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I'm 16 is it possible for me to move in with my 21 y-o boyfriend?

Q.   Hi ok so there is this guy ive never met him but hell be 21 soon and im 16(5 year age difference)and lately there have been family problems going on and my mom is actiung much of a mom is it possible i can move in with him right now instead of w...

A.   17 April 2008: Hi Mail me and i would let you in on my experineces! regards, sexi!... (read in full...)

Still waiting for my period after having unprotected sex. Could I be pregnant?

Q.   a question here. my last period was february 23. its now currently april 16 -17 and im still waiting for it. is it possible im pregnant as i have been having unprotected sex for a while now with my bf ? although im aware a test will confirm and not ...

A.   17 April 2008: Hi It is possible that you could be pregnant as your period is late but there could also be a number of reason as to why your period did not come - Just take a preg test too be sure Good Luck, Mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

What would you do??? Feeling nauseous ever since I read his ex's f'book messages..

Q.   i looked at my boyfriends ex-girlfriends facebook profile last night and was very surprised to see that he had commented on her wall (a space where you leave messages)... he must delete the posts she makes on his wall so i cannot read them or ...

A.   14 April 2008: Hi As hard as it may be, you should leave him. If you confront he would just deny it or lie to you. You deserve better than him - he cant go aroung trashing you like that. He lied and you dont want to be with a liar.Ask yourself the question... (read in full...)

Am I alone in feeling jealous and insecure because my man is handsome and charming?

Q.   I apologize for the long rant. I'm overwhelmed right now with feelings of insecurity and jealousy. My boyfriend of 1 year is a very charming man with good looks and great sense of humor. He is flirtatious, he is very out going and meets new girls ...

A.   28 March 2008: Hi I know what you are going through. The reason that is simply because my bf is also good looking but remeber they are with us and they chose to be so we can take this as a compliment.Im sure you are going say that you trust your bf but you are ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend dragged me in the house and forced me to have sex. I don't want him to get in trouble & I'm only 16!

Q.   Is it considered rape if it was your boyfriend? A few days ago I was at my bf's house and we started having an argument, mostly because I wanted to wait until I felt comfortable enough to have sex and he was getting annoyed with me. Well I walked o...

A.   27 March 2008: Think carefully. Why dont you want to tell anyone? He didnt think about how it would make you feel when he forced you to have sex. You are probably going to need some professional help to get over this and i think that the right thing to do is to ... (read in full...)

No lectures please, I'm staying with him no matter what, I just need to know what to do with my bf who's smoking weed...

Q.   I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15. Okay so here's the stich My boyfriend has lately started on weed again and it has changed him big time, its got to a point were he doesnt care what i say or what i do anymore... Hes yelling at me like everyday now,...

A.   19 March 2008: You dont want to leave him so why dont you just try threatening that you are going to leave and see what he does?If he doesnt care and continues to smoke weed then it is up to you and there is not much you can do to change his ways. Regar... (read in full...)

SUPER STRESSED and seeking a bit of HOPE.

Q.   Hey everyone. I and a young single mom and I am super stressed. I am a full time everything right now, full time school, full time mom and just got "hired" for this intership that amazingly fits my schedule. My EX however is not pulling his weight ...

A.   19 March 2008: Hi Go to court and get a garnishee order. If he is working it would be the responsiblity of his employer to deduct the money (an amount agreed upon by yourll) and give it to you. I know this b/c i have garnishee orders which i have to pay over as ... (read in full...)

I gave him a hug and I can't stop thinking about him...

Q.   I used to hate this boy named Kyle so much.I best friend with Timmy. Timmy is one of his friends. Timmy's friends were nice to me at 1st now they tease me abit when Timmy leaves they tell me I can;t sit with them.kyle always stares at me,Teases ...

A.   18 March 2008: Hi Maybe he likes you. It is not unsually when 2 people that dont like each other to suddenly develop feelings for one another.You should just give him sometime and he would tell you if he like you or not,wait for him to say something first.If... (read in full...)

I'm looking for subtle but effective ways to make my BF jealous, because he also disrespects me!

Q.   My guy likes to try and make me jealous by talking about how hot other women are and flirting with women sometimes. I never give him the satisfaction of letting him know it bothers me after all what's good for the goose is good for the gander. But I ...

A.   18 March 2008: Hi Why dont you try speaking to him. My bf does that but to an extent. If i tell him that i dont like what he is saying then he stops. Let just say that my bf knows when enough is enough b/c i made him aware of it. Speak to you r bf and see what... (read in full...)

Does the trust EVER come back again?

Q.   When your partner does something to hurt you, lets say emotionally cheats and even though he's sorry and you give him another chance, things will never really be the same again will they?? Does the trust ever come back... is it possible to forget t...

A.   18 March 2008: Hi I was i your situation. Personally mail me and i will let you know the whole situation and how we over came it. I had thought exaclty like that so dont worry there is hope for your relationship. Regards Sexi... (read in full...)

His ex is GORGEOUS so now I have massive insecurities! How do I stop obsessing about her?

Q.   This is very juvenile but its been driving me nuts so I am going to ask for help anyway... I found my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends myspace profile the other day (I admit, I searched for it out of curiosity). And she is GORGEOUS. And smart. And funn...

A.   18 March 2008: Hi He is with you not her. So there must be something that you have that she doesnt. Dont worry aboutyour looks, love is more than that - It is what you have inside. Just be the best gf that you can be and remember that you are beautiful in your ... (read in full...)

Sexual relationship announcing to become serious - but is the age gap an issue?

Q.   I've been seeing a guy who is in his early 30's for the past month now. Mainly just been messing around but things are starting to get a bit more heated lately and he's been telling me he's starting to fall for me. I'm about to turn 19 and I was ...

A.   17 March 2008: Hi My bf and i are 11 years apart and it is the best relationship i have ever been in. We get on really great. I think age is what you make of it.im 20 and my bf is 31. Regards,mail me if you wanna chat... (read in full...)

How bad of an age gap is this? We met on Hot or Not.

Q.   Hi, Not too long ago i met a guy on 'hotornot' he was gorgeous so left a message telling him so. i was quite shocked to find out he was living in england, and this is a world wide website. Even more scarier was that he lived in the same county....

A.   17 March 2008: Hi Swty My bf and i are 11 years apart and everything is great. I think aga is what you make it to be. I dont think anything is wrong. This relationship is the best that i have ever been in. Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

How to I tell my one night stand I'm pregnant?

Q.   i had a one night stand with a guy just over a month ago and now im pregnant. im still in contact with him but how do i tell him?...

A.   17 March 2008: It is his responsibilty too so he has a right to know.I think you should just tell him and do it as soon as possible. Tell him in person. Good Luck.Mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

If you don't have your period then are you pregnant?

Q.   hi my name is michele and all i wanted to know is if you dont come on your period does that mean that you are pregnant or other things thanks michele leonard...

A.   17 March 2008: Hi It doenst necessarily mean that you are pregnant. It could be a number of things.Are you stressed for some reason as this could cause your period to be late. Have you had unprotected sex? Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

Pregnant and unable to sleep! Any relaxation tips?

Q.   I found out on Friday that i am pregnant, which my partner and i am very happy about.:-) The thing is, i havent been able to sleep properly for the past 3 nights. This is obviously cos im thinking about being pregnant, but i dont want to car...

A.   17 March 2008: Hi Try having a warm bath before going to bed and having a warm drink. Dont eat a meal before going to bed as this would keep you up. If you have a tub then you can soak in there before going to bed. Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" but it still feels prickly! Need some suggestions!

Q.   I'm having a bit of a problem. Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" with warm water, shaving cream, all the things you are supposed to do. My legs are always silky smooth, but it seems no matter how much I try, it still feels ...

A.   17 March 2008: Anonymous DoubleM does shave so im sure he know atleast something regarding shaving maybe not as much as a female but something!... (read in full...)

I feel like a slave but he doesn't hit me too hard so maybe he will be better after we have children...

Q.   My husband comes from a family where the men are always in charge. He was very nice to me when we were dating and after we got married he changed like he thinks he is my master. I feel like a slave sometimes and if I don't do what I am supposed to ...

A.   14 March 2008: Hi If he doesnt change now, he wouldnt ever change. Dont go and start a family for all the wrong reasons.Speak to him and see what he thinks. You should try and so for counselling or marriage therapy.Dont involve children in this if you are unha... (read in full...)

Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" but it still feels prickly! Need some suggestions!

Q.   I'm having a bit of a problem. Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" with warm water, shaving cream, all the things you are supposed to do. My legs are always silky smooth, but it seems no matter how much I try, it still feels ...

A.   14 March 2008: Hi Anonymous, You shouldnt say that to double M.People come here for advice and it doesnt specify that there should only be replies from ladies. Double M is here too help and you should do the same instead of giving comment that are of no use. ... (read in full...)

Is he just being friendly or what?

Q.   there is a man in a shop i go in he is georgous and we have started talking . and he always smiles and says hello and when we talk he looks me straight in the eyes does he fancy me or do you think he is just being friendly...

A.   14 March 2008: Hi It can be either way. Just keep chating and if you are meant to hook up then you would. Dont come on too strong b/c if that isnt how he feels then you could risk the great friendship that you two could have had. Play it cool. If you know tha... (read in full...)

He looks at porn - does this mean he doesn't love me?

Q.   hi my partner has a addiction to looking at porn magazines and acts on them masterbates over them i was just wondering how much of a percentage of partners do this is it that theyre not happy with there sex life and partner i dont know how to think ...

A.   14 March 2008: Hi Some people just have a very high sex drive so they look at porn to relieve themselves. You should speak to your bf if you have a problem with that. He doesnt need to look at porn infront of you if you dont want him to, he should do it in his o... (read in full...)

Why am I nervous about having sex with an older guy?

Q.   Have you ever been scared to have sex with someone who is alot older then you? Especially ten year diff. I cant figure out why im nervous to and im not a virgin but iv never had sex with someone who was older then me. Im 22. ...

A.   14 March 2008: Hi Mail me and i will let you know about my experience. My bf is ten years older then me and i would be more then glad to let you know about my experience. Regards,mail me ... (read in full...)

He used a condom but I'm panicking in case I'm pregnant!!!

Q.   Hi. I'm seventeen, nearly eighteen and my boyfriend and I just started having sex about three weeks ago (it was my first time). I am not on the pill, but he has been using condoms (100% properly). I was worried about pregnancy so on February 29th I ...

A.   5 March 2008: Hi Due to your stressing your period is late.Just relax and calm down. You have taken loads of pregnancy test and i am sure that is you were then it would have showed it to you.Just relax for a couple more days. Regards,mail me if you wanna cha... (read in full...)

How do I tell my bf I want a baby at 13?

Q.   Ohkay.I am 13 years old.I have done everything with a guy.The first time though I didn't use protection hoping I would get pregnant.But I am dating this guy right and I really love him.I want to have a baby with him but how do I tell him?I am young ...

A.   20 February 2008: Hi If i found out that my 13 year old sister was having sex, leave alone wanting to get pregnant i will kill her with my bare hands. Stop you irresponsible behaviour. You want a baby when YOU YOURSELF IS STILL A BABY.Learn to spell sex before y... (read in full...)

Happy Valentine's Day to all!!!

Q.   HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY to all the aunts and readers! May Cupid's arrow strike true and pure on this day devoted to love: romantic love, platonic love, family love, love for your pets, etc.!!! Love to all, Manya XX00...

A.   14 February 2008: Hi Same to you and let us all spread the love to everyone. Regards SeXi... (read in full...)

Can I trust my boyfriend, or are my parents right about him?

Q.   Hi My bf and i have been through alot of trouble to be together and my parents are the ones giving us the trouble. I love him with all of my heart and would never cheat on him or do anything that would jeopardise our relationship. His birthday was ...

A.   5 February 2008: Hi Thanks for your response. I want to giv him a chance but he has broken all the trust that i have for him. It is going to take me very long to trust him again if i ever will. I really love him but i wont accept him hurting me time and again. ... (read in full...)

Do I chose my family or the love of my life?

Q.   i am a hindu girl.i am in love with a christian boy.my family is against this affair.they want me to marry a hindu .but i cant.we love each other so much.he is very sincere and loving.but then i dont want to hurt my parents.what will i do.i want my ...

A.   31 January 2008: Hi I am a tamil and i have a christian bf as well. At first i told my parents that i want to become a christian and my mum and i had a disagreement. She said that i cant just leave my religion.....After a couple of months i think she adapted ... (read in full...)

My mother married at 19, but says I'm too young to move in with my boyfriend, what gives?

Q.   My grandma(my mothers mom) was married at 16 and had my mom when she was 17. And they had a great life. My mom never thought her mother was too young. My mother is also always telling me about how she started dating my father when she was 19 and ...

A.   31 January 2008: Hi I think all moms think like that. Im 20 and wanna get married but my mom thinks that i am too young. My bf and i would be paying for the entire wedding as we are both working and have a stable serious relationship.My mom thinks that i should w... (read in full...)

Does an age difference cause arguments?

Q.   My last two girlfriends were both 18 when we started going out; I was 27. Why do I seem to always want to go for younger women, around that age? Does age difference cause arguments as well?...

A.   29 January 2008: Hi It depends. Some people that are in relationships with older/young people find that they get on better with them then with people of their own age/maturity level. I have a bf that is 11 years bigger then me and this is the best relation... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant while being on top during sex?

Q.   can you get pregnant while being on top during sex?...

A.   28 January 2008: Yes You can get pregnant like that if you arent using any protection... (read in full...)

Can Exes really be 'Just Friends'?

Q.   Can Women and Men really be just friends if they are exs? My boyfriend still talks to his ex. He was talking to her before he and I met, but she lives all the way in Japan! They send emails back and forth and it kind of bothers me. He says its ...

A.   24 January 2008: Hi I guess every person is different. I personally would appreciate my bf speaking to his ex (You can call me crazy). I think that ex should stay where they belong in the past. I think that you should let your bf know that their communic... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and he's 20...is this ok??

Q.   Hi, Im 15 atm and I met a fantastic guy in the summer. He is 20. We have both had feelings for each other for about 10 months now and he wants us to have a relationship. He is a good person and he wont do anything with me until im 16 in feb 08 but ...

A.   23 January 2008: Hi I not sure about the law in your country but i personally dont think that 5 yeats is too big of a difference. Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

Was this the right thing to do?

Q.   I caught my 12 year old niece smoking cigarettes with her friend. I was going to tell her mom, as I was bringing her home she said that if she gave me a blowjob can I forget about it? We pulled down a back road and she sucked me off in my car, S...

A.   23 January 2008: Hi You wanted to tell her mum that she was smoking......Because it was wrong for her to do and she needed to be disciplined but then you allow her to give you a blow job and you consider that right?!? I think i would have rather allowed her to s... (read in full...)

Am I still a virgin? I need advice please.

Q.   i decided to have relationships with my boyfriend, when we were about to,i got scare and told him to stop, so he did, but i believed i was still a virgin since i didnt feel nothing go in, but he told me he did feel our parts touch and went in a ...

A.   23 January 2008: Hi I think that you are still a virgin as there was no/partial penetration. You also say that you didnt feel anything. You bf has another story - Maybe he did penetrate alittle but not enough to break your viginity. Regards,mail ... (read in full...)

What does my new B/F mean, by this comment?

Q.   My new bf asked me if anyone has "come down" on me, i didnt have a clue what he ment but answered no anyway. Can someone tell me what he was asking please....

A.   23 January 2008: Hi He wanted to know if anyone has ever given you Oral sex - That is what i would say that meant. Regards,mail me if you wanna chat ... (read in full...)

Where is the best "place" to ejaculate?

Q.   My fiance' and I are both virgins and have agreed to not have sex until our wedding night (we want that to be a special time for the both of us). While I have never had sex before, I do understand quite a bit and have read up on several things. My ...

A.   23 January 2008: Hi I would say do it inside her. As important as it is to you to let it be good for her, it is just as importent to her for her to know that you are feeling good. That would be really nice. I think that you should also ask her for her opinion,... (read in full...)

Please help! Could I be pregnant?? - from pre-ejaculation.

Q.   Is it possible that i could be pregnant? My boyfrriend had pre ejacualtion on his fingers and i believe that it got into contact with my 'down below'* could this mean that i'm pregnant? I got my period 2 weeks after if happened, but it only la...

A.   23 January 2008: Hi Just relax. I think that it is possible to get pregnant from pre - ejaculation as there is a presence of sperm in it. You should wait for next month and see if you miss your period. If you are stressed or tense then this would cause your per... (read in full...)

I'm 19 and want to be with him. He has a kid and I'm okay with being a step-mother!

Q.   I'm 19 years old.When I was 14 (he was 16) I had a crush on this guy and he really liked me too.But we were both extremely popular and rumors started pouring out til we eventually didn't talk to each other (because of pride)until 11 months ...

A.   17 January 2008: Hi Firstly i think that if he really didnt want to be with this girl then he should stop making babies with her?!? Once he can stop that then you can make a decision. Also he keeps have babies with her but he doenst want to be with - Does he like ... (read in full...)

Engagement in South Africa. Is this true?

Q.   I am from the United States and my boyfriend is from South Africa. My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married in 2 to 3 1/2 years because at this point in time, we are financially unable to get married at this point. He says that in South ...

A.   11 January 2008: That isnt true. My sister got engaged in october 2007 and she is going to get married at the end of this year or early nest year.Ask your bf what is up with him. Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

21 with a little girl and pregnant with twins. Help!!!

Q.   hi its me again im the 21 year old with a little girl who has just found out im pregnant and was not sure what to do keep it or get rid of it well i went for my scan yesterday and found out its twins im having so im not going to be a 21 year old ...

A.   11 January 2008: Hi I dont think you would have the heart to abort them so i suggest that you put them up for adoption. That would be your best option. Think about what is best for you. Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

Why two condoms???

Q.   me and my boyfriend have decided it's time for us to have sex,the only problem is,he wants to wear two condoms for extra safety,but i have told him that they will rub together and brake but he won't listen,how do i make him listen to me? thanks...

A.   11 January 2008: Hi Try and get some info on condoms which you can give to yourbf. 2 Condoms and not safer then 1. I think you should get the info so that he can read it - If he reads it then he would probably understand it better. Also you can go to the clinic f... (read in full...)

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