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My bf is on a long trip, how do I keep my urges curbed without him?
Q. My boyfriend is away on a trip and it's been three months. I have never gone this long without sex before and it is totally getting to me. I'm totally irritable and depressed. I wouldn't dream of cheating on him, and masturbation is just not working ...
A. 9 May 2007: There's always new toys. Also, the site has erotic videos (that have plots!), some of which are geared toward women. I find that sometimes just shopping the site (even without purchasing) makes me happy. Maybe I'm just easily amused...... (read in full...)
Why don't guys like tall girls?
Q. ok, im 13 and ive never had a boyfriend because of my height. Why don't guys like tall girls and i masturbate a lot it that normal?...
A. 8 May 2007: One thing I forgot: while you're waiting for the guys to catch up to your height, DON'T SLOUCH!
My father worked hard on both me and my sister to make sure we tall girls stood straight and proud. He'd say, "The most beautiful part of any woma... (read in full...)
why do I get a headache after drinking?
Q. Everytime i drink, i get a really bad headache about 3 hours after, and i have to make myself throw up to get it to stop. Do you have any idea causing this?...
A. 8 May 2007: It's possible that you have an allergy. I would talk to a doctor before drinking again.
Now, if you're talking about a hangover, that's different. Stop drinking so much, and drink a lot of water and some juice to re-hydrate. Also take a pain-k... (read in full...)
Why isn't my Mom telling me ...she is seeing someone?
Q. im 14 years old and my perents just broke up last summer...im sure my mum is seeing some one which is ok but she isnt telling me, she hides her phone, goes out with "friends" and coz of her "work" she is away half the time, what do i do?...
A. 8 May 2007: Your mom may have several reasons. (1) she doesn't want to hurt you, (2) she doesn't want to bring anyone around for you to get used to if the guy isn't going to last, (3) she may think you wouldn't approve, and doesn't want to argue with you.
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My bf is on a long trip, how do I keep my urges curbed without him?
Q. My boyfriend is away on a trip and it's been three months. I have never gone this long without sex before and it is totally getting to me. I'm totally irritable and depressed. I wouldn't dream of cheating on him, and masturbation is just not working ...
A. 8 May 2007: There's this great website that reviews toys (yes, sex toys). I like it a lot -- the reviews are humorous, too -- and I've ordered some of the toys. They're very discreet, though you might want to look at the site in a private place, lol. It's ... (read in full...)
Was I raped?
Q. is i rape if you wake up to find someone having sex with you?...
A. 8 May 2007: Unconsciousness does not imply consent. It is entirely possible that you were raped.
That said, many years ago a boyfriend I had had sex with earlier that evening and fallen asleep with, once started again with me while HE was still asleep. ... (read in full...)
How can I make myself last longer while having sex?
Q. Hi im 15 years old, and when me and my girlfriend are having sex i sometimes have orgasm too quickly, sometimes it doesn't even take a minute. I don't really mind this that much, and even my GF says it is ok, but it makes me feel that i am not ...
A. 8 May 2007: Foreplay is your friend, here. Delay actual sex until your gf is ready to climax. While you're concentrating on making her feel good, you're not getting the same feedback that thrusting gives you, and so you'll last longer. Then, when she's ... (read in full...)
I was warned that losing one's virginity, in the case of a female, can be very painful.
Q. I was warned that losing one's virginity, in the case of a female, can be very painful. I wasn't prepared for how intense the pain would be!! It was awful, even my boyfriend was surprised (he is more experienced than me, but bygones are bygones) ...
A. 7 May 2007: My first time was uncomfortable, but not painful -- I had broken my hymen on a unicycle years before (I think) so there wasn't any cherry to "pop." My sister, on the other hand, had a really painful experience her first time, and it was painful for ... (read in full...)
He woke me up, put his penis in my mouth and told me to SUCK!!!
Q. I love my boyfriend very much, but my friends think he's no good for me. He always tells me how sexy I am and how he thinks Im amazing in bed. I don't see how this is 'using me' as my friends think. The only thing that disturbs me, is that ...
A. 7 May 2007: Unconsciousness does not imply consent. Since it disturbs you, it's a problem. It is very close to rape. Listen to your friends and dump this guy. Take some time to get over him. The guy who will treat you with respect is out there hon'; don't ... (read in full...)
Would you be with someone who said he'll never marry you or refuses to take a holiday with you and your kids?
Q. Would you be with someone who said he'll never marry you or refuses to take a holiday with you and your kids?...
A. 7 May 2007: Depends on what you want in the long run, but I have to say I wouldn't want to. Sounds to me like he just wants friendship "with benefits." Run.... (read in full...)
I have feelings for 2 guys... what should I do?
Q. Well I have a problm. I'm friends with a guy, we'll call him J, and J is perfect amd amazing and deeply in love with me though we are currently not dating. I think this could really turn into something, but there's this other guy, C, whom I'm really ...
A. 7 May 2007: Since you're not in a committed relationship with either man, there's no reason you can't date both. As long as everyone knows about it, there's no problem. If one of them wants to be in a committed relationship, then you'll have more information ... (read in full...)
I found pictures of someone on his phone, thing is I'm 4 months pregnant and don't know what to do about this.
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for a year and im 4 months pregnant. he already has another child who's 5. Lately he has been secretive with his mobile and panics anytime i go near it. when he was sleeping one night i went into his texts and seen that ...
A. 7 May 2007: Confront him with the pictures. Ask for an explanation. If he doesn't have a good one, you need to decide whether you'll be able to trust him. It doesn't say good things about his character if he's straying while you're pregnant.
If you can'... (read in full...)
Do you think we'll ever be one happy, united family?
Q. I have 2 daughters(11 and 14) and have been separated 28 months. 3 months ago i met a guy and we started a relationship. He's divorced with 2 boys(13 and 16) I seem to be attracted to dominant, controlling men and "D" is no exception. However ...
A. 7 May 2007: I would dump him on the cat thing alone. Seriously, if his sons are wary of him, that sets off alarm bells to me -- and should to you, too.
I'm not saying that your youngest should try to drive off any and all potential partners, but I think yo... (read in full...)
Why don't guys like tall girls?
Q. ok, im 13 and ive never had a boyfriend because of my height. Why don't guys like tall girls and i masturbate a lot it that normal?...
A. 7 May 2007: About the height: I hear you; I had the same problem. As did my sister, who's taller than I am. Luckily for you the guys will catch up. At your age they just haven't had their growth spurt yet. There will be guys who are sure enough of ... (read in full...)
I'm back home in Egypt but want to tell this girl in Canada ..I love her! Any tips?
Q. I used to live in canada for a semestre, but now i have come back to my home in egypt, but while i was in canada i loved this girl,and i still love her,but how can i tell her i love her?...
A. 7 May 2007: There's this thing called "Puppy Love" -- and it's real love. They call it that because you're learning how to do it, not because it doesn't feel every bit like real love.
It's wonderful that you're feeling love now, but the chances that this one... (read in full...)
I'm miserable with my agressive boyfriend. What shall I do?
Q. I dont know what to do anymore i am the end of tether, me and my bf have been together nearly together for a year and its getting worse than ever. He has such a short fuse and gets angry so easily to the point that everytime im around him he can r...
A. 7 May 2007: Hi Sweetie, the advice I'm about to give isn't something you want to hear, but I think you know it already. Leave him. He is bad news. You can't rescue him; he needs more help than you can provide, and he's abusive to you. You deserve so much ... (read in full...)
Why can't I stay faithful
Q. I have been with my partner for nine years and we have a 4yr old together. I do love my partner, but i cant stay faithful. Whenever someone shows interest in me (which is usually his friends) and i feel attracted to them i cant say no. Im good when ...
A. 7 May 2007: It sounds like you may have a problem with alcohol. Find an alcoholics anonymous meeting and attend to see if they can help you. It may be that once you learn to control your drinking, you'll be able to remain faithful to your partner. You'll be ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 in one month and I'm with someone that's only just 25 is there anything wrong with that?
Q. I'm 15 in one month and I'm with someong that's only just 25 is there anything wrong with that?...
A. 7 May 2007: There is a chance that Mr. 25 year old is a great guy. It happened to deejuliet and she's very happy; so it obviously does happen. It's also possible that Mr. 25 year old is a creepy guy who likes little girls. The questions that I posed were to ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 in one month and I'm with someone that's only just 25 is there anything wrong with that?
Q. I'm 15 in one month and I'm with someong that's only just 25 is there anything wrong with that?...
A. 30 April 2007: martini has completely missed my points, and I would like a chance to rebut.
The age difference between 15/25 and 25/55 are TOTALLY DIFFERENT. (And I don't mean the math.) Everyone changes drastically between the ages of 15 and 18, again be... (read in full...)
The semester is almost over and our last class is this wednesday, and i don't know whether to ask him for his email or myspace or what?
Q. I think this guy in my sculpture class is really cool. He is friendly and talented and helped me learn how to begin sculpting because I had no experience with clay before taking this class. We chit chat sometimes and we even had lunch together once, ...
A. 30 April 2007: Well, it's about to be now or never, isn't it? Under the assumption that it's better to know than to always wonder, you really don't have anything to lose.
Be bold. Tell him you think he's friendly and talented, and you'd like to see whether ... (read in full...)
My mum has changed since my dad left, and now I'm having nightmares about her!! Please help!
Q. I keep having violent nightmares about my mum trying to kill me because ever since my dad left , my mum has changed and she gets really angry and violent towards me and she says its my fault he left and she sometimes hits me to teach me a lesson and ...
A. 30 April 2007: Some time when your mom is calm, ask her if you can talk to her about something. Use what are called "I statements" to let her know how she's hurting you: "I miss dad too." "When you tell me it's my fault he left, I really feel hurt." "I know ... (read in full...)
She's not his ex, she's STILL his girlfriend even though I've been seeing him for 2 months.
Q. I stumbled on this site and read a lot of sensible answers to questions. My boyfriend of two months and I seem to be on and off all the time. We seem to get close physically (we have not gone all the way) and then he wants to meet and tell me that ...
A. 30 April 2007: If he cheats WITH you he will someday cheat ON you. You're lucky you found out he was with someone before you moved any closer to him. Leave him. Consider yourself lucky and move on. There's a guy out there for you; don't be tied to this creep ... (read in full...)
I thought my friend felt the same way so I took the plunge, now I feel stupid! Has this happend to anyone else ?
Q. ever told a friend how u feel thinking they feel the same way (as they said they had) just for them to suddenly say they just want to be friends for no obvious reason? i feel so stupid and cant think what ive done. has this happened to anyo...
A. 30 April 2007: Knowing is definitely better than not knowing. The one you're looking for is out there, and now you can move on without spending any more energy on the person who won't return your feelings. I know it doesn't look that way right now, but you ... (read in full...)
Hes led me on and then knocked me back! Im heartbroken what can I do ?
Q. hi last month i got drunk and told a friend that i fancied him but he never really gave me an answer, just said that he was unsure about whether he wanted to get in a relationship at the minute so i said thats fine and just carried on chatting with ...
A. 30 April 2007: It looks like he tried the relationship and then decided he wasn't interested. I'm sorry, but I don't think there's a way to get him to like you in the way you want.
In a way, it's good that you were able to be so blunt with him initiall... (read in full...)
She's flirting with another male, despite knowing I'm interested, he will use her, what can I do ?
Q. ok i told a friend i liked her and she liked me but then last week she said she only wants me as a friend. i didnt know why she changed her mind but then i knew she started texting another guy from work which i was slightly jealous about and then ...
A. 30 April 2007: Anything you say will be dismissed as sour grapes, so you have to be very careful. If you have any proof, you might show it to her, but this can really blow up in your face (even if you have good proof). Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm 15 in one month and I'm with someone that's only just 25 is there anything wrong with that?
Q. I'm 15 in one month and I'm with someong that's only just 25 is there anything wrong with that?...
A. 30 April 2007: Unless you can answer "yes" to the following questions, then yes, there's something wrong here:
(1) Can you introduce this person to your parents as "my boyfriend" without them flipping out? And is he willing to be introduced to your parents?... (read in full...)
Could be baby be at risk because the father was on steriods!?
Q. I slept with a stripper 4 months ago and ended up pregnant. I haven't been in contact with him much since then, just to tell him about the baby and stuff like that. He seems interested but that's not the problem. I found out from a friend of his ...
A. 27 April 2007: You'll need to cut and paste the entire URL below -- it needs the stuff after the '?' to tell the site which question to go to. I don't know why it's not taking the entire web address for this site, but you'll need all of it...
Just in case, I'... (read in full...)
Could be baby be at risk because the father was on steriods!?
Q. I slept with a stripper 4 months ago and ended up pregnant. I haven't been in contact with him much since then, just to tell him about the baby and stuff like that. He seems interested but that's not the problem. I found out from a friend of his ...
A. 27 April 2007: This question was asked on the "National Library for Health" website. Check here for the answer: http://www.clinicalanswers.nhs.uk/index.cfm?question=4706
Good luck.... (read in full...)
How can I make our sex life more interesting!?
Q. Has anyone any advice? Been with my bloke for three years and the sex is really boring. He isn't turned on by sexy underwear, i been and tried that one. He just cannot cum with oral sex. We end up in the missionary position all the time. I ask him ...
A. 27 April 2007: http://www.blowfish.com
There are some great toys there, and some good sexy movies (many even have a plot!)
And the next time he tries to climb on top of you, climb on top of him.... (read in full...)
Im so lonely, I had no one to dance with at the wedding as usual and Im soooo shy, please help!
Q. I have just come back from a family wedding and i am so lonely as when i was taking photos of the first dance the bride and groom invited everyone up and i had no one to dance with. I am painfully shy with girls and have only had 1 serious ...
A. 27 April 2007: Okay, at a family wedding there has to be an older person (mom? aunt?) whom you feel comfortable asking to dance.
You do that for four reasons: (1) dancing is fun, and dancing with a "safe" person is good practice for learning to dance (2) if y... (read in full...)
How can I be happy when Im with him and when I'm without him ?
Q. my boyfriend thinks very differently to me, he likes to take evry day as it comes, he doesn't feel the need to take me out for tea, or take me to cinemas, etc. he doesnt communicate very well, and doesnt really show his feelings, i have low self ...
A. 26 April 2007: Your bf isn't responsible for your self-esteem. You are. If you have to depend on what someone else thinks about you will always be less.
He may grow up someday and discover that you deserved better treatment, but he may not. Either way, it'... (read in full...)
My bf says his ex is the sexiest girl alive and talks about her w/ his friends! Is he trustworthy?
Q. Hi, I recently discovered that my boyfriend chats with his friends about his ex girlfriend. He told me once that I turn him off in bed. And that his ex girlfriend was the prettiest and sexiest girl that he has ever met. He swears that he is not i...
A. 26 April 2007: No he's not. Run.
This guy doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve. Over time he will erode your self confidence. He has his ex on a pedestal and you will never measure up (no matter how attractive you are). His treatment of you will... (read in full...)
Will our family member go to jail for fleeing away from a car accident?
Q. Does anyone on here know about criminal law and what a family member should do? We live in Canada. A family member (25) was visiting us the other night, had supper and drank approx. six beer over the course of a six hour period. He left the house ...
A. 26 April 2007: It is illegal to flee from an accident (not to mention running a red light and causing an accident), and he could be convicted. Whether he does jail time is up to the judge, but I believe that this is a moving violation so he might lose his job ... (read in full...)
What happens if you can't live up to other's expectations?
Q. What happens if you do not or cannot live up to the expectations of other people in life who are important for you?...
A. 26 April 2007: The only expectations you need to worry about are your own. Decide what you want and go for it.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to keep my dad in the dark when it comes to my dating life?
Q. Hello, I'm 18 years old and in a relationship with an amazing man. I won't get all sappy and annoying but suffice to say, he makes me extremely happy and I feel very secure and loved with him. I endured a bit of sexual abuse when I was younger an...
A. 25 April 2007: No, it's not awful. You're not living under your dad's roof; you're old enough to make your own decisions, and everyone else is supporting you. If your dad doesn't respect that then he doesn't get to hear about it.
If it ever comes up, you migh... (read in full...)
How do I get her back and can she trust me again?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years with a one year break up. We were getting ready to be engaged, and an ex called and says she comes over to our place when my girlfriend is not there. She broke up with me and says its over. I ...
A. 25 April 2007: Wow. Your ex is a real bitch. Can you find out why she did this to you? Any chance you can get her to call your gf and own up to the lie?
Trust is really hard to get back once it's lost. And it's just wrong that you don't deserve this.
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Will he be turned off if I tell him..I am a virgin?
Q. Hi, im currently seeing a guy who is older and im planning on telling him that im a virgin ( which i definetly am going to do). The thing is will he be turned off by this? We have been going out for 3 months and im ready to have sex with him. ...
A. 25 April 2007: I would wait until you've dated longer; you want to make sure that your relationship will last and the difference between 17 and 25 is a lot. When will you be 18? Can you wait just that long? It's still a long difference, but at least you'll be ... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship with my 30 year old teacher! Help!
Q. Someone please help I'm attracted (to the point of wanting to have a serious relationship) to my highschool teacher, I not entirely sure what to do. He is like 30years old and i'm 15...
A. 25 April 2007: Do NOT act on this crush! You will ruin this man's career, and possibly get him thrown in jail. You can't possibly want to do that to him. Enjoy the feelings but keep them to yourself, at least until you're out of school and an adult.
anony... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex.and scared I might get pregnant! How do I tell my Mom?
Q. Hi..I've done somethin really really stupid. Ive had sex..unprotected. I'm scared I might be pregnant and I don't know how to tell my mum. Please give me some advice :( Kaya x...
A. 24 April 2007: Hi Kaya. You need to talk to an adult who you trust. If you really can't talk to your mom alone, maybe you can tell a teacher maybe? You need to make sure you aren't pregnant, yes, but you also need to make sure you haven't gotten a sexually ... (read in full...)
He's 34-I'm 16..he wants to take me out for my birthday...provided I give him my virginity!
Q. i really like this guy i work with he's 34 im 16. he's always flirting with me and has offered to take me out for my birthday as long he can take my virginity. i really want him too, but im worried about what people might say. he makes me feel s...
A. 24 April 2007: Your virginity is worth more than the price of dinner. Know that you're worth more, and insist on better treatment.... (read in full...)
I can't ejactulate when having penetrative sex, but I can get off easily masturbating.
Q. My problem is that I can’t ejaculate while having penis/virginal sex with women. I am healthy and can ejaculate very fast when masturbating, within a minute if I want to. When I have penis/virginal sex with women I can keep an erection for a long ...
A. 24 April 2007: Well, first, I think you mean penis/VAGINAL sex, not virginal sex (inside the vagina, not with a virgin) right?
Coming by yourself is easy. You have the automatic feedback to let yourself know that you're doing it right. You might have a harder... (read in full...)
I have always felt sex is a tool to control your partners, and I don't like sex.
Q. Hi, I'm 27 and have been with my husband for 7 years, married for 5 with a 3 year old child, my problem is that I don't like sex, I never have. I've always used sex as a tool to control my partners and now I fell that I'm missing out, I want to ...
A. 24 April 2007: Can you have an orgasm? I mean at all, by yourself? This is where you should start -- getting to know what makes you feel good.
You'll eventually have to come clean to your husband, so that you can get his help.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
When do u have to have smear tests?
Q. When do u have to have smear tests? Is it after the first time you have sex, because i really don't want one i just wondered?...
A. 24 April 2007: You should have them every year. I started when I was your age. You should have them even if you're not sexually active.... (read in full...)
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