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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 7 July 2007: Alright :)
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I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 5 July 2007: Ok. So you're not going to interfere. I would also chat to his mum and ask her to stop interfering. It's his life and he won't thank his mum for what she is doing.
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I'm hearing stories about him and I don't know what to believe
Q. Hi, I really need to know what i should do.I'm in a 9 month relationship with a guy that is older than me.I have done the last hing for him. At first my parents didnt approve of our relationship (our families had a fall out) and i ran away from home ...
A. 5 July 2007: Your welcome and good luck hunni!
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I believe his exs are more pretty than me and I'm jealous! Does he really love me?
Q. i have a bf from 2 months i love him so much but iam very jealous from his old girlfriends i think they look more beautiful than me and much richer than me i dont know what i do i want to know if he really loves me?????...
A. 4 July 2007: Your welcome hunni.
I hope things work out for you.
Drop me a message for a chat sometime :)
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Can my mum put him in jail when we have had no sexual or really physical contact what so ever???
Q. ok I am 16 years old, I hate guys my age they're too immature... I recently started dating this 20 year old guy and me and him have done nothing but talk but my mom called him up threatening to put him in jail for just talking to me...the funny ...
A. 4 July 2007: No she can't. Your mum can only get a guy of 20 put in jail for having intercourse with you i think. Not 100% sure on oral, but if you are having NO sexual contact what so ever then she can't put him away.
If your mum was ok with the last 20 year ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering post-natal depression and afraid I'm going to lose my loved ones because of my moods
Q. Hi, well i'm not too sure where to start.... Last time i wrote i was pregnant now i have a beautiful little boy... Problem!!! I feel like no one understands me. i have been told i suffer from post natal depression, ok so i have support and everyone ...
A. 4 July 2007: Congratulations on the baby sweetheart. I'm sorry to hear you are having such a tough time.
Being a mummy to be this is an issue I may be facing soon to. I have gotten quite depressed at points during my pregnancy and am on medication to help me.... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want me anymore; I can't get over her
Q. hello evrey im 19 single but im in love with sum 1 special. she says she doesnt like me no more iv pushed her away from me. but sayin that we was together for bout a year she knows i love her more than anythin.i told her il put my hands up for ...
A. 3 July 2007: It doesn't matter how much you love her hunni if she doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with you. It's harsh I know and we all go through it.
Relationships sometimes just don't work out. She may not have met someone else but thought the rela... (read in full...)
Until he's ready to date again, how can I put my feelings on the back burner?
Q. Does anyone know how to keep your infatuation with someone you're really falling for at bay? He needs some time to get over his ex before we can date... but I just can't stop thinking about him! Any advice on how I can calm the "butterflies in the ...
A. 3 July 2007: All you can do is try and hide your feelings if that is what you want. It will be hard. There is no way to put them completely at bay. I don't think anyway. If this guy knows how you feel then he shouldn't expect you to be able to completely hide ... (read in full...)
The more I work out, the more I hate my body
Q. I've been working out a lot since the summer started; initially I kept it up because I love how healthy it makes me feel, but now that I've been going so often I feel like I'm having all these body issues (such as noticing "problem areas" like love ...
A. 3 July 2007: I see no harm in working your body hard as long as you aren't doing too much. We all have body issues. Before I feel pregnant I always felt waaaaaay to skinny, hated my nose and my thighs. Although I keep being told there is nothing wrong with them. ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my fears of appearing unintelligent in front of others?
Q. Lately I've been wondering how to overcome my long-time insecurity of feeling not very intelligent/intellectual; I'm almost done with college, I read, I do enjoy learning, but I still feel like people look down on me, or think they're so much ...
A. 3 July 2007: I'm not the cleverest person on this planet by such a long long way. I wish I was at times, especially now I'm going to be a mother but we can only live with what we have right? Or get darn right depressed about it and I don't suggest doing this ... (read in full...)
The least little thing sets him off, what should I do about it?
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for 9 months and lately we haven't been getting on so well and I don't know why because it is all coming from his end. It's become so bad over the last couple of weeks that the other day he just flew off the handle at ...
A. 3 July 2007: Ask him why he thinks what you are saying isn't true. Find out where the lack of trust comes from. Most guys who see a guy chatting their girlfriend up would see red and get angry, but would listen to their girlfriend explain what had gone on. Your ... (read in full...)
He was irritating me so I acted moody; now he is irritated by me
Q. right, ive fancied this boy for 3 years. since year 7 at school. and at the end of year 8 he started to like me back and we kind of had a secret relationship on MSN. we couldnt tell anyone as his friends didnt like me. around 3 months ago (we are ...
A. 3 July 2007: Tit-for-tat very rarely works out and here is a case of that! If he dumps you now then there isn't much you can do about it but try and talk to him. He can't string you along if he doesn't know whether he loves you or not. Apologise for the way you ... (read in full...)
Everything I do seems to be wrong
Q. I dont know what is going on.... Me and my girlfriend have been fighting alot lately over stupid things. she tells me I'm too caring so I show how much I care a little less and then I'm not caring enough. She wants me to more open with my feeling ...
A. 3 July 2007: Stop changing the way things are as you will never win. Like the too open or too caring. If you are being the same now as you have the whole way through your relationship then it's not you with the issue. It's her. Talk to her and ask her what's ... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating is very limited with his affections and time
Q. I have been dating for the past 3 months a 48 yr old very successful male who lives an hour away from me. He has never been married and has no kids, like myself (39yrs). He only wants to get together on his terms; schedule, etc. When we are ...
A. 3 July 2007: Talk to him about it. Has he been hurt badly in the past. Maybe he's scared of getting too heavy too quick. It's a good sign that people know who you are. Ask him why he won't let you go to his place and demand a response.
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She says she wants space, should I break it off?
Q. Hey all, A quick question for ya, my gf and I have been having a bunch of problems lately and we broke up, we both love eachother lots but now she says she needs time think if she wants to be with me, should i take that as a very rude thing to do...
A. 3 July 2007: You're welcome :)
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how can i let my boyfriend be with me forever? He gets angry over the slightest things.
Q. how can i let my boyfriend be with me forever? hey i have a problem my boyfriend get angry from any thing but he really loves me but if i did anything bothers him he break up with me so i come to see him and cry to return to him but he forgives...
A. 3 July 2007: Your welcome hunni. I hope it helped :)
Keep me posted!
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I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 3 July 2007: I agree with eddie- ally for what?
Yes it might be handy having her on your side WHEN and IF you start dating this guy. But this guy isn't going to thank his mum for butting in to his relationship with his current girlfriend.
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I'm hearing stories about him and I don't know what to believe
Q. Hi, I really need to know what i should do.I'm in a 9 month relationship with a guy that is older than me.I have done the last hing for him. At first my parents didnt approve of our relationship (our families had a fall out) and i ran away from home ...
A. 3 July 2007: You can't make this guy tell you the truth. It's down to you whether or not you believe what he says. If you truly think he's still lying then you need to seriously think about how much respect for you this guy really has.
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16 next week and worried my girlfriend wants to have sex... how can I say no gently!?
Q. Hi Me and my girlfreind have been going out for 5 months now and its my 16th birthday next week. I am really worrid that she wants to have sex however I dont. She has been hinting at this for a while and I have been joking it off. how can i turn h...
A. 3 July 2007: Only do what you want to do. You don't have to do anything. There are things you can do that don't involve intercourse- oral sex for example. But make sure you are ready for that aswell. :)
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Should I tell the guy I just slept with I have genital warts?
Q. i was treated for genital warts a few months ago and i recently slept with my ex should i tell him as i think they are comin back...
A. 3 July 2007: Yes I think you should.
You would want him to tell you if he had an infection right?!
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The long distance thing is wrecking me
Q. My bf and I had a long distance relationship for 2 years, but we spent one whole year together. Now, he went away again and we are having this long distance relationship again for the past month. We both agreed that i will be moving in with him ...
A. 3 July 2007: I live at the moment 80 odd miles apart from my guy and at times I can get a little clingy when I'm feeling low and I miss him. You need to keep yourself busy at those times and maybe see about moving in together sooner. Maybe not right now, but in ... (read in full...)
Update: I've caught out my boyfriend who was carrying condoms in his case
Q. I posted a question already about my boyfriend who was carrying condoms in his travel case and I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, play the waiting game and keep an eye on him. Well he was away at a corporate games weekend with his work ...
A. 3 July 2007: I would let your guy know you've caught him out. The woman may think he's a single guy so may have no idea about you so be careful approaching her. But I would defnetly let your guy know you know about this time. As you have no proof about past ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a girl I've known a long time but I don't want to hurt my girlfriend
Q. Hello, I Am in a realationship with my girlfriend for about a year now and i am in love with another girl i have know for over 13 years it is really making me confused i don't want to hurt my girlfriend any suggestions would be amazing thanks in ...
A. 3 July 2007: As much as you dont want to hurt your girlfriend I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship with her. I think you should end things with your girlfriend so that you can a) make yourself available for the girl you say you love and b) as this ... (read in full...)
I'm hearing stories about him and I don't know what to believe
Q. Hi, I really need to know what i should do.I'm in a 9 month relationship with a guy that is older than me.I have done the last hing for him. At first my parents didnt approve of our relationship (our families had a fall out) and i ran away from home ...
A. 3 July 2007: If they are just rumours ignore them. If there are things that your guy is doing or not doing that have got your worried then quiz him. Like if he starts spending a lot of time away from you, doesn't pick up your calls more than once. Stuff like ... (read in full...)
How do I find female friends who will go to the bars with me?
Q. The majority of my friends are male, and of my female friends only one is in my new town with me. I love going to the bars, especially since I'm single and I want to meet new guys. But here's my problem, the one girl doesn't like bars, and when I ...
A. 3 July 2007: If you see a guy you like why not try approaching them. I used to go out with the most over protective group of guys going and they probably saved me from a lot of wasters. I had to approach a guy I li8ked otherwise they wouldn't come near infear of ... (read in full...)
Should I try the doc again?
Q. 2 weeks ago i made an appointment to see an eye doctor. The doctor has not called me back yet to verify the appointment. Seems my eye is getting worse. Should I call the doctor, or wait till he calls me? what should i do?...
A. 2 July 2007: Phone the doctor asap and get the appointment verified over the phone!
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My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend
Q. Ok well my bf cheated on me with my bestfriend not even just once but like 4 times in like a few days and i found out obviously which he is also her ex boyfriend and she cheated on her boyfriend with mine but what do i do its hard for me to be mad ...
A. 2 July 2007: She cant think much of you to do it with your boyfriend not only once but 4 times. If you want to keep her as a friend then fine, but let her know first that she's hurt you and let you down. Then you must forgive and forget for the friendship to ... (read in full...)
She says she wants space, should I break it off?
Q. Hey all, A quick question for ya, my gf and I have been having a bunch of problems lately and we broke up, we both love eachother lots but now she says she needs time think if she wants to be with me, should i take that as a very rude thing to do...
A. 2 July 2007: Don't take it too personal....yet. Tell her that you wont wait around forever for her to decide. It's unfair for her to expect you to.
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Does my crush like me or is he put off by my youth?
Q. I like this guy. I heard that he sort of likes me. My crush does things to be near me and grasp my attention. He even stares at me. I asked him if he has a girlfriend -his response was sort of-, he then asked me if I had a boyfriend and I obviously ...
A. 2 July 2007: He may also be busy with the "sort of" girlfriend he has. I would find out if he is definetly single and then go from there.
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What are the rules on entering the army with bad health?
Q. Hello just after some advise relly the thing is i have been unemployed becoes of medical reassons since june 06 after attempts to get in to the army but to cut a long story short i have been felling relly depressed for the last couple of mounths but ...
A. 2 July 2007: If you have something that is really worrying you then I would go and get it checked out whether it affects the army or not because if they find out you didn't then you might get in to trouble.
I can see where you are coming from though. I don't ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is driving me crazy with her clingy behaviour
Q. My girlfriend is really clingy, and lately it's been doing my head in more than usual. She wants to see me 4-5 times a week... I can't remember the last time I just got a night to myself guilt-free to chill, but she says she can't understand why I ...
A. 2 July 2007: Oh god! I have to have me time! and so does my partner or we would drive each other insane. It's ok at the moment while we don't live together but we are moving in together soon..... anyway.....
If you feel 4-5 days a week is too much with one... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 2 July 2007: As you have said you wont do anything while he's with his girlfriend. All you can really do is be a friend and sit back and wait. Maybe drop suttle hints to him you like him :)
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I've got a boyfriend; should I go on holiday with my male friend who fancies me?
Q. Is it wrong to go on vacation to Europe for two weeks with my best friend, who happens to be a guy with a huge crush on me, when I am just starting to date someone new? I know the new guy I'm seeing gets jealous from time to time, and he knows my ...
A. 2 July 2007: If you don't feel it's right then don't go! Or ask if the guy you're dating wants to come along.
I think you have answered your own problem yourself int hat little post :)
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We forgave each other for cheating but can we still make it?
Q. i`ve been with my current girlfiend for over a year we are going through our roughest time yet she claims shes had sex behind my back a few weeks ago to make matters worse i slept with my ex lst yr she forgave me and i forgave her can we still be a ...
A. 2 July 2007: You can still be a loving couple if you can FORGIVE, FORGET & TRUST each other.
The trust will be the biggest part but if you are both faithful from now on that can be gained in time. I would put the marrying thing off for now and see how things g... (read in full...)
My friend and I both fancy the same man, he's told me he fancies me
Q. A good friend and myself are both interested in the same man, a friend of hers. The chemistry between us (myself and this man)is very strong and he has admitted that he is attracted to me. What is the best thing to do if he asks me out? Obviously I ...
A. 2 July 2007: Sit down and chat with the mate and explain that you and the guy like each other but you don't want to loose her. :)
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My grandmother's presence in the house is suffocating me
Q. My house is a living nightmare my nan is living with us and shes braking up the family, before she moved in i was a happy go lucky girl, now it feels im down in the dumps i want to excape. My nan is always keeping me up all night coughing she ne...
A. 2 July 2007: Can you not sit down and chat with your parents, if you live with them that is as you didn't say. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your aunty.
Your parents need to take in to account you NEED your own space. Your nan either sleeps elsewher... (read in full...)
Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love?
Q. Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love? This is the longer version for those willing to read: While attending the birthday party of my best friend's little brother, I met a two girl...
A. 2 July 2007: I would avoid doing ANYTHING with the 9 year old. That's just like...... well the 14 year old under age so what does that make a 9 year old???? And why have you fallen for a child? She will not have a clue what love is. A 16 year old lad may know ... (read in full...)
She constantly chooses her friend over me.
Q. Me and my girl have been together for a year. But she constantly chooses her friend over me. Often she cancels with me at the last second to hang with her. She will tell me to come pic her up, then right before I get there she comes up with a reason ...
A. 2 July 2007: If you have told her this is her last chance you should follow it through. You need to make her understand how angry and upset she is making you. It may be hard to walk away but can you really carry on like this??
I do believe in second chances-... (read in full...)
We broke up after four years, he still thinks he has a chance with me. I don't want him back though.
Q. Hello Everyone. Hope you can help as my feelings are all over the place. I split with my partner after just over 4 years together. That was in February and it was my decision. We didn't live together or anything and my gut feeling was that the ...
A. 2 July 2007: I did with one of my exs in my teens. Not exactly the same as we weren't together as long and didn't have kids but I just seemed to wake up one day and realise I didn't see a future with this guy and I didn't really want to be with him. I told him ... (read in full...)
I can't find a boyfriend.
Q. I can't find a boyfriend. I've had love intrests and people intrested me and everything, but I can't seem to find someone who will not use me, and not mess me about (such as, take a liking to my best friend rather than myself) I'm only 15 and I al...
A. 2 July 2007: Hunni, you WILL find a boyfriend one day and he'll treat you like a princess. As you said you are only 15 and have a lot of time for the love game hunni. I know it doesn't seem like it. I can remember being 15 too and it sucks. Your love life HASNT ... (read in full...)
I want to hide the fact that I'm not a virgin.
Q. hy i had sex with my boy friend for 8 to 12 time, now i am going to marry a man of my parents choice, i want to start a good life, i want to hide that am not virgin. how can i do this pleas help me. pleas...
A. 2 July 2007: If you really want to keep hidden you are a virgin then don't tell anybody you've had sex in the past.
Remember back to your first time and be like that during the first time with your new guy.
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I believe his exs are more pretty than me and I'm jealous! Does he really love me?
Q. i have a bf from 2 months i love him so much but iam very jealous from his old girlfriends i think they look more beautiful than me and much richer than me i dont know what i do i want to know if he really loves me?????...
A. 2 July 2007: I agree with flowergirl- If he didn't want to be with you he wouldn't.
Talk to him about how you feel. I worry my partner thinks of his ex but then I shake my head and push that thought from my mind as he wouldn't be here with me and having a... (read in full...)
how can i let my boyfriend be with me forever? He gets angry over the slightest things.
Q. how can i let my boyfriend be with me forever? hey i have a problem my boyfriend get angry from any thing but he really loves me but if i did anything bothers him he break up with me so i come to see him and cry to return to him but he forgives...
A. 2 July 2007: He cant break up with you everytime he doesn't like something you do!!!!! That is a way of controlling you especially if you go running back all the time. You are becoming a young lady who should be enjoying life and having FUN relationships not ... (read in full...)
I love my ex... I want her back.
Q. i love my ex very dearly and i want her back but i dont know what to do. heres the story ( the short version). we were together for almost 3 years until about a month ago. the reason we broke up in the first place is because i didnt trust her and i ...
A. 2 July 2007: It sounds like she IS taking advantage of you. Don't mention it to her but stop giving her money, unless its money for the kids if they are yours that is as you didn't say. She has to give aswell as take!
All you can do is apologise for the nast... (read in full...)
He never wants sex anymore.
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been seeing eacth other for 3 years and when we first were together we had sex all the time. Now he dosent want to and when we do it's not diffrent its hte same no forplay nothing it's just take off ur clothes and thats ...
A. 2 July 2007: Sit down and chat with him. Maybe there is something going on in his head, maybe his sex drive has dropped. He could be stressed from work. Talking to him may help.
I'm pregnant and before I found out me and my other half argued a lot because ... (read in full...)
16 next week and worried my girlfriend wants to have sex... how can I say no gently!?
Q. Hi Me and my girlfreind have been going out for 5 months now and its my 16th birthday next week. I am really worrid that she wants to have sex however I dont. She has been hinting at this for a while and I have been joking it off. how can i turn h...
A. 21 June 2007: Talk to her about how you feel and how you are not ready. If she truly cares about you she will want you to wait until you are ready. If you talk feelings with her rather then joke it off she may respect you more for being honest with her and ... (read in full...)
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