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reader, KimmyDee20  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Hiya,
I'm sorry to say but i agree most with what these guys are saying , especially with what Dr Pete said , she is most probably telling her friends that you are just some kind of walkover and that you will bow down to her and kiss the ground she walks on.... babe we all know you will meet someone hell of a lot more respectable as you seem like a very decent man who deserves better and at the end of the day we are not here to tell u what you ,must do however i personally think that whatever makes you happy in the long run go for your gut instinct if you feel that staying with her will change or better your relationship then give it a try if not then thats when you need to stand your ground walk away and let her realise how inapproprately she has been treating you , use that money for something better and spend it on YOU!!
Take care and good luck
K.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Errr don't be a push over, she's using you.
Find someone who wants you for you and not using you and your money for the stuff your getting her.
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reader, Ginger girl 16 +, writes (31 July 2008):
hey, to be blunt she sounds like a spolit bitch who needs to learn that there is more to life than people buying you things. You work for that money and you should be buying yourself Ipods not her. If she wants them she should buy them. Just because she's pretty doesn't mean that she can use you like this. If you want to keep with her then stop buying her stuff and see if she does leave you. to be honest you seem like and nice guy and she obviously doesn't deserve you if she is like that so dump her and move I don't mean to sound harsh but she doesn't sound like a nice personGOOD LUCK!!!!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Tell her to join "SUGAR DADDY.COM" dating service. Where there are guys who are only to willing to spoil this nasty little brat.
You are far too good for her my dear, period!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (31 July 2008):
 She is most def using you hunny Im sorry to say, find a nice kind girl who cares for you for who you are not what you spend, Get rid of this one love she is taking the p**s big time, You are worth so much more not all girls are like this she is a taker and spoilt and you are kind and caring. I wouldnt have anymore contact hunny let her get on with it maybe she will learn from it with a little luck dont be her doormat anymore it makes me very angry that people use others this way...TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks can I just say that we are not sleepign together or anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): dump her, she is obviously a spoiled brat.
If she is fine with u going broke as long as she is happy then get rid of her. I can't explain it any better
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 No, you shouldn't buy her any more things. And you should break up with her. This shows how she sees the relationship: as a way to get you to pay for things.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (31 July 2008):
HUNNY THE ANSWER IS A PLAIN AND SIMPLE NO!!!!She is using your good kind nature and the fact that she is popular to get what she wants sweetheart, She cares not for you but only for herself..I hate to sound cruel hunny but she is not a nice young lady and you should look elsewere for someone with a heart that will care for you not for your gifts your to good for this young woman TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Laptops and iPods? She better be putting out for those kind of gifts. Anyway, how many of these does a person need?
You are buying sex, so better make sure you are getting it and that it is worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): She's probably telling people what a looser you are behind your back. That's because it's really looser behaviour what you're doing. Stop trying to buy her love.
If she respected you or even really liked you, she'd either not accept so many gifts off you, or she would be buying you stuff back.
Time to do yourself a favour and move on from this regrettable experience. Save up the money and spend it on yourself or people who have earned your respect.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Huni come on wake up she is using you because you spoil her! She has a job she probably earns more then you, she is taking advantage of you because you are letting her. Please dont put up with her anymore she doesnt need you to spend money on her she has her own job. Does she ever buy you anything does she ever look after you? Does she treat you like you treat her.
Do your self a favour and find someone who will love you back not just "like" you back
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 July 2008):
Well if you really are working hard for these things then she has no excuse.
Since she is 19 and you are underage then you can tell her to give the stuff back or you are going to the police to report her as a sex offender. If you have done anything more than kiss her then she is technically molesting a child.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, thats_not_my_name +, writes (31 July 2008):
 hey! look i don't wanna sound harsh but it's sounds like this girl is using you. she is being completly unfair treating you this way and toying with your emotions in this way! you don't deserve her! you sound like such a nice guy and my advice is LEAVE HER! i understand tht you have become very attached to her and tht you love her but i'm afraid it sounds like she doesn;t feel the same way, so she's nt worth your time. you'll soon find someone who appreciates you for who you are. just cut this girl right out of your life and do nt buy her anything else. she does nt deserve it! good luck and message me if you want any more adivce and i'll try and help xxxx
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Sweetie, sounds like your girlfriend is only interested in you because you are able to give her gifts.... I would say that is a very one-sided relationship! Refuse to give her anymore gifts and you will then see her true intentions. Honeygirl
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (31 July 2008):
 seriously hun you need a girl friend that wants and respects you not what she can get from you.. let her go and find a beautful butterfly and no a worm.. good luck aphex xx
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reader, sexi +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Hi
You seem like a sweet guy and this may sound harsh but she may only be using you. If she really like you,she wouldnt worry whether you bought her anything or nor - she should still like you. The fact that she told you that she would leave you if you dont buy her more gifts show that she is only staying coz of the gifts (coz if the gifts are there neither will she be). i think you should reconsider this relationship. Find someone that would appreciate your love and attention more then your gifts. This girls seems like a gold digger.
Regards
Mail me if you wanna talk
Sexi
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): That's very commendable and good for you! But why work hard to pay for someone else to enjoy the fruits of your labours?
You seem like you've got a sensible head on your shoulders - except when it comes to the opposite sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): You present as age 15 (underage) and currently living in the UK. Your going out with a woman, who is 19 and over legal age. What kind of woman expects an underchild to provide her with stuff that she can work and get herself. What kind of woman takes expensive presents of her boyfriend and threatens to leave him if he stops. She's using you, all you are is a bank account to her. You "love" her, but she only "likes" you. Is it you she likes or the money you spend. Dump her, she's no good, she's a user and abuser. One day a man with more money will come along and she'll dump you anyway. Any woman who expects you to give her tons of stuff in return for your company is a "prostitute". You deserve more than this, you deserve a relationship based on love not on the gifts that you have to provide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni am not stealing or doing any criminal activity to get her these gifts. I am working weekends and after school
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI work to get the money to buy her stuff. its nt my parents its my money. Im not a theif or anything illegal to get these things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI work and pay for stuff myself. I do not deal drugs and my parents do not give my money at all.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 July 2008):
I'm guessing you are either dealing drugs, or that daddy pays for everything.
Either way she's sponging off you. Tell her you need to borrow the lap top / ipod and then keep them and dump her.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (31 July 2008):
she may really like you. but she doesnt sound a nice person that if you dont buy her a gift she will leave you what !!!! hell half the men out their dont buy gifts or even think of it so she should be lucky she got anything if you want my opinion she is using you and you could do so much better. your still young but the fact is popularity means nothing it feels like it does in school but once you leave its the big wide world and popularity isnt as important..ide leave her and find a girl worthy not one who is in it for what she can get.. good luck aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): Are you kidding? Where does a 15 year-old get the money to buy iPods and laptops anyway?
If she actually exists, she's a mercenary bitch and you'd do well to get shot of her. But ask for your stuff back.(is it *really* 'your stuff' or did you 'borrow' it?)
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