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writes:I dont know what to do anymore i am the end of tether, me and my bf have been together nearly together for a year and its getting worse than ever.He has such a short fuse and gets angry so easily to the point that everytime im around him he can reduce me to tears at the drop of a hat.Saturday was a perfect example he got drunk on vodka and i preceeded to sob for 2 hrs straight i cant take much more of this i love him so much but i dont know if i can do this anymore.He keeps saying sorry and he promises he wont do it again, but he does and i asked him why and he says cause he thinks its normal. He's affecting me so much ive told him so many times but it doesnt register its gettting harder and harder to cope with it would be really helpful if someone could give me some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): What I'm going to say next may be the haunting truth : simply that he doesn't feel the same about you anymore. If he makes you unhappy then it's probably best to call it a day. If you haven't done anything wrong to him and he's just like that, he clearly has personal issues to sort out. Maybe he needs time to himself, asking him would be good.
Also, do you think there could be a possibility that he is cheating on you? This could also be an answer to his behaviour. On the other hand if you two have always been happy together, and nothing has ever come between you, then there is really no answer other than him being at fault to this situation.
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reader, honesty +, writes (8 May 2007):
if he thinks its normal then i think you should find somebody else i know its hard because you been with him for a year but its time to move on and find someone who doesnt make you so upset
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reader, forgonepath  +, writes (7 May 2007):
I agree with Penta. You don't deserve to be abused. No one does. If he thinks its normal, he's not going to stop no matter how hard you try. Leave him and find someone else. If there is one thing I've learned in my life, it's that it is always a bad idea to make yourself miserable by staying with someone and simultaneously expecting them to change. Why not distance yourself from him and see what happens? If he doesn't change, then you will already have distanced yourself and you'll be on your way to bigger and better things. If he does change, then no one says that you can't take him back.
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reader, penta +, writes (7 May 2007):
 Hi Sweetie, the advice I'm about to give isn't something you want to hear, but I think you know it already. Leave him. He is bad news. You can't rescue him; he needs more help than you can provide, and he's abusive to you. You deserve so much better.
Maybe after you leave him he'll see that he needs to get some help on his anger management issues. He won't see this as long as you're around to be his verbal punching bag.
Run. Take some time to heal. The man of your dreams is out there; don't be hung up on this guy when you meet him.
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