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Concerned about three-some!

Q.   Ive been dating my g/f for about 6 months now, and shes pressuring me to have a threesome with one of her friends. The third person is a female, and it should be my fantasy to have it, but i extremly dislike the idea. i love her very much and i ...

A.   30 July 2007: Hi, just be honest and tell her how you feel.I dont think that this is a good idea - It is sure to cause problems in the future. You may want to make her happy but dont do something you dont want to. Good luck... (read in full...)

What do I tell my son about his father?

Q.   im a young mum, very young mum. i had my baby 3yrs ago, but when i first told the father i was pregnant he just left me on my own, saying its my problem - not his! i think that was really rude of him to leave his unborn-child like that! but the p...

A.   30 July 2007: Hi, it is unfortunate that you are the one left with answering the questions. Firstly i would like to wish you good luck on being a mum at such a young age,I suggest that you tell your child the truth about his father because at some point the truth ... (read in full...)

I have a great boyfriend, but I really like my friend!

Q.   Hello! I have a bit of a problem. I am in a relationship, and to tell the truth, I am loving it. My boyfriend seems to be the perfect guy for me, and all my friends think we're going to be engaged by the end of high school. He's sweet, honest wi...

A.   27 July 2007: Hi, think about the fact that if you go out with this guy and it doesnt work out for you then you probably wouldn't have much of your'lls friendship left.Are you willing to risk your friendship for a relationship that might destroy your ... (read in full...)

She slept with someone else before we started dating, but I can't get it off my mind!

Q.   Here is my story. Back in September when I started college I met this girl- a roommate of my close friend. At the beginning I didnt think she liked me and I have been going through life without paying attention to crushes, nor was I in a hurry to ...

A.   27 July 2007: Hi, you have to realize that everyone has a past that they are not proud of and nothing can be done to change it. If you really love her then you woudl forgive her for doing something that she also regrets.You 2 were not together at that time and ... (read in full...)

Is this normal? Am I still a virgin?

Q.   hi! i have a question... today, my boyfriend and I were just watching tv. then, things led to another, and he started fingering me. im a virgin, so it hurt, and felt good at the same time. then, when everything was done i realized i was bleeding. it ...

A.   27 July 2007: Hi, that is normal the bleeding is bound to last for 2 days the most. Dont be scared everything is still fine.i agree that you are only not a virgin if a guy penetrates you. Good Luck.... (read in full...)

Why am I so moody, and how do I stop it? I'm scared of losing my boyfriend!

Q.   I seem to get upset about every little thing, especially when it comes to my boyfriend of 6 months. I'm super sensitive to everything! I don't know what to do, because my bf is getting quite sick of me being upset/moody all the time. I never us...

A.   27 July 2007: Hi, i know exactly what you are going through. I am not on the pill but there are times when i get reall moody and upset. It is really unfair that we take it out on our bfs. My bf is really understanding at times and we are always speaking about our ... (read in full...)

Do I ignore what the world thinks and do what my heart says?

Q.   I recently ran into my ex. We hit it off, and we started hangin out again. I strongly believe that she is an amazing person, but my family and friends think otherwise because we had a rough going of separate ways. The world truly is against us ...

A.   27 July 2007: Hi, at a time like this you really cant see what you need to. If you really love this girl & she feels the same for you then dont worry about anyone. Fair enough your'll have had a tough time but everyone deserves a second chance.My bf and i had the ... (read in full...)

Do I ditch the guy thats cheating on me with my best friend, even though I've been dying to date him!?

Q.   o.k well see,i found out my boyfriend iz cheating on me with my bestfriend!!!!!how do i kno?becuz not only did my friend tell that she saw them kissing and hugging n the movies,but hiz friend told me the same thang 2!!!! i kno it's tru cuz they were ...

A.   27 July 2007: Hi,if you have let this guy know that you have been dying to date him, that was a mistake because he probbly feels that he can do what he wants and you would still be there. You need to ditch your bf because she really isn't your true friend. You ... (read in full...)

Did I blow it on our holiday together? Now that I'm home, I miss him so much!

Q.   Hi I was seeing a man briefly (5 dates over 3 weeks) In February. We got along very well. He was about to go off travelling for six months when I met him. I suggested That I join him at some point along the way, The thought of six months before ...

A.   27 July 2007: Hi, you need to tell him the reason for your actions and once you have done that i'm sure he would understand. All that has happened it because of a little misunderstanding. You need to ask yourself if you really want to have relationship with him ... (read in full...)

Should i go after him whilst his girlfriend is away?

Q.   I've had a crush on a friend for two and half years. During that time, he has been a very good friend to me. He complimented on my looks often, and said things that either could be hints, or he could just be teasing me. I think it's the former. He ...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi, you should not go out with him while he has a gff - you wuld not like it if someone else has done that to you. Give things some time and if their relationship does not work out, then maybe you can pursue the relationship then but until he is ... (read in full...)

I want the perfect relationship.

Q.   hi evry body; im 19 and i have never have a relationship with somone , now there is a guy who ask me to have a proper relationship with him and he told me that he loves me . but i dont now if he realy love me or not, and im afraid to accept ...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi,Stop waiting for a perfect relationship because before you know it your life would have gone by and you would still be wating for the perfect relationship. You are scared to get into a relationship but how do you plan on knowing if the ... (read in full...)

17 and 27, is that a problem?

Q.   I'm 17 and I've just started to get involved with this guy who is 27, is this wrong?...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi, You are not the first couple and would certainly not be the last couple to have an age gap between them.I am 19 and my bf is 30! We really love each other and don't see our age difference as being a problem.It is what you think it is. i think ... (read in full...)

Shall i give him another chance.

Q.   I need advice. I have just split up with my fiance as he has kissed another girl. i dumped him once before because of the same thing. However, he promised that he could make me trust him and we got back together. Since then, I have never reall...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi, The truth is that everyone does need a second chance. It would be harder for you to trust him now as he has done it again. I f you feel he deserves a second chance, he must prove to you that he is worthy of you and your love.You ned to see the ... (read in full...)

He keeps lying to me, why?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend always fight. He spends all his time at home, with me or at work. But I only get to see him 2 or 3 days a week. He lies a lot. And about stupid things. But not it's getting worse. He's lying to me about giving and getting other ...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi, this guy is playing game with you. Dump him and find some worthy of your love.If you think that he would change then give him one last chance and tell him to stop all his nonsense immediately or els you would leave. Dont ;et himtake you for a ... (read in full...)

Is ten years too big a difference?

Q.   There is 10 years difference between myself and my girlfriend. She is 47 and I'm 37. She has been married and divorced but has no kids. I'm not sure if I still want kids. I do care for her and enjoy being with her, but don't know if 10 years is...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi, My bf is 30 and i am 19. Your are not the first nor the last couple to have an age difference between your'll. I really love my bf and i seem to have a better relationship with him than with any of my other bf's that were close to my age. I thin... (read in full...)

He showed their sex tape at a party.

Q.   So i have been dating my gf for about 6 9 months and it's all going great except for the fact she sometimes talks to her ex's.. she doesn't call them they call her but she is to nice not to pick up.. the one that really upsets me and i don't w...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi,Tell her to stop contct with her ex's because it is causing problems on your'lls relationship.There is no reason to have any contact with them that the reason they are called ex's. If she loves yo enough then she would do anything to make you ... (read in full...)

I can't help thing he's cheating.

Q.   been with this guy for 11 months now, i do love him, i known him 2 years.. at about 5months together, he rang me one night while he was out, crying about how a girl just "kissed him" but he pushed her away. but i cant stop thinkin bout what he was ...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi, you have reasons to be paranoid.The answer to your problems is communication. Tell him exactly what you feeling and thinking and you can judge from his actions whether your suspicions are true or not.If he really loves you then he would stop ... (read in full...)

His parent's think he can do better, so he split up with me.

Q.   A little over 3 months ago, i cheated on my boyfriend of almost 2 years. i made a really really bad choice, lied about it (which made it way worse), and there is no excuse. at the time, i was facing alot of personal issues and was really confused ...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi,Firstly i want to tell you that my bf has done something similar to me.At the time that i found out i was more hurt than angry and wanted to break instantly.After a few days i forgave him because i really love him. Your bf has understand that we ... (read in full...)

I guess I'm looking for a little reassurance does this guy like me... I'm confused?

Q.   ok I've been seeing this guy alomst 5 months. its been a bit of a strange one. we have talked almost everyday,since we met, we've seen each other as much as we can (he lives some miles from me) and its him doing the travelling. he has said he needs ...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi, Yes it seems that this guy has taken a liking to you but due to his past experience he doesnt want to rush things. Just take things slow and be there for him. It might be alittle frustrating, if you want to go at a faster pace with things. Dont ... (read in full...)

He says he can't imagine life without me but that he also thinks we should be apart; he's confused and confusing me!

Q.   I don't know what to do anymore, I need some advice on how to deal with my boyfriend. Unfortunately I think I know what I should be doing, but if anyone can give me any other advice, I'd love to hear it. Here's the deal ... My bf and I have bee...

A.   26 July 2007: Hi, Your bf does have some issues that he has to deal with on his own - It's not right that he is playing you around like that. Give him some time to sort things out. Before he leaves for Iraq, find ut where you stand with him (whta his intenetions ... (read in full...)

Now, they both wanna be with me, but I dunno who to choose. Should I go with my past, or should I try something new?

Q.   I was in a relationship with A for 5 years and we have a 2 year old girl together. We've been broken up for about 2 months, but we still mess around. We argue a lot and he's very protective. He wants to be with me, but I don't know what I want. I...

A.   18 July 2007: Hi You must have really liked A because you have a child with him. A seems straight from what you said but i would say the complete opposite for D. Personally i think that D is not what you need in your life. Considering all his "activit... (read in full...)

I wake up in the night and he's pleasing himself... !

Q.   hi i have been with partner for 3 years we have a good sex life but over the past few months he has become distant towards sex we still have it but not as often and i often wake through the night and he will be masterbating he does not know i am ...

A.   9 July 2007: Hi, Congrats! Communication is the best way to get a relationship working! Take Care... (read in full...)

My cousin hates my boyfriend!

Q.   Now My boyfriend is four years older than me im 19 and hes 24. thats not where it ends. we started off as friends then the feelings got mutual. we spent some time apart and now we are together.its been 7 months now and the only thing standing in ...

A.   9 July 2007: Hi, Just be open & honest to him. He would definately appreciatte your honesty. Tell him exactly what you feel. The more you communicate with him, the bettere your relationship would be. Speak form the heart. Good Luck, Mail me if you wana tal... (read in full...)

Is it normal to look at other girls even though I love my amazing girlfriend?

Q.   My girlfriend is amazing. She's smart, funny and I have a great time with her. She treats me like a king, gives me space and I can totally be myself with her. We've been dating for almost 2 years and living together for a year. The problem is...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, you are a guy after all, soyes looking at other girls is normal but as long as you keep to strictly looking then it shouldn't be a problem.I dont think you should et your gf catch you looking at other girls as im sure she would not be too ... (read in full...)

My cousin hates my boyfriend!

Q.   Now My boyfriend is four years older than me im 19 and hes 24. thats not where it ends. we started off as friends then the feelings got mutual. we spent some time apart and now we are together.its been 7 months now and the only thing standing in ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, it is your choice, if he makes you happy dont worry about your cousin.If she is a real cousin then she would accept your decision and the person you are dating beacuse all she would really want is to see you happy.Why doesn't she like him? If ... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend still checks me out online

Q.   Dear Cupid.. It has been almost a Year since my bf and I split up. He decided to have time alone as he was still graduating and remained without employment. Even though i supported him emotioanlly he decided to leave as he had no real time for a ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, he is probably regretting letting you go but i suggest that you dont get your hopes up as you say that he is dating someone. Remember you were there for him and he decided to leave, he seems a bit messed up. Just be riends for now and you can ... (read in full...)

I dont trust my boyfriend because he talks to other girls

Q.   Me and my boyfriend recently got back together after a break up that happened about a week ago, we've been dating almost 2 years. Over that past week he told me he needed to find himself, so I gave him the time and space to do so, and we got back ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, i have a similar problem. I don;t like my bf speanking to other girls as well, I have spoken to him and we have both decided not to do anything that would make the other one sad,hurt or insecure. You first have to build a foundation of trust and ... (read in full...)

I want the guy I like to quit smoking before I'll date him

Q.   if the guy i like smokes pot should i tell him he has to stop if he wants to go out with me? He also smokes cigarettes when he drinks i really like this guy but are these things changable?...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, smoking pot is not a good thing as when you are intoxicated by it you really dont know what you are doing. He could end up hurting you and you really dont want to be around a guy like that. With regards to the smoking i dont think that it as ... (read in full...)

I met a guy that I can't stop thinking about but he's in a happy relationship

Q.   i just met this guy at a friends house, i really like him and cant get him out of my head, but he has a girlfriend for 17 months and he really likes her, i dont feel like going out with friends anymore and i just feel sad all the time, what can i ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi.maybe if you go out with your friends, you would meet someone that like you as well. stop wasting your time pondering on this guy if he has no intention of leaving his happy relationship because before you know it your Mr right would have walked ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my friend out?

Q.   I really like my friend. Ive known her now for four years and I am not sure how she feels about me. We dont chat much but we always texting each other now and again. she sent me various texts saying that she remembers me every day and she will ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, you need to think very carefully before you decide to do anything. You must realixe that if you and this gril do end up in a relationship and if things dont work out for your'll then there wouldnt be much of your friendhip left. Remember the ... (read in full...)

I suffer extreme jealousy

Q.   I have a serious jealousy problem. I cannot control it. There's this guy that my girlfriend is friends with; I don't even know the kid, I've never met him, and I hate his guts. I don't know why but whenever even his name comes up in a conversa...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, you need to seek help as this could turn out to be something serious. You have to learn to deal with your jealousy because if you dont you could end up losing your gf and im sure that is not something you want or even worse you could end up ... (read in full...)

I get turned on when we kiss but turned off when we touch!

Q.   I love my girlfriend. Every time we kiss, she turns me on. But when we touch each other, it feels great, but I can't get turned on. I might just be really nervous, so I'm really worried about what will happen if and when we decide to have sex. P...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, your mind is probably working overtime.You are probably assuming that if you start touching then it would lead to sex, something you are obviously not ready to do. just take things one step at a time. Good Luck.... (read in full...)

I can't stop thinking about an older married woman, I think I'm in love

Q.   I have a problem. I think i'm in love. This is weird - i met this woman about 9 years older then me i'm in my 20's and she's in her 30's. She used to drive me after work we used to work together. Then I started to fall in love with her. She ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, you are haeding for trouble. It would be one thing if she was to leave her husband for you but there are chidren that are invovled here. Stop entertainig her calls and that would be a start to getting over her. If her family is broken up and she ... (read in full...)

I feel he shouldn't be spending time with her with he should be with me

Q.   my boyfriend of 8 yrs plays darts and his friends wife calls him when her husbands out of town to take her to the bar; she too is his friend they all play darts together when her husbands home i cant stand the idea of him spending time with her when ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, You should speak to your bf and tell him that by him doing that it upsets you. I am sure that it does not want to see you hurt or upset and if he is aware that his actions make you upset, he would robably stop. If that does not work, why dont ... (read in full...)

I wake up in the night and he's pleasing himself... !

Q.   hi i have been with partner for 3 years we have a good sex life but over the past few months he has become distant towards sex we still have it but not as often and i often wake through the night and he will be masterbating he does not know i am ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, try to spice uo your sex life. You should be happy (in a slight way) that he is pleasing himself and not allowing someone else to do it for him. Speak to him and tell him how you feel. the best way to get results is to communicate with him. ... (read in full...)

He went on holiday with his ex, but says he wants to be with me when he returns!

Q.   Long story, Short version! I met a great guy, but he had a gf! After seeing him for 3 months he left her, not for me because he did not want to be with her! A month later he asked me to go away with him on holiday and I could not as I have ...

A.   5 July 2007: Hi, You can start by asking him why did he have to take his ex on holiday with him, he could have taken a friend. You really do like this guy as i can see because you are still considering having him in your life/future after what has happened. You ... (read in full...)

I am worried about what my friends would say if they knew my BF was a virgin

Q.   my boyfriend is 18 but he has never has sex. i am a bit worred about mine coz all my other m8 have 18 year old bf and their bf have all had sex before. but i dont wont to tell them that my bf has never had sex becouse i am worred on what they would ...

A.   4 July 2007: Hi, he is your boyfriend and i personally think that something as personal as that should not really be discussed with any one. Thank your lucky stars, not many guys his age are virgins. Think of the consequences as to what would happen if he found ... (read in full...)

Can my mum put him in jail when we have had no sexual or really physical contact what so ever???

Q.   ok I am 16 years old, I hate guys my age they're too immature... I recently started dating this 20 year old guy and me and him have done nothing but talk but my mom called him up threatening to put him in jail for just talking to me...the funny ...

A.   4 July 2007: Hi, your mum cant really do much. I dont see what the problem is now when she was okay with it before. She is probably hurting because she feels you are growing up too quickly(moving out). Just take things one step at a time and give her some time ... (read in full...)

We been married for 15 years and want to spice up marriage with threesome!

Q.   dear cupid, my husband and i have been married for 15 years,and we are very secure in our marriage.but we need to spice it up a bit.my question to you is it cheating if we have a threesome? thanks...

A.   4 July 2007: Hi, I dont think that is a good idea. If the third peons is a girl would you really like to see someone elsew make your man moan (Sorry for the being abrupt), i wouldn't and if it is a guy your husband can uses that against you in the future ( if he ... (read in full...)

He dumped me and I am lost!

Q.   Hey! erm my boyfriend of 16 months broke up with me last tuesday by text...and it wasn't asif i was expecting it he had been fine with me. He text me saying he doesn't want anything to do with me and that has really f**ked me up because he wasn't ...

A.   4 July 2007: Hi, you are probably very confused at this time and i am assuming that you dont have anyone else to talk to. The first thing you should do is stop your use of alcohol and drugs, that is going to make the problem bigger and you would land yourself in ... (read in full...)

She says she doesn't want me anymore; I can't get over her

Q.   hello evrey im 19 single but im in love with sum 1 special. she says she doesnt like me no more iv pushed her away from me. but sayin that we was together for bout a year she knows i love her more than anythin.i told her il put my hands up for ...

A.   4 July 2007: Hi, you sound like a really sweet guy. The fact that she is just brushing you off, i dont think you should be treated like that. Like i said you sound sweet so dont ponder on this girl if she doesnt want the same thing as you. Go out and meet new ... (read in full...)

He went on holiday with his ex, but says he wants to be with me when he returns!

Q.   Long story, Short version! I met a great guy, but he had a gf! After seeing him for 3 months he left her, not for me because he did not want to be with her! A month later he asked me to go away with him on holiday and I could not as I have ...

A.   4 July 2007: Hi, Your boyfriend is playing games with your heart and is not being fair to you. Be open and tell him everything and the two of you should confront her and then you would get the truth. If he is lying to you, it is up to you whether you want to ... (read in full...)

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