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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm not over him. How do I get on with my life?
Q. I was dating a guy and I got completely involved in him. We started dating in 2011. It was a long distance relationship. In the beginning I thought it would not work but I have no idea how hard I fall for him as the time passed by. We used to talk ...
A. 5 June 2015: Were you 14 when you started talking to him online? I ask because you say you started dating in 2011 and your age listed now is 18-21. So back then you ere 14-17.
You failed to tell your family you were dating this guy for 2 years. So effe... (read in full...)
Am I too sensitive and am I overeacting to my Boyfriend's comments about other women?
Q. Tell me if I'm over reacting... My boyfriend and I are in our 40's and have been dating for almost 2 years. He has a habit of putting women down. It could be a stranger that walks by in public "wow is she fat" or even a friend of ours such as ...
A. 5 June 2015: Sounds like today or tonight would be a great day to break up with the man who can't stop commenting on how ugly your female friends are, yet is able to stay mum as to whether he loves you or not.
Woman, seriously, wtf are you sticking around for?... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on a stripper!
Q. Went to a male strip club with a friend and had a blast! We weren't there for anything but dancing and the shows. I was dancing with my friend when I turned around and saw two very sweet blue eyes. He was a new dancer who seemed kinda serious and ...
A. 5 June 2015: It sounds like he's excellent at his profession! I would smile and remember the nice time at the club and then I would snap out of it and go back to reality.
If this was a man writing in I'd give the same advice.
If you are an heiress or have a l... (read in full...)
Do men see ''love'' and ''future'' differently?
Q. Do men have different opinion of “love” and “future”? I have been seeing a guy for almost three years. He is constantly telling me he loves me, but lately if feel there is something not right, that I might not be more than a friend with benefits...
A. 3 June 2015: And again, at his age of 50s or 60s? He knows he doesn't have much time and what you see now is what you get. You've been together for 3 years, this is the relationship you are going to have.
I have recommended this book by Judith Sills, PhD, it's... (read in full...)
Do men see ''love'' and ''future'' differently?
Q. Do men have different opinion of “love” and “future”? I have been seeing a guy for almost three years. He is constantly telling me he loves me, but lately if feel there is something not right, that I might not be more than a friend with benefits...
A. 3 June 2015: You are in your 50s, which is my decade too!
You are at the age where you are free to focus on yourself! It's a good thing. You get that sense of being able to be completely honest and forthright about your needs for the future.
I'm assuming... (read in full...)
Should I stay or leave because of the behaviour of my fiancé?
Q. I've been with my fiancé for 4 years. He is hardworking, doesn't drink or smoke and has no interest in sports. He tells me he loves me every day. He is thoughtful in other ways too. What I can't get past is his staring at women every time we g...
A. 3 June 2015: How did you wind up in a 4 year relationship with a voyeur type man?
You're in your early 30s! You have more than half your life to enjoy, why would you spend it wondering WTF your freaky stalker-type boyfriend is going to get up to today.
You s... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting or has the jealousy bug bitten me?
Q. I began attending a beginners class in language with my girlfriend as she thought it would be fun if I joined. In the class there is a guy who talks to her a lot even while the teacher is giving her lecture. Now at first this did not bother me be...
A. 3 June 2015: Easy credits for what? A degree? What kind of class is this?
This all sounds a bit odd, but good luck to you.... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting or has the jealousy bug bitten me?
Q. I began attending a beginners class in language with my girlfriend as she thought it would be fun if I joined. In the class there is a guy who talks to her a lot even while the teacher is giving her lecture. Now at first this did not bother me be...
A. 2 June 2015: Why are they in a beginner's class if they are not beginners in the language? *confused* Ok, I'll try to help you convey your concerns to her in a way that can be constructive or instructive...
"Hey, babe, I have something I need to talk to you abou... (read in full...)
What are winning strategies to use when asking a girl for a date?
Q. Hello all. This is quite a simple one really. I guess essentially what I'm asking for your advice on is how to ask a girl out! At the gym I go to, I regularly see this girl who I am very attracted too. My confidence isn't particularly go...
A. 2 June 2015: Too much thinking. Not enough simply doing.
Just talk to her. Don't try to think about what she's thinking about what you might be thinking about. (My brain hurts just thinking about you worrying about what she's thinking about you simply talk... (read in full...)
I'm living with Hydrocephalus and my parents aren't allowing me to make my own decisions!
Q. Hello, I am a student who is looking to transfer from community college to WSU Vancouver next year but my parents won't let me move. The reason why is because I have a hydrocephalus VP shunt and they believe the school is too far from home when it ...
A. 1 June 2015: Have you actually been offered a spot in the WSU Vancouver class next year?
I was turned down by many universities when I applied. I didn't feel humiliated.... Could it be that you are ascribing a natural feeling of disappointment of not gett... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not apologize for standing me up!
Q. After looking everywhere on the Internet for an answer, I feel like I should ask my very own question out there. Boyfriend of 8 months is usually wonderful, I know that he does his very best for me and our relationship. He's very committed and ve...
A. 1 June 2015: You're in your 30s, you've been dating this flaky guy for only 8 months and you have been fighting enough to say that you do "x" when you fight ["I feel like he's not going to contact me unless I reach out to him (which I always do when we fight), ... (read in full...)
Are men turned off by bigger women?
Q. I've always been a bigger woman and I've always wondered if it was a turn off to men. I'm overweight, nothing too drastic. I have bigger hips and thighs than the average normal weight person. This is the result from years of eating prob...
A. 1 June 2015: Flip the question. Assume you were a guy who was always bigger and wanted to date. What do you think people you know would say? What do you think people you don't know would say?
So, now that we've thought about it from someone else's view, what... (read in full...)
Can you think of examples where a woman initiated a relationship? I need some examples to demolish my long held view that this never happens.
Q. Because it seems, to me, that all boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are still initiated by the guy, where the man approaches the woman first, talks to her first and asked her out first, initiated everything or almost everything in the ...
A. 31 May 2015: I asked my now-husband out for our first date.
Your belief is false. Time to change your attitude, beliefs and approach things in a healthier way.
... (read in full...)
Why are women turned off by inexperienced men?
Q. Why does inexperience turn women off ? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the vast majority of girls that are non-virgins and have had their share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, and sadly ...
A. 30 May 2015: The only way to learn to ride a bicycle is to get on a bicycle and try to ride it. You can't learn how to ride a bicycle by reading quotes from reddit on the internet, or sitting in front of your laptop inside all day long.
The only way to get expe... (read in full...)
It makes me sick that I keep visiting prostitutes but I can't stop. Please help!
Q. i:am lonely an can"t stop picking up prostitues. it makes me sick and I don't no what to do.please,please help me...
A. 28 May 2015: I found a site for you; it sounds similar to AA for people who are dealing with an addiction to alcohol.
http://saa-recovery.org
I see they have meetings all over the country; you can find a meeting near you here: http://s... (read in full...)
He lied about having a baby and a wife, I can't trust him anymore but I'm still with him!
Q. I lived with my bf for a year.. He's from Iraq and I am from South America but we both live in United States. I discovered some pics on Facebook about him and a baby which I asked and he said it is his nephew..after that like 3 months after a woman ...
A. 28 May 2015: Do you have any friends or family near you? You should not be living with this man any longer. He's a liar and for me, his big betrayal is how he's treating his CHILD.
Move out, go live with friends or family, get away from him. This guy is a clas... (read in full...)
Is my BF jealous of this other guy who is also a dance instructor?
Q. MY BF is a dance instructor. I used to dance in his class as a student. Now this other dance teacher took over his class who is male. My BF puts this guy down at every turn in front of me. Not sure why. Says the guy thinks he's all that but he ...
A. 28 May 2015: Funny that you mention that you find women catty. Some men can get into territorial mode, like dogs, when they feel their female is at risk of being taken by another handsome dog. Like Honeypie points out, "pissing on his territory" is indeed lame, ... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: You wrote on another thread: "When we met she spoke about things to me very easily were i thought she was very easy and well experienced in sex. When i had sex with her and continued to, i realized right away she was nothing like that. In fact she ... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: I'm copy/pasting a great answer on one of the threads I mention, from a female anon circa 2011:
"A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011):
I'm going to add my 2 cents here, and it's long. I've been doing a little internet searchin... (read in full...)
Help! I want him to be my boyfriend, but I don't know how to guide him in my direction.
Q. Its this boy I like at my aunties church. He is so freak in cute, we use to be friends and talk all the time, but sense we haven't seen each other in a while its hard. Because we have both grown up and he has gotten cuter and now its hard to even ...
A. 27 May 2015: Smile at him, say "hi, you look good, how are things with you?" and keep doing that when you see him.
If he doesn't respond well or ignores you, well, then you'll be like most of the humans on the planet. Almost everyone gets a crush on some... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: Retroactive jealousy often appears years into a relationship. We've seen it before and you are not the first here with this issue. Reading your posts and your followups, it's apparent that is what you are dealing with. The uncontrollable thoughts, ... (read in full...)
I didn't like him, now I do, how do I tell him?
Q. I like this guy who's friend told me he liked me a few months ago I didn't like him at the time I just thought he was cute but now that I'm starting to pay a little bit more attention to him I actually like him how do I tell him?...
A. 27 May 2015: Have you tried smiling and saying hi when you see him?... (read in full...)
Do I ditch this good time friend?
Q. I have this friend, she reappeared out of nowhere, after I lived abroad for 4 years. She has lots and lots of problems, her girlfriend had gone travelling and she had an uncle pass away. It was strange she kept reaching out to me, it made me feel ...
A. 27 May 2015: If you want a professional photo, hire a professional. Your friend obviously is not in that category.
You know her by now, if you don't want to pay the tab for hanging out with her, either leave early or don't hang out.
How exactly is she hell-ben... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: One of my friends has never had an orgasm. She is in her 40s, has a university degree, has 2 children and a marriage that seems to be working. If I were you, OP, I'd be thankful to have a good sex life with your wife and stop trying to paint her as ... (read in full...)
How to tell guy I'm seeing that he has bad body odor and a messy room?
Q. I've been seeing this guy I really like for about a month now. I dropped the other people I dated just to focus on our relationship (that's how much I like him). So far, so good. He's nice, cute and has an amazing personality. Here's the catch: I ...
A. 19 May 2015: "Whew, babe, have you been working out again? You have that gym sweat aroma thing going on there. Go take a shower ... and use a clean towel, mkay? I'm so ready to hang out with you but the odor thing needs to be dealt with ASAP, ha!"
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"Babe... (read in full...)
Why has my guy stopped saying I love you and I miss you?
Q. My guy avoids saying "I love you" and " I miss you" anymore.he used to and up to recently.now if I text either to him he puts "thanks or so kind".I asked him today why he won't say it anymore and he texted back " love love and kisses xx " we've been ...
A. 18 May 2015: I hate to have to ask, but are you spending time together in real life or are you dating via text and the phone and the internet?... (read in full...)
Why is the UK obsessed with drinking?
Q. Having lived here in London for my whole life, I went through the usual British routine of going to the pub and getting wasted every weekend right through my teens and twenties, but since I turned 30 I've found no enjoyment in getting drunk anymore ...
A. 18 May 2015: So all British people of certain age (from 18-29?) go to the pub and get wasted every weekend?
That's not what I saw when I lived there a while ago. I did see a few people get super drunk and get incoherent and wasted but I certainly did not see ... (read in full...)
We argue every single day! Is this healthy?
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with my partner for over 2 years,he loves me to death and I can see it in his eyes,the way he looks at me and cares for me!but I have one issue we argue a lot like every single day and most of the times he apologis...
A. 18 May 2015: Arguing every single day isn't very good for your health or your relationship. If you both want to work on things, you will both need to agree to 'fight fair.' There are many websites and books on managing conflict in a relationship.
Here are a few ... (read in full...)
Separated from Husband and he won't talk to me
Q. Hello, never done this before so please excuse my inexperience. I've been with my husband total 17 yrs. been married for 6 yrs. this May 2015. We never had fights just disagreements here and there. He also treated with love, kindness, respect ...
A. 18 May 2015: You need to get a great divorce lawyer, like, NOW. He asked you to move out of "his" place? If you're his wife of 17 years, it's also YOUR place. Your move out could be misconstrued by a judge.
Get to a great divorce lawyer TODAY. Bring all your... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 15 May 2015: You need professional help. If you want things to change, you will have to take positive action. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why is it worse for a man to be bitter and resentful than it is for a woman?
Q. If a man is bitter, resentful, is filled with feelings of bitterness, resentment, no woman will want him, but a man is generally more forgiving if a woman is feeling bitter, resentful, why is this? Why are guys expected to always, or almos...
A. 14 May 2015: Are you even bothering to read the advice you ask for? If you want to wallow in anger and bitterness, go for it. If you want to change your life, your attitude will need adjusting.
Decide what will serve you best.
Sorry you are stuck. You are the ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways?
Q. Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways??He is still calling on occasion which after the phone calls I only feel worse and now he wants to get together for sex. I admit I was weak and suggested it and we did where I spent the night. ...
A. 7 May 2015: P.S. Donate the curtains you are making to a charity. Or throw them out.
And just stop communicating with him. You can do it. You can.... (read in full...)
Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways?
Q. Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways??He is still calling on occasion which after the phone calls I only feel worse and now he wants to get together for sex. I admit I was weak and suggested it and we did where I spent the night. ...
A. 7 May 2015: Who cares why he thinks the way he thinks? He an EX! Block him on the phone and don't respond to him. You sound like you are very easily manipulated by him and it would be healthier for you to just go no contact.
Hang up the phone. Block him. You ... (read in full...)
Mom has an athletic body but I don't. Does this make me a loser?
Q. My mom has an athletic body and I don't. Does that make me a looser? Im a 14 year old skinny person with a fat belly and my mom in contrast has an athletic body. I feel embarrassed when I'm with her especially at the beach in swimsuits. She ...
A. 7 May 2015: Zach, you are not a loser. You're a guy who is still growing.
I think you should talk to your mom about how you feel about your body. I think she may not know and it could help her help you work on this in a healthy way.... (read in full...)
Why are (many) women disgusted by sexual interest from an older man?
Q. At work, I have been told by young girls that some of the older "gentlemen" touch them and make passes at them (ignoring the illegal aspect, some reason why they don't officially complain), and these girls have complained to me about it, also saying ...
A. 7 May 2015: Male anon, are you the OP of this question? Or just chiming in on what you see as a fairness issue?
You have no idea how many women get unwanted advances from the 'wrong men.' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A
The older gentleman who is m... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for a past hookup, but he's a player and I don't want to get hurt!
Q. Please help i am really confused! Last year during the summer season I had a bit of a thing with a guy I work with it was just sex and i knew that there was nothing more in it and i stopped it in the end as i felt i was beginning to have feelings ...
A. 5 May 2015: What should you do? You know that it's going to end in heartbreak for you. Just stop the 'talking to him.' Whatever that means. Does that mean he's been flirting and keeping you on the hook or something?
Maybe this is just something you have to lear... (read in full...)
Every man I've ever been involved with has sought out porn featuring women who look different than me!
Q. Why does every man I'm with seem to prefer the typical porn star look to me . Without fail every man I've ever been involved with has sought out potn Witb womrn who are compeltely different to me , usually young and blonde and thin I'm pretty s...
A. 5 May 2015: I know that you are comparing yourself to the porn stars. It's what women do. The thing is that men as a rule don't compare themselves to the male porn stars. They are not taking it personally, they have no personal connection to the porn stars.
H... (read in full...)
How can I convince my mother, to get her to accept and understand that we love each other?
Q. I am 30 years old woman. My boyfriend is 46 years old. We both really love each other. But my family is not accepting this relationship. I always have a fight with my mom. I cant anymore tolerate. She think that he loves me because I am young a...
A. 1 May 2015: Get married, live happily ever after and don't look back.
My guess is that your mother is your boyfriend's age and there is a cultural component here that you didn't explain.
Does he have children? Has he been married before?
If your mother bring... (read in full...)
Why is it always down to me to do this? How can the situation be changed?
Q. I have been with my partner for four years, I work full time whilst he is studying in university. The thing is I sometimes feel like our relationship is boring because of him. We don’t live together and I go to his every weekend and it’s always the ...
A. 1 May 2015: You want to do more. So do more on a weekend! You live in the middle of nowhere, you say, but you can walk the dog or hike with a picnic.
Obviously this continues the routine that if you don't plan it, it doesn't happen.
What I think you may be c... (read in full...)
Met him in a water polo. Based on his action, do you think he like me?
Q. i met a guy in my waterpolo class in the fall that I unintentionally fell for. Over the winter break, I added him on fb and messaged him about the class once, to which he replied immediately. We didn't have class together in the winter, so I didn't...
A. 1 May 2015: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-my-crush-being-polite-or-does-he.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-he-interested-or-just-being-nice.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-invite-my-crush-and-his-friend.html
http://ww... (read in full...)
Mom has an athletic body but I don't. Does this make me a loser?
Q. My mom has an athletic body and I don't. Does that make me a looser? Im a 14 year old skinny person with a fat belly and my mom in contrast has an athletic body. I feel embarrassed when I'm with her especially at the beach in swimsuits. She ...
A. 30 April 2015: Are you a boy or a girl? Just wondering what your point of view might be here.
You say you are a skinny person with a fat belly.
Did you know that a healthy woman has a bit of a belly?
"My mom has an athletic body and I don't. Does that make m... (read in full...)
Why is it worse for a man to be bitter and resentful than it is for a woman?
Q. If a man is bitter, resentful, is filled with feelings of bitterness, resentment, no woman will want him, but a man is generally more forgiving if a woman is feeling bitter, resentful, why is this? Why are guys expected to always, or almos...
A. 10 April 2015: I don't think bitterness and resentment are attractive in either gender. Obviously you feel that men are held to a different standard. There are many posts from women who feel they are held to a different standard. This could go back and forth all ... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 31 March 2015: The sooner you get started in therapy, the sooner you can experience the things you want. Persistently asking the same question over and over again yet taking no action gets you right where you are now.... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: Are you planning to hold out until your 40s to regret not having had a girlfriend in your 30s? Or be in your 50s looking back on the 40s?
What is holding you back? Deal with that now. The "what if" thoughts are a waste of your time. ... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: Sex can feel amazing at any age.
So, what are you doing, besides fretting about the passing years, to get yourself into the situation you say you want to be in? That is, dating and enjoying sex, right?
So put all that energetic fretting and worr... (read in full...)
If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late?
Q. If you are 27 years old, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, is it too late? I feel too insecure about my age, being inexperienced at this age makes me feel pathetic, insecure, I just never knew how to approach and talk to girls in a way that ...
A. 30 March 2015: Um, yes. :)
Teens are all over the place and 20s are discovery phases.
30s are amazing.
Don't overthink the age thing.
If you are struggling with social anxiety and starting a relationship, now would be a good time to focus on that. Running th... (read in full...)
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