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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Was my Bf being insensitive for not texting me all day? Or am I expecting too much ?
Q. I need some objective advice. I am too close to the situation and too emotional I think. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years. Yesterday, he had family over for the day and did not contact me at all. I texted him at th...
A. 22 August 2016: Wait, re-reading this post reminds me of the woman who's been having a passionate sexual affair with the married man.
In which case, his lack of texting and attention makes sense.
If he's a married man, hasn't separated from his wife, and you'... (read in full...)
Was my Bf being insensitive for not texting me all day? Or am I expecting too much ?
Q. I need some objective advice. I am too close to the situation and too emotional I think. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years. Yesterday, he had family over for the day and did not contact me at all. I texted him at th...
A. 22 August 2016: Why aren't you with him during family visits if you've been together for over 3 years? I guess you were prevented due to work or your own family commitments?
By this point after over 3 years together I'm sure you've made connections with a few memb... (read in full...)
I'm only turned on by blowjobs!
Q. Hi there. I'm a heterosexual man, but I've been stuck with this since I started to feel sexual needs. What I have is pretty weird: I'm attracted to girls, but the only sexual activity I'm interested in are blowjobs. I don't like women vaginas, I...
A. 20 August 2016: You say the word "heterosexual" but perhaps there's a more accurate term. Autosexual doesn't fit.
Selfisexual?
Let's explore this by asking if you met a woman who only wanted to receive oral sex, what would you say about that and would you be w... (read in full...)
Can family history spoil my recruitment chance?
Q. I don't know if a question like this is allowed here, Ever since I was young I have wanted a career in the police force, I applied and then they gave me an interview, I had to answer scenario questions and my skills etc, I have recently been ...
A. 20 August 2016: If the police recruitment teams could only hire people whose entire families had no brushes with the law ever, it would be a very small police force.
I agree with honey pie, just talk frankly with your recruiter.
Either you'll be hired or not.
G... (read in full...)
After many years I'm falling for my first love all over again, but his unwillingness to see me on weekends is making me suspicious!
Q. I am a mature woman and know a thing about men over the years. I met up with my first love over a year ago and cutting a long story short we have been on a few dates and have slept together. It has all been on a friendly basis as I have just come ...
A. 13 August 2016: I think texting leads to more misunderstandings and upset than needs to happen.
Pick up the phone and speak to him live.
You made what you thought was a joke about washing his hair and he may well have taken that as an insult.
The bottom line ... (read in full...)
I feel like my friend is blowing me off!
Q. Hi everyone, my story may sound petty but I just think I might need some opinions on my situation. Okay so I've been friends with this girl for 4 years and we were on the same sports team and we always room together. Honestly our friendship is pr...
A. 12 August 2016: I had a friend like this back when I was your age. For what seemed to me to be no reason, she suddenly stopped wanting to get together. My other friends stayed my friends. In retrospect, I think that friend was jealous of me. A boy we both liked ... (read in full...)
Vibrator too loud and sharing a room with a family member, what to do?
Q. Ok so I'm 19 and I don't have a car to go by a vibrator at a store and I share a room with a family member so its really hard for me to masterbate late at night for instance now anyways I use a mack massager but its too loud and every time I turn it ...
A. 12 August 2016: Is the family member bed-bound and unable to leave the room? If so, then perhaps it would make sense for you to find another venue.
If the family member does leave the shared room from time to time then use the room when it is vacant.
You obviousl... (read in full...)
Dare I tell this younger woman how I feel?
Q. hi, my name is Roger. I am a 70 yr old man and I have become very friendly with a Romanian woman for over a year now, who is 31, and also married I can honestly say I have never got on so well with a woman in all my life we do many things together...
A. 9 August 2016: The good news is that you now know you can feel like you did back when you were in your 30s. The bad news is that this one woman is married.
The good news is that there are many women who are actually single and would appreciate a man who is also... (read in full...)
Should I even tell him? How can I, considering he's married?
Q. I really need to talk about this. Please don't judge me. I know I'm a idiot for getting into this mess. I have been sleeping with an older married man (49). I stopped all contact with him a few weeks ago, as I missed my period. I then went to the ...
A. 8 August 2016: And just to add, why would you “protect” an adult who is perfectly capable of making his own choices, to the detriment of an infant who is completely dependent on the adult who brought her/him into the world in the first place? Again, it makes no ... (read in full...)
Should I even tell him? How can I, considering he's married?
Q. I really need to talk about this. Please don't judge me. I know I'm a idiot for getting into this mess. I have been sleeping with an older married man (49). I stopped all contact with him a few weeks ago, as I missed my period. I then went to the ...
A. 8 August 2016: Your child is also HIS child and deserves the best resources that BOTH parents can bring to raise it.
His marriage didn’t prevent him or you from having an affair. Why should it prevent you from lying to him about being pregnant? Yes, I said lyin... (read in full...)
Is it normal for your man to check out other women's behinds?
Q. Is it normal for your BF to check out other women's behinds? Whether you are around or not? Do all/most men check out other women's behinds even if they are in a happy, committed relationship with their wives/girlfriends? And even if their wives/g...
A. 8 August 2016: If my husband didn’t notice a beautiful woman I’d check to make sure he wasn’t unconscious. He doesn’t stare at them or in any other way act inappropriately, but he does look. Why shouldn’t he? Men are wired to get a little ‘zing’ of pleasure when ... (read in full...)
How can I last longer for her?
Q. So recently, I've gotten into a relationship with the woman of my dreams. She's my best friend, we've known each other for two years, shared ups and downs, been to the ringer and back and now things are amazing. We've also gotten physical a few ...
A. 3 August 2016: You sound like a lovely young man, who is hoping to make sure his new girlfriend enjoys herself as much as he does. That's great. That's a wonderful thing.
So the thing to keep in mind is that your sexual response and hers are going to be diffe... (read in full...)
I’m feeling guilty for not throwing my baby a party for her first birthday!
Q. Has anyone here held off the idea of throwing a 1yr old birthday party for tgeir baby? My baby turns 1 next month. Myself and dad mostly dad planned to not throw her a party. For some reason i have started to feel really bad. I feel like i was ...
A. 2 August 2016: You’re married, okay, are you afraid of him?... (read in full...)
Do I give him a chance or end it before I get hurt?
Q. No judgement please . I got chatting to a guy on online dating site ill call him A . we met and stayed in touch we took ourselves off the site. We decided to take it really slow so theres no pressure. i know his dad had a bad accident he needs to be ...
A. 2 August 2016: I think the chance he’s going to reach back out to you and start to talk again is pretty slim. I’m not trying to be mean or hurtful, it’s just that if he really saw something happening between you two, he’d be doing what it takes to make it ... (read in full...)
I’m feeling guilty for not throwing my baby a party for her first birthday!
Q. Has anyone here held off the idea of throwing a 1yr old birthday party for tgeir baby? My baby turns 1 next month. Myself and dad mostly dad planned to not throw her a party. For some reason i have started to feel really bad. I feel like i was ...
A. 2 August 2016: Are you afraid of him for any reason? You said “he shut it down” when you talked about doing something really small in your backyard.
If he doesn’t like parties and noise he can do what antisocial fathers do and retire to the man cave or the den ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling so alone when every single friend is coupled up and I have no family?
Q. I have two different friendship groups who I socialise with regularly plus a few friends who I see individually on a regular basis rather than as part of any group. I have known all of them for between 4 and 10 years. They are all aged between ...
A. 2 August 2016: I agree with Celtic Tiger’s suggestion that you look into dating older women. If you expand your search criteria to 45-52 years old, you’ll find women who won’t be interested in having children, and if they had children from a prior relationship, ... (read in full...)
Our families are not blending. Is it time to move on?
Q. Help!! My partner and I live with our 5 kids. Two from his previous relationship three from mine. He's very bias towards his kids and I'm scared its damaging my kids. Two of my kids spend half the week with their dad and I was on my own with the ...
A. 2 August 2016: I’d vote for moving on. Be kind to the children as they are not yet old enough to be fully aware of their own bad behavior. He, on the other hand, is old enough to know better.
Calling you a “psycho bitch” in front of everyone and slamming a door... (read in full...)
Worried my alter ego is taking over
Q. I am 15 years old and have a very cool thing that I can do with my voice, I am able to make my voice sound like a girl. I was about 8 when I found out I could do this and very well in fact that everyone on Xbox thought I was a girl. I pretende...
A. 1 August 2016: What you are doing is known as catfishing. There’s an MTV show that shows people who put on fake personas online, over text and the phone. Generally, the catfish type is hiding behind the persona due to low self-esteem, gender or sexual confusion, ... (read in full...)
Why do so many men believe they have a right to sex without a condom?
Q. I'm sorry if this comes across as a rant but I'm really annoyed at the moment and looking to hear opinions around whether I've been unlucky or if what I'm experiencing is the norm. Why do the men I meet seem to think it's their right to get to ...
A. 31 July 2016: I checked the NHS site, and diaphragms are available: http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/contraception-guide/Pages/contraceptive-diaphragm.aspx
Good luck, sorry to hear you have so many health concerns. Be well!... (read in full...)
He demonstrated flakiness in the past. Yet now he's given me his number? Can I trust him, this time?
Q. The first time he was supposed to call me after he gets off work at 3pm to finalize our plans but I didn't hear from him untill 10:00pm, something had came up on his end. He apologize profusely and asked how he can make it up to me. Subsquently,he...
A. 31 July 2016: What’s the part of you that wants to text him? The drama-deprived masochist?
Will he ever change? Well, stranger things have happened. So it’s possible he could change and suddenly behave like a man who is properly courting a woman he fanc... (read in full...)
Why do so many men believe they have a right to sex without a condom?
Q. I'm sorry if this comes across as a rant but I'm really annoyed at the moment and looking to hear opinions around whether I've been unlucky or if what I'm experiencing is the norm. Why do the men I meet seem to think it's their right to get to ...
A. 31 July 2016: Are you trying to avoid pregnancy AND STIs or just pregnancy?
Whatever happened to the diaphragm with a spermicide? That was an easy, convenient, if a bit messy, form of non-hormonal barrier birth control.
http:... (read in full...)
Social media signs are worrying me
Q. I'm friends with a female at work and was on Facebook, but she deleted me from her list of friends due to a misunderstanding, which has since been sorted out. She said she would put me back on her list of friends on Facebook but nothing has ...
A. 31 July 2016: Dear OP, you have asked about this friend at work in the past. You were advised not to ask to be on her friends list on facebook again, you were advised to allow her to decide what would work for her as it regards interacting socially with you ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 29 July 2016: If it were me, I’d be so okay with him leaving, I’d be having a party! Along with that, I’d make sure I’d changed all the locks on all the doors, changed all the passwords on all my accounts and basically scrubbed him out of my life.
He sounds like... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 29 July 2016: Ah, so you’ve been argued into agreeing with him and there’s no change, you are going to do all the chores and he and his daughter will do nothing, is that what this relationship has devolved to?
... (read in full...)
Could this older man like me?
Q. I'm sort of embarrassed to be asking this, as I normally don't have problems with this sort of issue. I'll give you a rundown of my situation: This man in twenty something years older than me. I am not underage, in my twenties. We work together...
A. 29 July 2016: Does this older man have a long term girlfriend? A wife? A short term girlfriend?
He might think you are super amazingly adorbs and wants to have you in his posse.. Or he might be super inappropriate and looking for the next unschooled unce... (read in full...)
I want both men but can't have them both!
Q. I have been married for 3 years, but the past year and a half, my husband completely neglected me and took me for granted. I tried my best to save our relationship by trying to go out more with him, talking to him, looking sexy for him, finding out ...
A. 28 July 2016: So what has been happening in your husband’s life that might result in him not paying the attention to you that you feel you’e been denied?
You say you’ve always been strong enough to fight against temptation from any man, does this mean it’s been... (read in full...)
Is his attitude cause for concern?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months or so now and having some doubts about our future together. I currently am stuck renting accommodation with very little money to save each month but my boyfriend owns his own place. We recently had a c...
A. 28 July 2016: Let’s just take your boyfriend out of this equation for the moment. Imagine you have no boyfriend, and you are in exactly the same financial situation you are now.
Would you be living in a rental accommodation that essentially drains your savi... (read in full...)
Is this a compliment "I chose you" ???
Q. No problem just a question. If your husband/wife, partner lover whatever tells you "I CHOSE YOU" how do you receive it, as a compliment or an insult? We had the same question asked on facebook but most see it as a compliment. I don't! What's yo...
A. 28 July 2016: Seems like a compliment to me. Why do you hold the opinion that it’s an insult?... (read in full...)
Its come down to my parents or her...whom do I chose?
Q. I have been betrayed by people around me all the time. There haven't been many people who supported me. My mother was sometimes abusive towards me (hitting mainly) during my childhood. I was always scared to be in a relationship due to my trust ...
A. 28 July 2016: “she was mildly intellectually disabled"
“Mentally she is very young"
“she doesn’t understand a lot of things such as relationships”
“I have thought of putting her in some home for mentally disabled people"
Perhaps there is a huge cultural d... (read in full...)
My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 28 July 2016: So to summarize your post, you don’t trust him because:
1. He’s a good actor
2. He’s a charmer
3. He has a big ego
4. He considers himself entitled
5. He has a history and a method of interacting with women
6. He’s knows how to manipulate ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is falling apart ever since I lost the baby
Q. Hello all, I am looking for some non judgemental relationship advice. I am 16 my boyfriends 17. We've been together 9 months. 3 months ago I found out I was pregnant. It was a total accident I was actually on birth control at the time (before anyone ...
A. 28 July 2016: Just to add the email address was blocked by the site but can be easily read on the page if you follow the link I provided.... (read in full...)
Our relationship is falling apart ever since I lost the baby
Q. Hello all, I am looking for some non judgemental relationship advice. I am 16 my boyfriends 17. We've been together 9 months. 3 months ago I found out I was pregnant. It was a total accident I was actually on birth control at the time (before anyone ...
A. 28 July 2016: This sounds like a very hard and sad time for you and your boyfriend. Miscarriages are very common but that doesn’t make them easy to cope with. Have your friends and family been supportive of you? If this has been a big secret that you and your ... (read in full...)
Best friend or girlfriend?
Q. So I've known my best friend since sixth grade,she moved to our hometown during the summer before sixth grade and every since then we've been inseparable. We've been there for each other during everything birth of her first born the birth of ...
A. 27 July 2016: “What do I do?” Accept that the friendship isn’t going to the same? Figure out what it is you are running from? Why are you imagining things that might or might not happen in the future? “ have us turn into those ex’s that hate each other”
F... (read in full...)
Nurses are nasty! I'm a nurse facing surgery and fear I'll be treated badly by other nurses!
Q. Im going into hospital soon for small surgery and worried the staff andnurses will treat me badly? The surgeon and anaesthetist know I'm a nurse as my own Dr told them! so now all the staff and nurses will know I am a nurse, I cannot even hide tha...
A. 27 July 2016: I’d be sure to make eye-contact and smile with every nurse you meet. I’d say something like, “I’m so happy to know as a fellow nurse I have you looking after me.”
“It’ll be so wonderful to be able to pass along how well I was cared for to my doct... (read in full...)
My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 27 July 2016: Hi OP, I feel I’ve watched this relationship unfold over DC over these past years. Your first posts were about the excitement of having this married man approach you, then you and he did have sex and then he ignored you, then obviously things ... (read in full...)
Will a man automatically fancy a younger women than once closer to his age?
Q. Hello, I'm 37 years old and I fancy a guy of 45 who I suspect fancies me too. However, there is a pretty girl of 26 that also likes him. Will he automatically fancy her more because she is younger? When I found out she liked him I have been avoiding...
A. 27 July 2016: Ask Prince Charles!... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever wasted 10 years of their life and not lived to regret it?
Q. This could be very long but I will keep it short. Has anybody ever wasted 10 years of their life.. And lived enough not to regret it. This holds me down badly. ...
A. 20 July 2016: Yes!... (read in full...)
I magnify everything into the worst case scenario. What can I do to stop doing this?
Q. I am finding it difficult to live in my own skin. And it has become worse and worse over time. Every ache and pain I have I magnify into the worst case scenario and think I am dying. And I panic and have massive amounts of stress and anxiety. ...
A. 18 July 2016: You seem to be describing a situation in which you are completely debilitated by panic, anxiety, and terrifying thought. You are stuck in bed, you can't live your life. I wonder if you've been completely honest with your doctor about the panic ... (read in full...)
How long after a break up should I find new love?
Q. Hello so I just ended a relationship with someone I have been with for five years. I was wondering how long I should wait until I would get into another relationship. He was my first love but I grew out of it fast because we dated young. Things have ...
A. 18 July 2016: Do you have someone in mind? Because unless you have someone in mind, the question of timing is irrelevant. Do your sisters have any reason for concern about you dating prior to five years? Especially as they dated in two years in a break up?
I... (read in full...)
She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?
Q. I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...
A. 10 July 2016: Then now would be a good time to tell about your autism, and how you are struggling with handling the situation.
I'm sure she's aware you aren't neurotypical. She's letting you know she's ok to try to talk to you, but in her time and on her sche... (read in full...)
Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?
Q. If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...
A. 6 July 2016: No, yes, no, no.
Why would woman dating said man stick around for more odd disrespect?
Unless he and ex had a child whose needs required constant contact. In which case I'd wonder why said man would be trying to date?
There's not really enoug... (read in full...)
He ghosted and came back... what now?
Q. I posted a couple weeks ago. I dated someone for three months. The first two months were great. He was affectionate and planned thoughtful dates (as did I) and reached out daily. We met 1-2x a week. However everything changed last month and I ...
A. 5 July 2016: Oh, just delete and block him and delete all his friends. You're 30-35, you don't need to succumb to peer pressure any longer!
I think I replied to your first post on this guy, where I suggested you give him more time. You have, he's not inte... (read in full...)
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