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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Do I choose my husband or my boyfriend?
Q. I need advice very badly. I'm in a predicament I never thought I would find myself in though I have seen it on the site before. I am having to choose between two men. Each have their strengths and weaknesses. One is my husband, not what you think or ...
A. 11 July 2014: Thank you for following up! It's good to hear things have worked out for you. Best wishes for continuing happiness.... (read in full...)
Why would a guy check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her?
Q. I wanted to ask why a guy would check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her? I went on a date with a guy who was interested in me in the beginning he complimented me constantly and told me how much he liked the way I look, but ...
A. 3 February 2014: You went on one date and told him you loved him? That's waaaaaayyyy too fast. Too much too soon.
Next time, let the guy do the pursuing.
I have a book recommendation: "A Fine Romance" by Judith Sills PhD. It covers courtship and I think you'll f... (read in full...)
Little contact from my boyfriend while he's on vacation. Should I be concerned?
Q. My boyfriend of a year has been on vacation for a month in another country ( visiting family). I went for ten days but now I've been home for 11 days and he has called me just once. I sent a two messages on FB and he did reply both times but very ...
A. 24 January 2014: When is he due back?... (read in full...)
He bailed on me.. so what's up with him?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend, ex I should say, broke it off with me "unofficially" by disappearing 2 weeks ago. He told me he loved me by text, had nothing to offer, blah blah blah and then disappeared. The last thing he ever said to me was "I love you...". ...
A. 23 January 2014: I don't spend a lot of time contemplating what's in the toilet before I flush it…. just sayin'.
Sorry for that, there were a couple of poop-related questions this week and for some reason, that analogy came to mind. Sorry for all those trying to e... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but I am in love with her sister
Q. I think I have fallen for her. Six and a half years ago I found out that my wife had cheated on me, prior to this our relationship had been cold for a while and I found myself having lustful feelings towards her sister who used to stay over fairly f...
A. 23 January 2014: Spellcheck didn't like me using naughty words. You can look forward to a less fucked up life.... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but I am in love with her sister
Q. I think I have fallen for her. Six and a half years ago I found out that my wife had cheated on me, prior to this our relationship had been cold for a while and I found myself having lustful feelings towards her sister who used to stay over fairly f...
A. 23 January 2014: How about this: assume she does, then proceed to deal with things like getting the counseling. Then you can look forward to a less tucked up life.... (read in full...)
He bailed on me.. so what's up with him?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend, ex I should say, broke it off with me "unofficially" by disappearing 2 weeks ago. He told me he loved me by text, had nothing to offer, blah blah blah and then disappeared. The last thing he ever said to me was "I love you...". ...
A. 23 January 2014: Who cares what he's thinking?
Block him and move on. Let him think he's making an impact on you when you are free of him.
It's very creepy, when you think about it.
Lose the loser, block him on FB and go enjoy life! You are creep-free, ... (read in full...)
I want him but he is committed to somebody else.
Q. I have been in love with this man for 8 years. He has a 9 yr. old son and is committed to the mother They live in the philipines. He visits them every year for 1 month. He is not married to her but says But I have a son. I want him but he won't ...
A. 23 January 2014: No, you don't have a chance with him, sorry. You'd know it after 8 years. You're young and have lots of good years to enjoy with someone who IS available and is willing to commit. Why waste precious time?
... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but I am in love with her sister
Q. I think I have fallen for her. Six and a half years ago I found out that my wife had cheated on me, prior to this our relationship had been cold for a while and I found myself having lustful feelings towards her sister who used to stay over fairly f...
A. 23 January 2014: Again, why do you need to know her feelings? To boost your self-esteem?
... (read in full...)
Is being in love meant to be difficult?
Q. Hi everyone I have had, in the past, many abusive relationships. I have suffered from anxiety and agoraphobia (still suffer but I am very positive and proactive) and I haven't had an easy life but the good thing is that I am strong despite a...
A. 23 January 2014: I would take your money, go and buy your own home and move in there, put your money to work for YOU, not to pay off his debts. Which is, of course, what you are doing.
You can continue to date him if the relationship is strong enough, but I thin... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but I am in love with her sister
Q. I think I have fallen for her. Six and a half years ago I found out that my wife had cheated on me, prior to this our relationship had been cold for a while and I found myself having lustful feelings towards her sister who used to stay over fairly f...
A. 23 January 2014: How will knowing her feelings at this moment in time have any impact on your future choices? What are you going to do with that information?... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but I am in love with her sister
Q. I think I have fallen for her. Six and a half years ago I found out that my wife had cheated on me, prior to this our relationship had been cold for a while and I found myself having lustful feelings towards her sister who used to stay over fairly f...
A. 23 January 2014: Let's review:
Your wife had an affair. You split up for a while.
[No marriage counseling? No talk therapy? No nothing? Curious.]
Your wife accuses you of sleeping with her sister at this time.
You wonder if your youngest child is yours.
Your fee... (read in full...)
How can I improve my body language?
Q. Not a r/ship question but hope you all can help. Appreciate it. How to not give off a negative "vibe"? I understand body language, it's so obvious at times, you know.. folding yr arms may mean being closed off, uncrossed arms being more open, ...
A. 23 January 2014: Make good eye contact.
Be interested in what they say.
Jackie Bouvier Kennedy Onassis was very good at this. If you were speaking to her, you had her complete attention. She was not looking over your shoulder or somewhere else. She was paying a... (read in full...)
I want to stop masturbating and enjoy sex!
Q. Hi I feel very odd and weird but I think I masturbate weirdly.. I've been doing it since I was young as I can remember and I feel odd and don't get pleasure off sleeping with my partner. I have to masturbate on ny own to get the feeling. I lay on n...
A. 23 January 2014: You sound perfectly normal and I don't think you have anything to worry about.
This has been asked and answered here so often I will post links:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-orgasm-during-intercourse-is-it-my.html
http://ww... (read in full...)
Do I choose my husband or my boyfriend?
Q. I need advice very badly. I'm in a predicament I never thought I would find myself in though I have seen it on the site before. I am having to choose between two men. Each have their strengths and weaknesses. One is my husband, not what you think or ...
A. 23 January 2014: Something in this posts suggests that you didn't do a good job of finding a suitable man for you.
I'd cut both of them loose so they can go on to find suitable women for themselves, and you keep looking.
Do get a divorce so you aren't encumber... (read in full...)
Do girls do this if they are interested?
Q. why do girls do this? I went on a date with a girl last night and she was on her phone for the momst of the time and talking about other guys that are interested in her, talking about previous love interests, and acting cold. she even invited ...
A. 23 January 2014: Why did this particular girl do this? She didn't understand she was on a date or she is an extremely self-absorbed and obnoxious person.
Do all girls do this? Um, no.
Maybe you need to re-evaluate your date selections?
Good luck with the next one... (read in full...)
Boyfriend likes natural beauty and doesn't want me wearing makeup
Q. My new boyfriend doesn't want me to wear makeup. We are very close and have been friends a while before this. I don't wear heavy makeup. Usually eyeliner, mascara, and a neutral eyeshadow as I am kind of pale. My makeup doesn't look tacky, and it ...
A. 22 January 2014: I don't understand what "the fairness of my makeup" means?
My experience with men who say they don't like make up means that they don't like heavy eyeliner and really bright or too pale lipstick, or too much eyeshadow.
Their idea of 'natural... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex-girlfriend, her mom and some family members still keep in touch with me, what do I do?
Q. My ex and i are both in the military, we met while serving at the same base and started to date. While we dated we moved in together and had ups and downs like any other relationship but we both knew we loved each other. Ive met her family and she ...
A. 22 January 2014: Hi, sorry it's been tough for you. It sounds to me as though she was hoping you two could find a way to communicate and cut through some of the problems you were having doing so by suggesting the book.
I think at this point if keeping in touch with... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps saying he'll propose any day now but never does
Q. My boyfriend said he wants to marry me about 3 months ago. I told him I felt the same way. Two months ago he said we should start looking at rings. So we did. We went engagement ring shopping several times, with the understanding that no purchases ...
A. 22 January 2014: You don't get to be a good liar without some practice. How old is he, anyway?
He's very creative about his lies.
This guy is BAD NEWS.
As you are a willing participant in the charade, then this can go on for a long long time. I don't see much of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom wants him all to herself
Q. My boyfriend is a 38 year old never married bachelor. His mother is a fairly recent widow (of a year and a half,) and his sister is going through a divorce so she is a very recent single mom. They both seem to expect him to not only fulfill the male...
A. 21 January 2014: You ask "How can I safeguard my relationship with him?"
The real question is, why isn't he moving forward with his life and setting boundaries for his mother?
You think he really wants to be married and have children? If he really and truly di... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps saying he'll propose any day now but never does
Q. My boyfriend said he wants to marry me about 3 months ago. I told him I felt the same way. Two months ago he said we should start looking at rings. So we did. We went engagement ring shopping several times, with the understanding that no purchases ...
A. 21 January 2014: I think the reason he's lying is this: he doesn't want to actually give you a ring and ask you to marry him. Why? I have no idea. Maybe he's a Mommy's boy, like another poster just submitted. Maybe he's married already. Maybe he has a phobia.
O... (read in full...)
Why would a guy check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her?
Q. I wanted to ask why a guy would check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her? I went on a date with a guy who was interested in me in the beginning he complimented me constantly and told me how much he liked the way I look, but ...
A. 21 January 2014: Maybe he has a memory the size of a pea, forgot he's gone on a date with you and looked at your profile again and then dimly remembered?
I would stop the texting relationship and let him go off into the mists of time.
His not asking you out agai... (read in full...)
Little contact from my boyfriend while he's on vacation. Should I be concerned?
Q. My boyfriend of a year has been on vacation for a month in another country ( visiting family). I went for ten days but now I've been home for 11 days and he has called me just once. I sent a two messages on FB and he did reply both times but very ...
A. 21 January 2014: Are you in contact daily when you are in the same place? I can see why you'd be concerned.
How did the trip go? Were you meeting his family for the first time? Has the relationship been going okay?
I would do my best not to get riled up right no... (read in full...)
He just can't orgasm through a hand or blow job, why?
Q. My boyfriend takes a very long time (or not at all) to have an orgasm through a hand job or a blow job. It's like he gets so close but just can't seem to tip over the edge. He has guided me, told me what he likes but it is as if he is desensitized ...
A. 21 January 2014: Something about this excerpt "he doesn't want it to be like this. He said it hasn't ever happened to him before but it was a number of years ago that he was having regular sex before me" makes it sound like he IS blaming this on you. We get lots of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a pee fetish but now comes up with excuses when I offer to indulge it!
Q. Hi everyone! So my bf and I have been together for almost two years were both in our early 20s. My boyfriend recently told me he has a pee fetish, he basically likes watching porn where girls pee in random places or in public. Recently I noticed ...
A. 21 January 2014: Does crying mean he can't handle a discussion after he's stopped crying? I know I have cried when I was upset but after I got over the initial sadness/anger/hurt then I was ready to discuss whatever was really bothering my partner.
And not to put ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a pee fetish but now comes up with excuses when I offer to indulge it!
Q. Hi everyone! So my bf and I have been together for almost two years were both in our early 20s. My boyfriend recently told me he has a pee fetish, he basically likes watching porn where girls pee in random places or in public. Recently I noticed ...
A. 21 January 2014: If you never tell him that you aren't sexually satisfied, then you are faking it. How long is this a viable option? And is it really fair to him that he isn't getting your honest feedback.
Is he some sort of gazelle that is easily scared and frig... (read in full...)
Her dating our friend's brother on the sly seems like a betrayal
Q. So, this is not necessarily about me. It is about my best friends Elen and Leila. Leila and I have been close for four years, and then we met Elen, and have all three been close for 3 years. I've even stayed with Leila and her family for a couple of ...
A. 21 January 2014: Why are you sticking around for even 30 seconds of gory detail? It's sooo high school. Except the guy is more or less a grown man. Which may account for why you stick around for the gory details?
"Elen, my good friend, this is seriously cree... (read in full...)
Epic failure, please help
Q. I'm 27, still single,never had a g/f, etc... I'm getting fed up lately, every girl I've ever liked is happy with someone else, I feel like I was robbed, feel betrayed, and I'm scared. Plus Dad is just waiting and scheming, slowly has been hinting at ...
A. 21 January 2014: Based on your followups, I think it's time to get some professional help with this. Talk to your doctor. If you don't have a doctor, it's time to get one. Best wishes.
... (read in full...)
I expressed my feelings about the relationship and he called me psycho!!!
Q. Hello all. I've been in a relationship with a man for the last 7 months. We have had plenty of ups and downs but currently we are in a down trend. I sensed he was pulling away about two weeks ago because he had a lot going on in his life. I offered ...
A. 21 January 2014: Hi OP, I read this question and the last one, which I did answer.
In this question, you admonished Ciar for assuming similarities and didn't actually respond to all the other aunts who responded to you.
In the previous question, none of the aunt... (read in full...)
No birthday gift from him! I'm feeling hurt!
Q. Hi, I recently had my birthday and I received nothing from my boyfriend and it really hurt my feelings. A while back he asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said that I really don't want him to spend his money on me. he said that he wou...
A. 20 January 2014: You really set him up for failure.
He asked, well in advance of your birthday, what you might like. You said "don't spend any money on me." He took that to mean, don't spend any money on you.
Then, just to be sure, he asked again what you might li... (read in full...)
The 'little black dress' he bought me is too skimpy for my tastes and comfort!
Q. My boyfriend bought me a "little black dress" for a christmas present. It redefines the word "little". It is a nice gift but it is very skimpy. It has spaghetti straps and is very,very short! He asked me to wear it for a new years party, and to a ...
A. 20 January 2014: Tell him you like the way he looks at you when you are in the dress but don't feel the mechanics of keeping it in place when you are out are manageable. You could always just wear it when you are home alone with him….
"Babe, the dress is really cute... (read in full...)
Why would a guy ask this question" do you think you are pretty enough for me?"
Q. Why would a guy ask this question" do you think you are pretty enough for me?" Please help me understand why the guy I am seeing might ask that? I'm really not sure it came out of no where he texted that to me and I answered as truthfully as I could ...
A. 20 January 2014: Maybe he thinks you think you aren't 'pretty enough for him'? Maybe he's trying to figure out how low your self-esteem is and how it will affect your relationship?
What did you reply?
"Yes, I'm definitely pretty enough for you, are you man enough f... (read in full...)
Any tips to look pretty?
Q. just looking for a bit of advice, I don't wear makeup on a daily basis, i.e just popping the shops ect, I like to give my skin a rest to avoid spots ect. if meeting friends during the day or popping along to the pub I will wear some makeup, a ...
A. 20 January 2014: I wear light day makeup too and I am really bad at doing the fancy dressy up type of makeup. For a big event, I will pay the money to have my hair professionally done and makeup done as well. It takes all this pressure off me to get the hair right ... (read in full...)
He said he loved me and I didn't reply. Now he isn't talking to me!
Q. hello guys!:).well,there's a foreign guy in my university he's so hot and good looking,and every girl wants to date him,but i didn't care actually,two weeks later ,i've seen his profile in facebook so i added him and he accepted,he send me a message ...
A. 20 January 2014: Hi manoul, he sounds to be rather immature and very dramatic, is he young? Telling you over voice mail that he loves you after never actually speaking to you in person is very presumptuous and the act of a very shy or insecure person.
I think I woul... (read in full...)
He's so rigid that he won't accommodate things I want to do
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years and I am having a few issues with the way he acts towards the things I like. Basically, we are very different and have totally different tastes. Mine are quite varied, whereas he likes...
A. 20 January 2014: Was he an only child with indulgent parents? Because he's acting like a spoiled brat.
I would not move in with him and would indeed question the viability of a relationship with a guy who is all take and no give. Especially one who belittles your... (read in full...)
I feel neglected in this "unofficial" LDR
Q. This unofficial relationship is driving me crazy! Here it goes, the guy and I live 4 1/2 hours away from each other. We divided soon, we want to get serious. I had sex with a man while we weren't really "talking" and he got upset. We promised after ...
A. 20 January 2014: I think it's probably time to acknowledge that this LDR isn't working and it's time to end the relationship. It should be pretty easy to do, just don't call him and as he never contacts you, the relationship is as good as over.
If you are havi... (read in full...)
Tired of my boyfriend's crap!
Q. Not sure where else to post this but hoping for some advice. My boyfriend, who is 34, and I have been living together for 3 years and I have asked him to clean up after himself in the bathroom many times. Specifically, he sits on the toilet in su...
A. 20 January 2014: Use his toothbrush to clean it up and don't tell him.
Hire a plumber to remove the toilet (for a short time of course) and leave a box of adult diapers in its place.
He is the one being nasty and unreasonable, obviously.
Don't shout any more, yo... (read in full...)
Self esteem in women:is it biological, is it cultural, is it our upbringing, ,... is it a jinx ?!
Q. DC community, please help me out in figuring this : why is it that lack of self esteem , at least in relationships, is such a pervasive FEMALE problem ? I mean, just look at the posts on DC and a huuuge quantity of them basically says ...
A. 17 January 2014: I found this interesting article when I was trying to find the one that discussed how girls suddenly lose self-confidence at around the 5th grad mark. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-success/201101/the-trouble-bright-girls
Key poin... (read in full...)
I hate feeling like a hypocrite and a loser! Any insight is appreciated!
Q. I'm 25, and my boyfriend is 25 too. We've been dating for a couple months now, so it's still a "new" relationship. everything's great, except from time to time, I feel insecure because he was really promiscuous in the past (ie. up until right before ...
A. 17 January 2014: There are some dissonant details in here which may be contributing to your confusion. You say "I was in for a bit of fun" and "even though I just wanted something casual he went out of his way to win me:" You use the word "promiscuous" a couple of ... (read in full...)
He's not physically violent but he is abusive, is there anything I can do or should I walk away?
Q. I have just joined this site, though I asked a question anonymously earlier before joining. After reading the reply I got I was wondering if anyone has any advice on abusive relationships? Its not a physically violent relationship but my husband has ...
A. 17 January 2014: The link for that article is http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
You'll have to copy and paste the entire link as the "?" interrupts the hyperlink.
Best wishes for a full recovery from an abusive ... (read in full...)
Self esteem in women:is it biological, is it cultural, is it our upbringing, ,... is it a jinx ?!
Q. DC community, please help me out in figuring this : why is it that lack of self esteem , at least in relationships, is such a pervasive FEMALE problem ? I mean, just look at the posts on DC and a huuuge quantity of them basically says ...
A. 17 January 2014: I was just talking to someone today about a golf club she was considering joining. The "gentlemen" and I use the term with an extreme eye roll and bit of vomit in my mouth, the "gentlemen" there refer to the golf members who happen to be women as ... (read in full...)
He's not physically violent but he is abusive, is there anything I can do or should I walk away?
Q. I have just joined this site, though I asked a question anonymously earlier before joining. After reading the reply I got I was wondering if anyone has any advice on abusive relationships? Its not a physically violent relationship but my husband has ...
A. 17 January 2014: I think you've come to the point of leaving him.
If that is the case then start to record him when he being a jealous, controlling, shit and when he is rubbing your nose in his flirting with other people. You know he's sleazy and creepy. So let him ... (read in full...)
Is it stupid to hope that maybe a couple of years down the line my ex and I might rekindle our relationship once we are both out of university and he has matured?
Q. Hi, I've just recently gone through a break up with my boyfriend of almost 2years. It was pretty much a mutual thing and we ended on good terms, neither of us really wanted to end it as such its just that we have been going long distance since we ...
A. 17 January 2014: I think it's only stupid if you are putting anything in your life on 'HOLD' based on the idea that you will get back together with him.
Is it possible? I guess it is.
Is it what is best for you? Well, maybe that will become clearer as you get some... (read in full...)
Self esteem in women:is it biological, is it cultural, is it our upbringing, ,... is it a jinx ?!
Q. DC community, please help me out in figuring this : why is it that lack of self esteem , at least in relationships, is such a pervasive FEMALE problem ? I mean, just look at the posts on DC and a huuuge quantity of them basically says ...
A. 16 January 2014: Cindy, I read this question and wanted to respond and just didn't have time today.
I think there is something that happens when girls hit puberty. There are so many bright girls who when they hit puberty and then face middle school and high scho... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a pee fetish but now comes up with excuses when I offer to indulge it!
Q. Hi everyone! So my bf and I have been together for almost two years were both in our early 20s. My boyfriend recently told me he has a pee fetish, he basically likes watching porn where girls pee in random places or in public. Recently I noticed ...
A. 16 January 2014: I expect the pee fetish has to do with being 'naughty' and feeling like he's getting away with something. Having you be a willing partner probably took a lot of that taboo feeling away and made it uninteresting in real life.
The porn use and heav... (read in full...)
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