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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace account and is talking about having sex! What do I do here?
Q. My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace and she gave me the password so I can put pictures on it for her. I have been reading her mail and for the second time I have found emails between her and a friend (that stays all night at her house ...
A. 12 August 2007: You're welcome :)
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He never wants sex anymore.
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been seeing eacth other for 3 years and when we first were together we had sex all the time. Now he dosent want to and when we do it's not diffrent its hte same no forplay nothing it's just take off ur clothes and thats ...
A. 2 July 2007: Sit down and chat with him. Maybe there is something going on in his head, maybe his sex drive has dropped. He could be stressed from work. Talking to him may help.
I'm pregnant and before I found out me and my other half argued a lot because ... (read in full...)
Why is she being like this?
Q. Why is she being like this? My fiance and i are both nearly 30 and have been together for a number of years and live together in our own home. The problem is that his mum appears to have trouble letting go although she still has children at home....
A. 2 July 2007: Can you sit down with her and explain how you feel. Maybe you can come up with a compromise. Like one of you does the cake the other the food then swap?? She may see you as stealing her son away, which sounds quite silly for his and your age but as ... (read in full...)
Update : I don't want anything else but him.
Q. this is in relation to the " i dont want nythin else but him" question i rite earlier on in the week .... one of the advice givers sed dnt b so stupid 2 me. wel id jst lyk 2 let eveyone no that wen i sed i spent the most amaixng night of my life...
A. 2 July 2007: What was the question??????... (read in full...)
I have recently found out that my best friends boyfriend has been cheating on her!
Q. hi i have recently found out that my best friends boyfriend has been cheating on her! My boyfriend was the one who told me (as my friends boyfriend is his mate) but he said if i tell my best friend he will finish with me. i don't think he would ...
A. 2 July 2007: I would want to know too. But does your friend? Your boyfriend is wrong to give you the ultimatum and you may risk loosing him by telling her but what are mates for? Mates are supposed to watch each other's backs while men come and go in to your ... (read in full...)
Do I ask him or just wait?
Q. DO I ask him or just wait? Yep me again lol im a pickle with men at the moment, well not pickle it just seems strange nothing and then they come along like buses lol My current situation is the ex, I think i did post about him, after 9 months a...
A. 2 July 2007: That's life for you. The things about me coming along like buses lol.
Ask him what he wants from you two seeing each other again. You only live once and you don't want to look back and kick yourself for not finding out if there is somethin... (read in full...)
He says he wants to marry me, but he's always on the phone with someone else--help!
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for 9 months. My boyfriend is much older than me and it was with much effort that we are where we are. I have never cheated on him but I suspect that he is having telephonic communication with a girl that was from ...
A. 2 July 2007: It is hard.
It's up to you whether you give him another chance or not. It's very easy for me to say no don't.
My reasons for saying no don't is you have said you don't want to get hurt anymore. This guy has lied to you in the past and broken ... (read in full...)
I have always liked a girl who is now pregnant--should I chase her?
Q. Ok I'm new to this site but I was looking to see what people thought about this situation that has me trippin'. I met this one girl and I always liked her, but we never talked. I never tryed getting with her because she's my friend's little s...
A. 2 July 2007: Will you look back and wish you'd made a move? I think you will. Go for it :)
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I have always liked a girl who is now pregnant--should I chase her?
Q. Ok I'm new to this site but I was looking to see what people thought about this situation that has me trippin'. I met this one girl and I always liked her, but we never talked. I never tryed getting with her because she's my friend's little s...
A. 2 July 2007: Ask her how she feels about you? Then go from there.
Seriously think about the pressure you will be putting on yourself by raising somebody elses child as it isn't easy. If you think you can do it then go for it.
I agree with flowergirl- try ... (read in full...)
I help people as much as I can, but I am not happy--any advice?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 7 months tomorrow and I don't feel happy at all! Since I have been going out with my girlfriend she has cheated on me 3 times and I even caught her giving one of my "friends" a blowjob in a toilet of a discotech. ...
A. 2 July 2007: Hunni this girl cannot care for you if she has cheated on you 3 times in 7 months. I know that sounds harsh but you need to face the facts. And the fact you still think she's cheating....
It's easy for all us outsiders to say walk away and move... (read in full...)
After we broke up, he got close with my sister--now he wants to get back together!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago and now he wants to patch things up but I dont know if I should let him back in my life because he has gotten close with my younger sister and he knows that my sister and I are not on speaking terms ...
A. 2 July 2007: Tell him how you feel. You and you sister should not fall out over a boy at all. Blood is sooooo much thicker than water trust me. If he's been having a "relationship" with your sister do you really want him back? I'm not sure I'd want a guy who'd ... (read in full...)
I caught him with an "old friend"--what does it mean?
Q. OK, bizarre story. Boyfriend of 6 months told me he was going away for the wknd for work. No big deal, I travel for work too. I was driving to a friend's place on the weekend - I see my BOYFRIEND walking with another girl, and her dog. Not hol...
A. 2 July 2007: I would ask him why there has never been any mention of this girl before if she and him are such good friends. It sounds a little dodgy to me and I would start demanding answers. I can understand him wanting to chat about loosing his job but why ... (read in full...)
How can I let go of my feelings?
Q. How can I let go of my feelings? I was caught off guard! My friend with benefits brought his date to the apartment. I knew this was going to happen but not soo soon. I ignore him because I did not know how to react. Today the same treatment but he ...
A. 2 July 2007: I would tell him what's up. Explain that you are a bit put out by him just bringing a date back out you out a little. Maybe next time he can let you know in advance so you can make plans or something
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I can't help making myself look like an idiot.
Q. I liked this boy for ages, I was like in love with him. I slept with him and things didn't work out. After that he started seeing another girl, but she had a boyfriend. He found and stopped seeing her--now she is seeing the boy I like. To get ...
A. 2 July 2007: Don't have sex with someone to get back at her. You'll just make youself look easy and a bit of an idiot.
If the guy really likes you and not her than he will leave her in time. She can't make him stay in a relationship with her. Also if you slee... (read in full...)
It is normal for some skin on my penis to detatch?
Q. hi im a 14 year old male lately a bit of skin has detached from the base of the top of the 'pink' bit of the penis is this usual, or is it suppose to happen later....
A. 2 July 2007: I would go and see a doctor and get it checked out just incase.
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My guy will not tell his parents about us
Q. Hi. My name is Caity and my boyfriend's name is Damien. We are both fifteen and have been going out for 13 months now. The problem is, he won't tell his parents that I exist. When I ask him why he says he doesn't know, or that his father is strict. ...
A. 2 July 2007: Try sitting down and asking why again he wont tell his folks. If he says cause his dad is strict ask him what you think his dad will say or do. Suggest he takes you home to meet his dad one night for dinner xxxxx... (read in full...)
I don't have the courage to ask her out as I feel unattractive
Q. HOw can guys that know that they are unatracticve, build up the courage to tell a girl how he feels about her? I want to tell this girl how ii feel about her, but I am not the best looking guy around. you can say I am one of those kids in highschool ...
A. 2 July 2007: Try and catch the girl on her own and ask her to a movie or something. It's a case of just swallowing your courage down and going for it as you only live once! xxxxx... (read in full...)
My skin is dark from the sun, can I make it lighter?
Q. I have Darkish skin. I don't like it. how can i make it lighter.My real skin color is a bit lighter. I like it but how do i keep it. I live in California so the sun is pretty strong here. I've tried to stay inside and were longs sleeve shirts . ...
A. 2 July 2007: You can't clean a natural tan off you unless you are going to wear all your skin off. I would try using a sunblock with a higher protection like factor 50. Also avoid going on in the sun at the hottest points of the day. Just sit in the shade.
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My friend doesn't make any effort to keep the friendship going--is this normal?
Q. Hi everyone I have a question relating to a friendship. I have been friends with x for 7 years and we have a good friendship, the problem is that she doesnt always seem to want to make the effort to see me and sometimes doesnt bother to answer...
A. 2 July 2007: My best mate from school barely keeps in contact with me. I feel I chase her all the time these days. She never calls or texts or emails me. I do it all. I have backed off now as I'm fed up of doing it all the time. I'm waiting for her to get in ... (read in full...)
He says he wants to marry me, but he's always on the phone with someone else--help!
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for 9 months. My boyfriend is much older than me and it was with much effort that we are where we are. I have never cheated on him but I suspect that he is having telephonic communication with a girl that was from ...
A. 2 July 2007: The fact he has promised you he will stop talking to this girl and hasn't shows you that he has no interest in stopping talking to her. You need to give him an ultimatum- it's her or you. You can't go on being unhappy in a relationship like this. I ... (read in full...)
Is a relationship with a third cousin incestuous?
Q. i am in a relationship with my 3rd cousin, am i incest? if i had a kid would it have a birth defect? also if im pregnant how should i tell our family?...
A. 29 June 2007: I don't know aboout the States but over here you can marry your cousin legally. Its down to you and your 3rd cousin if you see it as incest.
The easiest way to tell your family your pregnant is to sit your mum and dad down first alone and tell the... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for my holiday romance and I?
Q. i fell in love last year when i was on holiday and i was going out with this lad i met, for two month it was a long distance relationship and it was going well till he stoped replying to my txts and phonecalls. one year later i am still not over him ...
A. 29 June 2007: Talk to him about it. He can't just suddenly stop contact and then only get in contact when he wants.
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He says he's not the jealous type but he hates me being around his best mate
Q. My boyfriend's told me that he's no way near the jealous type. Yet, according to my friend, whenever I'm with his best mate on my own talking to him (I don't fancy him), it 'pisses him off'. I know my friend's not lying to me about it, because ...
A. 29 June 2007: Ask him what's his deal about it. he cant say he isn't the jealous type and then show jealous feelings towards you and a male mate and not explain why. There has to be a reason or feeling behind it.
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If a guy loves you and wants to marry you, is it okay to ask that he not go to a woman's house at night?
Q. I have a wonderful guy that still visits a beautiful girl who lives down the street from him once in a while in the evenings. I told him it makes me uncomfortable, and he said they are only friends. I told him, how would I know that. And he said ...
A. 29 June 2007: Don't stop your friendship with this girl. I would have a chat with her about you being uncomfortable with him being there alone. She may agree with where you come from and ask the pair of you to come round.
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Should I go looking or sit back and wait? I need advice on how to win someone I like and know they like me too.
Q. Hi, I haven't had a relationship in a year now. I'm bisexual, and everyone finds me really pretty. People do want to be with me, I heard the people I like, also like me, but they haven't done anything to show or prove to me. I feel really lonely and ...
A. 29 June 2007: Ask the guy you like out for a coffee or dinner. It could be they are shy to.
Getting yourself a boyfriend may not stop you feeling lonely though. It depends where the loneliness is coming from. Sometimes you can be in a room full of people a... (read in full...)
We keep arguing, he clicks his fingers and I run back. What can I do?
Q. Hi guys i have an issue with my boyfriend...weve been together for nearly 2years and well he likes to be in denial about our arguments..but all we do is argue and im sick of it. Its complicated because i can get over things quite quickly because i ...
A. 29 June 2007: You are the only one who can stop running back to him. It'll be hard and you may think of going back. But isn't that taking the easier option rather than walking away from him and being happy.
Stop waiting around for him if it makes you unhappy.... (read in full...)
I have feelings for both girls and boys
Q. Hi, I'm in a real difficult position. I have feelings for both girls and boys, but recently mostly girls. I really like a girl friend, she is bisexual, but she has been hanging out a bit with her ex girlfriend as friends, I really want to be with ...
A. 29 June 2007: If you are quite shy why not ask her out for a quiet drink one night. Or for a coffee. I'm quite shy and was never any good at the making a move thing as I always chickened out :)
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I'm bisexual but I don't know how to pleasure a girl
Q. im a 17 year old girl. recently finding out im bisexual. i really like this girl i have been kissing. she wants me to stay over at her new house next weekend, the thing is. ive never slept with a girl before and im scared i do it wrong and she gets ...
A. 29 June 2007: Just relax and enjoy it. I'm sure you will be able to tell what she likes and what she doesn't :)
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I'm not sure that as I get older I will fancy women my age. I am just not interested in a 'womanly' figure.
Q. I am 21 and I am in a relationship. My girlfriend is 22 but doesnt look her age. since I was 16 I have fancied the same type of girl, skinny, petite, big eyes, small boobs and no hips. This wasn't so bad when I was 16 because most of the girls...
A. 29 June 2007: The fact you would not act on having sex with a 16 year old is a good thing. Maybe you should find someone to talk to about this who ian't going to judge, but that you can open up to.
The fact you don't like a womanly figure is perfectl... (read in full...)
We're going to sell up, move away and start again, opinions on this would be appreciated.
Q. Hi guys, It would be nice to get some opinions on my situation as it is at the moment please. My husband and I were going through some business and financial difficulties early part of last year and it caused us to lose sight of each other. My ...
A. 29 June 2007: Good luck hunni. Some people do deserve second chances.
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He never pulls out before he ejacualtes and I don't want another child right now!
Q. My boyfriend always ejaculates in me, unless I tell him specicfically every time "pull out" And it can be that we have sex and I tell him to pull out, and he does then 5 min. later he is ready again, and if I don't tell him to pull out that time ...
A. 29 June 2007: You can still get an infection whilst pregnant whether the guy cums in you or not.... Did your midwife not tell you that???
Ok disrespect might not be a reason. But you should both disscuss birth control or you will find yourself pregnant again- p... (read in full...)
We're going to sell up, move away and start again, opinions on this would be appreciated.
Q. Hi guys, It would be nice to get some opinions on my situation as it is at the moment please. My husband and I were going through some business and financial difficulties early part of last year and it caused us to lose sight of each other. My ...
A. 29 June 2007: I think moving away and starting afresh is a good thing but make sure you sort any niggles out before you move as you can't run away from problems. They will chase you down where ever you are. You both need to be 100% sure this is what you want and ... (read in full...)
I'm so fed up with my guy right now for not taking any interest in my worries or insecurities
Q. I'm so fed up with my guy right now for not taking any interest in my worries or insecurities, he is entirely blameless for me feeling this way (so he thinks) he won't see anything from my point of view, I was once a cocky confident person, now I'm ...
A. 29 June 2007: Chat to him and tell him that things have to change or you're gone. You sound so unhappy and that isn't fair. If he doesn't change bite the bullet and leave him. You need to be happy and this guy isn't doing that for you!
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I fancied a girl who I'm crazy about for 7 months now!
Q. I fancied a girl who I'm crazy about for 7 months now! I think we were good mates but found out she really fancies my best mate. My best mate has already got girlfriend and hates her. She's used me a lot to get to him, my friend told me everything ...
A. 29 June 2007: Mate I wouldn't go. This girl is using you to get to your mate and it's wrong. You admit she's hurt you so just tell her the date is off.
Don't go for the revenge approach but do talk to her about how she's made you feel. Tell her you think sh... (read in full...)
My vagina sometimes smells bad; is this normal?
Q. I have a rather embarassing problem, I sometimes have a fishy smell coming from my vagina. It's not all the time but occasionally my vagina smells kind of like tuna fish. Is this normal? My boyfriend has not said anything but sometimes I am s...
A. 29 June 2007: You may have thrush or another infection. Go and see your doctor and they can test you. If you don't have an infection you may have to clean down there a little more often then what you are :)
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Should I expect my boyfriend to buy a card/present for my grandchild's christening?
Q. Should I expect my boyfriend to buy a card/present for my grandchild's christening? I did drop a couple of hints as he is unable to attend the ceremony and thought he might do so last time I saw him but he did not and just dismissed it. He is very ...
A. 29 June 2007: Why don't you both go shopping together and put both your names in a card?
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I really care for him and I want to keep him interested and show what a fun person I really am. Please help.
Q. A couple weeks after I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, I hooked up with another guy through a mutual friend of ours. We had a fun night and have since then seen each other quite a few times. Although we kiss and occasionally have sex, we are ...
A. 29 June 2007: If he meant what he said that he didn't mind waiting then just relax and enjoy what is going on. Don't try to be loud and out going if that isn't you just because you think it'll keep this guy interested.
Things for you to do at home? Get a mo... (read in full...)
I have another chance of making a go of it with her.
Q. So I am about to go see this girl that I once kinda had a thing with. We weren't together but we acted like it. She kinda treated me bad and then just stopped talking to me. I was really upset. Then I found out she was moving and somehow we started ...
A. 29 June 2007: Talk to her about it. Explain to her how you feel and how she treat you wasn't very nice. And if you are prepared to give her another chance tell her so but make the point of telling her that you don't want to go through what you went through before ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a male friend to ask me about my sexual past?
Q. Today, on the phone I was talking to my boy friend thad. And we got into a convo about sex. and sex jokes and kissing ect... Well we got to laughing a talking about each other. Well he was like asking me if i ever went all the way. And things like ...
A. 29 June 2007: Yes it is normal to talk about how far you have been sexually in the past. Just be careful of sharing to much detail with each other as it could lead to jealousy.
Your boyfriend is trying to find out if you are a virgin or not which is quite no... (read in full...)
My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace account and is talking about having sex! What do I do here?
Q. My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace and she gave me the password so I can put pictures on it for her. I have been reading her mail and for the second time I have found emails between her and a friend (that stays all night at her house ...
A. 29 June 2007: I agree with the girls dad. This isn't something I don't think you can just ignore and do nothing but something that has to be handled delicately. If she knows you are there in a non judgemental, friendly kind of way she way come to you about any ... (read in full...)
Her period is late but she's not pregnant, what's wrong?
Q. hey... my gf is like a 2 weeks late but her pregnancy test came out negative.. and she told me that she had vaginal spotting days earlier and some brownish to pinkish discharges till this day... whats wrong?...
A. 28 June 2007: The test could have been done too early. Try testing again.
Also if she ia panicking about her period being late then this could play a factor in it being late. See a doctor and get tested there xxxxx... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Video introduction to the site from Andrew, site founder!
Q. Message from Andrew, site founder: (let me know your comments!)...
A. 28 June 2007: Great video :D
I have a strange addiction to this site and it is all The Independents fault! hehe
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He never pulls out before he ejacualtes and I don't want another child right now!
Q. My boyfriend always ejaculates in me, unless I tell him specicfically every time "pull out" And it can be that we have sex and I tell him to pull out, and he does then 5 min. later he is ready again, and if I don't tell him to pull out that time ...
A. 28 June 2007: Love whether this guy pulls out or not you could fall pregnant!!!!!! There is such a thing as pre-cum and if you don't want another child then you need to find a form of protection and not rely on your guy pulling out as that doesn't work!
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Is it normal for a male friend to ask me about my sexual past?
Q. Today, on the phone I was talking to my boy friend thad. And we got into a convo about sex. and sex jokes and kissing ect... Well we got to laughing a talking about each other. Well he was like asking me if i ever went all the way. And things like ...
A. 28 June 2007: It can be between friends. I wouldn't dish to just any of my friends but in my teens I had a male friend and a female friend who I told certain things to. If you feel confortable talking about it then I'd say go for it. Just be careful who you tell. ... (read in full...)
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