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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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We want to meet up so badly, but we're worried of how it'll go.
Q. I met this guy via chatmachine, and we started talking. At first we were just friends, and it stayed that way for about a year. I heard about his girlfriends, and vice versa, but we were never really close. Sometime before christmas, about...
A. 3 September 2007: It is hard hunni. And I hope things work out for you I really do. I have respect for anybody who has a long distance relationship and sticks with it because it is difficult. It can also be wonderful. I wouldn't change the last few years for anything ... (read in full...)
I need reassurance that I won't lose this baby!
Q. ok so my 1st and 2nd profile name wuz batman and batman2 but something happend and I had to make a new profile!!! I'm almost 3 months pregnant and I'm really happy but I know a girl, she's like 16 or 17 and she said that she was like 2 or 3 mont...
A. 14 July 2007: Oh wow hunni.
Congrats :D
I'm expecting a girl too :D
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I am a fulltime carer, how can I manitain my relationship of 6 years with my boyfriend? we are growing a part each day?
Q. I am a fulltime carer, how can I manitain my relationship of 6 years with my boyfriend? we are growing a part each day? ...
A. 7 July 2007: Try to make time for each other. Like having dinner together... or sitting and watching a movie together.
Sit down and chat with your guy about how you feel and see if you can both reach out to each other and pull yourselves back together... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with this guy?
Q. Ok. I'll try and make this quick as I can. Recently I left school and I've been getting a lot closer with a guy I knew vaguely before who lives about 10 minutes away. He's just broken up with his girlfriend of 2 years because she cheated on him. A l...
A. 7 July 2007: I would tell him how you feel but be careful how you do it as I'm sure if he doesn't feel the same you would still want a friendship right?
You only live once and are only 16 so why not go for it!
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She's put me off the relationship with her plans for the future.
Q. ive met a girl online and we have been together for a few months, she is making all these big plans for the future and shes pushed me to a point where i dont want to be with her anymore how do i tell her i dont want to be with her for no reason plz ...
A. 7 July 2007: There is a reason- She's got too heavy making plans for the future and you've decided it's too much too early. Which at your age I don't blame you for. Just end it with her if you don't want to be with her.
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He's 50 and he's reknowned for cheating. Will it be different now?
Q. Is it possible for someone who has cheated on nearly every girlfriend he has had to change and not cheat anymore? He is in his 50's now...
A. 7 July 2007: A cheater never changes its spots!
If he has done it to EVERY girl he has ever been with then I doubt he'll change. Talk to him and see what he says on the matter.
It depends if you are prepared to risk being hurt or not. I'm not sure I would... (read in full...)
How big of an age gap do you think is too big? I'm seeing a guy who's 25 years older.
Q. Just a quick question, How big of an age gap do you think is too big? I am seeing some one 25 years older than me.. is the difference too much?...
A. 7 July 2007: Are you happy?
Is so then why would what I think matter.
The only time I think age gap is an issue is if you were 14 for example and your guy is 25 years older. :)
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After the death of her father she has grown dependent on me. Will these feelings go away?
Q. My girlfriend just lost her father in a car accident very recently and it has changed the way she thinks and feels about me. She has grown very attached and dependent upon me. I just want to know some ways that will help us through this hard time ...
A. 7 July 2007: Be thankful she has pulled you closer and not pushed you away. Her feelings of dependancy may fade IN TIME. She has just lost her father. That's a big deal and will take time to get over. All you can do is be there for her and don't get at her for ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is taller than me and I feel very uncomfortable about it.
Q. Hi. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 4 months now and I love her. However, I have just noticed that she is taller than me. I'm 17 and only about 5'7"ish and I'm really insecure about my height. My girlfriend looks like she is about half an...
A. 7 July 2007: I agree with MistakenForStrangers- if you love this girl why should her height come in to play? Is it because you are worried what others think?
If so then get over it!
That sounds harsh and I'm sorry.
Would you seriously dump her becau... (read in full...)
He doesn't take anyone into consideration but his kids, am I being over-sensitive?
Q. OK I will try to keep this brief! Dating this guy for 10 months. Both of us have been married and both have kids. I have mine full time he has them 1.2 time. In the beginning he used to plan things together but now he seems to run his own life and...
A. 7 July 2007: This guy seems to be there for his kids, which is 100% how it should be but doesn't seem to want yours to be involved.
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. He can't just5 have you- you come with kids too :)
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I'm really confused because he said he doesn't fancy me anymore but today he seemed to act different although he's still not talking to me.
Q. This is really complicated but I'll try explain in as few words as possible. I've just split up with my boyfriend (it wasn't a proper relationship and barely lasted 3 weeks, we are on good terms and are still mates) because I liked my friend of ...
A. 7 July 2007: I agree with so_in_love. Talk to this lad and find out for sure of he doesn't fancy you.
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Does this bloke have a commitment problem or is he just not interested???
Q. I have met this guy who says he likes me, I really like him however meeting up is always a problem as he arranges to come over and then never shows up. He tells me he likes me but rarely texts me in the day just at night. One minute he tells me to ...
A. 7 July 2007: He certainly is playing you along here isn't he. If you want to find out his true intentions then back away from him and let him chase you. If he really wants to be with you he'll stop messing you around. He can't keep not turning up and spoiling ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that she'll cheat on me again. How can I stop feeling paranoid?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year now. She has split with me a few times. She always said she didn't really know whether she wanted to be in a relationship. In February, she convinced me that it really was me she wanted t...
A. 7 July 2007: It takes time for trust to come back in to a relationship and until you have trust the paranoia wont go.
By the sound of it you aren't heppy in the relationship as it is. Chat with her. It sounds like she got back with you so she wasn't alone. T... (read in full...)
We were always friends but I want more. Is now my chance?
Q. I have a friend of 7 years whom I have always had feelings for. She often had boyfriends and i hadn't ever had the confidence to ask her out- as she was a friend and didn't want to spoil that. I had been just about to tell her my feelings, having ...
A. 7 July 2007: Why not ask her if she thinks the dream could actually happen or not. Tell her how you feel about her and see what she says. The "dream" may be a hint to tell you she likes you.
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How can I reduce my sexual desire?
Q. Hi I do not have as many time sex as I desire with my spouse, and I do not like to be disloyal to her. Would you please advise me on how to reduce my sex desire? Thanks...
A. 7 July 2007: I agree with danielpew- I don't think you can reduce your desire. All you can do is try and take your mind off it. Go for a long walk or something. Or read a book.
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I want to find someone else but I want to forget about her. What will help?
Q. I split with my first proper love 5 months ago. I haven't spoken to her for about 3 months. After being with her for 7 months I find myself thinking about her out of the blue and it really brings me down. I broke up with her on the terms that t...
A. 7 July 2007: The only thing you can do is give yourself time. You will meet someone else and forget about your ex. The last time you want to do though is meet someone else and not be over your ex.
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The father is coming on to me but it's the son I want to get closer to.
Q. Hi, I am working in a private firm since past 6 years. I have attained a very good reputation by proving my calibre and dedication towards my work here. I have three strict bosses (father and two sons). Suddenly my boss (father) has started showing ...
A. 7 July 2007: I agree with flowergirl- if things are that uncomfortable with the father then it might not be wise to make a move for the son. It could blow up in your face. You need to get firmer with the father to back off from you. He should not be making you ... (read in full...)
He asked where he would cum and asked if I could lick it off.
Q. Me and my boyfriend were discussing oral sex and then I told him I wasn't really ready for oral but I would give him a hand job, so he asked where he would cum and asked if I could lick it off. Would it taste bitter like everyone says because it's ...
A. 7 July 2007: If you don't feel comfortable doing it then don't. I am a firm believer in trying something once and if you don't like it don't do it again!
Try it and see what you think. Some guys cum is more bitter then others and it can vary in the same guy... (read in full...)
He still talks to his ex-girlfriend.
Q. He still talks to his ex-girlfriend. I know for a fact he hasn't told her that we are together and we've been seriously together for 2 and 1/2 years. I think he still has feelings for her and he still calls her all the time. They talk on the ...
A. 7 July 2007: Talk to him about how this makes you feel and let him decide who he wants. If he loves you then hearing how talking to his ex is making you feel should make him realise that he needs to get on with his life with you. Speaking to her 3 or 4 times a ... (read in full...)
Should I break into his bank account????
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend five weeks ago. I'm just not speaking to him. After an argument I went to his place and left there the cell phone he was paying for me and other things and I have not spoken to him since. He always thinks he is right and ...
A. 7 July 2007: Unfotunetly when couples split up and one lent money to the other there is no legal right of giving it back. My ex borrowed around £400 from me in total but I never saw a penny of it.
I wouldn't suggest breaking in to his account as his could do... (read in full...)
Should I give her time and space to work out both her feelings of stress for that situation and her feelings for me, or should I just leave this situation completely?
Q. Well I started seeing someone I've known for about 6 years now. WE are in a long distance relationship and I know I love her. The problem came when her brother had a heart attack. IT was as if over night she decided that she didn't know what she ...
A. 7 July 2007: Be there to support her. I agree with flowergirl that things like this can make people evaluate their lives. If she wants space give it to her, but let her know if she needs you then you are right there for her.
I wouldn't walk away from her righ... (read in full...)
If I did "cum" then what are the chances of her being pregnant during this time in the menstrual cycle?
Q. Hey, my name's Jack, I have a massive problem. I had a one night stand and I was totally drunk, I wasn't in control and ended up having unprotected sex (I can sorta remember that part), I don't think I "came" but then again I can't remember much of ...
A. 7 July 2007: A little suggestion for next time, don't get so wasted then you might remember to use a condom.
Never mind just her being pregnant what about STIs? I would book in to get yourself tested and try to forget about the pregnancy for now or get the ... (read in full...)
She phoned to tell me she's pregnant. I don't know if she's just saying this to get me back, or if its true.
Q. I have been split up with my girlfriend for 2 month, 2 weeks ago she phoned to tell me she's pregnant. I don't know if she's just saying this to get me back, or if its true. It's doing my head in, coz if she is really pregnant I need to be in my ...
A. 7 July 2007: Heya,
It's not fair for a girl to use pregnancy to get you back, or to play with your emotions. As a supossed "dad to be" you have the right to know if she is lying or not.
Ask to see a scan or to go along to the scan, or to see the baby not... (read in full...)
I have really bad acne! What can I do to solve my problem?
Q. hey guys i'm turning 16 in a few months from now... and i have this acne problem... i have acne all over my torso... which is so embarassing... worst case is at my back, then at upper arm... i'm really annoyed and even embarrassed to swim... can ...
A. 7 July 2007: Heya,
I had bad acne as a teen and I went to see my doctor about it. I was given some medication to take and after a while it really helped :)
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We want to meet up so badly, but we're worried of how it'll go.
Q. I met this guy via chatmachine, and we started talking. At first we were just friends, and it stayed that way for about a year. I heard about his girlfriends, and vice versa, but we were never really close. Sometime before christmas, about...
A. 7 July 2007: I am currently in a long distance relationship and they do work. You just have to work a little harder at it that's all. I met my guy in a chat room and 3 years later we are still happy.
I was petrified when I first met my partner. He came to ... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant; my boyfriend and I are happy but I'm worried about how others may react
Q. Hey guys. My name is Gemma and I am 18 years old. At the minute I am worrying about whether I could be pregnant or not and I don't know what to do. Me and my Boyfriend would love to have a child together and feel ready and committed to have a child ...
A. 7 July 2007: I'm sorry to hear about your dad sweetie. Your boyfriend would have to get a job. I am unemployed and can't find anyone who will take me on. I go for interviews and because my bump is so big, even if I wear something baggy you can see it, they ... (read in full...)
I have a hard time trusting people so does my bf want me or just the sex?
Q. do my boyfriend really cares deeply about and love me. are just wanting to have sex with me? it's hard for me to trust people. what should i Do? ...
A. 6 July 2007: As you are unsure whether he is going to use you for sex or not don't sleep with him for now. Say you aren't ready and see what his reaction is. If he loves you he will wait, if he doesn't then he isn't wirth your time :)
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My boyfriend thinks I'm bisexual and I think he could be right; what if I'm not and he's disappointed?
Q. Hi there ... just wanting some advice. I am deeply in love with the man I am currently with and I hope to be with him long-term.Recently my man suggested that perhaps I might be bi-sexual I dont know if I am or not. I love being with my man but I ...
A. 6 July 2007: It shouldn't matter to your boyfriend whether you are bi or not!! And why does he think your bi if you haven't really thought about it before.
By the sounds of it you are bicurious if you find yourself eyeing other girls up. Don't worry yourself... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I haven't had sex but I'm scared I could be pregnant cause my period is 3 days late.
Q. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex but I'm scared I could be pregnant cause my period is 3 days late. I've heard you can get pregnant from rubbing against each other or even if say some of his semen from giving him a hand job accidently ends up near ...
A. 6 July 2007: It may be too soon for the test to be able to tell you. Wait a few more days then try again Or go see your doctor :)
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Why don't I feel so in love I'm gonna burst ALL the time... ?
Q. Sometimes I feel so in love with my girlfriend I could burst. Other times I feel like I really can't be arsed. I know that I love her and she's just perfect. But I can't help how I feel. Is expecting to feel "bursty" 100% of the time unreal...
A. 6 July 2007: Do you see a future with your girlfriend? Do you want to be with her?
I have times where I cant be "arsed" with my partner and I put it down to being comfortable around him. I don't need to hold his hand or hug him every moment we are together... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant; my boyfriend and I are happy but I'm worried about how others may react
Q. Hey guys. My name is Gemma and I am 18 years old. At the minute I am worrying about whether I could be pregnant or not and I don't know what to do. Me and my Boyfriend would love to have a child together and feel ready and committed to have a child ...
A. 6 July 2007: Heya Gemma :)
The only thing I can really suggest before panicking and worrying yourself sick is get a home test kit or go see your doctor asap. No point in worrying what others will think till you know for sure, right. I make it sound so easy but... (read in full...)
Can you get AIDS from sweat?
Q. Could you get STD,AIDS,HIV from sweat or somebody elses sweat?...
A. 6 July 2007: I'm pretty sure you can't get it through sweat, unless you come in to contact with a VERY large amount, and I mean LARGE, of sweat. It's the same with kissing.
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How long after childbirth does a decreased sex drive last?
Q. How long is a woman's sex drive decreased after giving birth? Prior to pregnancy sex was 1-2x a week, but now it's more like 1-2x a month. Our baby is really good and is not demanding in terms of free time, etc. ...
A. 6 July 2007: Is there a grand parent who can have the baby for a night to give your partner and you complete alone time? I don't know from experience after birth sex drive but I am 5 months pregnant and am hardly ever in the mood.
My sister had a baby last Sep... (read in full...)
How come my answers dont get posted?
Q. hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...
A. 6 July 2007: DearCupid is the site owner :)
Just drop him a message and explain the situation. He's very nice and helpful :D
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I am confused about when to try to have a baby
Q. Ladies I really need help from you. My husband and I are really wanting to have a baby but there is one thing that comes between us, its my period I am very inrregular sometimes I go a year with out it. the doctor put me on loestrin24 fe a birth ...
A. 6 July 2007: I can see where the doctor is going with getting your periods on track. They probably think that if they can regulate your periods the easier you'll fall pregnant.
Good luck hunni!
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How can I forget her, be happy and just move on?
Q. Me and my ex have been dating for about 3 years and she decided that she wanted to be single. Now she has been hanging around one of my friends a little and it's driving me crazy!!!! I just need some advice on how to be happy and move on??...
A. 5 July 2007: There is no easy way to move on from someone you care about especially if you see them often. All you can do is get through each day and in time you will heal and move on :D
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Does my music teacher have a crush on ME?
Q. I think i have fallen in love with my music teacher i absoulutly rubbish at music but he always seems to chooses me i really like him he always trys to stay close to me and all ways flirts with me and i feel safe when i am around him he is really ...
A. 5 July 2007: If it goes any futher than a student/teacher relationship than your music teacher is breaking the law and can losse his job. Tennage crushes on teachers is perfectly normal if you just treat it as one of those things.
I went through it aswell. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him no, I've changed my mind about a 3-some?
Q. My boyfriend is also Bi, so he loves the idea of a threesome. Me on the other hand I'm not a fan. I find it wrong, because when you make love it's a bond between the two of you and a third party just ruins it for me, but lately I thought about it ...
A. 5 July 2007: Tell him how you feel. He should respect you for it. If you don't teel him and a 3 some happens it could ruin what you two have totally. xxxxxxx... (read in full...)
How come my answers dont get posted?
Q. hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...
A. 5 July 2007: So why not take it up with the site owner or the mods as they are the ones who stop things being posted?!
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I need reassurance that I won't lose this baby!
Q. ok so my 1st and 2nd profile name wuz batman and batman2 but something happend and I had to make a new profile!!! I'm almost 3 months pregnant and I'm really happy but I know a girl, she's like 16 or 17 and she said that she was like 2 or 3 mont...
A. 5 July 2007: Hunni unfortunetly at times things can go wrong with a baby when its inside you. It's harsh but just one of those things.
They say once you hit the 12 week mark you are safe. I am 5 months pregnant and I do get moments of panic now and then bab... (read in full...)
Why does my friend always go after the boys I like?
Q. I have this friend and she goes after any boy I like it's not fair, I was going out with a boy and all of a sudden she liked him and now I like a different boy and he likes me but she likes him too and I think he likes her more because they're ...
A. 5 July 2007: This girl isn't a mate if she acts like this all the time. There is no way you and her can fancy the exact same boys every single time!
Don't tell her who you like. Play it clo9se to your chest and ask a guy out before she gets chance to make a p... (read in full...)
I'm worried because my heart pumps really fast! Is this normal?
Q. Recently even now, my heart has been pumping really fast. I don't know what is this caused by. It could be the food I am eating or my nervousness. I am worried about this....
A. 5 July 2007: If I get really nervous my heart always seems to pound louder and faster.
If you are really concerned by this go and see your doctor and get it checked out. It should put your mind at ease :)
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How do I tell my parents I've been lying to them about my girlfriend's age for the last 7 months?
Q. hi, I've known this girl around 2 years now and she's my best mate's sister, we get on really well and we've been going out for 7 months now. She's the first girl I've ever really gelled with but the only problem is shes 15 and I'm 19..... we ...
A. 5 July 2007: Sit them down and tell them. There is no easy way of doing it. Sit your mum and dad down and talk to them and see what they say. They may be angry/upset that you lied to them but you can't blame them for that as you would be the same. Once they know ... (read in full...)
I am confused about when to try to have a baby
Q. Ladies I really need help from you. My husband and I are really wanting to have a baby but there is one thing that comes between us, its my period I am very inrregular sometimes I go a year with out it. the doctor put me on loestrin24 fe a birth ...
A. 5 July 2007: Heya :)
I have had very irregular periodssince I was 10, I was also on the pill and still managed to fall pregnant. It will happen. The more you think about falling pregnant the longer it seems to take. Try and relax and enjoy the sex cause yo... (read in full...)
How come my answers dont get posted?
Q. hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...
A. 5 July 2007: Do you type them as one long sentence and not use spell checker. If you answer is hard to read then they might not get posted as the mods can't read it!
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