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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 22 August 2007: You want to talk about "love" when it is a married man you are considering telling. You may feel you "love" this man but surely wrecking his life whether you love him or not isn't an option. He is TAKEN so just be his friend.
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I kind of feel like my ex-husband just used me for sex
Q. Help! I slept with my ex-husband. My ex-husband and I divorced two years ago when he left me for a girl 10 yrs younger who worked for him. After what sounds like a very volitile relationship for the last two years, they broke up and he forced her to ...
A. 30 July 2007: I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you at all hun. He was looking for something else in his partner and he found it in this other girl. If they are both violent then they do both deserve each other.
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I kind of feel like my ex-husband just used me for sex
Q. Help! I slept with my ex-husband. My ex-husband and I divorced two years ago when he left me for a girl 10 yrs younger who worked for him. After what sounds like a very volitile relationship for the last two years, they broke up and he forced her to ...
A. 28 July 2007: Good for you for telling him exactly how he has made you feel hunni. I'm glad you sound a little more positive about moving forward.
It is probably for the best that you don't tell her about you two sleeping together. As you said it might ma... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 25 July 2007: I haven't skipped over what you are saying. I think you having a friendship with this guy is dangerous. But that is only what I think and like eyeswideopen I think you have already made your mind up.
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 20 July 2007: I would go to uni and enjoy your life there and try to move your feelings away from this guy. No the odd coffee or odd email isn't a bad thing but remember he is a) a lot older then you and b) he's married. How would you feel in his wife's shoes.
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I feel that my vagina is a bit loose, can I tighten it up somehow?
Q. I'm "big" down there and it makes it difficult for my partner to feel me when we're having sex. He's a normal size. I've never had children, it's just the way I'm built. Are there any things I can do to make my vagina tighter? I know about ...
A. 19 July 2007: I wasn't just on about when you pee. You can exercise your pelvic muscles anytime, any place!
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My husband of six months cheated on me w/ his ex! What should I do??
Q. I just found out that my husband of only 6 months basically cheated on me the other night. He took his ex out to dinner then they went to our new apartment to talk and they ended up kissing! i just got a new job not even a month ago but ever since I ...
A. 19 July 2007: Good Luck hunni!
I hope it all works out ok for you.
Don'e expect to trust/respect him overnight. It'll take time but if you both want this to work out then I don't see why he shouldn't.
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 18 July 2007: No I shouldn't think so as long as like you said you don't interfere. If they really are unhappy the marriage will end at some point. :)
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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 17 July 2007: I would say a friendship could work but how would you act in this friendship. Don't friends hang out and things like that. Wouldn't his wife find her husband hanging around with someone 17 a little odd????
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I kind of feel like my ex-husband just used me for sex
Q. Help! I slept with my ex-husband. My ex-husband and I divorced two years ago when he left me for a girl 10 yrs younger who worked for him. After what sounds like a very volitile relationship for the last two years, they broke up and he forced her to ...
A. 17 July 2007: The anger will fade babe. We all have moments of weakness. Don't be too hard on yourself though. Just remember what you are going through right now incase he tries it again.
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I don't know how I should get back with him. Should I even bother?
Q. My boyfriend and I have gone out for just two months, everything seemed fine until the last week where we saw less of each other. When I tried to call and talk to him he seemed uninterested to talk. We broke up with each other yesterday. But I still ...
A. 16 July 2007: All you can do is be polite to him and get on with hanging with your friends or playing your sport. It will be hard but it will get easier I promise :)
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What's the youngest age to fall in love?
Q. What's the youngest age to fall in love? I'm 9 years old and i think that i've fallen in love with my friend's cousin who's 10. I've heard people say things like it's not possible to fall in love until you are an adult so now i'm confused whether ...
A. 16 July 2007: I think you fancy the cousin. That doesn't make it any less important just because it isn't love.
I believe you can love someone at any age. At your age I think you are a little young and naieve to really understand what love is as there has to b... (read in full...)
I told him we could only be friends. Now he's saying he can't do it anymore and that I've hurt him! Why is he being this way? What can I do?
Q. Hoping someone can help me here. I dated a guy earlier in the year who...I thought wanted more than I could give. He wanted more and let me know it but I let him know that all I could offer was friendship. I thought he was ok with it but he phoned ...
A. 16 July 2007: All you can do is what you have done and that is to be honest.
If you told him you didn't want anymore then friendship then there was nothing more you could have done. Maybe it'll be easier for this lad for you not to be friends until he gets ove... (read in full...)
My husband of six months cheated on me w/ his ex! What should I do??
Q. I just found out that my husband of only 6 months basically cheated on me the other night. He took his ex out to dinner then they went to our new apartment to talk and they ended up kissing! i just got a new job not even a month ago but ever since I ...
A. 16 July 2007: Do you think you can forgive him?
Forgiveness is the first step in making this right. To be able to forget you need to be able to forgive. You also need to be able to forgive so you can try and trust this man again.
I would take some time o... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend thinks of me as more of a friend rather than a boyfriend! What can I do?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for more than one year.I really love her very much but something is happening to our relationship that i cannot explain.We have stayed together for the past six months.She gave me some very bad news that she ...
A. 16 July 2007: You need to sit down and chat with your girlfriend about why she thinks you're boring and what you both can do to make this relationship work. It's going to take both of you to work through what ever the problems are right now. Ask her if she wants ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have double vision on each eye?
Q. Is it normal to have double vision on each eye, and when I look at colors its just not as bright as it used to be. Is this normal?...
A. 16 July 2007: I agree with flowergirl- get that checked out asap.
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Am I wasting my time or will he change his mind in time?
Q. I was married 31 years, I met a wonderful man 9 months ago who was also married 25 years, his ex wife has moved on with someone else but he has still feelings for her. When I tell him I love him he just replies he is fond of me. He has told me he ...
A. 16 July 2007: If you love this man/care about him alot then right now getting married shouldn't matter. You should be concentrating on enjoying what you have. Maybe this guy will change his mind, maybe he wont. Do you want to end things with him because right now ... (read in full...)
I don't know how I should get back with him. Should I even bother?
Q. My boyfriend and I have gone out for just two months, everything seemed fine until the last week where we saw less of each other. When I tried to call and talk to him he seemed uninterested to talk. We broke up with each other yesterday. But I still ...
A. 16 July 2007: I agree with danielpew- you have shown you want him back, and if he loves you and wants to be with you you should let him come to you now. Not chase him around.
If he's interested in someone else then you don't want to be with him anyway as it op... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to get out of the friend zone?
Q. I asked out my friend, a little over a year ago, and she said she can't date me because she doesn't want to risk losing my friendship. We hung out as friends, and we had a few romantic moments and unofficial dates. I don't talk to her as often ...
A. 16 July 2007: Ask her where exaclty your relationship stands. If she doesn't want to be with you then you'll find out by asking her.
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Could you get any diseases in a shower?
Q. Could you get any diseases in a shower? Even if it's just me and my parents and sister using it? Such as if one of them has a cut, blister, or period in the shower could there be a chance that I may have diseases? I don't think non of them have ...
A. 16 July 2007: You can pass on things such as Verrucas or Warts but these can be easily gotten rid of. To catch AIDS/HIV you need to get blood or bodily fluid from the infected person in to you which I dounbt you can do from a shower.
STIs I'm not sure about ei... (read in full...)
My 20 year old friend just got engaged to a man who's nearly 70; she wants to know about problems the gap could cause
Q. I am a 23 year old girl and my friend is 20 years old. She told me she has recently got engaged to a 68-year-old man she met in a pub at a karaoke contest - he is the owner of it, and that he is a decent person, was what she told me. She asked me w...
A. 16 July 2007: Sounds like she does know about the money! I could be wrong there but being 21 myself I can't see what a 68 year old man would have to offer a young lady.
The only problems I can see are old age setting in with the man being the age he is and y... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 16 July 2007: Honestly- I can't see what a 40 year old guy sees in a 17 year old girl. I don't mean that disrespectfully as I am sure you are a very nice girl but come on hunni! This guy is well old enough to be your dad. I can see you have a sensible outlook on ... (read in full...)
I like him but I don't love him and I don't want to hurt him.
Q. dear cupids I really don't know what to do you see my boyfriend is madly in love with me and he tells me all the time he loves me and he wants to be with me forever and he will not make me do anything I don't want EVER! and he always hugs me and h...
A. 16 July 2007: DON'T do it over the phone or msn or text! It hurts doing it that way. Especially if you want to remain friends with him.
I would sit down with him alone and talk to him. Explain you don't love him and you have tried but it just isn't happenin... (read in full...)
How do i find out if she still likes me or not?
Q. So i really really like this girl, i dated her for awhile for almost 4 months but we broke up. i still love her but i dont know how she feels about me, how do i find out if she still likes me or not?...
A. 16 July 2007: I would talk to her on a one-on-one basis where there are no mates messing around and distracting the pair of you. That's about all I can say to be honest as I don't know this girl and can't say how she thinks or feels.
Good Luck!
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I am also in love with my best friend who's straight. How can I move on because I will never have him?
Q. I am also in love with my best friend who's straight. How can I move on because I will never have him? Also I keep falling for straight men, how can I solve this?...
A. 16 July 2007: Unfortunetly you can't pick who you get feelings for hunni. It's hard and all part of life which kinda sucks I know.
All you can do to move on is give your self time and space away from this guy. Time is a great healer, although it never feels li... (read in full...)
Is he trying to decide between me and this other lady?
Q. I have known the fellow who lives across the street from where I live for about four years now Over this span of time he has invited me in several times for coffee is very polite and entertaining yet most recently something has changed and he has o...
A. 16 July 2007: Ask him out!
I think its clear you two like each other and like justice says I don't think there is another woman. Maybe he's saying it to make you feel jealous or jump in to action.
Say something like "Oh, there's a movie I'd love to go s... (read in full...)
Should I go to the doctor about my eye?
Q. I think my right eye is damaged. My sister got angry at me and she spat in my right eye. Should I go see a doctor about this? There may be diseases....
A. 16 July 2007: If you are really concerned then get it checked out anyway. And also tell your sister not to be so disgusting next time.
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I dont understand why he has just left saying he wants to be alone?
Q. I'd been together with my boyfriend for three years and we have a 8 month old baby girl and we have been very happy since her birth. On Monday we were arguing via text message about why he still had his ex's number in there under a different name. ...
A. 16 July 2007: When the guy comes round next time ask him what's going on. Explain how you feel about the whole situation and that you don't know where you stand and see what he says. He may just have a bit much going on in his head right now to be able to deal ... (read in full...)
If I get lasik eye surgery, do I still have to wear glasses/contact lenses?
Q. If I get lasik eye surgery, do I still have to wear glasses/contact lenses?...
A. 16 July 2007: If the problem is corrected with the surgery then no you do not need to wear glasses/contacts any longer. Best thing to do is talk this through with a specialist.
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My soul mate is about to get married and it is tearing me apart!
Q. I have spent a long time looking for a soul mate and now I have found them and we have been getting along great and are very close friends... but I never had the courage to take it further in case it changed the realtionship. As a result I have ...
A. 16 July 2007: I agree with O_Connor. If you truly believe this is your soul mate and you are meant to be then sit down and tell him how you feel. Explain that you needed him to know but you don't want to loose his friendship.
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My boyfriend is 19 years older than me and I am worried about our future
Q. Hi I have currently been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are very happy together. However, i have major concerns about the age gap. I am 22 and he is 19 years older than me. He is divorced with no children. I am worried that this will c...
A. 16 July 2007: Why should it cause problems if you two are happy with each other? I agree 19 years is a bit of a big gap but to have been together 2 years already means that you two work together right?! If you are concerned about what others will think... don't ... (read in full...)
Do I choose my msn boy or my jerk ex?
Q. right so im 13 i have a bf but i dont really like him but i like my ex who has hurt me many times in the past but i always forgive him an i dont tend to forgive people but i always forgive him anyway who should i choose my ex who i love so much but ...
A. 16 July 2007: I would forget the ex who has "hurt you many times". He's not worth it and do you really want to go through all that pain again?!
If you don't really like the guy you are with then end it with him. You dont NEED to be in a relationship. Life won... (read in full...)
Should i contact my exgirlfriend?
Q. Hey all, Its been 3 weeks since I broke up with my ex. She is home for the summer for another month until she returns. She broke it off the day before she went home, totally out of the blue - really cold and blunt almost to the point of being s...
A. 16 July 2007: I wouldn't contact her. As harsh as it sounds you need to move on and try to forget her. She ended things with you, rather harshly by the sound of it and she did say not to wait around.
I would wait until she gets back and see how she reacts a... (read in full...)
What do you do when you thought your relationship was approaching marriage, but then it went through a dark period where he had someone else, but now you're back but he won't have sex?
Q. What do you do when you thought your relationship was approaching marriage, but then it went through a dark period where he had someone else, but now you're back but he won't have sex? Still says he's confused but says he loves me. We lay next to ...
A. 16 July 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen- the relationship sounds very shaky. I wouldn't write it working off just yet. You both need to talk about the situation and understand how each other is feeling. Maybe he's scared to make a move or feels things are moving ... (read in full...)
I'm sure she's attracted to me even though she is engaged
Q. I typically have a hard time talking to females but recently a female at my workplace and I started to talk. This Female and I get along really well, we laugh, talk about stuff and we have alot in common which is why I feel we get along well. ...
A. 16 July 2007: I think she is just being nice. I don't think you should make a play for her if she seems genuinely happy with her fiance. If its getting to hard then you may need to take a step back away from her before you fall in to deep with her and its gets ... (read in full...)
I got pregnant cheating with my ex - it means something right?
Q. I dated this one guy for about 7 months and we broke up because i developed feelings for another guy. A few months into that relationship i cheated once and had a one night stand with that ex of 7 months. I became Pregnant that night with his child. ...
A. 16 July 2007: Do you love you ex? Do you want to be with him?
You falling pregnant is not a sign you should be with him or that you shouldn't be with him. You should decide if you want to be with him because you love him.
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I kissed my boyfriends coworker
Q. I kissed my boyfriends work friend. The girl he was out with was upset he offered to walk me to the car although i dont know if she actually saw the kiss. me and my partner go out with these people regularly and i cant guarantee he wont be told...
A. 16 July 2007: If there is a BIG risk of him finding out don't you think its best you tell him first rather then him hear it from someone else?!
We all make mistakes hunni. It's all part of what makes us human.
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How can i finger myself and get pleasure out of it?
Q. ok, i have a very weird question but here goes: ok i have been masturbating ever since i was like 8 years old.. (i'm a girl by the way) and i always rubbed myself.. never fingered.. and now that i have had sex and had other guys finger me, i tried ...
A. 16 July 2007: All I can suggest is you play and vary what you do until you find what you like.
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I feel that my vagina is a bit loose, can I tighten it up somehow?
Q. I'm "big" down there and it makes it difficult for my partner to feel me when we're having sex. He's a normal size. I've never had children, it's just the way I'm built. Are there any things I can do to make my vagina tighter? I know about ...
A. 16 July 2007: I'm pregnant right now and worried that I will pee myself and pregnancy will ruin my muscles down there. I am doing exercises to keep them in shape. Tighten your pelvic muscles like you are pausing yourself during a wee and hold for a few seconds ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got a rash after going down on me
Q. Hi, myself and my boyfriend recently had oral sex which he performed on me. It turns out that he got a rash for one day and the next day it had cleared up and gone away. What is this? I am totally freaked out since I had been to the doctor the ...
A. 16 July 2007: Just a friction rash that's all hunni. We all get friction marks at some point. It might be your partner has sensitive skin.
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This guy won't leave us alone! Should I hurt him?
Q. I need some advice please me and my gf have been dating for a year and a half and theres always been this guy that wont leave and get out of our relationship he was my gfs bestfriend over a year ago and since then has never left us alone he will try ...
A. 16 July 2007: DONT break his nose. This is what this guy wants!
Next time he says your girl and him did stuff before you met turn round and go "So?" Seen as if it happened before you met then it shouldn't matter to you.
Is your girl annoyed with him too or ... (read in full...)
I kind of feel like my ex-husband just used me for sex
Q. Help! I slept with my ex-husband. My ex-husband and I divorced two years ago when he left me for a girl 10 yrs younger who worked for him. After what sounds like a very volitile relationship for the last two years, they broke up and he forced her to ...
A. 16 July 2007: I kinda agree with flower_girl. This guy doesn't sound like he used you purely for sex. After the break up with the girlfriend and your bitter divorce he probably wanted to feel a closeness with someone again. He then woke up and realised that it ... (read in full...)
Just coming off the pill, but could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi, would love if anyone has any advice for me! I stopped taking the contraceptive pill in december last year and since then i have had regular periods every month. my period this month was due over a week ago and the day before it was due i had ...
A. 16 July 2007: There is a definate chance you could be pregnant so get yourself a test or go to your doctors :)
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Is it wrong to belive in a future with her?
Q. After five and a half years my girlfriend has finally cut the cord. our only real problem was my baggage which i never dealt with. we tried living together but my issues prevented this from working. we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together ...
A. 16 July 2007: I wouldn't say it's wrong for you to believe in a future with this girl, but don't hold on to a false hope. It'll do more damage in the long run.
Can you talk to her and ask her if once you have your issues sorted, there would be a chance for your... (read in full...)
Is he lying about his true feelings for me?
Q. Would a guy ever lie about his true feelings for a girl? I'm in all likelihood being foolishly hopeful, but it has been bugging me and I'd appreciate some input. For the first time, I told a guy that I liked him, a huge feat for someone as shy a...
A. 16 July 2007: I guess that lads can lie about their feelings. The guy probably didn't say anything to knowing that you already liked him to save embarrassment or uncomfortableness on your part. He obviously still wanted to be mates with you.
The lad sounds l... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and doesn't love his girlfriend (who he has three kids with) anymore - but he hasn't left her yet!
Q. im 25 with 3 children and have been seein a man for 4 years he has kids and a girlfriend,he has been telling me since just before xmas that he loves me and doesnt love her anymore wants to be with me but finds it hard to leave cause of his kids, i ...
A. 16 July 2007: I would set him an ultimatum- it's her or you. He either ends things with her or he looses you. It sounds really harsh but you cant let him play you along while he "waits for the right time" or whatever. If he is genuine then he'll pull his finger ... (read in full...)
What do men look for in a woman?
Q. I really wanna know what men look for in a woman? why they chose to be with the girl they're with, and why they reject others? i'm 23 and single and have no luck when it comes to men, so i'm hoping some of u guys out there will be able to shed light ...
A. 16 July 2007: It varies per person and per age I think aswell. Some males can be very choosy, just like some females can about males. Others not so much.
My partner says he's with me because he feels a connection with me that he doubts he would feel with any... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to keep the baby and if I should tell him
Q. I am pregnant by my new ex. We had only been dating 6 months, but the unhealthy relationship he has with the mother of his child has finally broke us. I already had an abortion a few months ago (also his) and I really don't know what to do. I really ...
A. 16 July 2007: Before you tell him decide if you want to keep your baby. It may be tough being a single mum but loads of ladies do it and there are some wonderful support sites and groups for all sorts of things. I am currently 6 months pregnant myself and suffer ... (read in full...)
I have low self esteem and I'm afraid to ask girls out
Q. I am rather shy, and I have very poor confidence in myself. I'm the tall,skinny,quiet kid who is good in school, I'm sure you know the type. I'm afraid of asking girls out, and what they would think of me if I did, although I have no problem talking ...
A. 16 July 2007: I was the same at school and in the end never really dated until I got to upper school and fell in with the wrong crowd.
If there is a girl you really like drop suttle hints while talking to her that you like her and see how she reacts. Or flirt... (read in full...)
How can I break up with her without hurting her?
Q. hi, there is this girl that i am currently goin out with and i want to break up with her without hurting her and i really dont kno how. please help! ...
A. 16 July 2007: All you can do is sit down with her and tell her you don't want to be with her anymore. I can't guarentee it wont hurt her but it will be a damn sight better then doing it through email/text/phone etc.
Just explain why you feel things haven't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is suspicious of me for no good reason
Q. I don't know what to do about my boyfriend. we always have disagreements because if he's stressed or had a bad day he gets really supicious. I don't know if this is because of his depression or his personality. he knows i'm not the type of girl...
A. 16 July 2007: Hey sweetie,
All couples fall out at some point. Me and my partner can go without falling out then he'll have a bad day at work or my hormones will kick in then all we seem to do is argue.
If you think your boyfriend is depressed maybe ... (read in full...)
Shes 14, I am 16. Is it ok to date her?
Q. a girl i like said she would go out with me if i ever asked her out but she knows i wouldn't because she's 14 and i'm 16. So is she too young for me? She flirts and talks alot to me and tells me she loves me. ...
A. 16 July 2007: That's cool then hunni. Could I make a little suggeation. How about talking to her parents about you and her dating and explain the no sex.
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Shes 14, I am 16. Is it ok to date her?
Q. a girl i like said she would go out with me if i ever asked her out but she knows i wouldn't because she's 14 and i'm 16. So is she too young for me? She flirts and talks alot to me and tells me she loves me. ...
A. 15 July 2007: Yeah it is ok to date her but you would be breaking the law if sexual things take place as it wouldn't be legal.
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