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writes:Hello All.To get straight to the point. I have been living with my girlfriend for about 2 months. We've been seeing each other for just over 3 years on and off. She went away for work last month and as a surprise i bought her the game singstar. When she came back, we got some friends over for a night of drinking and singing. About half way through the night we started to play the game. We both played it and i won and got a highscore. one of the names on the was "tasha". When she saw it, she said jokingly "Have you been having girly's round?"Then a friend of mine said "Thats not the only girl he had round".She ran off and spent the night crying into a pillow. Since then she has been checking my phone for secret texts and phoning me every 5 minutes to see what I'm doing. Is this normal behaviour? What should i do to get the trush back in the relationship. Thank you all very much for reading and cheers for any replys.Jxx
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 was your friend joking when he said that? not cool!! wat about the name on the game? were you having girls around? you didnt really let us know that part of things. you need to be honest with her and tell her exactly wat happened when she was away.
joel 158 is right. you have been with her so long, why would you cheat on her? just let her know that you would never do that to her, you really do love her, and your friend was joking. my god i know im a girl and everything, but sometimes women over react so much!!!
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reader, Curiousbynature  +, writes (23 July 2008):
Women are nuts! We just are. Sometimes we have moments of weakness. Just tell her. Maybe have one of your friends that are a girl reassure her as well. All-in-all you should not be in trouble if you didnt do anything wrong. Just talk to her, and don't have any bad texts on your phone. Because I bet she looks at it all the time! Watch your back, keep yourself in the clear!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Hi
You need to reassure that what was said was not true. Explain how that name ended up there. You need to let her know that you love her and would never hurt and that she is the only one for you. Trust is hard to get back if it was lost. Dont do anything that would put the least bitof doubt in her mind now. Just take this as a sensitive topic and try your best to let her know that you would never do that to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): So, why in the world would your "friend" make that comment? It seems a really inappropriate joke, if that is what it is. Why would she want to plant a seed of doubt with your gf? Have you ever given your gf reason to mistrust you because it seems, from what you said, that she flew off pretty quickly. You do need to sit down and talk about this and show her how this makes no sense if it doesn't. Take care of it now and talk it all the way through because this kind of thing can snowball out of control over other smaller, misunderstood things. Trust is the biggie here. You gotta have it.
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reader, Joe158 +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Firstly i'm guessing the friend who said "That's not the only girl he had round" was joking right?
You have to love girls for over-reacting sometimes don't ya?
My suggestion would be firstly to sit her down and talk to her.
Tell her that firstly, on the highscore boards they ALWAYS have random names on there to fill it up. And if your singstar is connected to the internet it's most likely another girl called Tasha who had a similiar score to you somewhere else in the world, no biggy.
Reassure her that you do love her and haven't been seeing other women, you've been going out for 3 years, what would be the point of cheating?
I'm sure a good calm talk would make everything good again.
Best of luck to you mate!
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