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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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I have this very strange problem - well it's hard for me to eat in front of people most of the time.
Q. I have this very strange problem - well it's hard for me to eat in front of people most of the time. Like I can eat in front of my mom and family members and at restaurants, but I'm kinda scared to eat in front of my boyfriend even though I've done ...
A. 24 July 2007: You're welcome :)
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How can I sort out my situation, it's a mess.
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. When we first start dating he would flirt, cyberchat with other girls, while still dating me. He dumped me once three months after being with me and we got back together a month...
A. 20 July 2007: Talk to him again and explain that you feel he's taking advantage and why you think he is. You can't go on with these feelings and its either you try to sort them out or you move on and find someone else.
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Shes 14, I am 16. Is it ok to date her?
Q. a girl i like said she would go out with me if i ever asked her out but she knows i wouldn't because she's 14 and i'm 16. So is she too young for me? She flirts and talks alot to me and tells me she loves me. ...
A. 16 July 2007: That's cool then hunni. Could I make a little suggeation. How about talking to her parents about you and her dating and explain the no sex.
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She cheated on me and got pregnant; I don't want to raise another child that isn't my own
Q. Plz help, I've been in this relationship for 5 years, my girlfriend already has a son, that I'm practically raising. We don't live together. Anyway she cheated on me and got pregnant, she was gonna have a abortion, but the docs said it could be ...
A. 15 July 2007: I agree with Frank- this girl is treating you poorly.
How many abortions has she had already? It seems that she has no quim about sex and getting pregnant.
If you really can't see yourself being happy raising her children then walk away from h... (read in full...)
I have lost my sex drive with this pregnancy
Q. I have been having this ongoing issue with my fiancee... we've been together a little over a year, just recently engaged and recently pregnant. The pregnancy was a surprise, but we're both happy about it. Now, what is happening is that our sex life ...
A. 15 July 2007: Heya hunni,
I am 6 months pregnant right now and I am NEVER in the mood for sex. I feel guilty half the time because I feel I am being unfair on my partner. My midwife says it's completely normal for your sex drive to drop.
To begin with me an... (read in full...)
I got my period but could I still be pregnant?
Q. basicly i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend the day before my period. he came earlier so i guess there was sperm in the pre cum but i was really drunk and i didnt think much about that. ... anyway we had unprotected sex, he didnt actually cum ...
A. 15 July 2007: I kind of agree with flowergirl here. Get tested and find out for sure. It'll set your mind at rest rather then us all making a guess for you :)
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Am I ill or pregnant?
Q. okay i have been really tired the past 4 days and havnt wanted to eat anything. i have felt like i wanted to throw up and my stomach hurts. these are some signs of being pregnant. im kindof scared im pregnant but i have never had sex. i fool around ...
A. 15 July 2007: Heya hunni,
Go see your doctor who will test you and can also give you advice on what to do next :)
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Is it normal for a period to be late after starting on the pill?
Q. i started the pill at the beginning of this week as this was the week my doctor highlighted in my planner. i was due to get my period about the 10th/11th of this week and now its like 2-3 days later and there is no sign of it at all. is this normal ...
A. 15 July 2007: The pill can mess up your period. Give it some time to begin to work properly and if you don't feel happy go see your doctor.
I was on the pill you took for so many days then had a week off where I would bleed. There are many different pills.
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I've been on the pill for 2 years, and came off the pill on the 8th May for me and my partner to try for a baby...
Q. I've been on the pill for 2 years, and came off the pill on the 8th May for me and my partner to try for a baby. This is my period at the moment Came off the pill 8th May Period Started 11th May - 14th May Next period 13th May - 17th Ma...
A. 15 July 2007: Try a pregnancy test and see what that says.
Remember you body has been in a routine when you were on the pill so it may take a little while for your body to sort itself out now you are off the pill.
If you are really concerned go and... (read in full...)
He is now saying that he wants to have babies with me and to be honest I do want his children but will it make things worse than they are?
Q. My ex boyfriend says that he wants to work things out after he had found out that I cheated on him, I'm happy that he wants to take me back but how do I handle him being nice to me one minute and nasty the next? He is now saying that he wants to ...
A. 15 July 2007: He has to stop being nasty to you. If he can't handle the emotions that came with you cheating then he shouldn't have got back with you. It'll take time for you both to get over what happened and for the trust to come back in to your relationship ... (read in full...)
I think I'm falling for him again........
Q. hi I was in love with a guy who's 5 years older than I am for 2 years... he's my neighbor and our parents are like best friends... he knows I liked him but he never told me what I meant to him. Anyway, he travelled on business 3 months ago it was ...
A. 15 July 2007: Heya,
That's a toughie. At times we all wish we could switch our feelings off. If he's going away again then I would ride out his stay and then get on with your life again and hope that if he comes back again you will have moved on properly... (read in full...)
How do I know if my online friend likes me?
Q. how do i know if the girl i like likes me back. o ya, im in california and shes in michigan so we only talk online now but we met face to face. it makes it really difficult. she just broke up with her boyfriend....
A. 15 July 2007: Heya
It's a little hard to tell how someone feels online unless they tell you directly. Seen as she has just split up with her boyfriend be there for her as a mate and see how it goes. Or you could tell her you like her and see what she says :) ... (read in full...)
I met a boy on the internet and we want to meet but I have low self esteem
Q. hi ive just met this bloke hes 12 yrs younger than me . i met him on the nett, we really like each other and want to meet up. my only problem is i have no selfconfidence in my body. ie my small boobs. am i just being silly....
A. 15 July 2007: They can do. I live 80-odd miles from my guy at the moment, which isn't as far as yours but he works full time and I'm 6 months pregnant.
It takes a lot of trust and communication for a long distance relationship to work, especially if one of y... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell us how to make me have an orgasm?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been intimate for 11 months now and i have not yet received the pleasure of having a orgasm. We have tried many different things and yet it has not happened. We were wondering if anyone could give us any suggestions on a...
A. 15 July 2007: You and your guy need to play around a little more. If you really don't feel like you are getting anything out of sex then why not try seeing a doctor just to check things are ok.
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Is is ok for a 17 year old male to have sex with a 20 year old female?
Q. Is ok if a 20yr(My Girl) and a 17yr old(Me) date and there is sex involved???...
A. 15 July 2007: It depends on where you are in the States, as it can vary what the age for sex is over there. Look up on the internet what the age for legal sex is in your state.
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Shes 14, I am 16. Is it ok to date her?
Q. a girl i like said she would go out with me if i ever asked her out but she knows i wouldn't because she's 14 and i'm 16. So is she too young for me? She flirts and talks alot to me and tells me she loves me. ...
A. 15 July 2007: Yeah it is ok to date her but you would be breaking the law if sexual things take place as it wouldn't be legal.
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How can I put the spark back into our relationship?
Q. What do should I do? I'm in a relationship where my fiance is very faithful but we haven't had sex in 4 months and she said it's due to her depression that she said is on her own? She is now taking anit-depressants but I want to bring the spark ...
A. 14 July 2007: Cook her a romantic dinner, just the two of you with candles and music and take things from there. If you can't cook get a romantic take out. Don't just pounce on her though. Gently initiate sex and see if she goes for it.
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I don't want to let her go, what can I do?
Q. I'm in love with an older woman who has a boyfriend, I need some advice on what to do, I know she loves me because we have spend magical moments together, but she doesn't know what to do, they have been together over 7 years and they live together, ...
A. 14 July 2007: I think you may have to let her go. The fact you have shared "magical moments" and is still with her partner shows maybe she doesn't want to give her relationship up.
You need to talk to her and tell her what you want. If she doesn't want to leave... (read in full...)
I have this very strange problem - well it's hard for me to eat in front of people most of the time.
Q. I have this very strange problem - well it's hard for me to eat in front of people most of the time. Like I can eat in front of my mom and family members and at restaurants, but I'm kinda scared to eat in front of my boyfriend even though I've done ...
A. 14 July 2007: What is it about eating in front of other people that scares you? Try and think about that and then see if you can beat that fear. Maybe talking to a doctor could help?
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my boyfriend likes for me to give him a handjob while I sit on his lap and kiss him.. and I got the moving up and down part pretty good, but how can I make the hand job better?
Q. ok, my boyfriend likes for me to give him a handjob while I sit on his lap and kiss him.. and I got the moving up and down part pretty good, but how can I make the hand job better... are there certain things I can do?.. and please dont think I'm ...
A. 14 July 2007: Try moving your fand slower or faster, make your grip looser or slightly tighter. Run nails GENTLY up and down. Run your finger tip round his head. Generally just play about and stroke it :)
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When I go to second base with my girlfriend, she is really rough, and I have found that my foreskin has loosened...
Q. When I go to second base with my girlfriend, she is really rough, and I have found that my foreskin has loosened, is there anything I can do to fix this? Scott...
A. 14 July 2007: I'm going to sound really sad but what is second base these days? I'm going to take a stab and say you're girlfriend is rough when she gives you a hand job.
Talk to your girlfriend and ask her to maybe not be so rough. And I would go see your doc... (read in full...)
He wrote his phone number on the check but hasn't answered my texts... why?
Q. I am a waitress at a restaurant, and I recently had a customer that I was pretty attracted to. We got along well, and when he left, he wrote his number on the check. a few days later, I decided to text message him, but he was working at the time. He ...
A. 14 July 2007: I think you are right in not approaching him again. You got in contact with him and showed you were interested and he has obviously changed his mind. I would move on and try to forget the guy. He may be playing it cool and waiting to respond but you ... (read in full...)
I am 16 and I have never had an orgasm.
Q. Dear cupid, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, and have been sexually active for about 9 months. I am 16 and I have never had an orgasm. I feel left out because it seems I will never have one. I don't know if it is just because ...
A. 14 July 2007: You WILL have one. You and your guy need to find a way to get you to orgasm. The "good feeling" you are getting is you getting more and more aroused. Try experimenting with yourself one night in bed. It's the best way to find out what you like and ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and I think I'm in love with a woman who is 40, she is married and also happens to be my friend's mum.
Q. I'm 19 and I think I'm in love with a woman who is 40, she is married and also happens to be my friend's mum. Also to make matters worse I work with her. She is always telling me very personal things about her married life, and I get the impression ...
A. 14 July 2007: It is probably a good thing she is leaving. She's too old for you, your mum's mate and she's married. We all at somepoint fall for someone who is already taken or something.
Try to move on and find someone single and maybe a little younger ... (read in full...)
My husband has told me I should have sex with other men!!!
Q. My husband has told me I should have sex with other men. I've told him no way, that would be cheating and it would damage our relationship. I'm 24 and he's 26. I asked him why he wants me to do this, and he said he's lost his sex drive and ...
A. 14 July 2007: I think you still do love him, you just don't "get" where this has come from. Tell him you don't want any other men. Can you cope with your husband and a low sex drive?
Your guy is feeling inadequet as a man due to his sex drive dropping and prob... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong of me to ask him for my gifts back?
Q. My ex and I got back together a few months ago but I have recently discovered that he never finished things properly with his girlfriend. He used the excuse that his family were upset about him finishing with her to keep things quiet with me and we ...
A. 14 July 2007: Heya hun,
This guy sounds like a right user. You can give asking him a go but do you think he will give them to you? And also how do you think it'll come back on you? Before my ex I would have told you to go in all guns blazing and squeeze ... (read in full...)
Why is he with someone else?
Q. My ex and I broke up 3 months ago. We were together a long time and were very close. We have known each other as friends for even longer. His reason was that we had just grown apart (although I still don't think we had). I recently found out that he ...
A. 14 July 2007: You need to tell this guy that you will not commit to anything with him before he ends the relationship he's in and see what he does. If he doesn't end things then stop contact with him and get on with your life.
I agree with the lady below- a... (read in full...)
I want to take things to the next stage with him and have sex.. but, I'm a virgin...
Q. Hey. I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He's soo gentlemanly and that's one of the many things I like about him. He can be quite shy and he always waits for me to make the first move and kiss him first. I want to take things to the ...
A. 14 July 2007: I think you should sit down and tell him that you are a virgin and that you are ready to take things with him up a level. He'll know then to be a little bit more gentle with you first time, and that you wont know what you are doing due to it being ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago under the pretence that she just couldn't be in a relationship at the moment as it was too much pressure...
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago under the pretence that she just couldn't be in a relationship at the moment as it was too much pressure and she was feeling mentally screwed up in a way that prevented her doing so. We argued about it ...
A. 14 July 2007: There isn't anything you can do about them dating sweetie. As horrible as the situation seems all you can do is grin and bear it really. I would back away from them now really and get yourself sorted out and over the girl. Then you can move on and ... (read in full...)
I would like to have much wider and complete sex experiences with her, one which involves much more than penetration
Q. I am going out with this girl with whom sex is great, however she doesn't like me going down on her. She says it is nothing she has never enjoyed with me or anyone else. I, on the other side, take much pride in my cunnilingus skills and I have been ...
A. 14 July 2007: Ask her what it is about a guy going down on her she doesn't enjoy. Maybe in the past the guy/s haven't done things quite right to get her off. Maybe they didn't like doing it so she felt she had to not like it too.
Explain you quite like doing it... (read in full...)
How can you tell if he likes you back?
Q. I have recently discovered that I fancy a boy I have known for three years. I thought that he liked me, but now I'm not too sure. One day he'll talk to me for ages and we'll get on really well, then another day he might completely ignore me. I want ...
A. 14 July 2007: Heya
Common things are he'll watch you, he'll want to talk to you more than other girls.
Try flirting with him a little and see how he reacts, or if you feel a little more confident then ask him to the movies or for a coke or something.
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He feels bad he doesn't work so he won't get back together with me. What should I do?
Q. hi.i really need your help. there is this guy that i have been with for three months but now we broke up , because he kissed another girl and because he has just not matured enough,but i am head over heels for this guy and i think he is the one. i ...
A. 14 July 2007: I suggest you talk to him. Nobody knows how he's feeling better than him.
Is it really a problem to you that you work and he isn't at the moment? Explain how you feel about this to him.
I agree with O Connor that some people deserve a second... (read in full...)
I slept with him and now I'm confused, what shall I do??
Q. I have cheated on my partner of 3 years. I was raped 4 years ago and me and my partner have been through a lot. I'm 24 years old and when I was 18 I fell in love with someone, the thing was he was married at time now divorced since 3 years so we ...
A. 14 July 2007: I agree with the answer below. The fact that you have slept with the guy has runined what you have with your partner, and this guy already.
I would end things with your partner and see how you feel as there was obviously something wrong in the r... (read in full...)
How can I sort out my situation, it's a mess.
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. When we first start dating he would flirt, cyberchat with other girls, while still dating me. He dumped me once three months after being with me and we got back together a month...
A. 14 July 2007: Heya hunni.
He seems to be having the best of both worlds- you the doting girlfriend at home and his online "friends". It doesn't sound like a very fair relationship to me, and I think you are feeling that too. He cannot blackmail you in to not e... (read in full...)
What is this spot and is it dangerous?
Q. well hey, my question may seem a bit gross but I need to find out about it. I have this spot, it's down there, and it is soo horrid. It has been there for about a month now and it just gets bigger and bigger. I never gets spots on my face or ...
A. 14 July 2007: Heya
I would suggest you going and getting the spot checked out just incase it could be something that really isn't supposed to be there. The doctor may also be able to help if it is just a normal spot, but from the sound of it there is somethin... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago under the pretence that she just couldn't be in a relationship at the moment as it was too much pressure...
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago under the pretence that she just couldn't be in a relationship at the moment as it was too much pressure and she was feeling mentally screwed up in a way that prevented her doing so. We argued about it ...
A. 14 July 2007: Heya :)
This a a horrible thing for the girl to have done. It sounds to me she lied to you to get with him. The bitching and the quietness play a big factor in that. Will what you say to your mate play a part in whether they get together or not? ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong in looking for sex through a website?
Q. Anyone else done joined a site like this? I've just joint a adult site purely for meet up's for sex, I'm quite embarrassed about it as I am quite a good looking girl but I don't hardly go out due to most of my mates not being single, I've had...
A. 14 July 2007: If that is what you are looking for then I don't see any harm in signing up to a website purely for sex. All I would say is be very careful when meeting people. :)
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I need reassurance that I won't lose this baby!
Q. ok so my 1st and 2nd profile name wuz batman and batman2 but something happend and I had to make a new profile!!! I'm almost 3 months pregnant and I'm really happy but I know a girl, she's like 16 or 17 and she said that she was like 2 or 3 mont...
A. 14 July 2007: Oh wow hunni.
Congrats :D
I'm expecting a girl too :D
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I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 7 July 2007: Alright :)
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Is age really that important?
Q. If you fall in love with someone older than you about 7 yrs older and they're married with a baby but her and her man are seperated and we both like each other...is age really that important ...
A. 7 July 2007: I don't think it is in your case. Do you really want to be with this person, and think you could be happy? Then don't worry about the age gap!
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If he loves me like he says he does, why can't my boyfriend stop calling his ex?
Q. dear friend. I have been with my boyfriend nearly a year and a half. Not long I know, but my longest one yet. My boyfriend and his ex girlfriend text each other. He says he loves me and has no feelings for her, so why can't he just stop ringing ...
A. 7 July 2007: Talk to him about how you feel. They may just be friends but if it really upsets you then bring it up with your guy.
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I'm 17 years old, and I just don't get turned on by men. Am I a lesbian?
Q. Ok I'm Not Sure How To Put This, But I'm Sure I Need Advice. I Feel I Cant Go To My Friends So Here Goes. I Think I'm A Lesbian For The Simple Reason Males Dont Seem To Turn Me On. I'm 17 Years Old. I'm Worried People Won't Accept Me For Who I Am...
A. 7 July 2007: You may not have met a male yet the wets you appetite. That doesn't make you a lesbian darling. You are only young, so enjoy life and someone will come along that you do find attractive.
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I am a fulltime carer, how can I manitain my relationship of 6 years with my boyfriend? we are growing a part each day?
Q. I am a fulltime carer, how can I manitain my relationship of 6 years with my boyfriend? we are growing a part each day? ...
A. 7 July 2007: Try to make time for each other. Like having dinner together... or sitting and watching a movie together.
Sit down and chat with your guy about how you feel and see if you can both reach out to each other and pull yourselves back together... (read in full...)
I need reassurance that I won't lose this baby!
Q. ok so my 1st and 2nd profile name wuz batman and batman2 but something happend and I had to make a new profile!!! I'm almost 3 months pregnant and I'm really happy but I know a girl, she's like 16 or 17 and she said that she was like 2 or 3 mont...
A. 5 July 2007: Hunni unfortunetly at times things can go wrong with a baby when its inside you. It's harsh but just one of those things.
They say once you hit the 12 week mark you are safe. I am 5 months pregnant and I do get moments of panic now and then bab... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 5 July 2007: Ok. So you're not going to interfere. I would also chat to his mum and ask her to stop interfering. It's his life and he won't thank his mum for what she is doing.
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I met a boy on the internet and we want to meet but I have low self esteem
Q. hi ive just met this bloke hes 12 yrs younger than me . i met him on the nett, we really like each other and want to meet up. my only problem is i have no selfconfidence in my body. ie my small boobs. am i just being silly....
A. 4 July 2007: Your very welcome hunni.
Good luck and I hope the meet goes well!
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I met a boy on the internet and we want to meet but I have low self esteem
Q. hi ive just met this bloke hes 12 yrs younger than me . i met him on the nett, we really like each other and want to meet up. my only problem is i have no selfconfidence in my body. ie my small boobs. am i just being silly....
A. 4 July 2007: I don't think you are being silly but if you really want to meet this guy then you need to take a deep breath and send them insecurities away. We all have body hang ups. I hated my small boobs some days too before I was pregnant, now I hate the big ... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 3 July 2007: I agree with eddie- ally for what?
Yes it might be handy having her on your side WHEN and IF you start dating this guy. But this guy isn't going to thank his mum for butting in to his relationship with his current girlfriend.
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I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 2 July 2007: As you have said you wont do anything while he's with his girlfriend. All you can really do is be a friend and sit back and wait. Maybe drop suttle hints to him you like him :)
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