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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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My guy doesn't like me going on dear cupid! He says it's porn with words!But i enjoy it..
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me when I go on Dear Cupid! I am a stay at home mom, and I'm pregnant so I don't have much of a life. I go on Dear Cupid and I like to try to help by giving people advice. My b.f. gets mad at me and says that the ...
A. 28 August 2007: Does it matter how often I am on this site? I don't have issues with my partner--- you do.
The going around the baby shops was a suggestion before I knew you had another child, so fine bad suggestion on my part. But you seem to want to throw ev... (read in full...)
I want my ex back and she said she still loves me but I haven't heard from her for nine days. Why????
Q. okay so me an my ex broke up back in march '07 we were together for 2.5 years, why we broke up is not important, just that I want her back. We went out on date last Sunday, the date went really well, but at the end of the night when we went back...
A. 28 August 2007: Why you split up may be an important key to you getting back together for her anyway.
I think she's torn between moving on and forgetting whatever she did to hurt you, and staying with you after being together for so long.
I would talk to he... (read in full...)
We're in a long distance relationship but she rarely tells me she loves me. Am I expecting too much??
Q. I'm 35 and my g/f is 33 and we have been in a long distance relationship for 9 months now. We see each other when we can and I am foolishly in love with her. One of the aspects that I struggle with is that she very very rarely expresses her fe...
A. 28 August 2007: Long distance relationships are HARD! I'm not going to lie to you. Ok I'm only 22 but I have been in one for the last 3 or so years, but they can work.
I don't think you are expecting too much. I would suggest talking to her about it and seeing i... (read in full...)
I think I've upset the guy I've been seeing. Do I try and talk to him or assume we have split?
Q. I just graduated and my boyfriend has a year left. We have only been dating 2 months. He returned to school and I am going back in a few weeks to start grad school, since we have only been dating a few months I never told him this was for sure, he ...
A. 28 August 2007: Why not call him and speak to him. He may be thinking the same thing about you- the need for space and stuff especially since you didn't share your plans with him.
Explain why you didn't tell him and ask him if he wants space or whatever... (read in full...)
I have OCD. Anyone with some adivice out there?
Q. Im a teenager and i have ocd and im worried i did something wrong but when i think about it i dont think i have and my friend said i havnt either. Me and my ex-boyfriend was drunk i asked him to kiss me and we did and i felt him up just outside the ...
A. 28 August 2007: *about even.... (read in full...)
I have OCD. Anyone with some adivice out there?
Q. Im a teenager and i have ocd and im worried i did something wrong but when i think about it i dont think i have and my friend said i havnt either. Me and my ex-boyfriend was drunk i asked him to kiss me and we did and i felt him up just outside the ...
A. 28 August 2007: Then try and forget anout it hunni. If you really cant chat to him about it then leave the past in the past otherwise you will drive yourself nuts about it. Take it as a very drunk event and that's it :)
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How do I get rid of this massive spot below my nose?
Q. Right, i got this massive spot below my nose! Now, its not like a little zit, that some girls totally freak out about! It's really noticeable, even with foundation on! And i need to get rid of it, i'm self-conscious about my face, as it is with all ...
A. 28 August 2007: Try not to put foundation on it too much as it'll clog your pores up even more. I used to suffer with acne BAD in my teens and I've had it come and go through my pregnancy due to hormones. I was given a little tip for the big, red horrible spots and ... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like me going on dear cupid! He says it's porn with words!But i enjoy it..
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me when I go on Dear Cupid! I am a stay at home mom, and I'm pregnant so I don't have much of a life. I go on Dear Cupid and I like to try to help by giving people advice. My b.f. gets mad at me and says that the ...
A. 28 August 2007: I wasn't trying to attack you at all. I was merely pointing out that this website is one cause of the problems in your relationship that's all. I have been around newborn babies as my mum had a child 6 years ago and my sister had a baby last year so ... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like me going on dear cupid! He says it's porn with words!But i enjoy it..
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me when I go on Dear Cupid! I am a stay at home mom, and I'm pregnant so I don't have much of a life. I go on Dear Cupid and I like to try to help by giving people advice. My b.f. gets mad at me and says that the ...
A. 27 August 2007: I think you both need to turn the computer off and get a realistic life before your baby comes along. I'm 7 months pregnant myself so I understand the feeling of having no life! But that is because you are sat on your butt looking at the pc screen. ... (read in full...)
Can pre cum make you pregnant, me and my girl are worried.
Q. I had sex with my gf on 21st(july) and that day(during intercourse) she got her periods....and we had safe sex.. but once we did have unprotected i dint cum inside... but i dont know if pre cum can make her pregnent..... well till now(27 aug) she ...
A. 27 August 2007: She could be pregnant. I would take her to the doctors and get her tested. Yes, precum can make your girlfriend pregnant.
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I always orgasm during sex, But how do i ejaculate????
Q. I always orgasm, several times during sex, but never squirted ? how do i do this ?...
A. 27 August 2007: It takes lots of practise. My muscles aren't strong enough for me to do it. But a friend of mine spent many years teaching herself to do it.
Have you tried looking up tips on google?
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I love sex with my guy but i dont think i have ever had an orgasm???
Q. Hi This may seem strange but I am 23, I have a very loving boyfriend and he is really good sexually and will work for hours to ensure I get the pleasure i want even after he has cum. Thing is I really love it and I am always wanting sex and fore...
A. 27 August 2007: Orgasming makes you all tingerly and you get a sudden rush of pleasure, and you may find all your muscles tighten.
Not all females orgasm all the time. And it varies per female how they get to the point of cumming. Have you thought of using a ... (read in full...)
How long should an orgasm last????
Q. I recently only started having sex for the first time. I was wondering why it seems that i only orgasm for like 5 seconds and thats it? is it suppose to last longer? How can i make it last longer? ...
A. 27 August 2007: It varies per person per each time you have sex.
I find my orgasms last a lot longer at the moment, probably due to the fact I'm pregnant. It also takes me a lot longer to "recover" from them.
Try building your orgasm up by masterbating and... (read in full...)
Is this normal?
Q. One of my outer lips is bigger than the other. By that, I mean, it sort of hangs loose, and I can stretch it (sorry if it's too graphic.) Is that normal or should I be worried?...
A. 27 August 2007: Completely normal hunni. As long as it isn't swollen or painful to touch then you are fine. All females have different sized and shaped bits, and many will not have equal sized bits.
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Will the size of my manhood affect having children?
Q. My manhood size is 3 cm , when i be hot becomes 10 cm , i am 26 old , i want to know if i can get kids or not....
A. 27 August 2007: Size will not affect your ability to have children at all hunni. It will depend on your little swimmers. Don't worry about your size affecting your kiddie posibilties.
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I have OCD. Anyone with some adivice out there?
Q. Im a teenager and i have ocd and im worried i did something wrong but when i think about it i dont think i have and my friend said i havnt either. Me and my ex-boyfriend was drunk i asked him to kiss me and we did and i felt him up just outside the ...
A. 27 August 2007: Try visiting this sites for some help and support:
http://www.ocduk.org/
http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/ocdaction/index.asp
Try talking to your guy about what happened. I'm sure he doesn't feel you were taking advantage.
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What happens at a stag and doe?
Q. What happens at a stag and doe? I'm going to one soon and its my first one. Is it normal to bring a date? Any details is much appreciated. ...
A. 27 August 2007: Its a hen or stag night :D
Are the bride and groom to be having a joint party or have you been invited to the hen hight? I have been to one joint party and a couple of hen nights (the female party).
It varies what goes on at them. The joint ... (read in full...)
I was abused as a child. Am i still a virgin?
Q. hi guys pleas help me! im not sure if im a virgin when i was a little girl a guy of my age did touch me alot of time. i think it happened once that he did put his finger in me. now today im 21 and i have a bf i dont want to have sex no. i want to ...
A. 27 August 2007: I was abused as a child to and I did have my virginity taken away from me before I wanted it to be. If the guy only put a finger in to you then yes you are still a virgin. The guy would have had to of had intercourse with you for you to no longer be ... (read in full...)
He feels bad because he can't see me too often.
Q. Hiyer My bf lives in Scotland and I live in South England. WE met when he was down here visitin a mate nd we get on well together. he called me three or four nights ago and said that he was feeling so down coz he can't come to see me at the mo...
A. 27 August 2007: Long distance relationships are hard, but they can work. I've been with my guy for 3 years and it hasn't been the easiest relationship but I wouldn't change it for the world (well apart from being 7 months pregnant and moving in together in a couple ... (read in full...)
I'm in a long distance relationship. Does anyone have any ideas how to keep the sex life spiced up???
Q. I am in a long distance relationship, we have been dating for 4 years prior to me leaving. Does anyone have any ideas on how to keep the sex life spiced up. The usual, phone sex and internet sex does not work. Any ideas Please?...
A. 27 August 2007: I've been in a long distance relationship for 3 years and I'm not big in to net/phone sex either, although if there was a period of time we wouldn't be seeing each other phone sex did help.
We also sent saucy pics to each other to wind the othe... (read in full...)
I'm nearly 16, He's nearly 14. I like him. Is this wrong?
Q. Hey i just want to know if this is wrong!! i am 15 years old and my birthday is in feb when i turn 16. but i really like a lad who i hang out with and he is only 13 and he is 14 in june! plz tell me if it is ok or if it is wrong to like hi...
A. 27 August 2007: I can't say whether that is right or wrong.
Just remember that when you turn 16 you will be legally allowed to have sex and he wont. I know you probably aren't thinking of that, but other people might. 2 years isn't a big deal, but maybe you shou... (read in full...)
He's changed now that I've gotten pregnant
Q. dear cupid, Right now I'm in this relationship with a guy I've been with 4 about a year.. our relationship was alright up until a few months ago in about January when i got pregnant things started getting really messed up when his whole person s...
A. 27 August 2007: Hey hunni,
You need to think about you and your baby. I feel pregnant the end of January so we are around the same time and I know how "hard" being 7 months pregnant is. I know that sounds harsh but your babies wellbeing has to come first.
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I'm 16 and due to have a baby in 8 months. Have i still got a good future?
Q. I am sixteen years old and i am going to be having a baby in 8 months. can i still have a good future ahead for me and my baby?...
A. 27 August 2007: You can have a future hunni, it wont be as easy as it would of been without the baby but you still can.
I'm 22 and 7 months pregnant. I was due to be starting university this September. I came out of school at 16 and worked for a few years as... (read in full...)
Why was I so wet??
Q. Sorry if this is graphic but im really worried! I had sex with my boyfriend last night and we used a condom but afterwards i was really really wet, alot wetter than usual and when i went to the toilet, it looked like semen was in the toilet ...
A. 27 August 2007: It might be the lubricant from the condom mixing with your lubrication making you wetter. If you think it was semen then I would talk to your boyfriend and ask if the condom split.
A girl's "cum" can also be a milky colour. You may just find you... (read in full...)
Will i be pregnant from this?
Q. Dear All, I had a shallow SEX with my boyfriend. His thing put a little into my body,which is the first time for both of us.He ejaculate into the outer side of my body,then the semen flow out drop by drop. Will I be pregnant?It passed away ...
A. 27 August 2007: The sperm isn't mature enough to get you pregnant? Who the hell told him that.
Hunni, you could get pregnant whether he sticks a little in or all of it. If any cum or pre-cum gets anywhere near your vagina then you could get pregnant. All it takes... (read in full...)
He hits and kicks me but I know he loves me more than the world!!
Q. hay guys,well i'll get straight to the point, my bf hits and kicks me. i love him more than the world and i no he feels the same about me. But we're only 13 and I'm not sure whether i should have a bf like this and certainly not at...
A. 23 August 2007: He may not mean to hurt you hunni but he IS! This guy needs to get help asap. The more you "go along" with what he is doing and show him its ok, the longer it'll take for him to realise what he is doing is so WRONG! No matter what age he is he ... (read in full...)
I know this might sound very stupid and juvenile but how do youu give a lap dance?
Q. Hi, I know this might sound very stupid and juvenile but how do youu give a lap dance? I understand everything else but how do you give a great lap dance, where do you even start?...
A. 22 August 2007: Pick a song with a dancy/rock beat (like Def Leopard- Pour Some Sugar On Me), wear something sexy like a really short shirt and low cut top etc then just dance to the music on your partner's lap. I would suggest a few drinks first but because of ... (read in full...)
Need some advice on how to give oral sex to a woman.
Q. How can I go down on a girl well? I recently started dating a girl and I want to go down on her, but I've never tried it before and am afraid i'll do horribly. I hear there's a technique to it, so some advice would be helpful, thanks....
A. 22 August 2007: Everybody has their own technique, and every girl likes different things. The best way of finding out what your girl likes is by a) asking her what she likes or b) just going "down there" and experimenting.
Try looking at this site- http://w... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 22 August 2007: You want to talk about "love" when it is a married man you are considering telling. You may feel you "love" this man but surely wrecking his life whether you love him or not isn't an option. He is TAKEN so just be his friend.
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I am getting ingrown hairs and shave bumps
Q. Alright, so I recently gota gf and decided to start shaving my pubs (from what i gather girls my age prefer shaved). so anyways, i have a problem and i'm wondering if its normal... getting ingrown hairs. sounds nasty i know, but i'm wondering if ...
A. 22 August 2007: I would talk to the girlfriend as she may like you shaved. The only person who can tell you what she likes is her :)
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Will eating only 2 apples a day make me lose weight quickly?6
Q. Hey.. ok well i'm planning to lose weight..So i'm going to eat two apples a day and that's it..iv done this now for 1 day..and I no that i'm going keep on doing it..how long will it take like before the weight all drops off?? i'm 9 stone and I hate ...
A. 21 August 2007: 2 apples a day!!!!!
You do know you are starving yourself right???
This is the WRONG way to loose weight. Your body will start eating itself to give you the energy you need. Then you'll be loosing muscle weight not fat! Trust me. I starved my... (read in full...)
I am getting ingrown hairs and shave bumps
Q. Alright, so I recently gota gf and decided to start shaving my pubs (from what i gather girls my age prefer shaved). so anyways, i have a problem and i'm wondering if its normal... getting ingrown hairs. sounds nasty i know, but i'm wondering if ...
A. 21 August 2007: Try sitting in the bath while you shave. Obviously do it with clear water so you can see where you are shaving. I wouldn't say do this if you haven't shaved at least a few times before. The warmth of the water will make it easier to shave.
Unfor... (read in full...)
if he does not put his penis inside your vagina but still busts because we are just fooling around can you still become pregnant?
Q. Hi, I am a 16 year old who is not to sure about having sex and have questions about it - if he does not put his penis inside your vagina but still busts because we are just fooling around can you still become pregnant? ...
A. 21 August 2007: If any of his cum got anywhere near your vagina then yes. If not then no. Best way to be sure is to keep all his sperm away from down there unless its on the inside of a condom :)
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How do I get over first time nerves?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been together for a couple of weeks and today, she undid my trousers but i wasn't ready. i've never had a sexual experince and i panicked. i got scared she'd judge my penis when it was small. i know it's a superficial ...
A. 21 August 2007: The first time is always scary hun. If you aren't ready for the "sex" part yet then tell your girlfriend. You can always build up some confidence between you with oral sex for a while first. I wouldn't worry about the size you are. It's how you use ... (read in full...)
Could he go to jail for getting me pregnant?
Q. I am 15 almost 16 and I'm pregnant but will be 16 before the babies born and my boyfriend is 21 will he go to jail even though I'll be 16 before the babies born? And say I didnt put his name on the birth certificate and later on I do, can they still ...
A. 21 August 2007: If your parents decide to press charges then yes he could. It doesn't matter the baby will be born after you turn 16, the sex took place while you were under 16. The sexual age of consent varies per State over there, some it's 16 others its 18.
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I've had an attack of some sort of tummy bug, and I'm worried: my pill says that such things can make birth control ineffective!!
Q. I've had an attack of some sort of tummy bug, and I'm worried: my pill says that such things can make birth control ineffective!! What do I do to combat the possibility? My boyfriend and I are very active, and although while I'm sick of course I ...
A. 21 August 2007: I feel pregnant 7 months ago because I was ill and it messed my period up. Me and my partner used condoms for a week after I started taking the pill again properly. It wasn't long enough!
I would use condoms until you are doubly sure that you are ... (read in full...)
I have morning sickness and i'm scared.
Q. i am 12 years old. and i lost my virginity about a week ago. i have morning sickness i have strange cravings for pickles before i go to bed. but it may just be bkuz of my diet but i am scared.. wait no REALLY REALLY REALLY SUPER DUPER SCARED!!! ...
A. 21 August 2007: You wouldn't be having cravings that early hunni. It's only been a week. That's probably in your head because you are thinking you could be pregnant.
I would get yourself tested just incase you are. I would go see your doctor for a pregnanc... (read in full...)
Advice on ovulation please.
Q. Hi guys, Thanks for the answers on the amusement rides another one for my friend just wondered if you could help, she has worked out the time of the month when she should be ovulating, has done ovulation tests for the last three days and no sign of ...
A. 21 August 2007: I spoke to a friend about ovulating who has been trying to fall pregnant for a while. She says she ovulates early or late every month and she went to see the doctor and he told her that it wasn't anything to worry about. It was just the way her body ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my sexuality...
Q. HI, I am 23 years old and I have just come out of a relationship with another female, we were together for 3 and a half years and we also had a child together. When we broke up and we decided to stay best friends for the sake of the baby because ...
A. 21 August 2007: First off before you talk to your family I would find out for yourself your sexuality. It may take a while, but you don't need to tell your family right this second.
You may find that you are questioning your sexuality after coming out of such ... (read in full...)
what do I do with my anger at God?
Q. I am 46, my brother is 34. I just found out that my father molested him from age 10-16. I thought I was a grounded christian. Needless to say this has shaken my fundamental belief system to the core. I feel so lost, sorry for my brother, guilty. I ...
A. 21 August 2007: Take your time hunni. There will come a day when you feel you can turn to the bible again.
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Do you think i might be pregnant?
Q. hi Im 17 years old and i think im pregnant I have sore breasts, my period is a month late, my stomache hurts all the time,, i cant eat certain things, it sounds good then it hurts my stomache, im always tired... please help me if its possib...
A. 19 August 2007: I would get tested by your doctor as I cannot say for definate if you are or you're not pregnant. You may just have skipped a month of your period, which I did all the time when I was 17. Pregnancy symptoms can also be very like period symptoms at ... (read in full...)
The guy i am seeing has a pregnant girlfriend, what should i do?
Q. I've been seeing a lad that I've really started to like but he also has a girlfriend but the real problem is she's pregnant now but I started seeing him before we knew this but by that time I really really liked him, it all got too much for me the ...
A. 16 August 2007: You may love this guy but he has a PREGNANT GIRLFRIEND now! I would back away and let them deal with that fact as it is a like changing thing. If he wants to be with you then he can come find you, but to me it sounds like you were just something on ... (read in full...)
what do I do with my anger at God?
Q. I am 46, my brother is 34. I just found out that my father molested him from age 10-16. I thought I was a grounded christian. Needless to say this has shaken my fundamental belief system to the core. I feel so lost, sorry for my brother, guilty. I ...
A. 4 August 2007: I'm not religious but I'm not exactly a non-believer.
It is harsh and horrible what your brother went through and I don't blame you for feeling all the emotions you are feeling. I was abused as a child and I could live with that (althoug... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 25 July 2007: I haven't skipped over what you are saying. I think you having a friendship with this guy is dangerous. But that is only what I think and like eyeswideopen I think you have already made your mind up.
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 20 July 2007: I would go to uni and enjoy your life there and try to move your feelings away from this guy. No the odd coffee or odd email isn't a bad thing but remember he is a) a lot older then you and b) he's married. How would you feel in his wife's shoes.
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 18 July 2007: No I shouldn't think so as long as like you said you don't interfere. If they really are unhappy the marriage will end at some point. :)
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 17 July 2007: I would say a friendship could work but how would you act in this friendship. Don't friends hang out and things like that. Wouldn't his wife find her husband hanging around with someone 17 a little odd????
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 16 July 2007: Honestly- I can't see what a 40 year old guy sees in a 17 year old girl. I don't mean that disrespectfully as I am sure you are a very nice girl but come on hunni! This guy is well old enough to be your dad. I can see you have a sensible outlook on ... (read in full...)
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