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Is it normal that I want to see my girlfriend naked? Should I ask her?

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Question - (15 July 2015) 6 Answers - (Newest, 19 July 2015)
A male United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I am 16 and curious to see my girlfriends body. I have been dreaming of seeing her in the nude. I really want to know what she looks like naked.

She is so beautiful.

I want to ask her, but I want to know. is this normal to ask?

Would a girlfriend normally say yes to this?

I've known her a long time we had our first kiss 6 months ago and I have touched her.

If I get a chance to see her naked. What should I say? What should I do?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (19 July 2015):

Tisha-1 agony auntThis is a GREAT question to ask your father. He was 16-17 once too, you know.

You do know you don't have to be specific with him. Just ask him about sex stuff. He may be all uncomfortable and you may be too but from what you've posted here, I think you may really benefit from his counsel.

(And P.S. Of course it's normal to want to see your girlfriend naked. The thing is, at your age, she may not be ready for that type of intimacy and you don't really sound ready either.

So wait a few years, enjoy dating and don't stress too much about this. :)

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 July 2015):

Honeypie agony auntIt's normal to want to see your partner naked. ABSOLUTELY normal.

BUT.... you need to hold your horses. SHE needs to be ready for it. Are you ready to strip it all off for her? To "bare" yourself ? (pun intended).

Like everyone else mentioned, being naked can lead to more, such as sex. Unplanned sex.. well, can lead to pregnancies, awkwardly getting caught by a parent or sibling etc.

What is the hurry?

NEVER run before you can walk. Which means YOU BOTH should get and carry protection and KNOW how to use it.

And remember she is a PERSON not a piece of meat.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (15 July 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntYes, it's "normal."

However, asking is much like putting your hand in to an alligator-infested water hazard to retrieve your errant golf ball..... I have been slapped in the face SO MANY times, for asking, that I've become gun-shy... and usually just wait until the lady is so desperate to show her body to me that she'll think of ANY excuse to disrobe. (Best one yet: "I think I'm allergic to this new underwear that I'm wearing, so I have to remove it, and apply some lotion. Care to help?")

Tread lightly....

BUT, good luck..... I was in my mid-30's before I ever saw a girl nekkid!!!!!

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (15 July 2015):

chigirl agony auntI think it's normal to ask, but it would probably be wise to be patient. If she wants to show her body to you, she will do it herself without you asking.

I do find this a bit odd though. Haven't you ever gone swimming with her? Seen her in a bathing suit? Not much is left to the imagination in a bathing suit or bikini.

Being naked together leads to having sex, most of the time. As you are both under age, by laws of your country, I recommend you wait with any such activities. But it is quite normal to be curious.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (15 July 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIt is normal to want this.

IT is not a good idea to ask.

everyone becomes intimate on their own timetable and if she is not ready asking her may put pressure on her to do something she really does not want to do or is not ready.

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A female reader, Abella United States +, writes (15 July 2015):

Abella agony auntI think a few cold showers might help bring down your bouncing hormones.

It is not something you should ask. You need to be more patient.

The present if not yet ready to have the wrapping paper removed. The ribbon and the bow can stay on top of the pretty wrapping paper. The present can be put on top of the wardrobe as it is too soon for present giving.

She does not have a diamond encrusted navel. She has a navel just like you.

She does not have legs with skin made up of flashing pink lights. She has legs, albeit possibly more shapely than you.

You are making her out to be a object to be objectified and stared at and that is not a respectful way to think about a female.

She is much more than just her body.

She has a brain too. She has feelings and she had a moral compass. She has values and attitudes and if her values are respectful then she is likely to be affronted by your request.

If you want to protect and care about this girl then you will not ask her to do this for you.

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