woman wear a ring on her 'wedding ring finger'?
-a family ring
-don't want to have men asking for number or a date, etc.
-separated or divorced but not yet ready to date anyone
When I was single I had a job that required a lot o... (read in full...)
He goes to strip clubs and told me I'm not as sexually attractive to him as I was 14 years and 2 of our children ago!
Q. I don’t know what to do anymore. I have been married for 10 years to my husband, we dated for about 2 years before that and we have two children together ( almost 8 and 4 years old) (he also has two from a previous marriage). I just recently found ...
A. 7 September 2013: You've found out years after the fact that your husband interacted in a sexual way just prior to your wedding, with a stripper. I can understand why you'd be upset.
The anon posters here who freak out when a woman DARES to omit the teensiest deta... (read in full...)
Serendipity after a summer camp. Not Quite!
Q. I met a guy at a church Summer Camp I volunteer at every year. He was coming from another state on a mission to help in the camp. We talked a lot during camp and when he left he gave me his phone number. We spoke a bit on Facebook but not too much...
A. 7 September 2013: I would write him off. He was pressuring you for pictures (it's called sextortion, by the way) and he's not interested in you as a girlfriend. He's just a horny guy using social media and girls he knows a little as masturbatory aids.
Just beca... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mother why I don't come to see her?
Q. My boyfriend, Mason and I have been together for 8 months now. He's 26. I'm 22. I'm constantly at his place because I feel that it's so convenient since my college is two blocks away and so is my workplace. And I like being with him. He makes me ...
A. 7 September 2013: You're in college? How are you doing? Are you avoiding something by not going home?
Are you avoiding something by not talking to your mother?
My guess is that you are. You are depressed at home, you cry when you are there and you have anxiety ... (read in full...)
Does he see me as Wifey?
Q. Hey guys and gals here's a question for you. My BF ( whom recently moved in with me ) I will we have been together for 6 months but known each other years. just randomly said in a conversation with me" that's why I married you" were not ev...
A. 7 September 2013: Didn't you discuss marriage before you moved in together? If you didn't, then you can work off the assumption he's joking. You can test this by joking back.
Do you want to marry him? Or was this never an issue before?
You're in your late 30s. Pre... (read in full...)
I want to score with this girl but cant get her attention!
Q. I really like this girl. I met her at work. she's beautiful, sexy and smart. She is oozing with breath taking sex appeal. she knows how to dress well and very down to earth. The problem is, I learned that she is older than me by 7 years. I didn't ...
A. 7 September 2013: I think YouWish has it. This woman you are interested in has had plenty of practice dealing with men who want to have sex with her. What's the dating culture at work? Accepted? Frowned on? If you want to date her, don't act like a lovestruck puppy... (read in full...)
Is this a form of verbal abuse or am I being overeactive?
Q. So, I was discussing with my boyfriend how a woman got rescued from being kidnapped. I then proceeded to make a comment that one always needs to be aware of ones surroundings. My boyfriend turned to me and said "No one would kidnap you." I ...
A. 7 September 2013: "I felt it was better not to say anything. I did walk away to another room. That comment did smart."
Does he know about the abuse you've suffered and that you may be hypersensitive to words that people who haven't experienced it shrug off as no big ... (read in full...)
My vagina is so wet I'm starting to dislike sex. Advice please!!
Q. I'm 31 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have sex on the regular but I get so wet, that it's turning me off and making me NOT want to have sex with him. I'm wet, all the time, even when I'm not horny and just walking through Walmart. ...
A. 7 September 2013: Glands in your cervix produce the secretions you describe, though there may be another condition that is causing your excessive discharge.
If it's changed in the past year and is causing you this much distress, go to your gynecologist to try to find... (read in full...)
Why is my height so unattractive?
Q. I have been rejected by hundreds of girls offline and thousands of girls online and have lost heart and all sense of my 'physical' self-esteem. It is very difficult to remain confident after that. My track record keeps me from trying now as I have ...
A. 4 September 2013: Until you accept and love your body, no woman will either. If you measure your worth by the centimeter then you will never be enough.
If you are hoping to date women who like men who are insecure about their height and who are as tall or taller then... (read in full...)
How do I stay strong when I tell him to get out?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't work, contribute to bills, rent, groceries and he is destructive. How do I stay strong when I tell him to get out? I met him in January of 2012 and he my first impression was not to feel like he was a very nice person. ...
A. 3 September 2013: If you run a company worth 8 million dollars, then you can afford counseling. Go to your doctor and get a referral. Life's too short to live in that kind of pain. Go get some real help. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm the older sister at the younger sister's wedding and I need advice on how to deal with the intrusive questions!
Q. My younger sister and her fiance are getting married in december, (interstate.) As well as their friends, and my brother and his family some extended family members,are also travelling to attend, its not a big wedding about 60 ppl. I am si...
A. 3 September 2013: how can ideal with prying questions such as
"have you got a partner" ----"oh, alas, I don't have a partner at this point in time. why is it you are losing your battle with obesity?"
"why arent you married" ----- "what an odd question to ask, hav... (read in full...)
He's moved back in with an ex and says he needs to spend days or weeks without me so he can miss me. Huh?
Q. A man and woman have been living together on and off for four years; the man moved out a year ago, however they have maintained contact and have stated they both want to work on the relationship and renew it.. the man had no place to go (he has no ...
A. 3 September 2013: I'd find a better boyfriend.... (read in full...)
He told me I shouldn't try to wear a bikini again! Yet he looks at porn when I'm out of the house! Am I wrong to take this to heart?
Q. My stomach was severely covered in stretch marks after having our first baby. Its been 3 years and I've worked really hard to get back down to my college weight. So I said something to my husband about trying to get back into a bikini. He told me ...
A. 3 September 2013: *and* Stop asking him to boost you, he's one of those idiotic men who don't know when they have a good woman. Ignore him, make your own validation and live your life.
I's time to be a brave woman and tell the selfish inconsiderate bu**er that it's... (read in full...)
Is it a red flag when a 55 year old man has lots of female friends young enough to be his daughters?
Q. Hello. I am 35yrs female (single). I am dating a guy who is 55yrs old (divorced). I like him very much and we are taking our time knowing each other. There is not intimacy between us yet and I like the way he respect it and we share quality time and...
A. 3 September 2013: You aren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet. Maybe he's not all that interested in the traditional bf/gif thing and that's why he's single?
You haven't known him all that long. So wait and watch.
You could add his children on your social networks... (read in full...)
He told me I shouldn't try to wear a bikini again! Yet he looks at porn when I'm out of the house! Am I wrong to take this to heart?
Q. My stomach was severely covered in stretch marks after having our first baby. Its been 3 years and I've worked really hard to get back down to my college weight. So I said something to my husband about trying to get back into a bikini. He told me ...
A. 3 September 2013: Are you wrong to take what to heart?
If you want to wear a bikini, wear it. You EARNED those stretch marks, they are marks of honor.
Take a look at http://yourbrainonporn.com to understand what his pathetic (sorry) little (sorry) self might be... (read in full...)
Rhetorical question: is this true love?
Q. Imagine a situation: An average-looking guy meets a girl that suffers from some light physical handicap (that also includes some dis-figuration like a scar on her face). Supposedly, the girl does not get any attention from other guys becaus...
A. 3 September 2013: Let's add this to the question. The average looking guy is blind! So he doesn't know how he compares to other guys and so doesn't have that as a means to decide if he should date her or not.
Right. It's all imaginary, so we can make up whatever we l... (read in full...)
Should I accompany my boyfriend, who will leave for another country for 13 months?
Q. Hi, Not sure if you can help me but I need some advice. I was married for 5 years and then divorced (married a bad man) anyway didn't think I would find someone so soon after but I did. I met my current BF 1 year after my divorce was final. Anywa...
A. 2 September 2013: Why is LDR not an option?... (read in full...)
Are my friends up to no good? Should I stay away from them?
Q. On a night out with some friends I met a friend of a friend at a bar, he said that I was welcome to go along with them back to his house, to make things clear lets call my friend s and the accuaintance a, we'll we got to a,s house and we had a bit ...
A. 2 September 2013: I'd keep clear of them and not have any 'parties' after a long night out. People act very oddly when they are full of alcohol. Is it possible there were other mood-altering substances involved?
Yeah, not such a good thing, I'd just drop it and not ... (read in full...)
Are my friends right and I'm in denial?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I'm usually giving advice on this site, but some of the posts here had me rethink my dating behavior and my good friends recently hint that I might be in denial of something, so here's my story. Throughout my youth, I felt li...
A. 2 September 2013: Hi Euphoric. I think that when you stop trying to do things that make other people happy, such as dating guys you don't really like all that well, and start paying attention to what makes you happy, you'll figure it out.
As for X, well, I think your... (read in full...)
How do I stay strong when I tell him to get out?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't work, contribute to bills, rent, groceries and he is destructive. How do I stay strong when I tell him to get out? I met him in January of 2012 and he my first impression was not to feel like he was a very nice person. ...
A. 2 September 2013: Change your locks and don't let him back in. Don't talk with him any more, you seem to succumb to his b.s. when he talks to you.
Put his stuff in bags and boxes and take it to one of his friends or family.
If you can't manage this without help the... (read in full...)
Is it a red flag when a 55 year old man has lots of female friends young enough to be his daughters?
Q. Hello. I am 35yrs female (single). I am dating a guy who is 55yrs old (divorced). I like him very much and we are taking our time knowing each other. There is not intimacy between us yet and I like the way he respect it and we share quality time and...
A. 2 September 2013: How does he know these women? Are they real friends, as in he sees them in real life, or are they facebook adds, which means he doesn't know them other than their online facebook persona.
How did you meet him and how long have you been dati... (read in full...)
My ex says he wants me back, I love him but I'm afraid he'd hurt me again. How do I move on?
Q. My ex called after 4 months of break up. He dumped me and was very mean when he broke up with me. He said he misses me and still loves me. I'm always the one he wants to marry. I told him I'm not going to get back with him because he hurt me t...
A. 1 September 2013: What have you been doing for the past 4 months? Wallowing or have you been trying to heal?... (read in full...)
Help with boyfriend please. He's been increasingly distant, with no contact for past 5 days.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. We don't live together but see each other a few times a week and will stay over at the other's house on the weekends. Things the last 6 months or so have been so horrible. We basicall...
A. 1 September 2013: What have you been fighting about that you argue every day? That's not healthy for a relationship.... (read in full...)
I need both my husband and my lover
Q. So ive been married for 18 years, we have 4 children all teens. Extremely unhappy since 2007. We always had a sort of toxic relationship. Fighting (just words) , making up, great sex..etc. In 2005 he was involved in a business that required alot of ...
A. 31 August 2013: You need to see a local divorce attorney. No doubt he or she could recommend a PI. ... (read in full...)
My husband is choosing a caregiver over me?? I think he's lost his mind!
Q. I don't know what to make of my life sometime. My husband's mom is in an assisted living facility. She had a particular care giver who tried to get my husband to hire her under the table. So I go to visit his mom because he asked me to check this ...
A. 29 August 2013: One more thing, pay for a background check on this woman. You have her name and email information and address, that should be enough. If she's this manipulative, she probably has some serious skeletons in her closet. Best to know what you are ... (read in full...)
My husband is choosing a caregiver over me?? I think he's lost his mind!
Q. I don't know what to make of my life sometime. My husband's mom is in an assisted living facility. She had a particular care giver who tried to get my husband to hire her under the table. So I go to visit his mom because he asked me to check this ...
A. 29 August 2013: Don't leave that house with any belongings until you've talked with a divorce attorney. You need to protect your financial future. Sorry he's being bizarre and weird but you should not succumb to this kind of hysterical thinking, okay?
Get your... (read in full...)
I think I'm dating an alcoholic. What can I do to help him?
Q. I believe I'm dating an alcoholic. Is there any hope? He's so great when he's sober. We both like to dance and have a few drinks, so for the last 6 months I've been in a bit of denial I guess. Where as I can stop at 3 drinks all night at a night...
A. 29 August 2013: There's not much you can do, except for take care of yourself. Definitely go to an Al-Anon meeting, it will help you put things in perspective.
I had an alcoholic friend. Stress 'HAD.' She died due to her disease. She was lovely, had a loving husb... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is either the eternal batchelor or has cold feet!
Q. How soon is too soon to have a conversation about moving in, or the next step? (marriage) My boyfriend and I have known each other for 3 years and been dating for 9 months. We are both in our late 30s. I have to move (lease is up) - so I men...
A. 29 August 2013: Well, now you know he's a mean drunk, especially when he's stressed. He doesn't want to move in with you. That's your answer. Stop pushing him. If I were in your shoes, I might be reconsidering the whole relationship right now. You are allowing ... (read in full...)
I need both my husband and my lover
Q. So ive been married for 18 years, we have 4 children all teens. Extremely unhappy since 2007. We always had a sort of toxic relationship. Fighting (just words) , making up, great sex..etc. In 2005 he was involved in a business that required alot of ...
A. 29 August 2013: Definitely see a lawyer right away, you don't really sound prepared for the inevitable end of the marriage.... (read in full...)
I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?
Q. I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...
A. 29 August 2013: "The only time I get nauseated and feel like throwing up, is later when I think of his actions and just the fact that he is attracted to other women or lusting after them. It makes me sick inside."
So the nausea happens later, when you are thin... (read in full...)
I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?
Q. I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...
A. 29 August 2013: Let's take his gawking out of it, and the co-worker.
Do you get physically nauseated just thinking about him possibly being attracted to another woman?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants us to go travelling with his female friend for 2 weeks but I don't want to do this
Q. My boyfriend and i are 23 and live together, we've been together 4 years and have lived togther for 3 and a half years! We are happy but do argue evey now and then as couples do! We live about 30 mins away from his parents and friends so he se...
A. 29 August 2013: It would be a deal-breaker for me.
He wants to go to Australia for 3 weeks without you? With a friend he sees occasionally? Nope, doesn't sound right. You have meals with good friends, you go out with them, you call them on the phone. You may go o... (read in full...)
Can working too much cause impotence?
Q. I was wondering, if it is possible that my husband 'simpotence,caused by his workaholism? He is totally off sex, never wants any sex, at all, he is unable to get hard, when once every few month i initiate sex. I found very confusing articles...
A. 28 August 2013: What does he think?... (read in full...)
Husband works from home and I hate it!
Q. Hi, Does anyone have a husband that works from home? Mine started recently and I hate it. He makes me feel like the villain but I adore him. I just don't want to spend every second together. He goes to a room as his office but there is still a ...
A. 28 August 2013: He may be feeling cut off and is questioning you because he just needs a reason to talk to you. He may be a control freak and now that he's home it's all playing out.
Tell him simply, 'babe, we have 5 kids. I am an on-call mommy. I need my alon... (read in full...)
How do you get over trust issues?
Q. How do you get over trust issues? I'm in a relationship with an amazing guy but i cant trust him. You see in every single one of my relationships I have been cheated on and its had a serious affect on me. I get paranoid on where he's going and who ...
A. 28 August 2013: He's amazing but you can't trust him? Usually those two sentiments are mutually exclusive. Is there something all your previous cheating men have in common? Why were you attracted to them in the first place? What did you learn NOT to do in your ... (read in full...)
I want to approach this amazing girl but don't know how!
Q. To make a long story short, So There is this really cute girl in my art class and she sits at the same table as me i see her everyday and i even got her at lunch time but i go sit with her because shes always with her friends and i don't want seem ...
A. 28 August 2013: Toonz, if you want her to take you seriously, you need to remember that her friends will give her their opinions about you. So do not ignore her friends. Look upon her friends as your allies in getting to know her. Start to make friends with them.
T... (read in full...)
I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?
Q. I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...
A. 28 August 2013: You said you talked to him about it. What was his response?
Pending his input into your distress, I'd say that if you are this bothered by his actions and he isn't bothered to change his gawking enough to a polite glance, then I think you may need... (read in full...)
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