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... Send *ummyMummy a private message | | | *ummyMummy's profile:I'm 22 years of age and have just become a Mum for the first time! Bethany Molly was born on the 9/11/07 at 12.51pm weighing 8 pound 3. Apparently I'm a lucky so and so as my waters broke at 9am and only was in labour just under 3 hours. It still hurt though. But she is worth every bit of it though!
I'm not qualified to give out advice, but feel due to experiences I've had that I can give out a bit of friendly advice that might be helpful. I am currently thinking of doing a counselling course at home while my baby is young. Then once baby goes to nursery am hoping to do the uni course I was supposed to start this Sept just gone. I want to be a teacher :)
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I'm terrified we will drift apart. What should I do to keep us together?
Q. I have a boyfriend and have for the past 5months or something about 4 hours away. He's starting a new school now.. a really really hard working one. and hel be in year 9.he said he can hardly come on msn or phone me at all because he has really high ...
A. 4 September 2007: Awwww that's nice of them :)
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The pill helps helps with physical pain but it makes my mood swings worse! Any advice?
Q. I usually have mood swings, but I've been put on the pill to stop my period pain, and they're making my mood swings worse. They usually make me feel really paranoid, and I already have trust issues, so for my mood swings to increase is not exactly ...
A. 3 September 2007: I agree with flowergirl- got back to your gp and have a chat with them. They may try you on something else.
I used to get terrible moodswings with my period (I'm pregnant at the moment and have forgotten what they were like due to pregnanc... (read in full...)
I was drunk and cheated on my boyfriend; now he won't talk to me!...
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend on a saturday night and I told him what i had done the next day. i was drunk and i didn't realise of what i was doing.i didn't even like the guy. now my boyfriend doesn't wanna talk to me and i don't know what to do in ...
A. 3 September 2007: You can't blame your guy for being hurt after what you did whether you knew what you were doing or not.
Give him some time and see if he'll let you talk to him then. You can then ask him if there is a chance for the pair of you. If he does giv... (read in full...)
I'm terrified we will drift apart. What should I do to keep us together?
Q. I have a boyfriend and have for the past 5months or something about 4 hours away. He's starting a new school now.. a really really hard working one. and hel be in year 9.he said he can hardly come on msn or phone me at all because he has really high ...
A. 3 September 2007: Can he get on MSN for an hour a night? Talk on the phone 2 or 3 times a week? Can you swap emails rather then chat in IM?
I have been in a long distance relationship for a few years and it is hard when both parties cant be in contact much. Wh... (read in full...)
We want to meet up so badly, but we're worried of how it'll go.
Q. I met this guy via chatmachine, and we started talking. At first we were just friends, and it stayed that way for about a year. I heard about his girlfriends, and vice versa, but we were never really close. Sometime before christmas, about...
A. 3 September 2007: It is hard hunni. And I hope things work out for you I really do. I have respect for anybody who has a long distance relationship and sticks with it because it is difficult. It can also be wonderful. I wouldn't change the last few years for anything ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me on this, please? There's a chance that I might be pregnant...
Q. Hey. I have a question, and anyone with a good advice to help me out, i'd really appreciate it. To start it off, my period is pretty irregular. although it comes between 28-35 days. and it doesn't go over that. however today is..sept 1, and my last ...
A. 3 September 2007: Hunni, if you are concerned about having a child why are you having unprotected sex still? Get yourself tested and find out about contraception and pick one or two to use.
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Can anyone help me on this, please? There's a chance that I might be pregnant...
Q. Hey. I have a question, and anyone with a good advice to help me out, i'd really appreciate it. To start it off, my period is pretty irregular. although it comes between 28-35 days. and it doesn't go over that. however today is..sept 1, and my last ...
A. 2 September 2007: Heya hunni,
If you have had unprotected sex then yes there is a chance you could be pregnant.
I have very irregular periods aswell and found that months I was particularly late or had skipped one the month before I had "symptoms" that left me... (read in full...)
He is not text-book attractive, however has a fantastic personality. Should I pursue a relationship with him, against the will of my friends?
Q. I need help!! Ive recently become intensely attracted to someone ive known for several years, but this is not where my problem lies. The issue is that this man is not text-book attractive. He's in his 30's, roughly five-ten, incredibly thin,...
A. 1 September 2007: Tell your friends that. Your are old enough to make your own choices being 21, so they should support whatever you decide. Hopefully they will open their eyes further than just looking at what he looks like and see he isn't a loser. He's actually a ... (read in full...)
I'm still worried I could be pregant!
Q. Hi everyone, Well about 3 days ago i lost my virginity and he was protected , we had sex for about 30 mins , but we had to discontinue because my mom came home . so he came over the next day and we had sex once again but unprotected this time ,ye...
A. 31 August 2007: If you are really that worried go to your gp/doctor and get tested. They will do it for free. You can also be tested for STIs whilst there as can you be sure the lad is clean. STIs are on the increase and some don't have and symptoms.
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Sex has become routine after a year together. Anyone got any tips to spice it up a bit?
Q. Me and my bf have been together for over a year and have been having sex for about a year and things in the bedroom feel like a routine. can u help me maybe give me tips on how i can spice up our sex life please, we like extreme things to do, its ...
A. 31 August 2007: Try different positions, or having sex at different times of the day. If you normally do it at night, try the morning or the afternoon. Surprise him by initiating sex when he least expects it. Try dressing up, sex toys, food etc
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How do I break up with him, if I'm interested in preserving the friendship?
Q. I need ways to break up with a guy! Somthing that would make us stay friends... any ideas?...
A. 31 August 2007: Sit down on a one on one basis with him and talk him through why you want to end it and the fact you want to still be his mate. Explain why you think you feel the way you do.
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He is not text-book attractive, however has a fantastic personality. Should I pursue a relationship with him, against the will of my friends?
Q. I need help!! Ive recently become intensely attracted to someone ive known for several years, but this is not where my problem lies. The issue is that this man is not text-book attractive. He's in his 30's, roughly five-ten, incredibly thin,...
A. 31 August 2007: If you really like this guy and he really likes you then what your friends say shouldn't matter. So they wouldn't date him because he's "ugly"- all the better for you so you can make a play for him. If your friends fall out with over a guy then they ... (read in full...)
I am 14, pregnant and haven't told anybody! What do I do?
Q. ok so i had sex with my bf and we used a condom and i still got pregnent, I'm only 14 and nobody knows, not even my bf, I'm scared to tell anyone, my mom said if i ever got pregnant that i would have to get an abortion. What do i do??? HELP PLEA...
A. 30 August 2007: The decision about the abortion is down to you hunni, not your mum. I would go see your doctor who you can talk about all the issues you have going through your head. They can also check everything is going ok with you and the baby.
I'm 22 and w... (read in full...)
Can I leave home, being 16?
Q. Ok, here's the deal, i want to get out of my mom's house but i can't b/c im 16. Can i really do that? Just leave my mom's place?...
A. 30 August 2007: I don't know the laws from over there but over here I think you can move out at 16. I did anyway. Make sure you have somewhere safe to go first. And remember that it'll be hard living away from home. You'll have to pay for things you didn't ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's family party has got me worried. how should i act?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and abit, and recently i have become close with his family! i am 16, his sister 20 has invited me to her 21st birthday I am scared because her friends will be there, who are quite different and be...
A. 29 August 2007: All I can say is just be yourself. My partner's parents 30th wedding anniversary a couple of years back I went through exactly the same emotions. All I can recommend is just be yourself, be polite to them all especially his family and don;t drink ... (read in full...)
We slept together and I like him, now. He's a lot older..can anything come of this?
Q. ok, i slept with a guy i really should not have, never thought anything of him before, but now i think i like him. nothing can come of it, but i dont know if i should talk to him about our encounter. He is alot older than me, and can be quite ...
A. 29 August 2007: If he's so imtimidating then why did you sleep with him?
The fact that he's a lot older isn't really an issue as you are of a legal age and the decision to sleep with him was your own.
From your words I guess you feel you made a mistake so I w... (read in full...)
How do i tell her that i have snuck out of the house to go to jazz concerts and play in a few jazz concerts?
Q. This really isnt a life or death question but ive been playing the trumpet for 5 years now and ive been told that i am really good at it. However my passion is jazz and my mom wont let me join a jazz band only a classical band. She actually becomes ...
A. 29 August 2007: I think the best thing you can do is sit down with your mum on your own with no distractions and talk to her. Explain your passion is jazz and playing it makes you happy, where as classical doesn't. As a parent she should want you to be happy and ... (read in full...)
How much weight will i loose walking 3km a day?
Q. how much weight ,an average ,wil i lose if i walk 3km a day for two week and eet only 3 times a day? plus drink lots of water? thx. xxx. im 16 if thatl help any....
A. 29 August 2007: I don't think anybody can say exactly what you would loose hun. All you can do is try this and see how much you do loose. If you are unsure then why not try talking to your doctor who can help you with what foods to eat/not eat and other exercise ... (read in full...)
Can I do anything to stop my periods from being so heavy?
Q. Sometimes my period is really heavy it hurts like normal but i keep having to change all the time and i just cant be botherd causre ther toilets at school are wrank. Please help because its annoying me having to keep changing all the time....
A. 29 August 2007: Maybe go and have a chat with your gp as sometimes the contraception pill can help with periods :)
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I like her, she likes me but i'm too nervous. what can i do?
Q. hey guys i need some help their is a girl i like and she likes me, i think anyway she asked me out today. but i got so nervous i made an excuse to leave and never anwser her. should i text her and say yes and say im sorry for running away. but if i...
A. 29 August 2007: I think you should at least text her and tell her you would like to go out with her. Maybe a phone call instead. Appologise for running off on her cause you got nervous. Or she might think you aren't interested.
Nerves are a nightmare but the only... (read in full...)
Not sure if I'm making my bf happy...what can I do?
Q. Am a mother of three..going on four. Am living with my boyfriend for 8 years..but been going out for 11 years. Not married. Still waiting for him to propose. Anyways he is 5'3 tall weight 170lbs and I'm 5'5 tall and weight 272lbs. I did all a mother ...
A. 29 August 2007: I think you need to sit down with your guy and talk to him about how you are feeling as it seems to me you have both stepped apart from each other and now there's a gap between you. Hope that made sense lol.
As your guy if what you do is satisfyi... (read in full...)
I've taken the morning after pill twice, can i take it again? Is this safe?
Q. I had sex just as i was coming off my period, but the condom split, am i stil able to take th morning after pill. also iv taken th pill twice before. is this safe? would it affect my babies later in life?...
A. 29 August 2007: I would talk to your gp about this. I don't know anybody who has taken it more than once so I cannot say that it leaves any long term damages. I have only seen the side effects it gives when taken and my friend was ill for 2 days.
I should t... (read in full...)
We have an age gap. He's got children. He wants to marry me. What should i do???
Q. I am 26 yrs old unmarried girl and I will be 27 yrs in Jan 08. A 40 yrs old married man with 2 kids (wife no more) loves me a lot and even I also like him ) he wants to marry me. But I m afraid whether this mrrg will be successful or not as there is ...
A. 29 August 2007: If you are unsure about getting married then say no to the guy, or maybe in the future.
13 years is a large age gap, but it can work. My friends parents have 16 years between them and they are very happy together.
Depends how you feel about t... (read in full...)
She's cheated in our past, so is her recent behavior making me paranoid or was she just teasing?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me while she was on vacation. I forgave her because of certain circumstances. last night however I got the vibe she was sending mixed signals. she wouldn't let me touch her like I usually do and accused me of being "clingy"...
A. 29 August 2007: Ask her. Don't sit there and drive yourself crazy over this. You'll end up a nutter. After my partner cheated on me the slightest thing made me paranoid especially cause he lived so far away. I wouldn't talk to him about it and would drive myself ... (read in full...)
Any advice as to how I can arouse him without touching his male members would be greatly appreciated.
Q. Hi all. I am having problems. I am in a fairly new relationship and he knows just what to do to arouse me sexually, but I don't know how to arouse him. He is a little inexperienced and doesn't know what he likes. Any advice as to how I can arouse ...
A. 29 August 2007: Try kissing your guys neck and nibbling on it, varying how hard you nibble. Don't do that too hard though. You don't want to become a vampire. Try nibbling the lobes of his ears aswell. Run your nails across his back and stomach, gently on his ... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if let's say I touched my vagina right after wiping my hands off my boyfriend's cum with tissue and wash my hands with water only??
Q. Can I get pregnant if let's say I touched my vagina right after wiping my hands off my boyfriend's cum with tissue and wash my hands with water only?? I'm getting paranoid lol help me thanks! =)...
A. 29 August 2007: If you washed your hands I doubt very much that you could get pregnant. If you are really unsure and worried take a pregnancy test and see what it says. It'll stop you worrying and set your mind at rest :)
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He was open about personal things - does he like me?
Q. I really like this guy, i'm 15 and he's 17. The only problem is i'm not sure if he likes me. We haven't known eachother very long but he's told me stuff about his family which sounds like it's hard for him too chat bout. What should I do to find out ...
A. 29 August 2007: Ok!
Good luck.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
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I fell over whilst out and have done damage to my leg. Should I be worried about it?
Q. I was out on friday, and fell over while walking i got two seperate cuts on my leg one being worse than the other. it feel on a sharp object and got two puncture marks. i left it and came home. It is now tuesday, my knee has swollen up, the veins ar...
A. 28 August 2007: I would get to your doctor first thing tomorrow morning and get them to check it out.
If you start to feel worse then what you do now I would get down A+E and get it seen to there. It might just be you worrying that is making you feel a little "... (read in full...)
I was drunk and stoned he took advantage last night what should i do
Q. i was drunk and stoned he took advantage last night what should i do...
A. 28 August 2007: so you took him up to his room? That's not him taking advantage og you hun if you taking him to his room impled you wanting to do something.
I cant help you anymore as I have no clue what went on so cannot advise you anymore then what I did alre... (read in full...)
I was drunk and stoned he took advantage last night what should i do
Q. i was drunk and stoned he took advantage last night what should i do...
A. 28 August 2007: Did the guy rape you? Did you at any point say to him you wanted any sexual contact?
If he honestly "forced" himself upon you then I think you should tell someone because whether you were sober or whatever that isn't right.
If you "led" him on... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant but pushes me away. Should i just move on?
Q. I will try and be as direct as possible. I dated a girl for 7 months. She had her own place but stayed at mine. I then sold my house and moved in with her on temporary basis. You could tell there was some tension after a month of the new ...
A. 28 August 2007: I would have a serious chat to her and explain the money situation with her as it isnt fair on your to fund her life. Anything that is to do with the baby then fine. Ask her if there is someone else. She needs to be honest, if she isn't already.
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He was open about personal things - does he like me?
Q. I really like this guy, i'm 15 and he's 17. The only problem is i'm not sure if he likes me. We haven't known eachother very long but he's told me stuff about his family which sounds like it's hard for him too chat bout. What should I do to find out ...
A. 28 August 2007: It could be. I don't know him so I cant tell through the pc. Ask him to the cinema either before you go back to school or one saturday afternoon. See if he makes a move to hold your hand or put his arm round you. If he doesn't try sitting so that ... (read in full...)
What do you think about affairs?
Q. What do you guys think about affairs? Esp when someone has one when only in the first few years of their relationship. Does this mean generally they are unhappy, missing something? And if so once the affair has started and even stopped, will that...
A. 28 August 2007: I think all affairs are wrong. If you loved and respected the partner you are with and everything in that relationship was "great" then why would you need to look elsewhere.
I think that once the couple know that there is something "wrong" ... (read in full...)
My friend has been in rehab and doesn't seem to want to talk t me anymore. Is that normal?
Q. Do people get depressed and not really want to interact with others when they are trying to sober up? My friend is an alcoholic and she went to rehab and she's trying to stay sober, but I haven't heard from her and she used to call me a lot. ...
A. 28 August 2007: She may be nervous of coming near you incase you still "dissapprove" of her. She may need to know that as much as you hated what she was doing, now that she's got herself sorted you want to be there for her.
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He had an affair and I feel low, I'm also pregnant. I dont know anyone where we live...
Q. Things have not been good through my life I have been made to feel lower than everyone else by bullies at school, work and my partner has not been nice. He has now had an affair and my esteem is at the lowest. I have no friends my husband and chil...
A. 28 August 2007: I'm sorry to hear this hunni.
I know you said you can't face a new life, but surely you being happy comes in to this somewhere cause you sound really unhappy right now.
Can you learn to forgive and trust your partner again? If you cant then yo... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant but pushes me away. Should i just move on?
Q. I will try and be as direct as possible. I dated a girl for 7 months. She had her own place but stayed at mine. I then sold my house and moved in with her on temporary basis. You could tell there was some tension after a month of the new ...
A. 28 August 2007: Pregnancy is a very stressful, emotional and confusing time for a female. I am seven months pregnant myself and its like being on a rollercoaster with the way emotions can change with the slightest change of hoemones.
Is there anyway you and her ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish of me to expect to be paid to babysit my sister's daughter?
Q. I am a stay at home mom with a 4 mo. old, and I'm also pregnant. My older sister works full time and whenever her day care woman is unavailable, she asks me to watch her 4 y/o daughter. She gets here at 6 a.m. to drop her off, and doesn't pick her ...
A. 28 August 2007: I had this when my sister first had her little girl. I love looking after my niece, especially since I found out I was pregnant and it made for good practise. The one afternoon a week then went up to two, then I'd look after her on a fri morning. ... (read in full...)
He was open about personal things - does he like me?
Q. I really like this guy, i'm 15 and he's 17. The only problem is i'm not sure if he likes me. We haven't known eachother very long but he's told me stuff about his family which sounds like it's hard for him too chat bout. What should I do to find out ...
A. 28 August 2007: He may feel a "close connection" with you, and that you are a trust worthy person rather than his male mates. Try flirting with him, or asking him to the movies or for a coke or whatever dates are these days.
I wouldn't suggest doing anything... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like me going on dear cupid! He says it's porn with words!But i enjoy it..
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me when I go on Dear Cupid! I am a stay at home mom, and I'm pregnant so I don't have much of a life. I go on Dear Cupid and I like to try to help by giving people advice. My b.f. gets mad at me and says that the ...
A. 28 August 2007: Does it matter how often I am on this site? I don't have issues with my partner--- you do.
The going around the baby shops was a suggestion before I knew you had another child, so fine bad suggestion on my part. But you seem to want to throw ev... (read in full...)
I'm worried that having braces may have discolored my teeth!
Q. okay well i had braces for 18months now, and am getting them taken off next week. Im a bit woried tho that i might have lots of stains on my teeth from where the braces were/weren't. so i was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to whiten my ...
A. 28 August 2007: I also had braces and I didn't have any stains. Just make sure you clean your teeth at least twice a day and they should be fine :)
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My friend has been in rehab and doesn't seem to want to talk t me anymore. Is that normal?
Q. Do people get depressed and not really want to interact with others when they are trying to sober up? My friend is an alcoholic and she went to rehab and she's trying to stay sober, but I haven't heard from her and she used to call me a lot. ...
A. 28 August 2007: I went "over the edge" a few years back. I had been a terrible teenager, doing a lot worse then the normal teenage rebelling. I hurt many people. When I finally admitted I had a problem and got help I pushed away a lot of people while I sorted ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back and she said she still loves me but I haven't heard from her for nine days. Why????
Q. okay so me an my ex broke up back in march '07 we were together for 2.5 years, why we broke up is not important, just that I want her back. We went out on date last Sunday, the date went really well, but at the end of the night when we went back...
A. 28 August 2007: Why you split up may be an important key to you getting back together for her anyway.
I think she's torn between moving on and forgetting whatever she did to hurt you, and staying with you after being together for so long.
I would talk to he... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like me going on dear cupid! He says it's porn with words!But i enjoy it..
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me when I go on Dear Cupid! I am a stay at home mom, and I'm pregnant so I don't have much of a life. I go on Dear Cupid and I like to try to help by giving people advice. My b.f. gets mad at me and says that the ...
A. 28 August 2007: I wasn't trying to attack you at all. I was merely pointing out that this website is one cause of the problems in your relationship that's all. I have been around newborn babies as my mum had a child 6 years ago and my sister had a baby last year so ... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like me going on dear cupid! He says it's porn with words!But i enjoy it..
Q. My boyfriend gets mad at me when I go on Dear Cupid! I am a stay at home mom, and I'm pregnant so I don't have much of a life. I go on Dear Cupid and I like to try to help by giving people advice. My b.f. gets mad at me and says that the ...
A. 27 August 2007: I think you both need to turn the computer off and get a realistic life before your baby comes along. I'm 7 months pregnant myself so I understand the feeling of having no life! But that is because you are sat on your butt looking at the pc screen. ... (read in full...)
We want to meet up so badly, but we're worried of how it'll go.
Q. I met this guy via chatmachine, and we started talking. At first we were just friends, and it stayed that way for about a year. I heard about his girlfriends, and vice versa, but we were never really close. Sometime before christmas, about...
A. 7 July 2007: I am currently in a long distance relationship and they do work. You just have to work a little harder at it that's all. I met my guy in a chat room and 3 years later we are still happy.
I was petrified when I first met my partner. He came to ... (read in full...)
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