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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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I think I'm pregnant and I'm afraid to tell anyone!
Q. hi i am 16 and really scared. my bf just dumped me and i think i am pregnant. i dont know what to do because my dad and mum will kill me as we are catholic so i cant get rid of it either. he was 19 by he way and i am soo scared. the only other ...
A. 22 June 2007: Am glad everything worked out :)
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How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
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How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
A. 21 June 2007: Do you want us all to lie then and say yes you can make yourself straight?! The truth hurts sometimes. You are who you are. We all have quirks about us we don't like and can't change.
You may find as you grow up your sexual orientation levels o... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
A. 21 June 2007: Do you want us all to lie then and say yes you can make yourself straight?! The truth hurts sometimes. You are who you are. We all have quirks about us we don't like and can't change.
You may find as you grow up your sexual orientation levels o... (read in full...)
After the morning after pill, I got my normal period...but now it's late! What's going on?
Q. I had sex about 6 weeks ago and took the morning after pill the day later. Then a week after that, I had what look liked my normal period. Now it's been four weeks and i was due on my period 5 days ago and still havent come on. I'm confused about ...
A. 20 June 2007: Periods at your age can not always be on time. I was never regular as a teen and still miss the odd one now, and i'm loving the brak from them while i'm pregnant. If you are that concerned talk things through with your mum or with your doctor and ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm happy being with her or not, but she's blindly in love with me! What should I do?
Q. Hi all.. I have a question which i may already know the answer to but reading thru other peoples similar problems i really need to ask.. I am in my mid 20's and i have been in a relationship with a girl who is 19 (im not sure age matters but hey...
A. 20 June 2007: Ask your girlfriend maybe to back off a little. I know me and my partner both like our time apart as much as we love spending time together.
If you really don't feel happy then end it with her but dont get back with her because she cries and make... (read in full...)
Attractive or not? - dense black pubic hair.
Q. I have lots of black dense pubic hair and I don't shave or trim. Do guys find this attractive or do they hate it?...
A. 20 June 2007: as the female anonymous wrote it depends on the guy and on your personal feelings. I trim because it makes me feel a little more hygenic. My guy likes it all shaved off. Being pregnant I cant see to do either at the moment and its growing back.
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My lover lied to me and is running around with a married woman--how can I get over him?
Q. I was dating someone for about 9 months whom i met at work. I thought he was the one. He loved me (or so I thought) and I felt the same. I believed we were a perfect match. we talked about moving in and getting married. In the last couple o...
A. 20 June 2007: Its crap how some people can really do some horrible things to you and you still love them. I really feel for you hunni. The guy is a complete sleeze bag and I hoep the married woman one days makes him feel how he's made you feel.
I don't think th... (read in full...)
I like an older guy who has a girlfriend--what do I do?
Q. i am 16 and i met this guy who is about 22 or 23, he is perfect in every single way but he has a girlfriend his age. what shall i do, i cant stop thinking about him and when we see each other, we always have a good chat. what shall i do??...
A. 20 June 2007: Just be a friend towards him. He has a girlfriend and if you make a move against him then it wouldn't really be fair on the girlfriend or him. You never know they might finish, then again they might not so don't hang around hoping to get with him ... (read in full...)
My man is still accepting phone calls from his "psycho" ex! What can I do?
Q. I have been dating a wonderful man for two months. He had a bad relationship with another woman he calls "double lifer", she was engaged to him and another man at the same time and he found out when he talked to the other guy. She married the ...
A. 20 June 2007: Chat how you feel through with your boyfriend and explain to him you don't really like it.
The more he answers her calls, I think the more she will call him because she knows he will always pick up. He has to stop taking the calls and tell her... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant and I'm afraid to tell anyone!
Q. hi i am 16 and really scared. my bf just dumped me and i think i am pregnant. i dont know what to do because my dad and mum will kill me as we are catholic so i cant get rid of it either. he was 19 by he way and i am soo scared. the only other ...
A. 20 June 2007: I completely agree with Dv1- get yourself to your doctor or local family planning clinic and get yourself tested so you can find out for sure.
If it comes back that you are pregnant then you need to sit down with the father and tell him and chat... (read in full...)
My wife and I can't communicate our feelings
Q. my wife loves me and i love her but we always wait for eachothr to show that, always hiding our feeling to eachother. what should i do to fix this problem?...
A. 20 June 2007: My boyfrined when we had been going out a while had a thing about not telling me verbally he loved me. It was a big commitment for him so he would leave notes on my pillow and buy me flowers and little things like that. I used to buy him cards in ... (read in full...)
I used to play the field. Now I want to be with my best friend! I'm scared she'll get hurt. What should I do?
Q. I am just an ordinary lad who enjoys being with different girls. I tend just to play the field but for a while I have realised there is only one girl I want to be with, unfortunatly she is also my best friend. I have a feeling she likes me too but I ...
A. 20 June 2007: Ask to meet up with her and tell her how you feel. If you really want to commit to her then tell her and show her that you are being genuine. It may take some time but I'm sure she will see through the player label if you are faithful with her.
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I like my ex and he likes me back, but he has a girlfriend! What can I do?
Q. Well I have fallen hard for my best friend, who is also my ex-boyfriend. I have liked him since the beginning of this year and I told him a month ago, but he has a girlfriend. He says he does like me too which I believe because he was (not sounding ...
A. 20 June 2007: Give it time and you will get over him. It never feels like it at the time but you will move on. I wouldn't wait around for him for too long as he's in a relationship that you said is going strong. If you feel you need time away from him as a friend ... (read in full...)
I'm muslim and I'm in love with a muslim boy but he doesn't love me back. What can I do? I won't give up!
Q. iam a girl 19 years old i never have any relation before because i am muslim girl but my question is that i love a boy he is muslim too but not from my country I love him too much but he doesn't love me but i feel he like he knows I love him what ...
A. 20 June 2007: If you seriously know that this guy doesn't return your feelings then I would try to forget about him. If you are unsure on how he feels why not try talking to him and ask him out, or explain that you like him. As much as you want him to love you ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I are totally different--should I talk to her about it?
Q. Relating with my fiance makes me feel doubtful about myself, low on self-esteem and somewhat powerless and weak. She is quite high on the morals, low on the practical aspects and it's the otherway round for me. Should i talk about this to her ?...
A. 20 June 2007: What first attracted you to her? I do believe in opposites can attract. My partner and I have the fact we love computer games, are a little shy and love rock/metal music in common and that's it.
Talk to her about how you feel. Me and my partner ... (read in full...)
I want a quickie!
Q. I'm wondering maybe from a woman's point of view, how would you like your boyfriend to initiate a quickie? I'm of course in the mood for sex but not always full blown naked intercourse with multiple positions. I'm sure she feels the same way so how ...
A. 20 June 2007: I agree with deejuliet. If you are sure this woman really wants a quickie then whiser in her ear.
My partner and I love a quickie occasionally as it spices up our sex life and makes it dangerous. Seen as I'm pregnant and getting larger there ar... (read in full...)
both me and my 2 friends says she sounds like 19 or even in their 20's tops..and my b.f told me she is in her 50's...am i being too paranoid here?
Q. my boyfriend fixes things for a living--i dont wanna get too specific..i recently checked the contacts in his phone and saw a girls name(and i actually havent looked in a few weeks and before that it was a long time)..a new girl..which i thought was ...
A. 20 June 2007: As kay.kay says she could be 50 and sound incredible young on the phone. I sound a lot older on the phone apparently and a lot different from what I do when I'm talking to someone face to face.
Again I agree with Kay.kay you are reading a little b... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend there's a possibility I might be pregnant?
Q. Hi. A few days ago I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend. I know i haven't caught any STI's off him...but i think im pregnant. Im not stupid and on normal circumstances i would never have had unprotected sex but i was drunk and as a result had ...
A. 20 June 2007: I don't think you should tell him just yet. Could you go to see a doctor or your local family planning clinic for a test to find out for sure. Once you have found out the results you can go from there.
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Two times unprotected sex--is my girlfriend pregnant?
Q. If I came in my girlfriend two different days is she likely to be pregnant?...
A. 20 June 2007: Yes your girlfriend could be pregnant!
If you don't want her to be can I recommend next time you don't have unprotected sex once let alone twice! Is she on the pill by any chance?
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Gay pride..what are your views?
Q. do you believe in gay pride? jw...
A. 20 June 2007: I do believe in Gay Pride, and Straight Pride, and the larger lady pride of the dove adverts here in the UK. Sounds odd coming from someone who doesn't have much self confidence but I think you should be proud what ever sexuality, nationality, sex, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't handle my wealthy background or my success
Q. Hi all, I met my boyfriend in college we are both studying the same course and in the same class. He is the sweetest guy ever and we were planning to get married until things started falling apart, when he came home to meet my parents during c...
A. 20 June 2007: Putting you down isn't really fair of him. If he won't listen to you saying that you don't care about your background wealth and stuff then show him. Males like to feel the king in their own home, they have such a head of the pride thing and you ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend wants me to get rid of the baby
Q. I'm 20 years old and a couple of days ago I found out I was pregnant. I told my bf of 3 years and he was ok at first and then this morning he said he wants nothing to do with the baby or me and I haven't told my family yet cause I'm scared of what ...
A. 20 June 2007: You seem to have made you mind up to keep the child, so start thinking about coping with the child on your own. The father may come round, but then again he may not. Telling your family would be a good first step as you may find they are very ... (read in full...)
My husband wants more sex than I can handle!
Q. My husband wants to have sex twice a day and I am not able to comply. I feel so sad. What should I do? ...
A. 20 June 2007: Talk to your husband about how you are feeling. He has a very high sex drive where as I'm guessing you dont have so much. My partner at the moment has a higher sex drive as I'm pregnant and I sat down and spoke to him about it and he thought I'd ... (read in full...)
We don't feel in love anymore--but we want to. Is there any hope?
Q. I need help. Me and my boyfriend dont think we are in love anymore but we want to be together to see if there is anything we can do in order to rekindle what we had, we've had alot of problems in these last few months but we both think we could get ...
A. 20 June 2007: There might be. A lot of couples have a tough time. Me and my partner split up 18ish months ago after a very tough time and we thought we didn't love each other. In the end we couldn't live without each other. If it's meant to be then it'll work!
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I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. Should I do it with him?
Q. I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. He wants me to come over to night and have sex with him. Should I do it with him?...
A. 19 June 2007: I'm not going to lecture but sex at 12?!
If you decide to go ahead make sure you use protection against stis and pregnancy.
First decide if you are really REALLY ready for this. You can't ask strangers whether you should do it or not. That ... (read in full...)
Am I just being paranoid or is there a chance this is more than a gut feeling?
Q. My girlfriend lives in a different town to me but i travel to stay with her quite often. However when im not with her ive got a gut feeling she is cheating on me. Firstly her mother and sister had informed me not to trust her and that she had 3 guys ...
A. 19 June 2007: I agree with flowergirl. If she has done nothing wrong then why does she keep asking if things between you are ok. I think that's a little sign of a guilty conscience.
I am in a long distance relationship and have been for three years. If my partn... (read in full...)
G spot location??
Q. where is the g spot actually located, i cant tel if my girl is really ccumming or not...
A. 19 June 2007: The gspot is about two or three inches inside the vagina on the front wall.
Stimulating her clit aswell should help.
If you are inside her when she comes you should feel her vagina tightening and throb slightly.
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How can I make him last longer during sex?
Q. My boy's isn't too big in that certain region. His penis is about 5 and a half in long. But there's no problem with me, to my understanding a lot of girls don't get soooo much pleasure out of actual intercourse anyways, so I was wondering, I know ...
A. 19 June 2007: It'll take spme time but he'll relax in to it. Just don't push him too much.
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About to give birth but have no worries. Shouldnt I be freaked?
Q. Heya :) This sounds a little silly but shouldn't I be worried about going in to labour for the first time, or any worries at all..... I'm 21 weeks pregnant and feel a little odd as I'm not panicking as much as other pregnant women I know and ...
A. 19 June 2007: Thank you :)
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What is love??
Q. We all each have unique experiences of this thing we call love. As such, pinning down a precise definition of the word itself is challenging enough let alone categorising the sum total of human experience. My own experiences make me a fair way short ...
A. 19 June 2007: Love is so hard to describe as it is such a big thing, and experienced slightly differently by all of us. I loved reading your article as it made me think of all the people I love. Not just my partner but my family and my unborn child too.
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Will birth control for cramps stop my gf from becoming pregnant?
Q. I have a question about birth control. My girl friend uses birth control to stop the cramps and such but we have been having sex lately and she wants me to come inside her. Says it feels good. But on birth control for cramps, does this still pr...
A. 19 June 2007: If it is birth comtrol and she is taking it properly then she shouldn't become pregnant.
My sister became pregnant when she was taking antibiotics alongside the pill and her doctor didn't tell her it would mess the pill up.
She can still... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
A. 19 June 2007: You cant "make" yourself straight again if you find guys attractive. When I was in my early teen sI began to find other girls and female celebs attractive. Later in my teens I did have some fun with other girls and I think you could class me as ... (read in full...)
Do men who have georgeous girlfriends still fantasize, look at porn or cheat?
Q. Do men who have drop dead gorgeous girlfriends still fantasize about other women, want to look at porn, or cheat? I am an attractive woman and all my boyfriends have looked at other women or porn at some time or another in our relationship(and some ...
A. 19 June 2007: I suppose there is someone out there somewhere whos completely satisfied with the woman that they dont feel the need to dream about other women. But this woman does sound a little bit full of it. Mybe she's deluding herself because she knows her ... (read in full...)
Ready to adopt a baby!
Q. We want to adopt and I'm broading our chances... My spouse and I have recently started the process for adoption. It's really exciting considering he proposed the idea. I have children from a previous marriage and had to have an emergency hyster...
A. 19 June 2007: Awwwwwwwwww That's wonderful and you sound really happy, especially since he was the one to ask you!
Good luck for the future :D
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He has a nasty temper and a mouth to match
Q. I could really do with some advice. I'm going out with this guy for nearly 2 years and I'm a bit confused about him. He says he loves me but rarely shows it. He has a nasty temper but he has a nasty mouth on him. He is constantly accusing me of ...
A. 19 June 2007: He needs to change, end of as his behaviour is unfair. He may need anger management classes or something like that. Have you tried talking to him about why he gats the way he does?
If he isn't prepared to change then you may have to think about en... (read in full...)
My wife has just gotten too darn fat to be attractive anymore
Q. I'm in my late 40's and have been married for nearly 26 years, most of which have been happy however my Wife has become increasingly overweight and put simply I no longer fancy her physically. She makes no serious attempt to lose weight and get fit ...
A. 19 June 2007: If you are both really unhappy and cant see the situation being resolved than a searation might be a good idea. It may give her the kick she needs to start caring about her health a bit more and stuff.
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What can I do to make him speak to me more?
Q. Well, Im 13 and theres this boy at school, he's been telling me that he likes me for a while and i thought that he was joking, But the other day we kissed!! And we arranged to meet up on saturday and he couldnt make it. Sometimes he speaks alot on ...
A. 19 June 2007: Ask him why sometimes he's so chatty and other times he hasnt. You may find he doesnt know what to say or is shy about your kiss or something.
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How can I make him last longer during sex?
Q. My boy's isn't too big in that certain region. His penis is about 5 and a half in long. But there's no problem with me, to my understanding a lot of girls don't get soooo much pleasure out of actual intercourse anyways, so I was wondering, I know ...
A. 19 June 2007: Continue trying out new positions. Use one position for longer if you think that is an issue. Why not sit down and talk to him about what gets him off other than a blow job as you'd like to please him in other ways.
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I want to have fun when I go to Greece, but my boyfriend wont trust me not to cheat while I am there
Q. I'm 16 and I'm going to greece with my twin sister and my friend. My boyfriends really worried because he thinks they are going to infuence me to drink and cheat on him. I've told him that i would never do that and i promised i wouldn't drink or...
A. 19 June 2007: As a suffer from depression too I can completely understand where the feelings and emotions are coming from here. But its not really fair of your boyfriend to expect you not to go on this holiday just because he says so. I had this kind of ... (read in full...)
Should I get my boyfriend a gift for father's day (even though he isn't the daddy)... ?
Q. I don't know if I should get my boyfriend a gift for father's day. i know he isn't my father. but we just had our 1st baby 2 months ago, and he is a really good daddy to her. He also works and supports us. I just want to let him know he's ...
A. 19 June 2007: I get my stepdad something for father's day every year. He hasn't been my father figure in life but he has been apart of the family for 5ish years now and he's the father to my little sister. My mum gets something from my little sister for my dad ... (read in full...)
Do I confront him about the picture and if he still has feelings for her?
Q. My boyfriend says that he loves me. I still have a feeling he still has feelings for his ex. He compares me to her a lot and he still has a picture of her on his myspace calling her is love. Do I confront him about the picture and if he still has ...
A. 19 June 2007: I would confront him and explain how you feel. I don't think his comparing you to his ex is fair and you can ask him to stop doing it. If he really does have feelings for her ask him why he is with you.
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My girlfriend cheated to get revenge; should I stay with her?
Q. I'm 19 years old, young i know, my girlfriend is going to be 17 in 3 days and about an hour ago i found out that she had cheated on me about 4 days ago. i'm so depressed this is a first for her i have never cheated on her and never will i feel like ...
A. 19 June 2007: Hey Josh,
If you can find it in yourself to forgive her for what she did then the relationship may survive. The next thing will be trying to trust her again as that is a big thing in a relationship.
I agree with the other two posters. Take a ... (read in full...)
I told him it was casual, but now I cant live without him!
Q. I'm 16 and i've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months. At the beginning of our relationship i just thought it would be a casual thing but he was looking for long term. I'ts my first relationship and i've had absolutly no experience with boys so ...
A. 19 June 2007: Being an ex manic depressive couselling is such a good idea. I went to see a lady for a year and I loved our meetings as I could talk about anything and everything with her. It did take me a while to find someone who I felt I could be that open with ... (read in full...)
I want to adopt a baby
Q. help please: trying for a baby for ages but looking to adopt. help us if you can. hi im 20 will be 21 in october me and my partner who i have been with nearly 5 years have been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years we are looking to adopt ...
A. 19 June 2007: Good luck!
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I want to adopt a baby
Q. help please: trying for a baby for ages but looking to adopt. help us if you can. hi im 20 will be 21 in october me and my partner who i have been with nearly 5 years have been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years we are looking to adopt ...
A. 19 June 2007: Why not try looking up adoption agencies on the internet, and adoption support groups so you can chat to someone about what's going on.
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