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I'm not ready to lose virginity yet because I'm waiting for marriage but the girls I hang with all think I'm weird

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Question - (22 April 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 26 May 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im 19 yrs almost 20yrs very attractive well educated n sexy.n guys do think im well pretty..so i do get guys...but im still a virgin..im not ready to loose it yet because im waiting for marriage but the girls i hang with all think im weird..and when they tlk i say i think its better to a challenge rather than be easy they dnt agree..they wld sleep with a guy after knowing him after 1 month r 2months..im like atleast wait 4bout 6months to see if hes really interested in you.

let him wait abit..dnt be so easy.....but yet again they think im weird..and me waiting until marriage for sex..is like a bad thing they say no guy does dat anymore im like so should i be good enough to just sleep with but not good enough to marry before we ave sex?..

i wnt to knw is my views wrong..r sumting..im from a afo-caribbean home..n i was brought up in a strict home..to respect myself..n wait for the one im not nerdy though i do ave a social life and wear the best clothing...n im well popular...as well as abit loud..but my views are often different from these girls ere so im wondering if its ok to be like dis caz yo sumtimes its like im the only one who is like this...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008):

I just turned 17 on May 2nd and down here in Belize where I live, some people look at me being a virgin to be a miracle or something. I decided that I would wait for marriage, because it is one of the best gifts that you can give to your husband. I really made up my mind when I started High School and a guy named Jason Evert came to my school to give a talk about Chastity. I talk to him and his wife (through e-mail) on a regular basis, their are two people that I really admire and look up to and they have some incredible testimonies, they will just blow you away. They have written many books and they have a DVD out as well. There is nothing wrong with waiting for marriage, it just shows how much love and respect you have for yourself. I've never had a boyfriend which is something that my friends find extremely hard to believe and I don't see why, but I couldn't be happier with my life. I live by my faith and my beliefs and I don't let what anybody says get to me.

Jason (the guy that I mentioned above) he got married when he was 24 and he was a virgin, and his wife wasn't. She lost her virginity at the age of 15, due to the influence of her friends and the guys that she dated. She regretted it so much and when she was like 18 after living the lifestyle that she was living (going to parties, drinking,...) she turned her life around and remained chaste until the day that she married him, her name is Crystalina Evert. Read about them, read their books and believe me they will make a huge impact on you. When she decided to turn her life around, her so called friends didn't understand they said "She thinks she's too good for us now...what are you now a prude..." they didn't understand the choice that she made and they laughed at her. Every time that she was tempted to go back to her lifestyle that she was living she wrote a letter to her future husband and without a doubt she gave all of those letters to Jason when they got married. God works in miraculous ways, don't ever think differently.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008):

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oh tankz guys caz yo..i really taught my views were somewhat different..but u guys advice did help..n da fuss comment is really funny...i wont lie...christmas n birthday..at the same u knw..BUT GUYS TANK U ALOT..

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (22 April 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntHow about if we play cupid on here and fix you up with Southern Man?? He will think his birthdays and Christmases have come at once.

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A male reader, Andrew83 United Kingdom +, writes (22 April 2008):

Andrew83 agony auntAll that matters is what you think, what you believe not anyone else.

If you feel that you want to meet the right guy, to marry him and for it to happen with him then do it, dont worry about what others say, remember its your life not anyone else's.

I'm still a virgin at almost 25 and couldnt careless what others say about it, its my life, my body and its what i want.

If your thinkin no guy can wait to have sex then your wrong, i just proved it lol or if your friends think that then they're wrong.

All that really matters is what you want in the end, not your friends, its your body and i dont think your weird for waitting till marrage, thats just you being honest with yourself. Stick to what it is you decide and dont let anyone change your mind about it.

If you feel like talkin in private with me, your welcome to anytime.

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A female reader, cute angel Australia +, writes (22 April 2008):

cute angel agony auntwell hun i am your age too and still a virgin where as none of my friends are..i chose to be virgin not that i couldnt lose my virginity!!i have got the guys i wanted since school but its just that i am not ready!!so if your friends want to have sex go ahead dont stop them but personally if you are not ready then its fine,we will lose to that special lucky one lol..so for now just enjoy flirting and dating!!

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A female reader, sexi South Africa +, writes (22 April 2008):

sexi agony auntSwty, dont let this get to you. You dont need to worry about what people think about you and if they think that you are weird because you wana remain a virgin then there must be something wrong with them. What you chose to do is your decision and shouldnt be influenced by other. You do what you feel is right. I can assure you that you should feel weird for wanting to remain a virgin and someday when you meet you MR Right, he would give you the respect that you deserve.

Regards,mail me if you wanna talk

Sexi

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