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He cheated on me, help me get this out of my head?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. He ended up cheatin on me wen he had to move back home earlier this year. i haven't forgiven him as such but i am givin him a second chance. i can't stop thinkin that he is lyin to me i know i'm ...

A.   21 November 2007: Hi You should have a serious chat with your bf. Ask him what he wants. If he wants to work things out then he should act like it,if he doesnt then you cant have the hope of being together and you should therefore go your seperate ways. I think th... (read in full...)

Do verbal compliments really get guy's hot?

Q.   I am just wondering if most people are very verbal during sex. I am quite shy and am not comfortable with talking dirty or complimenting my boyfriend during sex. Does being more verbal get guys more excited? ...

A.   20 November 2007: Hi Different guys prefer differemt things. When i first started having sex. I would probably only moan but never speak dirty. After i got used to my bf i remember hearing him say to me moan for me or he should speak dirty and then i started.... (read in full...)

He told me to be patient and wait for our relationship to get public. It's a secret one now as he has a gf. What should I do?

Q.   I have a secret relationship with a boy cause he has a girlfriend? He told me to be patient and wait for our relationship to get public? But i dont believe that much, so i need help? I love him. What should i do? Should i do something so he would ...

A.   20 November 2007: Hi When i entered into the relationship with my current bf he was also in a relationship. He told me to undertsand that he has a gf but he would soon make a decision and chose between the 2 of us - So we had a secret relationship. He should o... (read in full...)

He cheated on me, help me get this out of my head?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. He ended up cheatin on me wen he had to move back home earlier this year. i haven't forgiven him as such but i am givin him a second chance. i can't stop thinkin that he is lyin to me i know i'm ...

A.   20 November 2007: Hi I completely understand what you are going through. My bf text a girl that liked him for a long time and i found out about it. I was devastated b/c i felt that he had betrayed me.You shouldnt worry about what people say b/c only you know wha... (read in full...)

We've been together since we were 5, now we are 13 and want to start having sex, what to do??

Q.   hi im 13 and im going out with a boy the same age and we have known eachother since we were 5 and have always been close. We sneak around because we dont want everyone to know about us. not even our parents know because they will tell people. ...

A.   20 November 2007: Hi I think you should wait a little before you have sex. there are plenty of things that you can do for now. You can go to the movies, do your h/work together etc. i think that you should just wait alittle until you are fully educated in the topi... (read in full...)

Him keeping in touch with his ex makes me aggrivated! What should I do?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 7 months now. We dated in high school for like 3 months and have been friends ever since. All together its been about 7 years. Everything is going good except for the fact that he still calls his ex ...

A.   20 November 2007: Hi My bf's ex tried to contact him once and i had his phone so i called her back. She told me that she and him are good friends and that if she wanted him she would have him but she doesnt and that i mustnt be insecure ( she was vulgar and she ... (read in full...)

He texted his ex, but I had sex with mine. How do I get the ex out of my head?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. a few months back i found out that he's been dirty texting his best mates ex. who he always used to slag off to me. anyway i told him that i knew bout the texts and he owned up, was very sorry, changed ...

A.   20 November 2007: Hi You should know that 2 wrongs dont make a right. You have tto tell your bf but you fist have to decide who you want to be with. You have to make a choice. After you have done so then you should tell him and take it from there. We all make mis... (read in full...)

Does it make sense to be scared to and wish to at the same time?

Q.   Hello. I am a 15 year old girl and i have lately been very curious about having sex. I know that there are consequences, i guess that it's just been bothering me on exactly what it feels like and such. A lot of my friends at school are beginnin...

A.   15 November 2007: Hi You should want to have sex b/c everyone else id doing it. That is the wrong reason for having sex. You should do it with someone that you love and are in a stable relationshiop with. If you do it for the wrong reasons you would end up regretti... (read in full...)

I was raped, what should I do, I think I'm pregnant.

Q.   I Was Raped And I Think Im pregnant What Do i Do? Im 14 Where Can I Get A Test?! Help Some1 Please .......

A.   15 November 2007: Hi You should tell your parents and they would no exactly what to do. You need to go to the doctor/clinic and get a check up. you have to get a pregnancy test done and a aids test. I would advise you to take action asap before it is too late. ... (read in full...)

How can I find out if I was the first man that had sex with her?

Q.   well i had sex with my girl but at her that was first time...but she didnt bleed!!i know that hymen can be broken by sporting....etc but how can i find out that i was the first man that i had sex with her?!!! please help!...

A.   15 November 2007: Hi I dont think there is any way you can figure that out besides trusting and believing in her. If she didnt bleed that doesnt mean that she was not a virgin. Juts believe what she says to you and trust her. Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

I lied about having an abortion and now I am scared I cant have children.

Q.   I am 24 and have been trying for a baby with my husband for 9 months now. When i first met him i was young and stupidly told him that i'd had an abortion to try to look mature. Its was such a horrible thing to lie about but now i'm worried i can't ...

A.   14 November 2007: Hi You should go to the doctor and see hoe fertile you are. I think that if you do then you would know for sure so that you can decide what do to from there. If it is nothing then you should just relax, Also because you are stessing to have a b... (read in full...)

How do I bring up his drug taking without damaging the relationship??

Q.   I've been with my husband for over three years, but we've only been married about three months. He has been an amazing husband! He provides for me financially and is in school(even though I work, all my money goes towards savings), he helps around ...

A.   14 November 2007: Hi You should speak calmly to him and then you would know where you stand. I think that you have a right to know about such things. You should feel the way you do because he has been doing thinks behind your back. You dont wanna damage your rel... (read in full...)

He acts about satisfying only his pleasures during sex.

Q.   I am scared at what i am becoming. My boyfriend is so lazy that when we have sex he only wants to climax himself only. It has been such a long time since ive last climaxed and it is making me turn to a wierdo. I am now masturbating myself every ...

A.   14 November 2007: Hi Your bf needs to realize that a relationship is a give and a take. If he isnt willing to satisfy you then you shouldnt satisfy him, it is as simple as that.If your bf wants to be selfish then maybe you should consider getting out of that rel... (read in full...)

My friend yelled at me when I was trying to help her! What's wrong with her?

Q.   I am 16 year old and my best friend is 17. We had some problems over bf and that kind of stuff. So i went to talk with her. I assured her she wouldn't be left aside and i always would let her on the first place. Then suddenly she shouts at me! She ...

A.   14 November 2007: Hi Just give her time. She was having some issues with her bf but i dont think that is a reason for her to have taken it out on you when you were just trying to help her. I think that you were just trying to be there for her and if she doesnt a... (read in full...)

I feel as though I lose everybody close to me through my tantrums. Please help.

Q.   My partner (of 1 year) has just left me because he can't deal with my severe PMT (which I've suffered with for 15 years). I get very stroppy and quite aggresive - I have lashed out and hit him on 3 occasions. I have 2 children who have become very ...

A.   14 November 2007: Hi Sorry to hear about your ordeal. Have you tried some counselling to help you cope better with your tantrums? I think you should seek help and conquer this as it will start to take over your life and you would have no control over it if you leav... (read in full...)

Will I bleed when I have sex for the first time?

Q.   I'm really ready to have sex with my man soon. The thing is he's done it loads before and I'm still a virgin, I've told him I'm not but now I'm wondering can he tell if I am or not when we are doing it? I know it's going to hurt but will it be ...

A.   14 November 2007: Hi Personally mail me and i would answer all your questions for you. With regards to this question it depends, some do bleed and others dont. You should just relax and enjoy every moment. If you are tense it is likely that you would experien... (read in full...)

I am hurt that my recent ex..is getting messages from females on his MySpace profile. How do I deal with this?

Q.   How do I get over my ex who is getting messages from new girls on myspace saying things like how they hope he made it home alright? He was such an emotionally abusive jerk to me, and no one knows this! It is driving me crazy! We just broke up a ...

A.   14 November 2007: Hi Why are you hurt? You left him for a very good reason and i donthink you should wanna have anything to do with him.You shouldnt be hurt by him chatting to other girls b/c you broke up and good riddans. I think you should just continue being st... (read in full...)

I thought he loved me, but he's saying horrible things about me, how can I confront him about this?

Q.   i'm a broken woman as i write this due to the fact that the man i love an i believed he loved me,has been calling me nasty names behind my back i recently found this out from an unknown source how do i tackle him and learn if there is any truth in ...

A.   14 November 2007: Hi You have to confront him to get the truth. You would be able to determine if he is lying by his facial expressions. I wouldnt advise you to believe everything that you hear as theye are very nasty people out there. This unknown source - what d... (read in full...)

Is this age gap important?

Q.   is it ok to have a relationship,when the boy is 17years old and the girl is 21years old?age gap?...

A.   13 November 2007: Hi Age is only an issue if you make it one. I dont think there is anything wrong with that. As long as you love each other then nothing should be in the way of yourll/ I think that you should enjoy what you have and dont worry about what anyone e... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and pregnant, how do I tell my boyfriend who is overseas now?

Q.   A little help here guys? Okay im 16 years old and 4 weeks ago my boyfriend moved to another country, to be back sometime between January and June!! BIG problem. Today i found out, im six weeks pregnant, definatley my boyfriends i have ...

A.   13 November 2007: Hi Just tell your bf. If you had unprotected sex then he should be exoecting something like this. He needs to know and once he does then you can decide whay you are going to do. The longer you wait the harder it would be. Just tell him, it would... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and pregnant, how do I tell my boyfriend who is overseas now?

Q.   A little help here guys? Okay im 16 years old and 4 weeks ago my boyfriend moved to another country, to be back sometime between January and June!! BIG problem. Today i found out, im six weeks pregnant, definatley my boyfriends i have ...

A.   13 November 2007: Hi Just tell your bf. If you had unprotected sex then he should be exoecting something like this. He needs to know and once he does then you can decide whay you are going to do. The longer you wait the harder it would be. Just tell him, it would... (read in full...)

He won't give me oral, but I give it to him, am I being unreasonable in wanting it?

Q.   Hi everyone. Iam experiencing sexual troubles with my boyfriend. Iam 21, hes 22 and we have been going out for almost a year. We started having sex pretty recently and its pretty decent, except for one thing. I love recieving oral sex more than ...

A.   13 November 2007: Hi You say that you dont like it either but you do it b/c you kno0w it pleasures him - Stop doing it. If he cant do it for you then why should you do it for him? I think that your bf should return the favour and if he cant do it then you should l... (read in full...)

How can I tell if I'm pregnant?

Q.   I was wondering if any woman who have had babies could tell me what some of their symptoms were. I have recently started my period but I have heard that you can still be having that even though you are pregnant. I was talking to one of my friends ...

A.   13 November 2007: Hi Yes you can be pregnant and still have your period. You should take a test to see if you are then you would know for sure and can plan ahead. I think it would be better for you if you knew for sure then you would be at ease. Regards,mail ... (read in full...)

Am I being paranoid about not meeting his parents.

Q.   Ive been with my boyfriend now for 5 years, and I have still not met his parents, all though we do come from to different racial backgrounds, Im am white and he is asain. I love him so much and I really do want to meet his parents, and he still ...

A.   12 November 2007: Hi The way that i see it is that if a guy tells his parents/family about you then he is serious about you ( im not saying that your bf isnt) It is possible that things maybe very difficult for him now as his parents are probably strict and have... (read in full...)

Is he only sticking around for sex?

Q.   An old aquaintance and I recently got back in touch, and we have gone out every weekend for the past three weeks. We hit it off, and there was obviously chemistry, and in the heat of the moment, we had sex that first night and have continued to each ...

A.   12 November 2007: Hi I think that would be good for you to be a friend when he needs one so desperately now. Friendship is where everything starts. Good Luck. Regards,mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

Am I ready for sex?

Q.   i am 12 years old and i think that i am ready for sex but i dont know....i dream about sex and fantasize about a boys private.....am i ready?...

A.   12 November 2007: Hi No you are still very young to have sex. It is just a phase that you are going through and it will pass. You are at an age where you would be thinking about these things but that doesnt mean that you are ready.Your hormone leve;s are changing... (read in full...)

She hasn't returned my calls.

Q.   I have been in a two month relationship with my girlfriend and I have never pushed her to do anything she doesn't want to do. Yesterday night, while we were making out, I asked her something, and she said that she wasn't ready (it wasn't sex),...

A.   12 November 2007: Hi Since she isnt taking your calls she doesnt know that you want to apologize to her. You should send her a really sweet text saying how sorry you are. I am sure that she just needs to get her head around what you have asked her then everythi... (read in full...)

She hasn't returned my calls.

Q.   I have been in a two month relationship with my girlfriend and I have never pushed her to do anything she doesn't want to do. Yesterday night, while we were making out, I asked her something, and she said that she wasn't ready (it wasn't sex),...

A.   12 November 2007: Hi Since she isnt taking your calls she doesnt know that you want to apologize to her. You should send her a really sweet text saying how sorry you are. I am sure that she just needs to get her head around what you have asked her then everythi... (read in full...)

I want to be friends, but I'm unsure.

Q.   My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. I am completely happy about it. I do want to maintain our friendship but He has said that if I keep calling him that we will never be friends. I don't know what to do. He broke up with me for a 14 yr old. He is ...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi How are you planning on maintaining a friendship with him knowing that he left you for somebody else (sorry that was so harsh) If someone did that to me i would want to have anything to do with them?!? It is possible that you have unresolv... (read in full...)

Should I break up and just end the guilt?

Q.   Hello i have been in my first relation for about a month now. I like my girlfriend but i like her friends too. I think i may have feeling fors one but i like my girlfriend Should i break up with my girl friend and just end this guilt? '.'.'...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi Dont ne hasty and end the relationship. You probably just have feelings for her but they would pass soon. You are likely to have feelings for more then one person as you are still young. Just try and sirt out your feelings. I dont think it... (read in full...)

Why can't I get a relationship for more than three months.

Q.   why cant i stay in a relationship for more than 3 months, after that i always try pushing away, finding her flaws, and making fun of her? all in all i become an asshole...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi You are probably afraid of committing to someone and there are plenty of people like that. You should seek some help to help you get over that fear or else you would end up lonely. Many people have overcome this problem it is just a matter o... (read in full...)

Is it emotional abuse

Q.   Is it emotional abuse if someone makes you feel bad when you don't smoke or drink? Then, they turn it around and say that you're the one making a big deal out of nothing, when in fact they just can't take no for an answer?...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi Somelone that loves and cares for you wouldnt want to see you drink till you are drunk.He should wanna protect you.Im not saying that you are like this but when people are drunk they lose control of their actions and end up doing things t... (read in full...)

Why is he afraid?

Q.   I really need some help with this one. I have been with my lover for about 12 years now. We were both in relationships when we met and began our affair. Almost 2 years into our relationship I left my relationship. He is still in his (for the ...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi I just want to share something with you. When i first met my bf we were both in relationships. I left my then current relationship to be with this other guy (the 1 i am with now we would call him S) S had a gf at that time who he never left. He... (read in full...)

Why is he afraid?

Q.   I really need some help with this one. I have been with my lover for about 12 years now. We were both in relationships when we met and began our affair. Almost 2 years into our relationship I left my relationship. He is still in his (for the ...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi I just want to share something with you. When i first met my bf we were both in relationships. I left my then current relationship to be with this other guy (the 1 i am with now we would call him S) S had a gf at that time who he never left. He... (read in full...)

Why is he afraid?

Q.   I really need some help with this one. I have been with my lover for about 12 years now. We were both in relationships when we met and began our affair. Almost 2 years into our relationship I left my relationship. He is still in his (for the ...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi I just want to share something with you. When i first met my bf we were both in relationships. I left my then current relationship to be with this other guy (the 1 i am with now we would call him S) S had a gf at that time who he never left. He... (read in full...)

Why is he afraid?

Q.   I really need some help with this one. I have been with my lover for about 12 years now. We were both in relationships when we met and began our affair. Almost 2 years into our relationship I left my relationship. He is still in his (for the ...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi I just want to share something with you. When i first met my bf we were both in relationships. I left my then current relationship to be with this other guy (the 1 i am with now we would call him S) S had a gf at that time who he never left. He... (read in full...)

Why is he afraid?

Q.   I really need some help with this one. I have been with my lover for about 12 years now. We were both in relationships when we met and began our affair. Almost 2 years into our relationship I left my relationship. He is still in his (for the ...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi I just want to share something with you. When i first met my bf we were both in relationships. I left my then current relationship to be with this other guy (the 1 i am with now we would call him S) S had a gf at that time who he never left. He... (read in full...)

We're married with kids; I threatened to leave if he doesn't stop drinking. Please help.

Q.   We have been married for 14 years and have 2 girls aged 13 and 16 years. My husband works hard and is a good provider, our problem is the drink, he never used to drink and drive but lately he has taken to having a few pints with mates after a day's ...

A.   9 November 2007: Hi My dad would never admit that he has a drinking problem too. My dad is just like your hubby. If they have a couple of drinks then they would be ok but if we go out and my dad start to drink (even if he agrees at home that he would have only a c... (read in full...)

How can I save more money before I go to Australia?

Q.   Hi, i'm hoping someone might be able to help me. I'm 18 years old, and i am taking a gap year next year before getting a job. I finish college june 2007 and i am going to australia for 6 months january 2008. At the moment, my aim is to save up ...

A.   8 November 2007: Hi You can do babysitting and also you can do any spare jobs that are in your area. Try and have a garage sale, cake sale etc. You can try and get someone to sponsor you the money as well. Good Luck and i hope everything works out for you.... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to date a younger guy?

Q.   I like this guy for long time. We have been friends for almost 4 years and i seem to have not lost interest in him. I have tried so hard to stop liking him because he is a year younger than me but it's really hard. I even dated other guys to try ...

A.   8 November 2007: Hi The age difference is not that big so i would say no there is no problem and just enjoy your relationship. Regards... (read in full...)

I think my boyfriend is cheating

Q.   I think my boyfriend is cheating. well all the sign are there,he doesnt call everyday as he used to,he send people he doent know sweet sms/mms.he is rude on the phone when i talk to him,we rarely see eah other and he has changed his style of ...

A.   8 November 2007: Hi What does your instincts tell you? If you feel that he if cheating on you then i would say trust yout instincts. Regards.mail me if you wanna talk... (read in full...)

During the break-up I saw a side of him that I didn't like/forget. He just proposed now. How to find the strength to walk away?

Q.   I am so confused. I am in love with someone that hurt me. He broke up with me and now he is back and wants to work things out. I love him so much but during the break-up I saw a side to him that I didn't like and could possibly never forget. Should ...

A.   8 November 2007: Hi You need to realize that you have seen a side that is in him and would always be. It would take something like what has happened between yourll previously to bring that side out of him again. I dont think that you wanna be in a relation... (read in full...)

We're married with kids; I threatened to leave if he doesn't stop drinking. Please help.

Q.   We have been married for 14 years and have 2 girls aged 13 and 16 years. My husband works hard and is a good provider, our problem is the drink, he never used to drink and drive but lately he has taken to having a few pints with mates after a day's ...

A.   8 November 2007: Hi Alcohol is one of the worst things on this planet. My dad doesnt drink from a Monday to a Thursday but the does on the weekend. When he does have alcohol (within a certain amount) then he is ok but if he goes overboard then we have a problem.... (read in full...)

Am I being paranoid about not meeting his parents.

Q.   Ive been with my boyfriend now for 5 years, and I have still not met his parents, all though we do come from to different racial backgrounds, Im am white and he is asain. I love him so much and I really do want to meet his parents, and he still ...

A.   8 November 2007: Hi Can you let me know what religion your bf is. I am asian as well. Regards... (read in full...)

Why is he afraid?

Q.   I really need some help with this one. I have been with my lover for about 12 years now. We were both in relationships when we met and began our affair. Almost 2 years into our relationship I left my relationship. He is still in his (for the ...

A.   8 November 2007: Hi I think that he is jealous due to you seeing other people. Which isnt correct as he has a wife which he has not left yet. Are you sure that things are going to go the way you want them to? You should speak to him and get his intentio... (read in full...)

Is it emotional abuse

Q.   Is it emotional abuse if someone makes you feel bad when you don't smoke or drink? Then, they turn it around and say that you're the one making a big deal out of nothing, when in fact they just can't take no for an answer?...

A.   8 November 2007: Hi Im not sure whether i wold call it emotional abuse but you are being pressured into doing things that you dont wanna do. I would suggest that you stay away from this person or people. They are bad for you. Take Care,mail me if you wanna tal... (read in full...)

Is he only sticking around for sex?

Q.   An old aquaintance and I recently got back in touch, and we have gone out every weekend for the past three weeks. We hit it off, and there was obviously chemistry, and in the heat of the moment, we had sex that first night and have continued to each ...

A.   6 November 2007: Hi I think you should ake a stand for what you want. I understand that you like this guy but if he isnt going to give you what you want ( a relationship) then why should you give him what he wants (sex). I think you should stop having sex with him... (read in full...)

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