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I'm 16 is it possible for me to move in with my 21 y-o boyfriend?

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Question - (17 April 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 April 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi

ok so there is this guy ive never met him but hell be 21 soon and im 16(5 year age difference)and lately there have been family problems going on and my mom is actiung much of a mom is it possible i can move in with him right now instead of waiting till im 18... my mom knows nothing about him...and i think its best if i leave her alone to deal with her problems...

he wants to get engaged this summer...and his parents(whom he lives with) told him they will not let me see him unless i get permision from my parents just for his safety...he has also been there for me through all family problems(through texts) and i feel he is the right guy for me...i know you will tell me im too young but with the family problems going on i feel i can handle more than a thirty year old could.

Thank You for the honest answers

Jessica.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

I'm not sure this is the best idea honey. And getting engaged in the summer? You've hardly experienced the world yet, how could you ever know that he is the one for you? Otherwise it'll probably all end up with divorce, and that never makes anyone happy does it honey. I'm sorry if I'm being harsh here, but I'm just trying to be honest. It seems as though you're subconciously trying to run away from your problems at home - in the long run, you'd benefit more from sticking it out and learning from the experience. Also, if you move out, how bad will your mom feel?! It could make everything worse, as she could feel as though she's lost her 16 year old daughter.

I understand telling you your too young is not the best advice in the world, as this is possibly the most predictable thing anyone could say. But really, there are so many men in the world out there. There's realistically a slim chance of finding 'the one' by the time you're 16. Be prepared for heart break honey, because I'm not sure this is gonna end very well.

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A male reader, Smiffy Spain +, writes (17 April 2008):

Smiffy agony auntUmmm...you have never met him???....and you want to get engaged???....you want to leave home???

1. You never met: How can you even consider getting engaged to a person you have nerver met / spent any time with "face to face"

2. You have , by the sounds of it, major problems at home....you wont cure those problems by running away with the "knight" in shinning armour.

3. Youre 16...without your parents / guardians permission you cant...it seems that your mother would never allow this to happen

4. His parents have some sense...at your age the police would be involved and lead to prison for your "boyfriend"

5. If you have major issues at home you need to seek the advice of a professional person (social services)

My final word is...dont use this boy as an excuse to leave the problems behind you...I assure you there will be many more if you decide this path....FOR ALL CONCERNED

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A female reader, sexi South Africa +, writes (17 April 2008):

sexi agony auntHi

Mail me and i would let you in on my experineces!

regards, sexi!

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