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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 July 2014: I agree with Euphoric29, having read parts of this thread and others you have started.
Best wishes to you.... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 July 2014: Did you spend any of the past few months actually practicing flirting or talking to women at all?
I provided you two links which would lead you to the manuals you said you wished existed. Did you read any of them?
Good luck, I think you'll b... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 13 March 2014: I was right. He is a creep.
Get away from him now, good luck and be safe.... (read in full...)
Is it really a platonic friendship when the other person wants more?
Q. Hi maybe somebody can help me I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He's a very great guy and good looking. The thing that has been bothering me is he has a few female friends who are really into him. I hate to sound selfish, ...
A. 9 March 2014: Just to add: you wrote "they still continue with their behavior."
Actually HE still continues encouraging their behavior.
Are they your friends?
Is this an online thing?
More info needed, thanks!... (read in full...)
Is it really a platonic friendship when the other person wants more?
Q. Hi maybe somebody can help me I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He's a very great guy and good looking. The thing that has been bothering me is he has a few female friends who are really into him. I hate to sound selfish, ...
A. 9 March 2014: If he's 'getting to know' these women knowing they want him, then he's kind of an asshole. Ok. he's not kind of an asshole, he IS an asshole. Do they do this when you are with him or this some sort of online problem?
What would I do?
I'd break up... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends visit massage parlors for happy endings! Should I worry he is doing the same?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend is not asking for any physical pleasure from me lately and i found out from his friends that they are paying a visit to massage parlors for a quick and fun release from time to time in other words happy endings. I read many ...
A. 9 March 2014: If you trust your gut feeling then it's time to break up. Asking "why" is a waste of time.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends visit massage parlors for happy endings! Should I worry he is doing the same?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend is not asking for any physical pleasure from me lately and i found out from his friends that they are paying a visit to massage parlors for a quick and fun release from time to time in other words happy endings. I read many ...
A. 9 March 2014: Hi, you found out from his friends? How odd, they told you about this?
Thank them, break up with him and move on! There's no point in spending time trying to figure out why people do this. It's a waste of time.
If you know for certain that he is no... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear that I don't want more than friendship from this guy?
Q. Okay, so I have a slight issue with understanding what this boy's intentions and motives are. I met this boy when I first arrived at university in September and he's lovely, bless him. From September until January we only ever said hello to ea...
A. 9 March 2014: "Shane, I'm not interested in dating you. I just want to make that really clear. The 'babe' stuff concerns me a bit. I don't get flirty with my male friends, I don't want there to be any confusion here. It's making me uncomfortable and I know that ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear that I don't want more than friendship from this guy?
Q. Okay, so I have a slight issue with understanding what this boy's intentions and motives are. I met this boy when I first arrived at university in September and he's lovely, bless him. From September until January we only ever said hello to ea...
A. 9 March 2014: "Hey there, it's like so awkward to have to say this but the whole 'babe' and flirty texts you are sending are just kind of embarrassing me. I don't feel comfortable being flirty with a guy I see as a friend. Would you mind please not doing that any ... (read in full...)
Am I just extending my heartbreak?
Q. Me and my girlfreind who I loved very much broke up last week. Safe to say I am devastated. She told me her feelings just were not the same anymore. She felt she loved me but only as a freind and she was not in love with me. I personally think...
A. 9 March 2014: It didn't come out of nowhere for her, she has been feeling detached from you for a while. If she says she is not in love with you, your hanging on and hoping she'll suddenly fall in love isn't going to produce the desired result.
I think you are ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to wish my ex-crush a happy birthday?
Q. I had (and am still trying to get over) a serious crush on guy for a while and end of last year decided to tell him. On facebook, as we hardly ever see each other. He was flattered but only liked me as a friend. He asked me about my plans for this ...
A. 9 March 2014: You can't maintain the friendship you had. The crush has altered it forever. You tried and he said 'no.' That was brave of you and now you won't have the regret of wondering if you should have told him or not. You gave it a shot, it didn't work, ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this new guy everything my ex did to me?
Q. Hello Dear Cupid, I have been talking to a guy online and we talked about getting together since he lives fairly close by. Initially, I didn't want to go back online because I got hurt in my last relationship. My sister thought it might be a good ...
A. 9 March 2014: "With this guy I can be myself and we talk about everything." Except that you think your self isn't good-looking enough for him and you don't feel like you can tell him everything.
OP with all due respect, your self-esteem is in the toilet.
You d... (read in full...)
As her boss should I let go and have sex with this woman who asked me?
Q. I am a divorced guy who manages about a dozen women where I work. This one woman asked me to have sex with her. We are both unattached and about the same ages. I said being her boss it put's me in a situation where it could become a lawsuit. She ...
A. 9 March 2014: I have a few more questions.
If you manage "about a dozen women where I work" then your company probably has more than 15 employees.
Have you take the time to read about sexual harassment laws?
Do you have a pension plan based on years of serv... (read in full...)
He dropped the bombshell that he didn't know when and IF he wanted kids at all!
Q. Hi. I'm in a tricky situation and I don't know weather to go with my heart or my head. I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years , we also live together which makes things harder. My boyfriend has known since day 1 that I would like ...
A. 8 March 2014: I would thank him for being honest (albeit late), decide how long you can wait for the answer you want (which "I want kids, yes I do!") from a guy who has essentially told you he's not really into being a father, and go from there.
I would also star... (read in full...)
As her boss should I let go and have sex with this woman who asked me?
Q. I am a divorced guy who manages about a dozen women where I work. This one woman asked me to have sex with her. We are both unattached and about the same ages. I said being her boss it put's me in a situation where it could become a lawsuit. She ...
A. 8 March 2014: So her come on line was "I want to screw you because you are kind and respectful." She sounds totally hot for you. NOT.
And they say women are the hormonally driven gender. Dude, you are thinking with the little head now.
My guess is that the wome... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 7 March 2014: With all due respect to your mom, I would throw this particular fish back into the ocean.
We have a texting habit that overtakes focusing on the woman he is supposed to want to have as his girlfriend.
We have a guy who has girls sending nude pic... (read in full...)
Have I lost Mr Right???
Q. Have I lost Mr Right?? Years ago I fell out with him and his family As he never told them the truth. Recently we have been meeting up and having intercourse and floor play. It's just as and when needed. He gets married next year. ...
A. 6 March 2014: Have you lost Mr. Right?
No.
What do you do?
Stop seeing him.
I do have a followup question: what is floor play?... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 6 March 2014: OP, I could spend hours and hours reading up on how to ski.
Some friends are so scared of skiing that they can't even contemplate going skiing, despite never having tried.
Other friends no longer downhill ski because they are worried that... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my teacher about my anxiety issues?
Q. I didn't really know where to go with this question, but hoped somebody on here may be able to offer some advice:) Basically, I have anxiety disorder and suffer from frequent panic attacks, it all started last year but eventually I managed to cal...
A. 6 March 2014: P.S. I'm fairly certain that your parents would rather you tell them your situation rather than have you hide the truth. It's that weird thing parents do. They care about their children's health and well-being. :)... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 6 March 2014: OP, you have the love life you expect. Once you change your approach and expectations maybe things could be different. But as for now, as long as you read the negative blog things and judge women based on some sort of weird racial profiling, then ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend tells me my vagina is loose and we have other relationship problems. What should I do?
Q. Hi all. I'm sorry I have question. Me and my boyfriend is on long distance relationship now. He was staying in same country for last 3 months and now he's in his country for some visa and application purposes to come back here. Actually I feel a l...
A. 6 March 2014: Naz, end the relationship. Just end it. Who care if he doesn't 'agree' to it? It's not his prerogative to trap you into an unwanted relationship.
End the relationship.
"Ali (or Ahmed or John or Brandon or Jon or whatever his name is) sorry that thi... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 6 March 2014: OP, no one can tell you not to date someone. It's up to you. But if you have to lie and not tell your best friends about a relationship then there's something wrong.
You are an adult, he is as well. You are free to do whatever you like. If you are ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my teacher about my anxiety issues?
Q. I didn't really know where to go with this question, but hoped somebody on here may be able to offer some advice:) Basically, I have anxiety disorder and suffer from frequent panic attacks, it all started last year but eventually I managed to cal...
A. 6 March 2014: The best thing is to tell your parents.
I know it's probably not what you want to do.
But if it's this much of a concern and problem for you, you will need a bit of extra help….
Be brave!
Ask your parents for help!
:)... (read in full...)
Should I stop hiring sex workers?
Q. I'm 27 and have never been on a date. I attribute the utter lack of romance in my life to the fact that I was born with a learning disability that has somewhat impeded my social skills. In order to compensate for the absence of such intimacy in my ...
A. 6 March 2014: What is your social or learning disability?... (read in full...)
Should I stop hiring sex workers?
Q. I'm 27 and have never been on a date. I attribute the utter lack of romance in my life to the fact that I was born with a learning disability that has somewhat impeded my social skills. In order to compensate for the absence of such intimacy in my ...
A. 6 March 2014: What do you want?
A relationship? Or sexual release with a partner?... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 4 March 2014: So few options open up when you are in your room all alone reading blogs that support the 'I can't do this' personal credo.
More options open when you actually go outside and start talking to people.
... (read in full...)
If a young female sleeps around, does it change the views men have of them?
Q. Okay! I'd like some opinions on this please. I am a college student and I have a lot of female friends who are my age (17-18) who simply enjoy to have NSA sex, one night stands, and FWB's. ...
A. 27 February 2014: And in the interests of full disclosure, I sadly report that I was one of the group who laughed and used the shameful nickname and I regret that to this day. I did stop once I understood just how mean it really was.... (read in full...)
If a young female sleeps around, does it change the views men have of them?
Q. Okay! I'd like some opinions on this please. I am a college student and I have a lot of female friends who are my age (17-18) who simply enjoy to have NSA sex, one night stands, and FWB's. ...
A. 27 February 2014: "I just wanted to know if it changes peoples views of them." You then go on to give two examples which obviously answer your own question. :)
When I was about 13 or 14, there was a new girl in my school who had a troubled home life. I believe her ... (read in full...)
His home smells. Am I being petty. How can I solve this problem ?
Q. I am in an LDR and every other weekend I see my bf. I love him very much but I hate his house. I know it sounds very shallow but it is a very very old house. The bathroom has mould growing in it and green bathtub...toilet etc. The whole house ...
A. 27 February 2014: I second FA's advice to tell him you cannot use his bathroom until it is clean. I dated a guy who didn't have air conditioning in his house. That was fine in the winter but in the 90 and 100 degree days? Not so much. I told him I couldn't tolerate ... (read in full...)
Do I need the hurt again? He's trying to get back with me. I still care for him. But I keep on rejecting him
Q. It's so easy to say dont answer his calls or respond to his texts. I really love him and I want it to work but i know that he has to change. Someone said that he needs sex and that is why he is trying to talk to me again but i am pretty sure he w...
A. 27 February 2014: he said that he did not want a relationship
He knows that he does not want me
I am afraid that he will hurt me again
he is very insecure and jealous
he blames me for everything
we broke up cause he said that he does not trust me
he was th... (read in full...)
If a young female sleeps around, does it change the views men have of them?
Q. Okay! I'd like some opinions on this please. I am a college student and I have a lot of female friends who are my age (17-18) who simply enjoy to have NSA sex, one night stands, and FWB's. ...
A. 27 February 2014: I forgot to add to the list of people: guys who can't get laid like they feel they deserve. :)... (read in full...)
I have never had anyone really love me, I feel rejected and alone!
Q. I am a gay female, I am not "super frilly or girly" but I am feminine and am attracted to the same in women. Im not the stereotypical gay female, I'm not into the gay scene due to not so good experiences in the past with nasty women. I...
A. 27 February 2014: So my gay friends are active in sports clubs, like softball and tennis, which does not sound like the bar scene at all. They are active also in horseback riding, hiking, climbing, cooking, dining out, cruises, raising dogs, rescuing animals, charity ... (read in full...)
She's upset because I didn't change my FB status, am I in the wrong here?
Q. Thanks for reading - not sure who to ask so going to ask you lovely people :) I have been on a few dates with a girl - i am 26 and she is 24 and she is very pretty and when we had our first date, we hit it off. She gave me butterflies and ...
A. 27 February 2014: Run, Forest, run! As fast as you can.
She has issues and you are not prepared to deal with them at all.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I have never had anyone really love me, I feel rejected and alone!
Q. I am a gay female, I am not "super frilly or girly" but I am feminine and am attracted to the same in women. Im not the stereotypical gay female, I'm not into the gay scene due to not so good experiences in the past with nasty women. I...
A. 27 February 2014: You are in your 40s, when are you going to start living your life with friends who support you?
It's way past time to 'come out'--if you lose a super-traditional friend in the process, well, that's her loss, she wasn't a true friend.
If you feel... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any idea how I can feel less fragile in the mornings?
Q. Does anyone have any idea how I can feel less fragile in the mornings? It sounds daft at my age - mid forties - but having brought up a child alone and got up early each morning to sort her out and go to work, I am only now realising that I am NOT ...
A. 27 February 2014: Definitely see your doctor. Reading your post made me wonder if you have Seasonal Affective Disorder http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seasonal_affective_disorder which would need to be properly diagnosed…
But why not eat more fish in the meantime? ;) ... (read in full...)
Why is the ex back in touch? Is he just playing games or is he for real?
Q. Dear Cupid... Its me again.... its been over a month now and I have not talked to my ex, he started calling me back about a week ago and he is still calling and sending me text messages.I have not responded to him at all. I mean he said that he did ...
A. 27 February 2014: You deserve better and you know it, that's why you posted here, to keep yourself on track.
He's a jerk and frankly, abusive. Leave him on the dunghill of history and don't look back. Unless the looking back is in the context of a counselor's offi... (read in full...)
If a young female sleeps around, does it change the views men have of them?
Q. Okay! I'd like some opinions on this please. I am a college student and I have a lot of female friends who are my age (17-18) who simply enjoy to have NSA sex, one night stands, and FWB's. ...
A. 27 February 2014: Aren't young men busy having sex too? It seems so common to judge women for being sexual. Previous posts by one of the male aunts commenting here seems to indicate that he's spent his life encouraging women to talk their clothes off and have sex ... (read in full...)
Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while?
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 26 February 2014: If the women you are dating actively turn you down for sex ALL the time after you've dated for a while, then you are doing something wrong.
One little thing to point in your post. You used this phrase: "Women lose interest in sex but I still want... (read in full...)
He tells me he likes me, then stops talking to me?!
Q. We've known eachother for a few months now, met up a couple of times, and as the weeks went by I started to like him. We would talk to each other almost everyday, and feelings got stronger on my part. Over a week ago, we were both flirting like ...
A. 26 February 2014: I would relax, stop stressing about this and just wait and see. You have to have some patience here. You've made it so plain how you feel that there's no mystery or chase for him. You've chatted and met up so he knows you a little.
Back off for ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 26 February 2014: If you think a manual will help, here you go:
http://bit.ly/1hy5SaU
http://bit.ly/N2s5Vg
It will involve effort and change on your part, reading all the manuals and how-to guides won't change anything unless you implement them.... (read in full...)
How can I get the conversation away from these topics with these people??
Q. This may seem like a weird question but I need to ask. I have a couple of friends, (not close "see all the time friends") that I see ever few 4-10 months or so, usually for coffee/lunch. After the initial "hi how are you, whats up", etc etc the...
A. 26 February 2014: And if despite your suggestion that you stick to positive happy subjects, they go into the deep and meaningful stuff, you have my permission to suddenly find a reason to leave.
"Oh Sara, so sorry, I would love to stay and talk about the good thin... (read in full...)
How can I get the conversation away from these topics with these people??
Q. This may seem like a weird question but I need to ask. I have a couple of friends, (not close "see all the time friends") that I see ever few 4-10 months or so, usually for coffee/lunch. After the initial "hi how are you, whats up", etc etc the...
A. 25 February 2014: If you feel distressed and upset by meeting up with these women, then you have my permission to stop having dinners or lunches and deep and or meaningful conversations with them.
If you want light and bright and easy relationships with friends then... (read in full...)
I would love for us to make a step forward in living together but he is not prepared to talk about any future plans!
Q. Hi , would love an answer to a complexed dilemma . My boyfriend lives in London . I live in Scotland , we have been seeing each other for three years . I would love to see a step forward towards us living together . I was told by my boyfrien...
A. 25 February 2014: Having spent a little time in both places, I'd choose London over Scotland…. I'm sure that's not helpful to you but maybe that may explain why he's not leaping like a duck on a June bug on the chance to move to Scotland?... (read in full...)
He's so special to me, but I wonder if I'm just one more of the countless girls for him
Q. I'm having a hard time coming to terms with my boyfriend's past. In the beginning, I knew he had been somewhat promiscuous but I didn't know to what extent. I have never been promiscuous myself, although I have had no strings attached sex, only a ...
A. 25 February 2014: Are you sure you are ready for an intimate sexual relationship with him or anyone?
my body just didn't respond
I didn't orgasm
it was just going through the motions
I kinda feel insecure
inadequate
like he's so cool and I'm such a loser
in... (read in full...)
Tell me what I already know but don't wanna believe
Q. Hello! Heres the situation; I've been dating a guy for about a month, 'talking' for about two. In those two months we have been Facebook friends on and off, I have deleted him 3 times now, the first time was because a lady was putting comment ...
A. 25 February 2014: Sounds like a wise decision. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Tell me what I already know but don't wanna believe
Q. Hello! Heres the situation; I've been dating a guy for about a month, 'talking' for about two. In those two months we have been Facebook friends on and off, I have deleted him 3 times now, the first time was because a lady was putting comment ...
A. 25 February 2014: Ditch him, block him and stop worrying. Get on with your fabulous new life and spend more time IRL and less on FB.
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He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 25 February 2014: Hi OP, any followup? Did you speak to him or decide to cut him off for misrepresenting himself?... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 25 February 2014: You don't know how because you never tried. Why have you never tried?... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 21 February 2014: Your glass is two-thirds full, yet you persist in believing it is empty. Ah well. When you stop extrapolating the negative from life, you may wake up to find that there is lots to be positive about.
If you want to pay for sex, pay for sex, if that... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 20 February 2014: OP, you've had at least 8 aunts here tell you that the problem is your negativity, and you say "it may have touch some of the truth I never considered" but then you go on to completely discount the advice given.
Your filter is totally out of whac... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 18 February 2014: Just tell him to stop calling you. Say you accept his apology but that you do not date men twice your age. That he will be forgiven if he doesn't lie about his age to anyone else and that he stops trying to make contact with you. If he persists you ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 17 February 2014: I didn't say you were antisocial. I suggested that you have crippling anxiety about talking to women.
You have nothing to lose by talking to your doctor about it. Why wouldn't you try?... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 15 February 2014: Wouldn't a better investment of your time and money be to find treatment for your social anxiety? There are ways to help people who suffer from this.
http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder
http:... (read in full...)
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