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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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The guy i am seeing has a pregnant girlfriend, what should i do?
Q. I've been seeing a lad that I've really started to like but he also has a girlfriend but the real problem is she's pregnant now but I started seeing him before we knew this but by that time I really really liked him, it all got too much for me the ...
A. 16 August 2007: You may love this guy but he has a PREGNANT GIRLFRIEND now! I would back away and let them deal with that fact as it is a like changing thing. If he wants to be with you then he can come find you, but to me it sounds like you were just something on ... (read in full...)
At school, people think I'm a geek and no girls fancy me, Any advice?
Q. HI, im 14 and i have curly hair that i hate and makes me look stupid. Also at school loads of people think im a geek and no one has ever fancied me:( all my friends are getting girlfriends and im not, i know im young but plz plz help!!!...
A. 16 August 2007: Congratulations hun.
My advice would of been give it some time and a girl will come along who will fancy you.
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I haven't had my period yet, but could I still become pregnant?
Q. if i had sex when i was 12 before my first period ever can i have a kid? or like a reaction after when i had my first period can i become pregnant even if i did not have sex after that first time when i was 12? and i am 13 and stell did not have my ...
A. 16 August 2007: If your body is making eggs, whether you get your period or not you can fall pregnant. As you wont be able to tell if your body is doing this or not I wouldn't put yourself at the risk as at 12 you are a little to immature to be having sex. Having ... (read in full...)
How much should I shave?
Q. Okay, this question is much more lighthearted than what you normally see on here, and maybe we all need that considering how heavy some of the topics are, but I am serious none the less. My physical therapist wants to tape my knees because th...
A. 16 August 2007: I would say whatever you feel comfortable with shaving off. I agree just your knees would look a little silly, so why not do just your legs.
Are you all over a very hairy person? Would having bald legs for a little while look silly if you have... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is late for her period, please help!
Q. my girlfriend and i started having sex about 4 or 5 months ago. we haven't had any problems and i've always used a condom. but now its been about 6 weeks since her last period and she still hasn't started. I used a condom every time and one never ...
A. 16 August 2007: Periods can be late and mess you about like hell! The more your girlfriend panics the later she'll be. It sucks how that works but it does.
As a female who has never been 100% regular I would advise you both to relax and try not to panic too much... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, we still live together, and I want things back the way they were!
Q. I fell pregnant 6 months ago after me and my ex had "one last" night together, 5 weeks later i discovered i was pregnant. We talk about it and choose to keep the baby, and now the child is due in 3 months. We broke up due to the fact we never saw ...
A. 16 August 2007: Talk to him. Explain you don't know if it is your hormones or true feelings and see how things go. I'm 7 months pregnant hunni, and I know how emotional it can be. I can cry over the simpliest of things like it raining and I mean proper floods of ... (read in full...)
My mate didn't invite me because I'm pregnant. am I over reacting?
Q. A friend of mine is having a bachelorette party in 2 days and I just found out about it. Another friend was supposed to invite everyone. I read a bulletin in Myspace from the girl getting married and it said that she needs a head count for the ...
A. 16 August 2007: I'm pregnant and my mum is getting married tomorrow. I went along to the hen night last week and didn't drink a drop yet had a great time. It wasn't the kind of party where everybody got really really drunk though.
I can kind of see where you are ... (read in full...)
What can I do about his mates?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm 18 years old and starting University in a few weeks. My boyfriend lives in Leeds (England) and I am going to Uni quite far from there, but that isn't a problem for either of us. He's not going to college because he's got other p...
A. 16 August 2007: You can tell his mates to shut their mouths hun if they are saying nasty stuff. Or get your guy to do it.
I had an ex of mine try to cause problems with my current guy. He was telling my partner I did all these things and slept with so many peo... (read in full...)
When will I most likely get pregnant, just before my period or right after?
Q. If I have sex right when my period stops will there be a bigger chance of me getting pregnant even if he wears a condom? When will I most likely get pregnant, just before my period or right after?...
A. 15 August 2007: If your guy wears a condom and its used correctly then you should be highly protected whatever time of the month it is. Don't risk unprotected sex at anytime as you can fall pregnant pretty much anytime of the month. All it takes is one strong ... (read in full...)
If he has a kid then it changes things, why can't he be honest with me?
Q. I'm 20, I had a boyfriend, were still 6 months in the relationship and I've learned to love him... it so happened that one day when we were in his uncle's house, I found something that I was never really sure of..... and it's killing me! I gave ...
A. 15 August 2007: Sit down and chat with him. Ask him why he didn't tell you, and any other things that are going on in your head.
He has a child and that child will always be in his life and if you can't or wont accept that then you shouldn't be with this guy.
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Could the second unprotected intercourse cause me to be pregnant even though it was during a period?
Q. I had unprotected sex and then went and got the morning after pill, and I was due for a period two weeks later and came on that period during more unprotected sex, could the second unprotected intercourse cause me to be pregnant even though it was ...
A. 15 August 2007: You can fall pregnant any time, even during your period.
Get yourself to see your doctor so he/she can test you incase you are pregnant. Also get them to check for STIs and AIDs. Can you guarentee the guy or guys you slept with are clean? ... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to look older...
Q. Hey, I need tips on how to look older, I'm going to be 15 in the next few weeks and I look about ten. It's really annoying. I've got chin length dark brown hair. but I'm rather short in height. Is there any way to look older without slapping...
A. 15 August 2007: I'm 22 hunni and look around 17, or so I get told. It's just one of those things.
Certain hair cuts and clothes can help you look a little older. If I dress up smart/casual I tend to look older. But if I'm having one of my trackie and tshirt d... (read in full...)
I'm on birth control but there was about two days in a row that I didn't take it. Could I get pregnant on those days I didn't take it?
Q. I'm on birth control but there was about two days in a row that I didn't take it. Could I get pregnant on those days I didn't take it and what is the likelihood that I can get pregnant on the pill. I'm always hearing stories about how women got ...
A. 15 August 2007: You have put yourself at risk of falling pregnant for the next wee or so.
I was ill back in January and was told by my doctor when I first went on the pill that if I'm ill then I should use other forms of protection for a week after I'm better a... (read in full...)
I have been having sex with my boyfriend for 5 months now and have not once experienced an orgasm...
Q. dear cupid... I have been having sex with my boyfriend for 5 months now and have not once experienced an orgasm. I'm 16 years of age so I'm not sure if this is normal or not. Please help...
A. 15 August 2007: It is normal hun. It can take a while to find out exactly how things work down there to get you going. You and your boyfriend should experiment doing different things down there and see what happens, but don't panic if you still don't get one ... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex yesterday and lost my virginity...
Q. Had unprotected sex yesterday and lost my virginity... the problem is that I have really irrregular periods, does the 19th day idea still follow with this? I am due on supposedly in a week and a bit. Help please...
A. 14 August 2007: I would get to a doctor or chemist or whatever and get the morning after pill.
If you go to see your doctor and get it you can also ask about going on the pill to help protect from future forgetfullness!
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My ex bf doesn't trust me..and I want to get back together with him! What can I do?
Q. Will my ex bf ever feel the same about me? We were together for nearly 2 years and i honestly beleive he's the person i want to be with forever. I know he loves me but he says that as i went with someone else during a brief split that i thought w...
A. 14 August 2007: So- your guy wont get back with you because you slept with someone when you thought you and him were over for good?! He needs to get over himself hun.
If you had been on a break knowing that you were just having time out or something then fine, I ... (read in full...)
Should I just drop the baby making issue's and go back to the way things were before I wanted a baby?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, 4 of which we have been married. When we first got together we did not want children. He already has a 17 year old son, and had a bad experience when his son was born. Over the last three years I ...
A. 14 August 2007: Good luck hunni :)
Hope things work out!
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It hurts when he puts my legs on his shoulders.
Q. me and my boyfriend have tryed different positions now but when he goes to put my legs on his shoulders and his penis goes in it realy hurts is this ment to happen as i have been told its ment to be really good...
A. 14 August 2007: Just because a position is the best for one person, doesn't mean it's the best for you. Have fun and experiment with different positions and how high you raise your hips and stuff :)
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His mum put me on the pill.
Q. me and my boyfriend have sex quite alot now so his mum put me on the pill but i dont think my mum would like it how could i tell her if i need to tell her ??...
A. 14 August 2007: You're welcome hunni.
Ok your man's mum was sensible for suggesting it to you :)
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Q. Hi everyone After the recent spate of "spammings" I've introduced some anti-spam measures. I don't want to go into them all in detail here but there are numerous systems in place now to help stop, mitigate and allow you to report spam. The...
A. 12 August 2007: Good work!
I've just been reading the post about someone causing a love triangle on this site.
I've been away too long!
Damn summer flu!
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He said that "pulling out" would work but I'm not so sure... ?
Q. Im a freshman at my school and i just met dis guy friend dis past year and i guess were more than friends now because we just had sex without protection but he said "pulling out" would work. But im a little nervous......
A. 12 August 2007: You're welcome hunni!
Dont let your guy push you in to having unprotected sex :)
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Can steroids make you infertile?
Q. My boyfriend has been taking steroids on and off for about a year - he's stopping taking them now. I was wondering what are the chances of him being infertille. Ever since he's been on them I've been constantly worried about his health and our f...
A. 12 August 2007: Steroids and Fertility
Anabolic steroids are derived from the male hormone, testosterone. As a result, use of steroids can have a dramatic affect on both the male and female reproductive system, permanently affecting fertility. In men, steroid ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm ready for sex (or not)?
Q. I don't know if I am ready for sex but I really want to give my boyfriend my virginity he is really nice and cares about me and is only willing to do it if I am ready for it. It will be my first time and he is wanting to make it the best. How will I ...
A. 12 August 2007: You will know in your self if your ready or not. Nerves about the first time are perfectly normal, but if there is any doubt then please tell your boyfriend you don't feel ready just yet. It's best to wait until you are sure you are ready. :)
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Having trouble understanding the whole ovulation process.
Q. Hi, im courtney me and my boyfriend are trying to get pregant and we think i might already be but we are not sure so i took a test at the clinic and it came up negative but the doctor said it would be to soon to tell and now i just started bleeding ...
A. 12 August 2007: Can I ask why you and your boyfriend want a baby so young? Don't you want to "grow up" first as you are both just kids yourselves. Sex at your age is illegal.
You can have you period while pregnant. I had two right at the start. I would go back ... (read in full...)
Should I just drop the baby making issue's and go back to the way things were before I wanted a baby?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, 4 of which we have been married. When we first got together we did not want children. He already has a 17 year old son, and had a bad experience when his son was born. Over the last three years I ...
A. 12 August 2007: I wouldn't just drop the issue hun. I would sit down and have a very serious heart-to-heart with your husband. Find out what his fears are about having more kids. Whatever happened the first time round may not happen again.
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He said that "pulling out" would work but I'm not so sure... ?
Q. Im a freshman at my school and i just met dis guy friend dis past year and i guess were more than friends now because we just had sex without protection but he said "pulling out" would work. But im a little nervous......
A. 12 August 2007: The pulling out method is not the best way to avoid pregnancy as pre-cum contains a small percentage of sperm and it only takes one sperm to get you pregnant. So I would tell him to wear a condom or get yourself on the pill.
Also unprotec... (read in full...)
This may sound silly, but is keeping your undergarments on a safe contraceptive device?
Q. hay, this has been bugging me foe a long time, if u makeout with just your undergarments on, can you get pregent????...
A. 12 August 2007: If a guy is cumming on your knickers then yes you could get pregnant as sperm in tiny enough to get through the threads that make up your knickers. Best way of not getting pregnant is keeping sperm well away from your girly bits :)
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Am i weird?
Q. am i weird? been with my bf for 6 months we have been havind sex for 6 months.. (he is the only guy i have slept with). iv cant seem to come no matter how turned on i am. i cant feel him cumming in me.. i tell him i feel it but never a...
A. 12 August 2007: Hey hun,
For the problem of you not being able to cum, why don't you try masterbation to see if you can find what does get you to that point.
It's not weird that you don't feel your partner cum when he's inside you. If he's thrusting then y... (read in full...)
Should I be having sex this young?
Q. ok well me and my boyfriend jus started goin out and i'm 14 and he is 19 but we were friends forever but now he wants to have sex without using a condom.he says he knows when to pull it out is that possible and should i be haveing sex this young?...
A. 12 August 2007: Ok hunni, sex with you could get him locked up as it is illegal. And also, your body may not be ready for it just yet.
I wouldn't rely on your guy pulling out as this can still get your pregnant and give you infections. I would advise you ask your... (read in full...)
My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace account and is talking about having sex! What do I do here?
Q. My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace and she gave me the password so I can put pictures on it for her. I have been reading her mail and for the second time I have found emails between her and a friend (that stays all night at her house ...
A. 12 August 2007: You're welcome :)
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My friends are being really bitchy and it's driving me mad
Q. Im a teen and im really upset because recantly my friends are being bitches. One keeps snapping at me and saying horrible things. The other slags me off behind my back. Another makes arguments when theres no need to. IM FED UP! what should I do?...
A. 8 August 2007: They aren't your friends hunni. Friends don't treat you like that. I would stop hanging round with these people and try and find some friends who will treat you with the same respect as you treat them.
If they want to be your friend then they nee... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex while pregnant?
Q. Hello everyone :) currently i am in my 2 week wait, and yes it is killing me. I have 6 more days to go to see if my period comes. My husband will be back from a business trip on friday, so we would want to have sex, would it be safe for the implated ...
A. 8 August 2007: If you think you are pregnant I would say that having rough sex wouldn't be wise as it can dislodge the protective seal that closes off where the baby grows.
The seal is there to protect the baby and stop infections getting in so sex whilst p... (read in full...)
Just found out I'm pregnant! Will my wedding dress fit? Is it safe to fly?
Q. do you gain any weight in the first weeks of pregnancy? I'm a little worried as I am due to be married in 5 weeks time and have just found out I am pregnant!! My dress is very fitted and I'm starting to get concerned. I dont 'feel' pregnant yet i've...
A. 8 August 2007: I didn't start to put mass amounts of weight on around my belly until 4 months but I had put quite a bit of weight in my boobs. I am 6 months pregnant by the way.
The best way to find out if you are really safe to fly is to talk to your doctor o... (read in full...)
Still hurting over his affair and his leaving me and the 2 kids!, Please, I need words to help me cope?
Q. Posted on here few weeks back. It has been 5 months now since I found out about the affair he had with her and our baby is now 10 weeks old. I still can't stop grieving for the loss of my old life and hate the fact that he no longer loves me and is ...
A. 8 August 2007: You will move on in time hun. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Can you ask your doctor for some info on some groups that might help?
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I go from wet to dry!
Q. i have a problem where i get really, really wet and aroused during foreplay but then as soon as my boyfriend trys to give me an orgasm i become very dry. it's really embarassing and i just don't know what to do. he thinks i just feel pressured ...
A. 8 August 2007: Have you tried using a lubrication?
Do you feel any pressure? Maybe there is something in your mind that makes your body shut down when a guy goes down there. I'm not trying to make you sound mad or anything. Maybe seeing your doctor and chatting... (read in full...)
Do you have to get rid of chlamydia in order to become pregnant?
Q. i wanted to know if you have chlamydia which is an sti can you still get pregnant or do you have to get rid of it first...
A. 8 August 2007: I would get rid of it first as you don't want to pass it about to your partner while trying to get pregnant. You can fall pregnant with an STI but it makes treating them a little more difficult as you cant have certain medication when you are ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm... is giving birth in the past the cause?
Q. i recently bought a g-spot vibrating dildo and spent alot of time with it and can't seem to find my g-spot. i know i had one years ago but i could only feel it by being on top and also the guy had a curve to his penis and i have never felt this with ...
A. 8 August 2007: I'm sure your g-spot is still there and hasn't decided to leave your body. You may find you have been desensitised a bit. It'll still be there somewhere.
Child birth may have had an affect on certain things down there and it might just take som... (read in full...)
raped pregnant and scared. Help!
Q. im 14 8 months pregnant and i was raped yesterday someone came into my home and hit me and raped me while my family wasnt home could it have harmed my baby?? im afraid to be left alone now.. could it have been planned? does this man know me? h...
A. 7 August 2007: Heya hun.
Telling your dad will be hard and very difficult but as your dad I feel he would want to know and be able to help you.
I'm glad your tests came back ok although I thought you couldn't get results on the spot for STIs and HIV. I had t... (read in full...)
Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: LMAO Dr Pete.
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Can i get him to like me?
Q. how can i get him to like me he is 19 and he works at my work when iam around him he makes me smile and i think he know it, how do i know if he likes me...
A. 6 August 2007: As eyeswideopen said- you can't MAKE someone like you. He will either like you or he won't. Looking at your age bracket 13-15, if this is correct, I think setting your sights on a 19 year old lad could cause trouble. It's a bit of a big age gap for ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket?
Q. Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket? I didnt take their phone number and im now really gutted? Any ideas would be great!...
A. 6 August 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen- try going back to the supermarket and catching sight of him again. Maybe he goes the same time every week/day?
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raped pregnant and scared. Help!
Q. im 14 8 months pregnant and i was raped yesterday someone came into my home and hit me and raped me while my family wasnt home could it have harmed my baby?? im afraid to be left alone now.. could it have been planned? does this man know me? h...
A. 6 August 2007: First off hunni, don't feel silly for being scared. That is perfectly normal after what you went through.
Secondly as much as it'll hurt your family you need to tell your dad or mum or both what happened. And the police so that this guy can be f... (read in full...)
Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: I had one today and was going to copy and paste it to andrew. I get them alot in my email. They are NOT true and please anybody who gets them DO NOT give out bank details or anything to do with your personal details!
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His mum put me on the pill.
Q. me and my boyfriend have sex quite alot now so his mum put me on the pill but i dont think my mum would like it how could i tell her if i need to tell her ??...
A. 6 August 2007: Your boyfriends mum has been sensible putting you on the pill. I would sit down with your mum one on one and tell her that you have gone on the pill as you want to keep yourself protected against pregnancy. Your mum may not like the fact you're ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he puts my legs on his shoulders.
Q. me and my boyfriend have tryed different positions now but when he goes to put my legs on his shoulders and his penis goes in it realy hurts is this ment to happen as i have been told its ment to be really good...
A. 6 August 2007: If it hurts ask your guy not to do it again. You dont have to do it just because he likes it ok.
I tend to get an odd stabbing pain in my guy thrusts in too deep so we tend to not go for the deeper penetration positions. I don't think you have any... (read in full...)
Still hurting over his affair and his leaving me and the 2 kids!, Please, I need words to help me cope?
Q. Posted on here few weeks back. It has been 5 months now since I found out about the affair he had with her and our baby is now 10 weeks old. I still can't stop grieving for the loss of my old life and hate the fact that he no longer loves me and is ...
A. 4 August 2007: I'm so sorry hun to hear of your pain.
Are there any mum and baby groups where you live that you can join? Just to keep you busy and make new friends and things.
Is there anybody you can talk to about how you are feeling, like your mum or even... (read in full...)
My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace account and is talking about having sex! What do I do here?
Q. My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace and she gave me the password so I can put pictures on it for her. I have been reading her mail and for the second time I have found emails between her and a friend (that stays all night at her house ...
A. 29 June 2007: I agree with the girls dad. This isn't something I don't think you can just ignore and do nothing but something that has to be handled delicately. If she knows you are there in a non judgemental, friendly kind of way she way come to you about any ... (read in full...)
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