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Is this rebound sex for an ex-lover or something else? I want to stop seeing him.

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Question - (20 July 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 21 July 2015)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

SO I have this situation that is a little bit odd, not wanting to be judged, just trying to understand from other people's points of view: SO the back story goes something like this:

Six years ago I had a sexual relationship with this guy while my husband and I were separated.

I took my husband back because he was going through some severe mental health issue (bipolar- schizophrenia- alcohol and drug abuse) then tragically, he took his own life 5 yrs ago.

This other man and I were still in contact and friends.

He went on to have a relationship(which I was happy about for him) and 2 years after my husband's death, I also began dating someone.

We are still together and he is a great guy. The thing is, around 2 yrs ago my friend and former lover had a horrible break up.

He was devastated and I was really worried about him. About 18 months ago he made a move on me and after we discussed it, I agreed to have sex with him to help him get over his ex.

So now it has been going on since. I truly care about him as a person, and I do love being with him, but I am still in my relationship.

This friend seems to be ok with it, and hasn't even tried dating anyone. I want to let him go, but I would miss him as well and our friendship. We never talk about feeling so I do not know if he has feeling for me other than sexually-- I know he did the first time around--he was devastated when I took my husband back.

I just don't know if this is still rebound sex for him or something more.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (21 July 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony aunt"I agreed to have sex with him to help him get over his ex.

So now it has been going on since....."

Why, oh WHY, have I never been able to find a girl like you?????

Good luck....

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (21 July 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntThis is him using you for sex. Does your partner know you are having sex with your friend? IF not you are cheating on your partner with this guy.

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