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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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what do I do with my anger at God?
Q. I am 46, my brother is 34. I just found out that my father molested him from age 10-16. I thought I was a grounded christian. Needless to say this has shaken my fundamental belief system to the core. I feel so lost, sorry for my brother, guilty. I ...
A. 21 August 2007: Take your time hunni. There will come a day when you feel you can turn to the bible again.
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It hurts when he puts my legs on his shoulders.
Q. me and my boyfriend have tryed different positions now but when he goes to put my legs on his shoulders and his penis goes in it realy hurts is this ment to happen as i have been told its ment to be really good...
A. 14 August 2007: Just because a position is the best for one person, doesn't mean it's the best for you. Have fun and experiment with different positions and how high you raise your hips and stuff :)
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His mum put me on the pill.
Q. me and my boyfriend have sex quite alot now so his mum put me on the pill but i dont think my mum would like it how could i tell her if i need to tell her ??...
A. 14 August 2007: You're welcome hunni.
Ok your man's mum was sensible for suggesting it to you :)
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Still hurting over his affair and his leaving me and the 2 kids!, Please, I need words to help me cope?
Q. Posted on here few weeks back. It has been 5 months now since I found out about the affair he had with her and our baby is now 10 weeks old. I still can't stop grieving for the loss of my old life and hate the fact that he no longer loves me and is ...
A. 8 August 2007: You will move on in time hun. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Can you ask your doctor for some info on some groups that might help?
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raped pregnant and scared. Help!
Q. im 14 8 months pregnant and i was raped yesterday someone came into my home and hit me and raped me while my family wasnt home could it have harmed my baby?? im afraid to be left alone now.. could it have been planned? does this man know me? h...
A. 7 August 2007: Heya hun.
Telling your dad will be hard and very difficult but as your dad I feel he would want to know and be able to help you.
I'm glad your tests came back ok although I thought you couldn't get results on the spot for STIs and HIV. I had t... (read in full...)
Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: LMAO Dr Pete.
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Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket?
Q. Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket? I didnt take their phone number and im now really gutted? Any ideas would be great!...
A. 6 August 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen- try going back to the supermarket and catching sight of him again. Maybe he goes the same time every week/day?
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raped pregnant and scared. Help!
Q. im 14 8 months pregnant and i was raped yesterday someone came into my home and hit me and raped me while my family wasnt home could it have harmed my baby?? im afraid to be left alone now.. could it have been planned? does this man know me? h...
A. 6 August 2007: First off hunni, don't feel silly for being scared. That is perfectly normal after what you went through.
Secondly as much as it'll hurt your family you need to tell your dad or mum or both what happened. And the police so that this guy can be f... (read in full...)
Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: I had one today and was going to copy and paste it to andrew. I get them alot in my email. They are NOT true and please anybody who gets them DO NOT give out bank details or anything to do with your personal details!
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I done loads of sit ups and now i hurt.
Q. i did 100 situps all in 1 go 2 days ago id never done sit ups before but i want to loose weight so i started the sit ups and did 100 in about 25 mins and now my abdomen is killing me it hurts so much! what have i done??...
A. 6 August 2007: You've pulled a muscle by the sound of it, or just over worked your muscles. Take it easy for a few days, if the pain doesn't go then go see your doctor.
Once you have healed and want to start the situps again start by doing just 10 at a time and... (read in full...)
told people i'm a virgin but now want to have sex with my boyfriend. should i tell him?
Q. im nearly 15 and havnt had sex yet. all my mates have and ive told them that i have to. a few guys have wanted to have sex with me but i have always backed down. im goin out with this dude. i love him and rather loose my virginity to him but he ...
A. 6 August 2007: Why would people knowing your a virgin be such a problem. I can promise you that not ALL of your mates have had sex. Some of them would be doing what you have done and have lied.
You have kind of shot yourself in the foot here. All I can suggest ... (read in full...)
Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?
Q. Hi,im Naoko im 20 years old and when i was 19 i was raped... I just wanna know if im a freak Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?...
A. 6 August 2007: I get what you meant Dr Pete :) Its hard to judge wheter a question is true or not especailly on such little info. If this site had been around when I was having "issues" with what I went through I'm sure if I had posted a question they would ... (read in full...)
His mum put me on the pill.
Q. me and my boyfriend have sex quite alot now so his mum put me on the pill but i dont think my mum would like it how could i tell her if i need to tell her ??...
A. 6 August 2007: Your boyfriends mum has been sensible putting you on the pill. I would sit down with your mum one on one and tell her that you have gone on the pill as you want to keep yourself protected against pregnancy. Your mum may not like the fact you're ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he puts my legs on his shoulders.
Q. me and my boyfriend have tryed different positions now but when he goes to put my legs on his shoulders and his penis goes in it realy hurts is this ment to happen as i have been told its ment to be really good...
A. 6 August 2007: If it hurts ask your guy not to do it again. You dont have to do it just because he likes it ok.
I tend to get an odd stabbing pain in my guy thrusts in too deep so we tend to not go for the deeper penetration positions. I don't think you have any... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with another mans baby, but my husband wants to raise it.
Q. I've been with my husband for 9 years. We have had a rought couple years where he was very withdrawn and neglecting. I started having an affair w/ a co-worker for about 7 months and he left to work out of state. The last night we were intimate , I go...
A. 6 August 2007: You are the only person who can let yourself feel at piece. Tell it to the guy you had an affair with what's what. From the sound of it you want to keep the baby, so tell him you're not having the termination (if that is the case) and tell him to ... (read in full...)
My ex bullied me, cheated on me so bad and has now, convinced me, I am in the wrong! How do I get this out of my head?
Q. this may sound a stupid question but - my ex partner had bullied and harrassed me to leave our joint home and now he has recently bought me out of the property. He has been married twice before and cheated on each of them, and he has done the sam...
A. 6 August 2007: Good for you hunni!
He will die a lonely old man who's hated by any female he put through what he put you through!
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He wants to have a threesome... but i don't. Should i reconsider this in the future or have I done the right thing by saying no?
Q. He wants to have a 3some... but i don't. Me and my boyfriend have being going out only a little while now and we are pretty active but haven'y had sex yet as i am 15. We are both waiting until my birthday in april. I trust my guy with my life as ...
A. 6 August 2007: You're very welcome hunni. I wouldn't get too paranoid about your guy and your friend :)
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Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?
Q. Hi,im Naoko im 20 years old and when i was 19 i was raped... I just wanna know if im a freak Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?...
A. 6 August 2007: I wasn't judging you at all with my response. If you feel you do not agree with peoples responses hun then don't read them again. The whole thing with asking for other people's help is going to bring some advise you don't like I'm afraid.
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I hate sex at the moment, whats wrong with me?
Q. I found out my boyfriend was chatting to some girls on AOL chat, what about or wether it got sexual,lets face it,i will never know. However he went on a couple of seedier sites ect and i had to have a look. And i feel like a weirdo. Not only has...
A. 4 August 2007: I don't blame you for feeling off sex at the moment due to not knowing if your guy is cheating on you or not.
I would sit down and chat to him about what you found and how its made you feel and ask him if he has cheated on you.
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I'm pregnant with another mans baby, but my husband wants to raise it.
Q. I've been with my husband for 9 years. We have had a rought couple years where he was very withdrawn and neglecting. I started having an affair w/ a co-worker for about 7 months and he left to work out of state. The last night we were intimate , I go...
A. 4 August 2007: The "right" thing to do is what you want to do. Your husband is a very special man there and I think you already know that.
He's shown his support if you want to keep the child. The other guy wants rids because it means responsibility. This is ... (read in full...)
He likes to drink too much, and it hurt our relationship. Any advice?
Q. I'd split up with my boyfriend when he was at uni cos all he was interested in doing was getting drunk and treating me 2nd best. We got back 10 months ago after he finished uni and he said he'd changed but after 3/4 months of being good i find he ...
A. 4 August 2007: Yu need to sit down with him and chat about his drinking. There is nothing you can do to help him until he see's he has a problem. I used to drink a lot in my late teens and didn't see it as a problem until somebody pointed out what it would be ... (read in full...)
Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?
Q. Hi,im Naoko im 20 years old and when i was 19 i was raped... I just wanna know if im a freak Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?...
A. 4 August 2007: Hey hunni,
I'm really sorry to hear what you went through. I was abused as a child up until I was 16. Apart of me enjoyed the sexual side of the abuse. I felt like a freak as surely no part of me should have gotten any pleasure from it. When I w... (read in full...)
She's 15 and I'm 13 ... What should I do?
Q. ok... ive bin lukin for this girl for 4 months after a weddin which looked fantastic at. i finally meet her online and realise she is almost 2 yr older than me. what should i do? i mean how long should i wait, should i check she has a boifriend ...
A. 4 August 2007: Why not get to know her as a friend first. Have a laugh with her online, maybe offline. I would be careful telling her about how you feel. She may feel the same but she may also think that at 13 you are a little immature for her.
It could work if ... (read in full...)
how do i know if my boyfriend is just ejaculating or having an orgasm ?
Q. how do i know if my boyfriend is just ejaculating or having an orgasm ?...
A. 4 August 2007: I think with males its the same thing. I might be wrong. My partner says sometimes his "orgasms/cumming" are better then others. If he doesn't orgasm he says he doesn't cum at all.
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is it safe to have anal sex during pregnancy
Q. is it safe to have anal sex during pregnancy?...
A. 4 August 2007: It is perfectly safe but just take things a little more gently :)
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We argue over silly things. How can we stop?
Q. me and my girlfriend argue alot of the smallest things. we really want to make our relationship work and my girlfriend told me if we don't stop arguing then she will leave me. what can i do? thank you...
A. 4 August 2007: You're welcome hun.
Good luck!
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what do I do with my anger at God?
Q. I am 46, my brother is 34. I just found out that my father molested him from age 10-16. I thought I was a grounded christian. Needless to say this has shaken my fundamental belief system to the core. I feel so lost, sorry for my brother, guilty. I ...
A. 4 August 2007: I'm not religious but I'm not exactly a non-believer.
It is harsh and horrible what your brother went through and I don't blame you for feeling all the emotions you are feeling. I was abused as a child and I could live with that (althoug... (read in full...)
do you think that the sex has something 2 do with me not getting my period because i had sex before my first period?
Q. I had sex when i was 13 and i didnt get my period. i am nearly 15 now and i still didnt get my period. do you think that the sex has something 2 do with me not getting my period because i had sex before my first period? ...
A. 4 August 2007: You're very welcome hunni :)
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Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?
Q. Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...
A. 4 August 2007: So you weren't going to go through with it put thought you would waste all our times by posting it up anyway?
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does this mean im pregnant?
Q. I am desprete here... i need help so badly.. im 16 years old. Ive had unportected sex several times over the past two months. my boyfriend NEVER came in me though, i also read that in order for sperm to be in pre cum he must have came earlier ...
A. 4 August 2007: I wouldn't go by your period as making you not pregnant. I feel for that one. I had two periods that were pretty normal when I first fell pregnant hence the "no your lying" comment to my doctor who obviously wasn't lying and I made her test again.
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do you think that the sex has something 2 do with me not getting my period because i had sex before my first period?
Q. I had sex when i was 13 and i didnt get my period. i am nearly 15 now and i still didnt get my period. do you think that the sex has something 2 do with me not getting my period because i had sex before my first period? ...
A. 4 August 2007: I doubt that the fact you haven't started your period has anything to do with the fact you had sex. You may just be a late starter that's all. If you are really worried make an appointment to chat with your doctor. Just beware that you can still ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to have asked for the expensive ring back?
Q. I just bought a $3K ring for my girlfriend and then she announces she is moving out after 10 months. I asked for the ring back and that offended her? Am I wrong to have asked?...
A. 4 August 2007: I don't think you were wrong to ask no. That is a lot of money to have spent on someone in 10 months. Then we do learn from our mistakes. The fact she kept it is a slap in the face for you but there isn't much you can do as you gave it to her as a ... (read in full...)
I told him not to "nut" in me... but he did! And now I'm worried about the baby...
Q. Okay i'm 8 months pergnant and i had sex with my baby father. i told him to take his dick out before he nut. he claim that it felt too good. and he "nut" in me. I was wondering is that dangerous because this is my first baby. and i wondering if that ...
A. 4 August 2007: I woulld have a serious chat with your guy about not listening when you say no. He showed no respect for you or your child.
I am 6 months pregnant and one of the first questions I asked my midwife when I found out was is sex safe. She said its... (read in full...)
We argue over silly things. How can we stop?
Q. me and my girlfriend argue alot of the smallest things. we really want to make our relationship work and my girlfriend told me if we don't stop arguing then she will leave me. what can i do? thank you...
A. 4 August 2007: Knowing when to stop is a good thing. Me and my guy argue over stupid things aswell but we both know when to walk away because it is silly. Either that or one of us starts laughing and that sets the other off. I wouldn't just laugh at your ... (read in full...)
I heard if you try to shave all of your pubic hair, you get cancer. Is it true?
Q. Girls only answer please! I feel really silly asking this, but can I shave my pubic hair? I am an early bloomer and I'm going into middle school where we have to shower in front of each other. I even think I have the biggest breasts besides "heavy" ...
A. 4 August 2007: Just about anything gives you caner these days. As far as I know shaving your pubic hair doesn't give you cancer. I find shaving is more hygenic then not shaving but its down to personal preference.
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I want to wait a bit longer before having sex; what does oral feel like?
Q. I want to have sex but I want to wait a little longer with my boyfriend. I just want to know if I should do oral with him first.He says he has no problem doing it but I don't know if I should let because I don't know what it feels like.Does oral ...
A. 4 August 2007: You're very welcome hun!
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Dated my cousin and now Dad has found out and will be talking to me! What do I tell him?
Q. Hey guys... I had a wonderful relationship with my 1st cousin.. Then after 3 weeks we broke up because we knew people already knew that we we're together... She has been played around by this guy... When my uncles found out they got really pissed...
A. 4 August 2007: Just explain that you didn't force her in to the relationship if you didn't that is. Doesn't sound like you did.
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Should I get my hair done the way I want or listen to my mum?
Q. hi there i am 14 years old and i really want to cut my hair short like how posh spice had it at the end of 2oo6 i asked my mom last night and she said it would not suite me but i think it will she also said that she doesnt trust the hairdresser and ...
A. 4 August 2007: I would ask the hairdresser if that style will suit you. If they say no then it might be time for a rethink. I wanted y hair cut short and my sister who has just qualified as a hair dresser said it wouldn't suit me either. I now have my hair in a ... (read in full...)
I want a divorce but my husband scared me by telling me how angry God will be
Q. I asked my husband for a divorce and he started spewing out a bunch biblical stuff at me, telling me God was going to punish me and my whole life will be cursed after this. He really freaked me out. I don't want to anger God by filing for divorce ...
A. 4 August 2007: I am sure if you are that unhappy then God wont be angry with you at all. It seems to me your husband has only said that to stop you leaving him.
I would sit down and talk to him and tell him you aren't happy and you still want a divorce.... (read in full...)
My ex bullied me, cheated on me so bad and has now, convinced me, I am in the wrong! How do I get this out of my head?
Q. this may sound a stupid question but - my ex partner had bullied and harrassed me to leave our joint home and now he has recently bought me out of the property. He has been married twice before and cheated on each of them, and he has done the sam...
A. 4 August 2007: You have taken the first step and realised that as much as a part of you still may believe you are the one int he wrong a part of you know it isn't true.
An abuser/bullies way of getting away with what they do is to groom their victim in to think... (read in full...)
Still hurting over his affair and his leaving me and the 2 kids!, Please, I need words to help me cope?
Q. Posted on here few weeks back. It has been 5 months now since I found out about the affair he had with her and our baby is now 10 weeks old. I still can't stop grieving for the loss of my old life and hate the fact that he no longer loves me and is ...
A. 4 August 2007: I'm so sorry hun to hear of your pain.
Are there any mum and baby groups where you live that you can join? Just to keep you busy and make new friends and things.
Is there anybody you can talk to about how you are feeling, like your mum or even... (read in full...)
Is there a good chance that I'm pregnant?
Q. okay i had sex 4 weeks ago and well i forgot to take my pill and he didnt wear a condom and i didnt notice i didnt take my pill intill a few days later but i havent thought about it much even thow i did think my sis was prego because i get sick and ...
A. 4 August 2007: No two pregnancies are the same so you can't compare yourself to your sister when it comes to pregnancy symptoms. One woman can have 2 completely different pregnancies with one her throwing up the whole time and the second where she's not sick at ... (read in full...)
I'm still bleeding, should I be worried?
Q. Hi all, I'm 18 years old and on Tuesday night I lost my virginity to my best friend, who I really love. we've told each other we love each other blah blah, and I'm really glad I lost my virginity to him as I could never imagine it being anyone else. ...
A. 4 August 2007: I would leave it over the weekend seen as you said its getting weaker and see how it is sunday night/monday morning. If you are still concerned then go and see your doctor monday.
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I want to wait a bit longer before having sex; what does oral feel like?
Q. I want to have sex but I want to wait a little longer with my boyfriend. I just want to know if I should do oral with him first.He says he has no problem doing it but I don't know if I should let because I don't know what it feels like.Does oral ...
A. 4 August 2007: If done right oral can feel very good and be very fun.
You are your guy should when you decide to have oral sex just "play around" with each other and see what you both like. Sex, especially oral sex is all about learning what turns your partner ... (read in full...)
Is it Ok to drink after getting a tattoo?
Q. is it ok do drink after getting a tatto cause im getting one on saturday and i am suppose to be going out on the ngiht time with the lasses?...
A. 4 August 2007: Its perfectly fine to drink after having a tattoo done if you feel alright. I did after my first one. I did drink before for a bit of dutch courage but I wouldn't recommend it, especially if it is hot and sunny as alcohol dehydrates you.
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I'm a 13 year old male and I love 4 females! What should I do?
Q. Right, im in a confusing situation at the moment. I lik 4 girls.1 is my ex, 1 is an old classmate, 1 is my mums friends daughter and 1 is my foster sister. I am 13, foster sister is 19, ex is 15, classmate is 13 and mums friends daughter is 14. i ...
A. 4 August 2007: You don't love 4 females!
You may be attracted to them but you can't truly love all of them.
All I can suggest to you is you think about which one you like the most and ask her out although I wouldn't ask your foster sister out as yes she is a... (read in full...)
He wants to have a threesome... but i don't. Should i reconsider this in the future or have I done the right thing by saying no?
Q. He wants to have a 3some... but i don't. Me and my boyfriend have being going out only a little while now and we are pretty active but haven'y had sex yet as i am 15. We are both waiting until my birthday in april. I trust my guy with my life as ...
A. 4 August 2007: So he hasn't had sex with you yet but wants someone else in the bed with you both?
If you REALLY don't want a three some then don't do it. You are only 15 and have all the time in the world to have them kind of bedroom games. You need to learn ab... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?
Q. Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...
A. 3 August 2007: How would you feel if you found out your girlfriend was having sex with someone else or was even thinking about it like you are. Yes it's wrong because it's still cheating. If you want sex while your girlfriend is away do the decent thing and ed ... (read in full...)
does this mean im pregnant?
Q. I am desprete here... i need help so badly.. im 16 years old. Ive had unportected sex several times over the past two months. my boyfriend NEVER came in me though, i also read that in order for sperm to be in pre cum he must have came earlier ...
A. 3 August 2007: I don't know what the strict laws are on the amount of sperm in precum but I wouldn't have taken the risk you have especially since your guy has gotten all his past girlfriends pregnant.
I would get yourself tested at your doctors as by the soun... (read in full...)
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