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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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Is there fire with that smoke?
Q. i am 17 and i like this guy he is 19, but he has a girlfriend. we all no she isn't good for him but there is nothing we can do. i don't no whether my feelings for him are love or lust. when we meet we both can't help but smile at each other, when we ...
A. 28 June 2007: Love is a very complicated painful thing, but it can also be one of the most wonderful things in the world. It is hard to understand and know what to do even if you have had a boyfriend in the past as each person is a new experience. We all mess it ... (read in full...)
Raped when I was 12, told the police when I was 15, now having nightmares!!!
Q. Hi. This is going to be long but i have to get it all out.. When i was 12 i went through a rough time. I'm now 16. When i was 12 i was raped, the rapist has never been caught. I only went to the police when i was 15, i was too scared and ashamed ...
A. 27 June 2007: I made a video evidence video because I was just under 16 which was palyed in court.
Keep looking for a psychiatrist. As I said it took me 2 years to find the lady I saw and I felt she was helping me right away.
It does feel strange to begin... (read in full...)
We recently had unprotected first-time sex. Could she be pregnant?
Q. Dear cupid, I am worried that my girlfriend may be pregnant. We had first-time sex recently. We had sex in the shower first, I did not ejaculate. Then, I went to my bedroom and masturbated until I ejaculated. I fell asleep for about 45 minutes...
A. 27 June 2007: Just because you didnt come inside doesn't mean she's definetly not pregnant. There is such a thing as pre-cum and that had sperm in it.
I would buy her a test and set you mind at rest! I had a period my first month of being pregnant. I became v... (read in full...)
Want to give my new gf flowers from our garden, would that make me seem cheap?
Q. Hi, sorry if this is a really odd question. hopefully going to meet my new girlfriend for the day sometime next week, and want to take some flowers for her. Was thinking of taking them from the family garden, which i thought might be nice, but at ...
A. 27 June 2007: Why not pick the flowers from the garden and buy her a card to go with them? And some ribbon to wrap round them? xxxxx... (read in full...)
Raped when I was 12, told the police when I was 15, now having nightmares!!!
Q. Hi. This is going to be long but i have to get it all out.. When i was 12 i went through a rough time. I'm now 16. When i was 12 i was raped, the rapist has never been caught. I only went to the police when i was 15, i was too scared and ashamed ...
A. 27 June 2007: I was abused as a child from ages 9-16. The guy is currently serving a long term in prison.
Whether he was locked up or not wasn't what effected me the most. I had nightmares for a long time. I went and started counselling just so I could ta... (read in full...)
How long does it take for the pill to be effective?
Q. i just got my first order of birth control pills yesterday (yaz) and will start them mid july. im just a little confused about the time it will take for the pill to take full effect and protect against pregnancy??? is it a week, a month, three ...
A. 27 June 2007: A week is what you are usually told but I would wait longer. At the end of January I had a stomach bug and me and my guy used condoms as being sick and diarrhea effects the pill. We used them for a week and then stopped. And now I'm pregnant :D
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I think she's sleeping with the teacher and getting better grades than everyone else....what should I do?
Q. Right how do i put this....well, i think a girl at my school is sleeping with one of the teachers and it isn't in my head. This girl is a layabout she sits around, sleeps and smokes her way through school and makes no effort to do anything, testamen...
A. 27 June 2007: I would seriously think about telling someone about this as it isn't fair that this girl is getting better grades because she is sleeping with the teacher. Plus this teacher is out of order for using her like that. Try talking to the head of the ... (read in full...)
Do you bleed the first time?
Q. I'm a virgin and what i'd like to know is if you definetly bleed the first time you have sex? And also if you bleed still when you've broke your virginity? Thanks...
A. 27 June 2007: Not all girls bleed but most do. xxxxxx... (read in full...)
I am 18 and my girl friend is 14... Is this wrong?
Q. I am 18 and my girl friend is 14... Is this wrong?...
A. 27 June 2007: If you have sex with her then yes it is wrong and you could be arrested for having sex with an underage girl. xxxxxx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to computer games!
Q. My Boyfriend just turned 20 years old. I am going to be 21 in october. We have been together for 7 months and have an apartment together. All he wants to do is play computer games. He says that when he gets home from work he just wants to relax and ...
A. 27 June 2007: My guy likes his computer games too and me and him used to fight over it as I felt second place to his xbox. We had a long chat about it and he decided to cut down on his play time. Some nights he still plays until late but we know do things ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old gay sone likes to look at little boys...
Q. my 16 year old gay son likes to look at little boys, he has never had a sexual encounter with a boy or man, however as his parent I am concerned about this and don't know what to do? ...
A. 27 June 2007: Your son needs to know looking at little boys isn't right. At 16 and being gay he is probably very confused inside his head and doesn't realise that this is wrong. Chat to him about it and explain that he would be better looking at lads his own ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong about being a virgin at 17 ? How can I reduce the tension ?
Q. Dear cupid... im a 16 ( almost 17 ) year old female and i was wondering if there is something wrong with me.. ive been with my boyfriend who is 20 for almost a month and we've started talking about sex witch doesnt bother me except that im ...
A. 27 June 2007: There is nothing wrong with you being a virgin. Have you told your boyfriend this? If you havent do so. You will find he'll be understanding and probably relax a lot of your fears. It's not as scary as you think it's going to be!
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I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 27 June 2007: Me and my guy are well through the honeymoon period but we still do things that remind me of the early love. He'll leave a note saying he loves me on my pillow when he goes to work and things like that!
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Should I worry about having a penis that is 5 inches?
Q. I am 21 year old and my penis size is 5 inches !Should i worry about it ? ...
A. 27 June 2007: You shouldn't worry about it at all!
It's not the size its how you use it!
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Is there fire with that smoke?
Q. i am 17 and i like this guy he is 19, but he has a girlfriend. we all no she isn't good for him but there is nothing we can do. i don't no whether my feelings for him are love or lust. when we meet we both can't help but smile at each other, when we ...
A. 27 June 2007: Tell him you like him. Obviously when the girlfriend isn't around. Don't make a move on him though. Maybe he does like you but isn't sure which is why he's sticking with the girl who's bad for him.
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My guy is taken, but is taken with me, but wants to run back to his fiancee
Q. i have been friends with my boss for three years now. we started seeing eachother 2 months ago and i am madly in love with him. he says he loves me to. but we have a few problems with our relationship. 1) i am only seventeen and he is thirty 2)...
A. 27 June 2007: If he's begging his ex back then he's not planning a future with you is he?! I would drop this guy and move on. Not only because of the age but the fact that he cheated with you, what's to say he wont cheat on you!
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Does he like me more than he likes his girlfriend?
Q. My crush gave me a hickey but he has a gf does this mean he likes me because he was saying stuff like My life is unfair and My feelings are all over the place we were real friendly and all cuddly and close to kissing so does he like me?...
A. 27 June 2007: He's playig you along hunni. I would tell this guy its you or his girlfriend. It isn't fair he's giving you "hickeys" behind her back! You wouldn't like it if you were in her shoes!
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Any fashion tips to help me look older than I am?
Q. i am going on holiday on friday and i was wondering what i should wear to the airport i now this might sound silly .(p.s i want somtihng that will make me look older i am 14 and i am going to menorca....
A. 27 June 2007: Why do you want to look older? Why not enjoy your youth!
Trying to look older then you are could land you in any sort of trouble.
Why not just wear what you feel comfortable in rather then something that isn't you!!!!
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How can I tell if my virgin boyfriend is ready?
Q. Hi. I'm a 15 year old girl. My boyfriend is 17. I've known him since I was 2 months old, and we fell in love when we were just little kids. We've been going steady for about 2 months now, and I feel that I'm completely ready to lose my virginity to ...
A. 27 June 2007: Talk to your boyfriend about it. Explain that you feel ready for sex and see what he says. He may be, then again he might not be.
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Are inter-racial relationships a bad thing?
Q. I am white and i have a black boyfriend is there ANYTHING wrong with that? ...
A. 27 June 2007: There is nothing wrong with that at all. If people are telling you there is then start ignoring them!
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I'm so scared I won't find love again...
Q. im really unhappy - i had to break up with my partner after two years because i couldnt cope with him hurting me anymore. He's cheated, lied, not answered my phone calls, made me feel fat and ugly, ignored me and all other horrible stuff you can do ...
A. 27 June 2007: babe you have been made to feel crappy by a bloke that didn't respect you. You WILL find someone else, maybe not today or tomorrow but you will. For now concentrate on you. Getting some self confidence back. Start going out with friends or having ... (read in full...)
How to cope after a very close death???
Q. Hi Everyone, AskEve here. I just wanted to let everyone know I lost my wonderful partner 2 days ago so won't be on for a bit. He was over in Switzerland on business when he passed away. (I wasn't even with him...) I loved him terribly and now...
A. 27 June 2007: Hey hunni,
I've not spoken to you yet but have read a lot of your posts on here. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I've never lost a partner but I lost my best friend in 2005 and another friend was killed in the bombings in London. I could ... (read in full...)
Why did he tell the person on his phone he was out with his mates when he was in with me?
Q. Im gay and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months. Last night on the phone he told whoever rang him he was out with work mates and not me. He told me it was his mate who was out bowling. Now I'm wondering why he said that and ...
A. 27 June 2007: He may not be cheating. He may not be out the closet to whoever it was on the phone. Ask him and see what he says.
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I am in love with two men. How do I choose?
Q. Love 2 people? I have a boyfriend (Jake), known him for 2 years and a good friend (Tom), known him for 1 year. I am in love with Jake, but during the year I have developed strong feelings for Tom and recently found out that he has feels very highg...
A. 27 June 2007: I would end things with your boyfriend until you decide who you want as it isn't fair on him.
You need to decide who you see a future with.
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How do I make her want to be my girlfriend?
Q. me and my girlfriend were dateing for almost three months, and then we took a break. i still love her very much and really wish to go back out with her. she still loves me too and she even told me that she still loves me, the only problem is she's ...
A. 27 June 2007: You can't make her go back out with you. All you can do is support her. If she's confused about wanting to be in a relationship or single then its probably best for you both to be just friends for now. She may come round to wanting to be with you ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have unprotected sex during your period?
Q. this is so stupid but I have been having protected sex for months now but i wondered if you can have unprotected sex during your period?...
A. 27 June 2007: NO!!!!!
You can fall pregnant at the oddest moments.
I'm pregnant and working it out from my due date I fell pregnant when I was on my period. Ok my due date could be worng but it happened. Use contraception everytime you have sex no matter wh... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend and lost my virginity to another girl!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months. I'm in love with her(even though I haven't told her yet) and I ended up cheating on her with someone else. On top of that I was a virgin before it happened. The girl I was with was a friend of mine, ...
A. 27 June 2007: I agree with Brandi if you truly loved your girlfriend this wouldn't have happened. maybe a kiss but then the thought of your girlfriend would stop you surely?
I would get yourself checked for STIs then seriously think about telling your girlfrie... (read in full...)
He ejaculated on the outside of me. Can I still get pregnant?
Q. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend the other night, and although he didn't ejaculate inside of me...he did on the outside of my vagina. Immediately I took the sheet and wiped all of it off. Is it possible for me to get pregnant anyway? Any help ...
A. 27 June 2007: I would get tested just incase and think about going on the pill. Sperm can find its way inside you so yes there is a risk of you being pregnant.
Go see your doctor and they can test you there and then for free and also put you on the pill :D ... (read in full...)
Update: How do I apologise to my teacher for bullying her?
Q. Hi yet again its me, Im writing about the teacher I bullied again. I was walking down a corridor alone today at lunch time and the teacher was shouting at a pupil for bullying. Suddenly she looked at me turned to the girl n errupted, she sa...
A. 27 June 2007: I agree with flower girl- she sounds like she trying to make you feel worse. But there is no one that can make you feel any worse than yourself. You need to apologise to her. Not only for her sake but yours too. What you did is in the past and ok it ... (read in full...)
Will my crush on my teacher ever go away?
Q. I've posted on here sveral times bout this teacher hu i really fancy! I've been browsin the site and hav been looking into other ppl's posts with a similar problem as me. Anywayz, alot of the the advice seys dat it will pass over in time! I've been ...
A. 27 June 2007: Never mind under 16 is is illegal for a teacher to have a relationship with a student AT ALL!
The fact you are planning on sleeping with him just so you can have satisfaction proves that you are just a child still. If you truly love this bloke yo... (read in full...)
I feel ugly and unsupported
Q. I am very young and i already loathe my body. i am not only pressured by all the skinny people in the media, but by how all the people in my family are thin and gorgous. i think i have a pretty face but fat thighs and stomich, flat chested and i ...
A. 27 June 2007: Hunni at your age to be flat chested isn't a surprise. Give your body time to grow. We all have body hang ups. I hated my body as I was too skinny due to an eating disorder.
Can you talk to your mum or older sister or an adult female you feel clo... (read in full...)
I need to lose weight fast!
Q. How could i lose 10-15 pounds in seven days? I want to look good during a family reunion thats coming up soon. please help!...
A. 27 June 2007: Eat a healthy, and balanced diet! Drink lots of water and do lots of exercise.
Do not stop eating or crash diet as you'll do yourself more damage than its worth!
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It takes him ages to ejaculate. Is there something wrong?
Q. I am not sure whether this is a problem but feel that I need some manly advice on it. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now and when I met him it seemed to take him ages to ejaculate and often he would not do so for sometimes a week or ...
A. 27 June 2007: Why not have a longer foreplay session before having intercourse. My partner went through a stage where he took ages to cum. And I would get bored and sore and then snap at him.
Maybe try some new positions where he gets more friction.
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She says she's not ready for anal, but she did it with her ex!
Q. My gf has done anal sex with her ex bf but will not let me. She says she will but is not ready yet ? She clames to love me unconditionaly and has never ever felt about anyone as she feels about me? I really want to do this with her and have tried a ...
A. 27 June 2007: Anal sex is only bad for a female if you are too rough and don't lube up enough!
Sit down and talk to her about this. Maybe she doen't like it and has a fear that if she's honest you'll argue with her over it or something.
My guy keeps hintin... (read in full...)
I panic and freeze whenever my husband wants sex! What can I do?
Q. my husband and i split up last year for four months, i found the sexual part of the relationship difficult. we got back together, i thought it might be ok, i bleed each time we have intercourse and get pains, now my body goes into a panic at the ...
A. 27 June 2007: Hey sweetie.
I hope the test results come back ok.
Do you think you have gotten in to the habit on tensing up now anytime sex is initiated? Obviously the bleeding is not part of this. I just wondered if you should talk to someone about wh... (read in full...)
He likes me but his ex is one of my mates! I like him too but he's concerned about the ex. What can I do?
Q. hi, Two days ago this guy i really like told me on msn that he liked me but i didn't get the chance to tell him i liked him back. i didn't tell him because after telling me he liked me he said that nothing could happen because his exgirlfr...
A. 27 June 2007: Maybe send him an email explaining that you like him aswell. xxxxx... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her abortion, and admitted to sleeping with another guy. But she wants me to marry her next week!
Q. I have been dating a girl for 2 years and living together with her for 1 year. We were engaged and things were going good for a while. Well she got pregnant about 6 months ago and told me she had a miscarrage. She later tells me she had an ...
A. 27 June 2007: She has lied and played you along. Can you forgive her for that? Can you forgive her for having an abortion, and lying to cover it up?
I'm not sure I could forgive someone for that. Am sitting trying to put myself in your shoes. As much as you l... (read in full...)
27 and about to get married but I've fallen for a 40 year old woman! What can I do?
Q. Hep, I am 27 years old I am about to get married but six months ago I started a new job, I love my job but have fallen for a 40 year old married woman who has two daughters 20 and 21 years old,she is so caring and looks great for her age, she care...
A. 27 June 2007: This shows that maybe your fiance isn't the one for you so maybe before telling this other woman how you feel maybe you should decide whether to stay with your partner or not.
I wouldn't suggest going down the road of cheating as all it leaves i... (read in full...)
The father of my baby tells me I do everything wrong when dealing with her when he's the one not feeding, playing or bathing her!
Q. do i break up with my partner of 3 years and the father to my 6 mth old daughter? b4 the baby was born things were tough he alwsys seems to manage to put me down. Call me stupid and a liar (i am defo not a liar but maybe stupid sometimes, but n...
A. 27 June 2007: Stop listening to your man putting you down. You are worth so much more than that!
Not every woman becomes the perfect mum to their first child straight away. It takes time.
i think you need to drop this guy as he is dragging you down and mak... (read in full...)
I felt like shit because mum and dad were going through rough times so I dumped my girlfriend, I was so depressed, now I want her back as I made a big mistake.
Q. Hi i really really really really need some help well basicly what the story is is that me and my ex girlfriend were going out and everything was fine we both loved each other so much Then my mum and dad started to go through rough times and i fe...
A. 27 June 2007: You may have pushed her too far away now, but why not have one last stab at getting her back and tell the truth. Explain how things are rough at home. You don't have to go in to all the details. Just be prepared for the fact that if she likes others ... (read in full...)
He used to be so controlling, now I think I'm becoming the same way
Q. Boyfriend is going clubbing....i'm stuck at home. I was wondering if someone could give me some advice please. I have been with my bf for about 7 months. He use to be quite controlling and wouldn't let me speak to my mates let alone see them, ...
A. 27 June 2007: First of all you have noticed that you have started acting the same way. After being treated the same way for so long it becomes to easy to become the product of the life around us.
Are you getting counselling too? I was abused as a child and my o... (read in full...)
Will my crush on my teacher ever go away?
Q. I've posted on here sveral times bout this teacher hu i really fancy! I've been browsin the site and hav been looking into other ppl's posts with a similar problem as me. Anywayz, alot of the the advice seys dat it will pass over in time! I've been ...
A. 27 June 2007: It will pass hunni. Although it does feel at the time like it never will. My best mate at school had a huge crush on a rather good looking male PE teacher. I was close to him in a student teacher way as I loved sports. It caused hugs problems ... (read in full...)
I visit prostitutes about once a week and it taking it's toll on me! Any advice?
Q. Hi! I´m a 27 years old guy who has a problem with prostitutes. I have not girlfriend for long time and everytime i feel the need of have sex i go to see prostitutes or i even call them to visit me to my house. I usually have sex with a prost...
A. 27 June 2007: You need to find something to do when you get the urge to call a protetute. Maybe go for a walk or go out for drink instead. You have got in to a habit and you need to break the bond holding you to calling these prostetutes.
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