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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 22 August 2007: You want to talk about "love" when it is a married man you are considering telling. You may feel you "love" this man but surely wrecking his life whether you love him or not isn't an option. He is TAKEN so just be his friend.
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He looks at other girl's naked bodies...and I'm jealous! What can I do?
Q. my boy friend and i have been together for about 2 years, this is also his and mine first relationship i have never been the jealous type untill my first love {him} i know that some of the things i get jealous about is stupid but it also makes me ...
A. 28 July 2007: Your guy needs to know how what he is doing is making you feel. Or you are only going to get worse. I know its hard to open up especially with low self confidence but you need to hun.
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 25 July 2007: I haven't skipped over what you are saying. I think you having a friendship with this guy is dangerous. But that is only what I think and like eyeswideopen I think you have already made your mind up.
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My sister can't concieve and I am pregnant again. How do I break the news to her?
Q. How do I tell my sister who has been trying to conceive for 4 years that I am pregnant again? I am 26, with a 3 month old baby. My older sister who is 30 has a 4 year old daughter, but has been trying to conceive again since her daughter was born ...
A. 21 July 2007: They probably meant she can't conceive right now.
I had worked out the fact that she had already got a child she was infertile. I just thought if she and her bloke went to get tested they might find out some info on conceving quicker :)
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I'm a virgin and my first time trying didn't go so well - is there something wrong with me?
Q. I am a virgin and yesterday I tried to have sex with my boyfriend but I just got really scared and started to panick and cried so we stopped. Is there something with me ?...
A. 21 July 2007: There is NOTHING wrong with you. Maybe you aren't quite ready for sex yet. Wait a while and try again.
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Our families hate each other and now that we are engaged-his mother has freaked out. What should we do?
Q. Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs and we are crazy about eachother. The only problem is our families- they dont like eachother, and dont want me and my boyfriend to be together. Recently, we have decided to get engaged, but when...
A. 20 July 2007: You have every right to ring him whether his mum answers the phone or not. You need to know what's going on.
Why did yours and his families fall out?
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My husband doesn't respect that I'm a teacher! Tonight he said he's leaving!
Q. My husband of two years is great, except that he does not and never has respected my profession as a teacher. He wants me to quit my job and go back to school to "do more" with my education. He says that life is too routine and he is not ...
A. 20 July 2007: I'm glad things are working themselves out :)
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We quarrel all the time and he doesn't trust me! What can I do?
Q. i am a girl of 21 dating a guy of 28 the problem is dat we quarrel all the time and he does not trust me.any time we decide to end the relationship,we find out that we cant stay without each other. every body arround us want us to quit the ...
A. 20 July 2007: You both either have to start putting a little trust in each other or end the relationship. If there is no reason for you both not to trust each other then you need to get your act together and stop making each other unhappy. Trusting someone is a ... (read in full...)
My bf wants me to be more 'sexually adventurous'...is this a good thing or what?
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months wants me to be more sexual with him, is that bad? he wants me to do a lot more sexual positions as well as go down on him a lot more than I do. I dont want to disappoint him so Last night we did it in the middle of the ...
A. 20 July 2007: It's not a bad thing. Just remember that you don't have to do anything you don't want to. If you don't like the sound of something say no.
I think him wanting to be more sexual is a good sign :D
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I had my period last month but since I am late this month I am worried I could be pregnant
Q. The last time I had sex was about the 13th/14th of May. I had a normal, heavy period last month and I'm now overdue for the next. Last week, I had intense cramping akin to what I'd get in a period. I put it down to things being on the move (as they...
A. 20 July 2007: Ok hunni :D
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I'm having an abortion in a week and I feel so sad about that. How can I cope? Any advice??
Q. I am 20 years old and booked in for an abortion in a week.....i have an amazing life and would never be able to do what i want if i had a child, although it is making me feel really sad, i feel really close to my unborn child of 7 weeks. the father ...
A. 20 July 2007: You don't HAVE to do anything hunni. You do need to have a serious think about this abortion though before you go. Maybe it would be wise to chat to someone before you go for it.
Ok, the child may stop you doing certain things but it wont sto... (read in full...)
My teacher split up with his partner...should I make a move?
Q. Hi its me again remember before when i said i was in love with my teacher and that he was in a LTR...? Well now they have split up and i really wanted make a move but i don't have the guts because i know almost for sure he'll push me away and thin...
A. 20 July 2007: NO WAY should you make a move. He is your TEACHER and could end up loosing his job or going to prison.
If the teacher pushes you away then he is doing the RIGHT thing. I would admire from afar hunni rather then make yourself look stupid and put ... (read in full...)
My sister can't concieve and I am pregnant again. How do I break the news to her?
Q. How do I tell my sister who has been trying to conceive for 4 years that I am pregnant again? I am 26, with a 3 month old baby. My older sister who is 30 has a 4 year old daughter, but has been trying to conceive again since her daughter was born ...
A. 20 July 2007: Awwwwww hunni.
This isn't something that you aren't going to be able to hide for hugely long.
I think you should sit her down one-on-one and tell her. You shouldn't feel bad for having something she wants. Her time will come again. Maybe you... (read in full...)
Is sharing a kiss with another guy and liking him really telling me my current relationship isnt working? Any views?
Q. I shared a drunken kiss with my boyfriends work colleague. We both have partners although he hasnt been with his long, we have txt each other and agree we both find each other physically attractive and enjoy each others company. We are both in ...
A. 20 July 2007: I think it does show that you are treating your boyfriend bloody rotten. Wouldn't be nice if he was doing it to you right?
I would end things with your guy and get this other guy to end things with his girlfriend as it isn't fair on her either. ... (read in full...)
Two guys fall in love..so why do others try to prevent this from happening?
Q. if two guys fall in love and are meant to be togther why should other people prevent this from happening?...
A. 20 July 2007: There are people in this world who cant stand to see other people happy, or just feel that they have to get involved in other people's lives.
If the two guys are meant to be and really love each other then what the other people say and do wont mat... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I'm scared to have sex with my 17 year old boyfriend; he wants me to get pregnant!
Q. i am a 14 year old girl and i am going out with a seventeen year old boy and i am stuck in a situation because he wants to have sex with me but im scared because i do not no what to do when having sex!!and he said that he wants to get me pregnant ...
A. 20 July 2007: You do know your boyfriend could get locked up right as you are under age. I would think long and hard before falling pregnant. You are only 14 and the child WILL take your life away. I'm 21 and pregnant and it's scary trust me.
You don't ha... (read in full...)
I had my period last month but since I am late this month I am worried I could be pregnant
Q. The last time I had sex was about the 13th/14th of May. I had a normal, heavy period last month and I'm now overdue for the next. Last week, I had intense cramping akin to what I'd get in a period. I put it down to things being on the move (as they...
A. 20 July 2007: Get yourself tested if you are that worried as panicking about being pregnant will only make your period later.
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I love her but how is it possible to find out if she feels the same way?
Q. Hello, i am a 22 male living in california united states and i am in love with someone, who is living abroad. But how do i know or how do i tell her the feelings that i have for her in my heart. I cannot talk to her, because our families had a hu...
A. 20 July 2007: If you only talk through the net or on the phone it may be very difficult to find out her feelings for you.
I think you should bite the bullet and tell her how you feel and see what she says. Yours two friendship/relationship shouldn't be affected... (read in full...)
What are the signs that this girl I fancy, likes me?
Q. i fancy this girl so much! I said we should meet over the summer and she agreed. I'm not sure if she was talkin about us two going alone or in our friend group. Also are there any signs to find out if she likes me? I really want to find out without ...
A. 20 July 2007: There are lots of little signs you could see if she does:
stares at you for periods of time
flirts with you but not any other lad
holds eye contact
wants to be near you all the time
Plan to meet up in the holidays and see how it goes. If... (read in full...)
I offered her the use of my car temporarily. That was 2 years ago! How do I put a stop to this?
Q. My girlfriend of 3 years and I are having problems. She came into the relationship with a beat up old station wagon in really rough shape. Brakes didn't work, tires were shot, heater didn't work, etc. The thing was a death trap and it always m...
A. 20 July 2007: I would sit down and talk to her hunni.
Maybe she hasn't realised she's supposed to be looking for a new car seen as she's driving around in yours and you seem happy with that.
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Troubles with my ex best friend. Please advise!
Q. hi im new to this thing and i really really really need advice! my ex bff is my ex bff because she is now always hanging out with this other dumb girl! she never talks to me and always ignores me i have to go to her always and be in her face to give ...
A. 20 July 2007: Hunni is someone says you aren't good enough for them then they are not your friend. And not worth your time.
I can understand your friend is trying to "fit in" and be "cool" with this new girl but that gives her no right to treat you like dir... (read in full...)
How effective is using just a condom to prevent pregnancy?
Q. How effective is using a condom to prevent pregnancy, without any other form of contraception, such as the pill? ...
A. 20 July 2007: If used properly it is like 98% I think. But don't quote me on that. It also stops STIs and AIDs! That is if it is taken properly and as advised by your doctor. If it isn't it becomes inactive.
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When should I kiss this guy, I like?
Q. okay, I like this boy and he likes me but I don't know whan to kiss him. ...
A. 20 July 2007: Ask him out to hang out, or for a milkshake or whatever it is kids do these days then lean in and kiss him when you feel the moment is right. I wouldn't advise just jumping on him though.
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After sex with hubby, I got a very irregular period! Am I pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a question that I am confussed about... My husband and I had sex 3 days befor my period, and now I have my period for 3 days now, it started off spotting, and then it was just a real light period, and then got heavy for about an ...
A. 20 July 2007: It might just be a slightly different period but if you are unsure I would take a test just to make sure.
I bled for the first 2 months of my pregnancy which led me to not think I was pregnant.
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Bf has an ejaculate problem...is this normal?
Q. i think my boyfriend has a problem, y does he cum in 10mins b4 getting into sex, it never use to b a problem til the last couple of months, is it normal or does he need to go n see his GP...
A. 20 July 2007: I would take him to chat it through with his GP just incase.
An ex of mine used to suffer early ejeculation. He just seemed to get himself "over excited" for a few months.
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He looks at other girl's naked bodies...and I'm jealous! What can I do?
Q. my boy friend and i have been together for about 2 years, this is also his and mine first relationship i have never been the jealous type untill my first love {him} i know that some of the things i get jealous about is stupid but it also makes me ...
A. 20 July 2007: It may be you aren't happy with your body. Have you tried talking to your guy about it?
My guy is very in to Jenna Jameson yet claims to not like the stereotypical blonde with big boobs. We don't really talk about it anymore and he chucked ... (read in full...)
Can I ask my sister if I can kiss her? Any advice?
Q. Hi, I am 5 years younger than my sister. I find her attractive. i have never kissed or anything with anyone. Can i ask her to kiss me? If so how far can this go?...
A. 20 July 2007: It cannot go anywhere hunni. She is your SISTER!
You need to try and push the feelings of attraction out of your head and find a girl your own age and someone who doesn't share your bloodline!
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Started the pill 11 days ago. Am I protected from prenancy, yet?
Q. Hi,i just need some advice. I started a pogestron only pill 11 days ago. I had sex tonight, am i protected from pregnancy? as i was told by a nurse i have to use protection for 2 weeks?...
A. 20 July 2007: You should use condoms for 2 weeks after starting the pill if not longer.
I was ill in January and if you are sick or have stomach upset it can mess the pill up. My doctor told me to only use condoms for a week and I should have used them longer a... (read in full...)
He's in denial about his porn addiction! How do I help him?
Q. my boyfriend is addicted to downloading porn off the internet he is in denial how do i help him...
A. 20 July 2007: There is nothing you can do for him until he opens his eyes and sees that he has a problem. Once he has admitted he has a problem then you can hep him get the help he needs to get through it. Its like being addicted to gambling or alcohol- he needs ... (read in full...)
Pain during penetration and increased vaginal discharge! What is causing this?
Q. i have been experiencing these problems for some time now. here goes. when i have sex after my period i get deep pain inside when my boyfriend penetrates. the deeper he penetrates the more it hurts. also i get painful bowel movements (doing a...
A. 20 July 2007: I would suggest you get yourself down to your doctors as this does not sound like a "normal" pain.
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I've gained 4 pounds and I feel fat! How do I lose it?
Q. i need some advice. i am 19 years old, female. i feel like i am getting to fat for my boyfriend. he says i'm not. but i have put on 10 kilos (4 pounds) in the past 12 months. does anybody have any advice on how i can lose some weight? what has ...
A. 20 July 2007: Hunni you are only 19 and 4 pounds in 12 months isn't that big a deal especially if your boyfriend doesn't think you are getting fat.
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How can I sort out my situation, it's a mess.
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. When we first start dating he would flirt, cyberchat with other girls, while still dating me. He dumped me once three months after being with me and we got back together a month...
A. 20 July 2007: Talk to him again and explain that you feel he's taking advantage and why you think he is. You can't go on with these feelings and its either you try to sort them out or you move on and find someone else.
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 20 July 2007: I would go to uni and enjoy your life there and try to move your feelings away from this guy. No the odd coffee or odd email isn't a bad thing but remember he is a) a lot older then you and b) he's married. How would you feel in his wife's shoes.
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My girlfriend has told that she is in her menstrual period, and does not have enough blood.
Q. My girlfriend has told that she is in her menstrual period, and does not have enough blood. Being her boyfriend/partner, I would like to know if this has happened to other women and is it usual? ...
A. 20 July 2007: Buy more blood??? What do you mean by that???
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How can I find out if my online guy loves me? I love him despite the distance and difference of religion!
Q. i never had a special boyfriend although i have been approached by a few guys. But, recently i met a guy on line, we first got to know each other from a epal club, after one month than we started chatting. Little did i expect that our relationship ...
A. 20 July 2007: Why not ask him why he sets himself limitations in your relationship. If he's still getting over being hurt in the past and is holding himself back then he should either not be in a relationship or should be trying to get over the past. A ... (read in full...)
My husband likes to go out to listen to live music, but I dont. How can we comprimise?
Q. My husband loves to go out late at night to listen to live music, while I don't like the scene at all because it's loud and crowded. I need to go out more with him because he very much wants me there. How can I make it more bearable?...
A. 20 July 2007: I'm glad we could help hunni!
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Is he losing interest? What warning signs should I look for?
Q. I am Gay 35 years old and have met a 27 year old guy online. We have had a number of conversations over a 2 week period on MSN. We have also been texting on our cell phones. The first week the guy was regularly sending me texts that were really nice ...
A. 20 July 2007: Good luck hunni!
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What is his hold up in giving me the ring and starting arrangements?
Q. I have been with my partner for just over 2 years now, he has just returned from a 7 month tour of Iraq and whilst he was away he asked me to marry him, I did of course accept as we are very much in love and have a fantastic relationship. He came ...
A. 19 July 2007: Tell him hows he made you feel hun. As you said it wasn't very fair of him to ask to then take it back. We all have things in our past that can make us wary of taking the next step and things but he can't take the step then take it back without ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about having anal intercourse only my problem is that it has happened to me before a while back and it wasn't such a good experience...
Q. I'm thinking about having anal intercourse only my problem is that it has happened to me before a while back and it wasn't such a good experience at least not one that I was expecting or consenting to.... I watch porn and it turns me on to see the ...
A. 19 July 2007: The suggestion of taking it very slowly is a good one and one I would advise aswell.
If you want to stop at any point then just tell your partner to stop what he's doing.
I think once you get in to it and start enjoying it you wont think about... (read in full...)
If a guy masturbates in the bath and then a girl goes in after him, can she get pregnant?
Q. can a 10 girl old girl get pregnant if the guy masturbated in the shower then got out and she went in the shower to take a bath?...
A. 19 July 2007: Unless there was sperm there and it made direct contact with her girly bits then I would say no. If you are unsure I would test her just incase.
I doubt it as the water for her bath would surely have watered the sperm down.
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My boyfriend is 9 years younger than me and I'm embarassed about my aging body
Q. I've recently started seeing a guy 9 years younger than me, we get along well except that he is perhaps trying to move the relationship on at a quicker pace than I want. I'm 45 and he is 36. He thinks it's great, is always complimentary towards ...
A. 19 July 2007: Talk to him about how you feel. Especially how you feel he's trying to move things too quickly for you.
If you two are REALLY happy together hunni then stop worrying about what others think. Their thoughts and feelings shouldn't matter. It shoul... (read in full...)
I have recently met somebody double my age on the internet and I really like him and would like to have a relationship with him.
Q. I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend for four years. However I have recently met somebody double my age on the internet and I really like him and would like to have a relationship with him. Please help I don't know what to do....
A. 19 July 2007: If you want to really be with this other guy then end things with your boyfriend before you do anything else. Even if nothing happens with this other guy isn't this proof that something is obviously missing between you and your boyfriend.
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What is his hold up in giving me the ring and starting arrangements?
Q. I have been with my partner for just over 2 years now, he has just returned from a 7 month tour of Iraq and whilst he was away he asked me to marry him, I did of course accept as we are very much in love and have a fantastic relationship. He came ...
A. 19 July 2007: Ask him what's going on.
He may have asked you because he thought he might get killed while serving and didn't want to have not asked you, or he still could be "getting over" what he saw while away and is relaxing back in to normal life.
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My girlfriend has told that she is in her menstrual period, and does not have enough blood.
Q. My girlfriend has told that she is in her menstrual period, and does not have enough blood. Being her boyfriend/partner, I would like to know if this has happened to other women and is it usual? ...
A. 19 July 2007: If she thinks her periods have changed and its worrying her I would take her to see her doctor just incase.
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I said 'I love you' and he only said 'I heart you'
Q. hi i have a boyfriend and i told him 'i love u' his reaction was huggin me and kissing me and holding me tight for a pretty long time, his respons was 'i heart you', which i honestly dont understand what that means does anyone understand what his ...
A. 19 July 2007: Males are sometimes afraid to show their true feelings, or he just may not be in "love" with you yet. Don't take the fact he didn't say it personally. He will say it in time if he does fall in love with you. Least he didn't just say it because he ... (read in full...)
My husband likes to go out to listen to live music, but I dont. How can we comprimise?
Q. My husband loves to go out late at night to listen to live music, while I don't like the scene at all because it's loud and crowded. I need to go out more with him because he very much wants me there. How can I make it more bearable?...
A. 19 July 2007: Hope you come up with a solution hunni! xxxxxx... (read in full...)
My husband likes to go out to listen to live music, but I dont. How can we comprimise?
Q. My husband loves to go out late at night to listen to live music, while I don't like the scene at all because it's loud and crowded. I need to go out more with him because he very much wants me there. How can I make it more bearable?...
A. 18 July 2007: Can you not go and see a live band one week then do something you like the next week?
It's about compromising.
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My husband doesn't respect that I'm a teacher! Tonight he said he's leaving!
Q. My husband of two years is great, except that he does not and never has respected my profession as a teacher. He wants me to quit my job and go back to school to "do more" with my education. He says that life is too routine and he is not ...
A. 18 July 2007: If you are happy in your job then tell him this.
After my baby is born I will be going to university to train as a teacher as I think I would love to do this job and it seems like a very fulfilling one.
Your husband is being a little out of or... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 18 July 2007: No I shouldn't think so as long as like you said you don't interfere. If they really are unhappy the marriage will end at some point. :)
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 17 July 2007: I would say a friendship could work but how would you act in this friendship. Don't friends hang out and things like that. Wouldn't his wife find her husband hanging around with someone 17 a little odd????
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Is he losing interest? What warning signs should I look for?
Q. I am Gay 35 years old and have met a 27 year old guy online. We have had a number of conversations over a 2 week period on MSN. We have also been texting on our cell phones. The first week the guy was regularly sending me texts that were really nice ...
A. 16 July 2007: Ask him outright if he's still interested. If he is he wont mind you asking him, and if he's not it gives him a chance to tell you.
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How can I find out if my online guy loves me? I love him despite the distance and difference of religion!
Q. i never had a special boyfriend although i have been approached by a few guys. But, recently i met a guy on line, we first got to know each other from a epal club, after one month than we started chatting. Little did i expect that our relationship ...
A. 16 July 2007: He will tell you he loves you in his own time. There isn't a set amount of time that someone has to "love" someone else by. The fact he shares how he cares, and how much you mean to him means that he does like you alot.
I am in a long distance... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 16 July 2007: Honestly- I can't see what a 40 year old guy sees in a 17 year old girl. I don't mean that disrespectfully as I am sure you are a very nice girl but come on hunni! This guy is well old enough to be your dad. I can see you have a sensible outlook on ... (read in full...)
How can I sort out my situation, it's a mess.
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. When we first start dating he would flirt, cyberchat with other girls, while still dating me. He dumped me once three months after being with me and we got back together a month...
A. 14 July 2007: Heya hunni.
He seems to be having the best of both worlds- you the doting girlfriend at home and his online "friends". It doesn't sound like a very fair relationship to me, and I think you are feeling that too. He cannot blackmail you in to not e... (read in full...)
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