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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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He never pulls out before he ejacualtes and I don't want another child right now!
Q. My boyfriend always ejaculates in me, unless I tell him specicfically every time "pull out" And it can be that we have sex and I tell him to pull out, and he does then 5 min. later he is ready again, and if I don't tell him to pull out that time ...
A. 29 June 2007: You can still get an infection whilst pregnant whether the guy cums in you or not.... Did your midwife not tell you that???
Ok disrespect might not be a reason. But you should both disscuss birth control or you will find yourself pregnant again- p... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a male friend to ask me about my sexual past?
Q. Today, on the phone I was talking to my boy friend thad. And we got into a convo about sex. and sex jokes and kissing ect... Well we got to laughing a talking about each other. Well he was like asking me if i ever went all the way. And things like ...
A. 29 June 2007: Yes it is normal to talk about how far you have been sexually in the past. Just be careful of sharing to much detail with each other as it could lead to jealousy.
Your boyfriend is trying to find out if you are a virgin or not which is quite no... (read in full...)
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Q. Message from Andrew, site founder: (let me know your comments!)...
A. 28 June 2007: Great video :D
I have a strange addiction to this site and it is all The Independents fault! hehe
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Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 28 June 2007: Am in London at the moment :D
I'll be bringing a blow up hammer to protect myself from you dr pete :p
hehe
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He tried to rape me, but I want to give him another chance. Is this wrong?
Q. umm, i have a question 4 you. i broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago because he tried 2 rape me. i was in a state. but now i am starting 2 ave feelings 4 him again. I want 2 give him another chance. is this wrong?...
A. 28 June 2007: Love this guy tried to RAPE you!!!!!
You should not be going anywhere near him. If you give him another chance will he actually rape you this time?!
I don't think you should even be contemplating this. Tell him to get lost and find someone who... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend I don't want to have anal sex?
Q. My boyfriend has started suggesting anal sex and while I happily enjoy a little anal stimulation, I don't want him fully penetrating me with his penis; I have a terribly low pain threshold. I don't feel I can say no however as he often lets me use a ...
A. 28 June 2007: Just explain to him that you aren't a big fan of anal. You can't go through with it just because you don't want to upset him. If he loves you he'll respect what you say and not push it any further!
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I fancy my ex's best friend. We had a one night stand when I was drunk but I have feelings for him.
Q. Here's the deal: I do really stupid things when I am drunk (that is, when I "overdrink"). A few weeks ago I was so out of it that I briefly slept with the best friend of my (now ex) boyfriend. Only problem is, it wasn't just a crazy night - I ...
A. 28 June 2007: One suggestion- stop over drinking :D I mean that in the friendliest way.
I can't say what this guy is going to say. It all depends on how much he cares for you/see's a future with you and how close he is to his best friend. I think your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I'm going to the doctor about depression, anybody have any help or advice on the subject?
Q. my mum thinks i have depression because lately ive felt really low and ive lost my appetite and im finding it harder and harder to sleep. On monday ive got to go see a doctor which im quite nervous about (even though i want to get help with this) i ...
A. 28 June 2007: Don't be nervous sweetie. This doesn't make you a social recluse or anything, or not normal. A lot of people suffer from depression and you doctor will be able to help you!
The first time I went to the doctors I didn't know what depressi... (read in full...)
My husband spread gossip about me at work. What should I do?
Q. After I lost my job I went through a period of depression. Then I went on a weight loss program and dropped 25 pounds, got a new job, looked around and realized I wasn't happy in my dead-end marriage so I got out. Now I've found a new man but my ...
A. 28 June 2007: Stop contact with these people. They aren't mates if they spread gossip about you. Your boss can't treat you any different or sack you because of "gossip" spread by sad, people who have nothing better to do.
If you are happy with this new man then... (read in full...)
If I dump him, no one will be my friend - but I don't love him.
Q. elloo I have been with my boyfriend for ages now. And it's the 5th time I've dumped him and I got back with him 3 days ago and i don't love him. But if i dump him nobody will be my friend. please help me quick xxx...
A. 28 June 2007: If you don't love him dump him and stay away from him. You need someone in your life who makes you happy. Why will people not be your friend if you dump him? And doesn't that prove they aren't true friends? True friends would stick by you even if ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from 'dry humping'?
Q. This guy and I messed around but I was wearing boyshorts, he rubbed his penis on my vagina through my shorts. Now, my period is late and I'm wondering... Could I be pregnant?...
A. 28 June 2007: You could be!
Get yourself to your doctor who will text you for free and see about going on the pill while you are there. If a guy cums anywhere near your vagina then there is a chance you could fall pregnant.
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She keeps destroying me by leading me on!
Q. I'm 16. Like this girl, asked her out to watch a movie, she accepted but keeps changing the day. What should I do? I really really like her, I'm crazy over her but if she makes another excuse I want to say something to make her feel bad. Any ideas? ...
A. 28 June 2007: Ask her to set a date and if she breaks it off again then say to her let's not bother. She may just be nervous about it, but then she could just be trying to get out of going.
Give her one more chance then stop talking to her. If she texts yo... (read in full...)
How do I light a fire under my lazy ass wife?
Q. How do I light a fire under my lazy ass wife? She doesnt do anything but lay around while im at work, and then expect me to do dishes, laundry, and clean the house. Should i just quit doing everything? Granted we have a two and four year old, but ...
A. 28 June 2007: I think you should stop doing it and tell her to do it. Yes two kids are probably very hard work but how is it fair you work then come home and do more work. I've said to my guy that when the baby comes along (i'm pregnant) I will try to do whatever ... (read in full...)
Am I just deluding myself and should I forget about him?
Q. I worked in a local shopping mall for about a year and think I have fallen in love with one of the security guys there. Trouble is I dont work there anymore and I've just found out today that neither does he. I am heartbroken :( I cant stop myself ...
A. 28 June 2007: The fact that you both have partners should tell you not to pursue this. If you really like him then I do suggest you end it with you partner as he obviously isn't the one for you. xxxxxxx... (read in full...)
For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring?
Q. For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring? I was having lunch with a buddy of mine when this topic came up. Occasionally, when I am among women, I catch them ogling my wedding ring. If they end up maki...
A. 28 June 2007: Yeah definetly. I would of died of shame if the guy had asked me why I was looking. xxxx... (read in full...)
For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring?
Q. For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring? I was having lunch with a buddy of mine when this topic came up. Occasionally, when I am among women, I catch them ogling my wedding ring. If they end up maki...
A. 28 June 2007: Maybe they are thinking "damn he's married" and realise that you have somebody's name stamped on you. When I was single I always checked out a guys hand for a ring.
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I'm hoping to have my first time on a cruise that I'm going on. How do I really satisfy her?
Q. I am still a virgin and i am 18 years old. I have just graduated high school and i am fixing to go on a cruise and i am hoping this might be my chance to have sex. But i am wondering how do i really satisfy her....
A. 28 June 2007: Just relax and let things flow. Ask the girl "is that ok?" if you are unsure. Or ask her before hand what she likes :)
Remember practise safe sex!
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He never pulls out before he ejacualtes and I don't want another child right now!
Q. My boyfriend always ejaculates in me, unless I tell him specicfically every time "pull out" And it can be that we have sex and I tell him to pull out, and he does then 5 min. later he is ready again, and if I don't tell him to pull out that time ...
A. 28 June 2007: Love whether this guy pulls out or not you could fall pregnant!!!!!! There is such a thing as pre-cum and if you don't want another child then you need to find a form of protection and not rely on your guy pulling out as that doesn't work!
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I feel left out because all my mates have boyfriends.
Q. Well... i dont really have a problem but i really want a bf! i no its daft but all my mates have one and i am startin to feel left out! i dont want one but i think i need one to fit in! i feel stupid writin this but hey thats what your here for!...
A. 28 June 2007: You don't need a boyfriend to fit in hunni. I know that's how it feels and it's harder when all your mates are dating. Just relax and a lad will come along you like :)
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I'm a virgin and my period has stopped. What should I do?
Q. I have never had sex so why havent i had my periods for nearly 3 months now why?...
A. 28 June 2007: If you haven't had any sexual contact with a lad then you aren't being pregnant.
I've always been irregular with my periods. Why not go and chat with your doctor about it.
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I cheated on him but he said he wants to make it work, now he's going into the airforce and has changed his mind.
Q. Hello everyone!!! I have a bit of a problem i have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 yrs now and i cheated on him but it was nothing serious...i didnt have sex with anyone but yeah..and my boyfriend found out about it and he said he wants to...
A. 28 June 2007: If he wants to go in the airforce let him go. You messed up and he's obviously decided to get on with his life. The only thing you can do is show him you can be faithful and maybe he'll change his mind about ending it with you while he goes away.
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I want to invite my friend to my wedding, but her partner is a pervert!
Q. Hi am 23 and getting married next year. I have a friend of mine who is in her 40's and I am very fond of her and of course due to this, invited her to my wedding. But the only problem is her partner. He's what you'd call a 'TitsPervert'. I was at a...
A. 28 June 2007: This guy needs to know what he did was wrong. It's up to you whether you tell his partner or not, but you need to tell him to keep his hands to himself. I would suggest not taking him up on the offer to dance again.
I had a drunk guy at a friend... (read in full...)
My girl wants sex all the time, but I don't--I don't know what to do!
Q. I sometimes wonder if my g/f is really serious about being with me, or just wants me for sex. I don't have a high sex drive much anymore, been there, done that so it's not my driving force like it was in my 20's. But she's always horny for me a...
A. 28 June 2007: There has to be some kind of compromise here. I'm pregnant at the moment and am not in to sex ll that much and at times cant stand being hugged so I can kinda see where you are coming from. Me & my guy had a very serious chat back just after I found ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend never wants to have sex anymore!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. When we first got together it was without a doubt the happiest that I have ever been in my life. But now things have changed and I don´t know what to do. She doesn´t want to have sex with ...
A. 28 June 2007: Sit down and talk to her about it. Her sex drive might have taken a dive due to any number of reasons.
I'm pregnant at the moment and am never in the mood but I feel at times now I have just got in the habit of not being in the mood.
Chat wi... (read in full...)
We had 10 seconds of unprotected sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I got very drunk last week and wanted sex. i made him get a condom but he hates them and to my dismay did not put it on for about 10 seconds when he was inside me... im afraid there was pre cum on his penis.. im so scared.. am i ...
A. 28 June 2007: It is possible you could be. I would have a serious chat with your man about this. You asked him to put a condom on and he didn't because he "hates" them. What's he going to say if you turn out pregnant now because yes you could be.
There is sperm... (read in full...)
We both cheated, but she got pregnant--she was the worst, right?
Q. My girlfriend has always screwed up things in the relationship and we seperated but still lived together. I cheated a few times and she knew because I stayed out all night. We got back together and started new then we broke up for a week. She ...
A. 28 June 2007: Her crime isn't worse then yours. That's a childish game to play! You both cheated and have caused a lot of hurt to each other.
Technically when she slept with the person that got her pregnant you weren't together so how is that cheating... (read in full...)
Do even guys with attractive girlfriends check out other women?
Q. To sexy girls: do your boyfriends still look at other women? I'm in a new relationship and afraid of ruining it with my jealousy. In the past I always had boyfriends who looked at other women a lot and they would also comment on my weight and ...
A. 28 June 2007: What's the harm in your boyfriend looking at another girl? My guy has a thing for boobs so I regularly catch him looking especially if the lady is in a low cut top. Her fault for wearing the top. Shouldn't wear a low cut top if you don't want them ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a male friend to ask me about my sexual past?
Q. Today, on the phone I was talking to my boy friend thad. And we got into a convo about sex. and sex jokes and kissing ect... Well we got to laughing a talking about each other. Well he was like asking me if i ever went all the way. And things like ...
A. 28 June 2007: It can be between friends. I wouldn't dish to just any of my friends but in my teens I had a male friend and a female friend who I told certain things to. If you feel confortable talking about it then I'd say go for it. Just be careful who you tell. ... (read in full...)
Would he freak out if I asked to know what he thinks of me?
Q. Would it be ok if i asked him what he thought of me. Would he freak out. Would he think it is corny. HELP!!!...
A. 28 June 2007: He might think its corny. But how do you know until you try? We only live once and you don't want to look back and regret not asking this guy. If you like him why not ask him out? If he says yes then you know he likes you, if he says no then at ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me and has now he's with my best mate! I still love him...
Q. My boyfrend dumped me about 4 months ago,he is now dating my best freind...I am not talking to either of them and they both hate me. But the problem is I still love him. He cheated on me wit my other mate but i forgave them both for it...what do i ...
A. 28 June 2007: Do not waste your time on your hunni. He cheated on you and is now dating your best friend. I know it's hard because you still care for him but you need to walk away and get on with your life. There is someone out there who will treat you with the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is all over me in public, but not at home--what is up?
Q. My boyfriend is all over me in public and never touches me at home! Why?...
A. 28 June 2007: Ask him. Sit down and chat with him about this. It may be he's afraid to show affection when you are alone or something but you won't know till you ask :)
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Is there fire with that smoke?
Q. i am 17 and i like this guy he is 19, but he has a girlfriend. we all no she isn't good for him but there is nothing we can do. i don't no whether my feelings for him are love or lust. when we meet we both can't help but smile at each other, when we ...
A. 28 June 2007: Love is a very complicated painful thing, but it can also be one of the most wonderful things in the world. It is hard to understand and know what to do even if you have had a boyfriend in the past as each person is a new experience. We all mess it ... (read in full...)
As she's my first gf, is it natural to feel unsure that I'm doing the right thing?
Q. Hi. Recently have got my first girlfriend, which im really happy about, but the thing is i'm having doubts about the whole thing. i really do like her and want to spend time with her, but im just not sure if im doing the right thing. is this j...
A. 27 June 2007: It could be nerves or going in to unknown territory. Why not chat to her and explain how you feel. It may make you realise you want to be with her, or you don't.
Just relax and enjoy the relationship. The fun part should be getting to know eac... (read in full...)
My first kiss became a snog--should we have gone slower?
Q. My first kiss was on a school bus and we went straight to snog, should we have slowed down?...
A. 27 June 2007: Do you think you should have?
Just remember you are well below the legal age for sex. When it comes to kissing there isn't a legal age and I don't see anything wrong with your first kiss being a snog :D
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I caught my friend kissing a teacher--what do I do?
Q. I caught my best friend with another female teacher in a cupboard. They were stood in front of me kissing and I didn't know what to do so I pretended I didn't see. This teacher is engaged and doesn't seem to talk to my best friend--...
A. 27 June 2007: I would report the teacher ! It's one thing a student having a crush on a teacher but for the teacher to actually play on that is completely wrong and against the law!
I am training to be a teacher and one thing they teach you is not to get invo... (read in full...)
The test was negative, could she be pregnant anyway?
Q. ahmmm.. the thing is, i ejaculated inside my girlfriend. She has a irregular mens cycle, but its day 40 already and I am getting worried. I made her take a pregnancy test and it came out negative and our last sex was like a week ago.. whats wrong? ...
A. 27 June 2007: I took three tests and they all came back negative so I went to the doctors to find out what was wrong with me. Complete shock to find out I was pregnant!
It may still be a bit soon to tell if shes pregnant. Take her to see a doctor or wait a f... (read in full...)
One of my breasts is smaller than the other, is this normal?
Q. Hi iam really :S my left breast is smaller than my right is this normal or not.. do i need to go to my doctors to see if i need it up lifting or... HELP???? it hold my self back from bein touch by anyone.......
A. 27 June 2007: It is completely normal. I have one one full cup size bigger than the other. Buying bras is a bitch. xxxxx... (read in full...)
He found out he has leukemia and the stress caused me to lose our baby
Q. hi i recently found this GREAT guy and he's really sensetive and handsome so after a few dates we finaly had sex and i pregnant and were both happy so were gonna get married in a few years when we both have more money not long away so we se...
A. 27 June 2007: I'm so sorry for you loss hunni. My heart goes out to you. Stick by your guy and help him pull through his illness then you can both grieve for your loss together.
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Raped when I was 12, told the police when I was 15, now having nightmares!!!
Q. Hi. This is going to be long but i have to get it all out.. When i was 12 i went through a rough time. I'm now 16. When i was 12 i was raped, the rapist has never been caught. I only went to the police when i was 15, i was too scared and ashamed ...
A. 27 June 2007: I made a video evidence video because I was just under 16 which was palyed in court.
Keep looking for a psychiatrist. As I said it took me 2 years to find the lady I saw and I felt she was helping me right away.
It does feel strange to begin... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant but don't know if I want this baby... I'm not ready to have kids yet.
Q. Hey, so im 6 month pregnant and getting a ban on my ex for abusing me, i feel real bad as if IM in the wrong for him abusing me? but as many people said he was putting my baby in danger, im thinking about letting him come to the next scan with me ...
A. 27 June 2007: You ARE NOT in the wrong for him abusing you. That is one of the powers an abuser puts over you. Makes you feel like its your fault and you deserve what's going on. YOU DIDN'T!
He does have a right as the babies father to be involved but if you a... (read in full...)
How long after intercourse is it most accurate to use a pregnancy test?
Q. How long after intercourse is it most accurate to use a pregnancy test? and if abortion is an option... how long do u have to decide before it is too late?...
A. 27 June 2007: I would suggest going to see your doctor to be tested. I did 3 pregnancy tests and they all came back negative. Yeah which is why I am now 23 weeks pregnant..... I can't explain it either bearing in mind I didn't start testing until like the 3rd ... (read in full...)
I'm almost two months late but the pregnancy test came back negative!
Q. hi sue i need your help im late 1 month and 3 weeks i thought i was pregnant but it came out negative im scared it might be something else wrong with me can you please help me thank you...
A. 27 June 2007: Go to your doctors and get tested there for free. Some tests come back negative. It could have been too soon to tell, you didn't do it 100% right or any other of a number of reasons!
I did 3 tests and they all came back negatve so I went to the d... (read in full...)
We recently had unprotected first-time sex. Could she be pregnant?
Q. Dear cupid, I am worried that my girlfriend may be pregnant. We had first-time sex recently. We had sex in the shower first, I did not ejaculate. Then, I went to my bedroom and masturbated until I ejaculated. I fell asleep for about 45 minutes...
A. 27 June 2007: Just because you didnt come inside doesn't mean she's definetly not pregnant. There is such a thing as pre-cum and that had sperm in it.
I would buy her a test and set you mind at rest! I had a period my first month of being pregnant. I became v... (read in full...)
Raped when I was 12, told the police when I was 15, now having nightmares!!!
Q. Hi. This is going to be long but i have to get it all out.. When i was 12 i went through a rough time. I'm now 16. When i was 12 i was raped, the rapist has never been caught. I only went to the police when i was 15, i was too scared and ashamed ...
A. 27 June 2007: I was abused as a child from ages 9-16. The guy is currently serving a long term in prison.
Whether he was locked up or not wasn't what effected me the most. I had nightmares for a long time. I went and started counselling just so I could ta... (read in full...)
Is there fire with that smoke?
Q. i am 17 and i like this guy he is 19, but he has a girlfriend. we all no she isn't good for him but there is nothing we can do. i don't no whether my feelings for him are love or lust. when we meet we both can't help but smile at each other, when we ...
A. 27 June 2007: Tell him you like him. Obviously when the girlfriend isn't around. Don't make a move on him though. Maybe he does like you but isn't sure which is why he's sticking with the girl who's bad for him.
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Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 21 June 2007: Sounds like quite a good idea :D
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