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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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I met a boy on the internet and we want to meet but I have low self esteem
Q. hi ive just met this bloke hes 12 yrs younger than me . i met him on the nett, we really like each other and want to meet up. my only problem is i have no selfconfidence in my body. ie my small boobs. am i just being silly....
A. 15 July 2007: They can do. I live 80-odd miles from my guy at the moment, which isn't as far as yours but he works full time and I'm 6 months pregnant.
It takes a lot of trust and communication for a long distance relationship to work, especially if one of y... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 7 July 2007: Alright :)
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How come my answers dont get posted?
Q. hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...
A. 6 July 2007: DearCupid is the site owner :)
Just drop him a message and explain the situation. He's very nice and helpful :D
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I am confused about when to try to have a baby
Q. Ladies I really need help from you. My husband and I are really wanting to have a baby but there is one thing that comes between us, its my period I am very inrregular sometimes I go a year with out it. the doctor put me on loestrin24 fe a birth ...
A. 6 July 2007: I can see where the doctor is going with getting your periods on track. They probably think that if they can regulate your periods the easier you'll fall pregnant.
Good luck hunni!
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How come my answers dont get posted?
Q. hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...
A. 5 July 2007: So why not take it up with the site owner or the mods as they are the ones who stop things being posted?!
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How do I tell my parents I've been lying to them about my girlfriend's age for the last 7 months?
Q. hi, I've known this girl around 2 years now and she's my best mate's sister, we get on really well and we've been going out for 7 months now. She's the first girl I've ever really gelled with but the only problem is shes 15 and I'm 19..... we ...
A. 5 July 2007: Sit them down and tell them. There is no easy way of doing it. Sit your mum and dad down and talk to them and see what they say. They may be angry/upset that you lied to them but you can't blame them for that as you would be the same. Once they know ... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill but is it possible I'm pregnant?
Q. i have recently been gaining a lot of weight and always wanting to eat, my nipples are also starting to hurt me and i keep feeling sick on and off i am currently on the pill and dont think it is possible and i also used a condom the last time i had ...
A. 5 July 2007: Get yourself a test, or go to the doctor and get tested. Then you'll know :)
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I don't take my contraceptive pill regularly, I think I could be pregnant
Q. Ok, I am 18 I am on the pill but I do not take it regulary, I only take it when I think of it. Me and my boyfriend have sex alot and we love each other and have talked about what we would do if i became pregnant. anyway, recently I have been having ...
A. 5 July 2007: Uhhhh there is no point in you bothering to take the pill if you don't take it properly as it wont work AT ALL!
There is a very good chance you are pregnant so get yourself to your doctor who will test you then if you are refer you to a midwife ... (read in full...)
She's on birth control but she was spotting, could she be pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend is on the birth control patch. After her period, we had sex. She had her new patch on for less than 24 hours. When I pulled out, I saw that she was still spotting. I didnt wear a condom. If I am correct, spotting means that ...
A. 5 July 2007: Sperm still has quite a way to swim whether you are "endowed" or not!
If you are that unsure about her being pregnant or not get her a test! And wear a condom as back up next time!
I feel pregnant on the pill. I wasn't very well back in Jan... (read in full...)
How do I befriend my bf's pregnant ex gf?
Q. I need some advice. My boyfriend is having a baby soon with another girl. i really want to befriend her but its very hard as she dislikes other women, and no doubtably dislikes me. how do i befriend her? I want our relationship to last but he...
A. 5 July 2007: You should be able to have a civil converstaion without befriending her just through being polite and having repect for another human being. If you don't want to be friends then leave it be for now. Get a card when the babies born.
Have a chat wit... (read in full...)
Can you be pregnant and still get your period?
Q. erm can u be pregnant but come on your period?xx...
A. 5 July 2007: I did the first month I fell pregnant then I didn't get any more.
If you are unsure get a text or go see you doctor for a free test!
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Could I be pregnant after contact through clothes?
Q. I'm on my period and I dry-humped a guy. I was wearing pajama pants, and a thong. Is there any chance I could be pregnant?...
A. 5 July 2007: Did he come on your vagina area, even on top of your clothes??
If he did then YES you can be pregnant!!! Any sperm contact with you vagina means you can fall pregnant. Sperm are tiny enough to get through clothes and inside you!
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I am confused about when to try to have a baby
Q. Ladies I really need help from you. My husband and I are really wanting to have a baby but there is one thing that comes between us, its my period I am very inrregular sometimes I go a year with out it. the doctor put me on loestrin24 fe a birth ...
A. 5 July 2007: Heya :)
I have had very irregular periodssince I was 10, I was also on the pill and still managed to fall pregnant. It will happen. The more you think about falling pregnant the longer it seems to take. Try and relax and enjoy the sex cause yo... (read in full...)
He gets angry when I try to talk about our lack of intimacy
Q. I need advice on how to talk to my partner about his severely diminished interest in sex and physical intimacy. I've raised the issue with him before but I tend to get angry as it upsets me so much. I know this won't help. How can I talk to him ...
A. 5 July 2007: You need to control your anger. It is hard but you obviously NEED to chat about this with your partner.
My sex drive has dived since I fell pregnant and I hated my partner getting sarcastic about lack of sex and always felt awful when he got angr... (read in full...)
Falling for my boyfriend's best friend
Q. I have a boyfriend I love him so much and he loves me back as much as I do. We are already 3 years and 6 months. He can't live without me, but when we we're still in our 1st year of relationship,around about year 2004, He moved in another location, ...
A. 5 July 2007: I wouldn't go there. You sound happy with your boyfriend. You said your boyfriend and his best mate are very alike- maybe you are falling for the best mate cause you are missing your boyfriend.
Would you be prepared to throw away over 3 years wi... (read in full...)
How do I know if he truly loves me? What are the signs?
Q. What are the signs that the guy you're with loves you? ...
A. 5 July 2007: I can see how my guy feels in his eyes. Not everyone gives things away that easy though. Also I can be sitting with him and we don't need words. We are just comfortable with each others company.
He also does little things like leave notes on my pi... (read in full...)
How can I let my boyfriend see I still love him and want him to come back to me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and have a lovely 3 year old son, see my problem is for the past week my boyfriend has been going out all day and not even tried once to spend time with me, we had this really silly but big arugement and ...
A. 5 July 2007: Your boyfriend told you that he hated your son?! His son!!!! Sorry but that is harsh. No matter what problems you and him are having it shouldn't affect the feelings either of you have for your son!
Try talking to him and getting to the bottom o... (read in full...)
Is this only temporary or is our relationship on the way out?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 4 months, he is by far the kindest, nicest and caring guy I have been with. He has been feeling constantly unwell for the past 2 months of the relationship with stomach pains (that no specilist has found an answer f...
A. 5 July 2007: You are feeling a little like you are drowning because you aren't used to your normally confident guy relying on you so much. Chat with him but do it in a way where he doesn't feel you're having a go. Maybe he can back off a little and give you some ... (read in full...)
Can someone have 2 true loves?
Q. Can someone have 2 true loves? i mean i like this guy and im going out with him and i think i may love him but idk and then there is another guy who likes me and i like to and right off the bat we had an amazing conection and idk if i love him or ...
A. 5 July 2007: I don't think you can truely love two people at once. But that is my belief, where as some one else might believe you can love two people.
I believe to truly love someone that means being linked to them with your soul. You adore everythi... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 weeks and we are both virgins and are both ready for sex.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 weeks and we are both virgins and are both ready for sex. We are both nervous and don't know how to approach it. We tell each other everything and are completely comfortable with each other. Please help and ...
A. 5 July 2007: First thing is if you are both very sure you are ready for this then sort out some contraception. Condoms protect against STIs and pregnancy. Try going to your local family planning clinic. I did that and got lots of advice on how to prevent STIs ... (read in full...)
Help! I think my boyfriend is sleeping with his younger sister!
Q. Help! I think my boyfriend is sleeping with his younger sister! I have no proof, what should I do? They both smoke pot, and talk about porn and things....He has even told me that he thinks his sister looks like Angelina Jolie (v.unlikely) and this...
A. 5 July 2007: If you really are uncomfortable and rwally think something is going on I would think about ending the relationship. Are you sure it's just not in your head. I'm not saying you're mad or anything. Just sometimes we look deeper in to things than we ... (read in full...)
How come my answers dont get posted?
Q. hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...
A. 5 July 2007: Do you type them as one long sentence and not use spell checker. If you answer is hard to read then they might not get posted as the mods can't read it!
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I have the worst morning sickness ever!
Q. Hi I am 11 weeks pregnant and from the end of may i have had the worst cause of morning sickness ever. i have ended up in hospital cause i kept nothing down for more then 24 hours and was very dehydrated. the vomitting has come down alot but i ...
A. 5 July 2007: Try Ginger beer and nibbling a ginger nut biscuit. I am sorry you are having such a hard time. I'm 5 months pregnant and have used ginger beer and ginger nut biscuits when I have been ill. Also try looking on the web for other methods.
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I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 5 July 2007: Ok. So you're not going to interfere. I would also chat to his mum and ask her to stop interfering. It's his life and he won't thank his mum for what she is doing.
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I'm hearing stories about him and I don't know what to believe
Q. Hi, I really need to know what i should do.I'm in a 9 month relationship with a guy that is older than me.I have done the last hing for him. At first my parents didnt approve of our relationship (our families had a fall out) and i ran away from home ...
A. 5 July 2007: Your welcome and good luck hunni!
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The condom had a hole--what do I do now?
Q. I am 14 and yesterday I had sex with my boyfriend. It was with a condom, but on the end when he pulled it out there was a little hole. What should I do now? Please help me--I don’t want to get pregnant. ...
A. 4 July 2007: Get yourself to your doctor asap. I think you are too late for the morning after pill. xxxx... (read in full...)
How do I masturbate?
Q. This is going to be my first time to masturbate. How do I do it? Do I just touch myself?...
A. 4 July 2007: You do just touch yourself. Change rhythm and position and stuff to what you like. Take your time and really enjoy what you are doing. You can learn a lot about your body that way :)
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How am I supposed to smell?
Q. Recently, I touched myself down there while I was feeling myself. When I smelled my fingers it smelled like fish--is it supposed to smell like that?...
A. 4 July 2007: We all have a natural smell down there that shouldn't be a disgusting smell as such. I bath every day to make sure I stay fresh down there as I don't like the thought of me smelling. If you are concerned see your doctor :)
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My boyfriend demanded all my passwords and that I stop talking to a friend--is he controlling?
Q. Hello, My name is Natalie. I am 19 years old and having some ridiculous boyfriend troubles. My boyfriend, Joe, of 8 months, knew my email password and I assume has been checking it often. Last night, he texted me freaking out about how he rea...
A. 4 July 2007: Hey hunni,
Having an ex as a mate can start all sorts of problems. I'm not saying you are in the wrong for being mates with your ex at all, just listen to what you boyfriend has to say on the issue with out judging him. Your boyfriend having y... (read in full...)
I want to ask out my friend...how do I impress her?
Q. I like one of my closest friends. Now how do I ask her out? Movies, we do that too much it will just seem like we are having our regular Wednesday night. I don't have much troubles asking girls out. But it feels different this time. movies s...
A. 4 July 2007: Why not ask her out for a milkshake/coke/coffee whatever it is you drink in America. It is hard trying establish a "more than friends" relationship with a girl who you are close friends with.
Maybe when you go to the movies next you could ta... (read in full...)
My father isn't taking his doctor's advice--how do I help him?
Q. I am going through a rough time right now. My dad doesn't feel too good. His heart is bothering him. His doctor put him on the omega 3 diet. I am very concerned and worried about his health. However he is not following the diet. What should I do to ...
A. 4 July 2007: All you can do is advise your dad to maybe start going on the diet. Maybe look up recipes and stuff that he can eat on the diet as I have heard the Omega 3 diet is that restricting.
He needs to understand that the doctor put him on it for a re... (read in full...)
She has found religion and now doesn't want sex...what do I do?
Q. Hello everyone ... I am writing this cause I am in need of advice and I am stuck. My girlfriend and I have been going out for over 6 months. She is the right one for me, and we have already talked about marriage, kids, etc. We stated to have a s...
A. 4 July 2007: Sex is a strong part of a relationship, but you can't make her have sex if she doesn't want to. Do you really want sex to spoil what you two have?
I'm pregnant at the moment and my sex drive has taken a plunge and I know my partner finds it very ... (read in full...)
We have a baby, he's in jail, his ex is driving me crazy--help!
Q. I am 21 years old and have a 10 month old baby. My baby's father is 10 years older than me and he has 2 kids with his previous relationship. We always seem to fight because the other girl won't leave him alone. She looks for him and disrespects me ...
A. 4 July 2007: Your ex needs to start stepping up to his ex. She has no right to disrespect you. She jealous as you have her ex and have a child with him. She needs to grow up and get over it.
If he gets mad when you explain that you don't like what his ex i... (read in full...)
He is a wonderful father, but not great to me...help?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. At the beginning everything was great. But I got pregnant really early into our relationship and it seemed as if he kept getting further and further away. While I was pregnant...
A. 4 July 2007: He shouldn't be making you feel horrible at all hunni, especially when he doesn't like something. It's like a form of control over you.
By the sound of it he didn't want a kid that early in the relationship but he needs to learn to get over it ... (read in full...)
My jealousy is making me nutty--what do I do?
Q. What are the views of everyone on your partner being friends with his ex wife. Is it acceptable for them to take their child of 17 out on his birthday? Bearing in mind that the ex has not moved on, and gets my partner round at every opportun...
A. 4 July 2007: My mum and dad are friends. I wouldn't go as far as to say best friends, but they are very good friends.
It's not acceptable to use the child as a weapon and your partner needs to tell his ex wife that. Playing on a child's emotions is wrong an... (read in full...)
I can't work things out with my ex, but we have a child--help!
Q. My ex has lied and cheated to me, his ex girlfriend and his family over a number of issues and refuses to take responsibility for his actions. I am appalled by his behaviour and decided to at least let his ex girlfriend know the truth. Despite t...
A. 4 July 2007: He needs to stop using your child. It isn't fair and will end up messing the child up in the long run. He needs to start taking responsibility for what is going on. Ok if he doesn't feel comfortable in your company then maybe you two should spend a ... (read in full...)
I believe his exs are more pretty than me and I'm jealous! Does he really love me?
Q. i have a bf from 2 months i love him so much but iam very jealous from his old girlfriends i think they look more beautiful than me and much richer than me i dont know what i do i want to know if he really loves me?????...
A. 4 July 2007: Your welcome hunni.
I hope things work out for you.
Drop me a message for a chat sometime :)
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I met a boy on the internet and we want to meet but I have low self esteem
Q. hi ive just met this bloke hes 12 yrs younger than me . i met him on the nett, we really like each other and want to meet up. my only problem is i have no selfconfidence in my body. ie my small boobs. am i just being silly....
A. 4 July 2007: Your very welcome hunni.
Good luck and I hope the meet goes well!
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When I'm about to orgasm his penis pops out
Q. Everytime it feels like I'm about to orgasm with my boyfriend during sex I am angled in such a way that ALWAYS makes him pop out. this happens from behind, and especially when i'm on top, or if we're on our sides. not so much when he's on top but i ...
A. 4 July 2007: Maybe try adjusting the angle slightly, or get your guy not to thrust out so far when you reach that moment instead go for little fast thrusts.
I'm pregnant and have found my guy pops out if he pulls out too far as my muscles contrat so hard as ... (read in full...)
I met a boy on the internet and we want to meet but I have low self esteem
Q. hi ive just met this bloke hes 12 yrs younger than me . i met him on the nett, we really like each other and want to meet up. my only problem is i have no selfconfidence in my body. ie my small boobs. am i just being silly....
A. 4 July 2007: I don't think you are being silly but if you really want to meet this guy then you need to take a deep breath and send them insecurities away. We all have body hang ups. I hated my small boobs some days too before I was pregnant, now I hate the big ... (read in full...)
I'm back in contact with my ex and having feelings for him again
Q. my ex and i have been back in contact for about 2 months now and i'm starting to have feelings for him again and i'm pretty sure he does aswell what should i do? any help/advice would be great...
A. 4 July 2007: Ask him our or round for dinner. Make it casual and tell him how you feel. Take things slowly and see how it goes. You only live once so why not give things a second chance.
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Our relationship is making me emotionally unstable
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We live together and are usually very happy. Sometimes we do get in bad arguments though. Just like any couple. Almost every time we start yelling at eachother he says he wants to break up. Of ...
A. 4 July 2007: Talk to him about it. He can't pick go to drop you then because you cry pick you up again. That isn't fair. As you said all couples argue but not all couples break up everytime.
I agree with flowergirl- it does sound like control. Maybe he does ... (read in full...)
If I do end up forgiving her if she wants to be my best friend again it will take me ages to trust her again.
Q. dear cupid, I know I just asked you a question about me and my bestfriend but I have another question 4 you.. If I do end up forgiving her if she wants to be my best friend again it will take me ages to trust her again IF I even can and I don't kn...
A. 4 July 2007: Do you want her to be your friend? Answer that question first before worrying about the trust.
Trust doesn't happen overnight and it will be hard work for her to gain your trust again. But it can be done. You both have to want to work on the frie... (read in full...)
I've been cross dressing on and off now for 30 years but my wife of 4 years doesn't have a clue about it!
Q. I've been happily married for 4 years now but in the last 12 months I've had a very strong urge to cross dress again and have been dressing as often as possible. I've been dressing on and off for almost 30 years now and it's always going to be a ...
A. 4 July 2007: Are you absolutely sure she wont accept it? Are you willing to mess it up with her so you can open up? It's a tough decision hunni. All I can advise is you think really hard about what you want to do. If you really want to tell her then do so. If ... (read in full...)
I am so scared I will lose him forever if I don't keep seeing him, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend, and best friend, of 8 years finished with me and is seeing someone else. I still have deep feelings for him and we see each other regularly as friends. However, it is killing me. I want more than friendship, but he says he cannot ...
A. 4 July 2007: I would stop seeing him for now. You need time to heal sweetie and he should respect that. You don't need to cut off contact with him forever. Just time for you to stop hurting. He can't string you along by telling you he can't offer you more right ... (read in full...)
Can my mum put him in jail when we have had no sexual or really physical contact what so ever???
Q. ok I am 16 years old, I hate guys my age they're too immature... I recently started dating this 20 year old guy and me and him have done nothing but talk but my mom called him up threatening to put him in jail for just talking to me...the funny ...
A. 4 July 2007: No she can't. Your mum can only get a guy of 20 put in jail for having intercourse with you i think. Not 100% sure on oral, but if you are having NO sexual contact what so ever then she can't put him away.
If your mum was ok with the last 20 year ... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 3 July 2007: I agree with eddie- ally for what?
Yes it might be handy having her on your side WHEN and IF you start dating this guy. But this guy isn't going to thank his mum for butting in to his relationship with his current girlfriend.
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I'm hearing stories about him and I don't know what to believe
Q. Hi, I really need to know what i should do.I'm in a 9 month relationship with a guy that is older than me.I have done the last hing for him. At first my parents didnt approve of our relationship (our families had a fall out) and i ran away from home ...
A. 3 July 2007: You can't make this guy tell you the truth. It's down to you whether or not you believe what he says. If you truly think he's still lying then you need to seriously think about how much respect for you this guy really has.
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I'm hearing stories about him and I don't know what to believe
Q. Hi, I really need to know what i should do.I'm in a 9 month relationship with a guy that is older than me.I have done the last hing for him. At first my parents didnt approve of our relationship (our families had a fall out) and i ran away from home ...
A. 3 July 2007: If they are just rumours ignore them. If there are things that your guy is doing or not doing that have got your worried then quiz him. Like if he starts spending a lot of time away from you, doesn't pick up your calls more than once. Stuff like ... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 2 July 2007: As you have said you wont do anything while he's with his girlfriend. All you can really do is be a friend and sit back and wait. Maybe drop suttle hints to him you like him :)
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I believe his exs are more pretty than me and I'm jealous! Does he really love me?
Q. i have a bf from 2 months i love him so much but iam very jealous from his old girlfriends i think they look more beautiful than me and much richer than me i dont know what i do i want to know if he really loves me?????...
A. 2 July 2007: I agree with flowergirl- If he didn't want to be with you he wouldn't.
Talk to him about how you feel. I worry my partner thinks of his ex but then I shake my head and push that thought from my mind as he wouldn't be here with me and having a... (read in full...)
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