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Gf of 5 years doesn't want sex anymore! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 1/2 years, we are living together. The issue i am having is we very rarely have sex anymore, i know you can get into a rut routine but we have not had sex for 3 months (Once in nearly ...
A. 19 April 2007: I guess I need to add to my answer. I am not orgasmic. I've never had one. I've tried things to help, but it never has. I can enjoy sex, but in the end there's no payoff. I'm wide awake and he wants to fall asleep. Feh.
I love my husband ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends is touching me more than I want him to, What should I do ?
Q. Hi!Well I have a really bad problem.well my boyfriend is really sweet and everything and I do luv him but the other day we were snogging like we always do and he tried 2 go a little further and I didn't want 2 go further he tried undressing me and ...
A. 17 April 2007: Okay, remember this saying: "My body, my rules." Don't ever let anyone do anything to you that you're not comfortable with. If he can't play by your body rules, then he's not worth keeping.
If you let him go further than you want, you'll n... (read in full...)
How can I stop smoking during pregnancy ? Any tips?
Q. Hello, Yesterday I discovered I am pregnant, (great news) I am a smoker and am looking for advice on how to stop!! I’ve been told I can not have any nicotine replacement as this can caurse spin-bifida… is this true, and how do I stop? Thank You...
A. 17 April 2007: Congratulations! You're in for a wonderful ride. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old.
You can use hypnosis to stop smoking. I had a Doula who helped me use hypnosis rather than drugs for pain relief during my delivery. It worked WONDERFU... (read in full...)
Gf of 5 years doesn't want sex anymore! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 1/2 years, we are living together. The issue i am having is we very rarely have sex anymore, i know you can get into a rut routine but we have not had sex for 3 months (Once in nearly ...
A. 14 April 2007: Ask her to go to counseling with you, and find a counselor that specializes in sexual relationships. Getting her to talk to you about what's going on with her is the most important thing.
Also, I don't know whether any of the ladies will back me ... (read in full...)
Can I sue her for deception?
Q. My girlfriend left me in April, being fifteen weeks pregnant. She had the baby a few weeks ago, but didn't inform me. I do not believe the baby to be mine, as she would let me have nothing to do with the pregnancy or birth, or naming the child and I ...
A. 14 April 2007: I like Irish49's answer.
My only concern is that she may indeed come after you for once she's no longer angry about the breakup. And she will probably need support of some kind.
Your only recourse is to sue for a paternity test, but if you... (read in full...)
12 year old son soffering low self esteem?
Q. My 12 year old son is suffering from what i think is low self esteem. He is a very quiet boy and finds it dificult to speek to people other than family members.He says that if he has to speek to any won be it a school teacher or someone that he does ...
A. 14 April 2007: Talk to him in the car, while you're driving him someplace (or just driving around). That way he can talk and know that you're not looking at him -- this helps boys a lot. It takes the pressure off of "talking" but you can still be verbal. Good ... (read in full...)
What can we give our wheezing child to eat?
Q. My son is 7.5months old and over the past few months we have had recurring wheezing. We are getting used to administering puffers etc, but my question is, what are the best foods to offer him whilst ill, he is having a problem with eating cereals ...
A. 14 April 2007: I recommend this book highly:
"Super Baby Food: Absolutely Everything You Should Know about Feeding Your Baby and Toddler from Starting Solid Foods to Age Three Years" by Ruth Yaron
http://www.po... (read in full...)
Period is overdue by 6 days but pregnancy tests are negative! Could I still be pregnant?
Q. My period was due a week ago today but I never came on. I took a pregnancy test when I was four days overdue and again when I was six days overdue although both turned out negative. Is there still a chance I could be pregnant?...
A. 14 April 2007: It's possible. When I was trying to get pregnant, I took tests for a week and they were all negative. But I was still late. So I went to the doctors. She gave me the pee test, and I was still negative. So they gave me the blood test and sure ... (read in full...)
She kisses me, but she doesn' t want to have a relationship! What can I do?
Q. my best friend is a girl and we get on really weel. we havent seen each other for about 2 weeks, so when we met last night it was amazin. we went to a party and she wanted me to walk her home when we got to her house we kissed and it felt so right. ...
A. 14 April 2007: I did this to a guy once, a long time ago. He liked me so much and he was such a great guy that I really wanted to see fireworks. So I started acting like a girlfriend for a week. It didn't work; there never were any fireworks. And I hurt him ... (read in full...)
I'm male and 19 and I masturbate 2 times a day. Is this too much?
Q. I'm a 19 year old boy who is single. I masturbate once or twice a day (sometimes I don't) but is that too much especially at 19?...
A. 14 April 2007: Nope. (Wish I had as much time... (grin)) Have fun!... (read in full...)
I told him I would stop lying! How do I make him believe me?
Q. How do I get him back? Me and my ex boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years, and when we would break up i would tell him i would change and quit lying, but now im seriously ready to change for him, how can i make that clear to him, where he...
A. 14 April 2007: He won't believe you for a while. You're the girl who cried wolf. But since he's still with you, you have a chance. You'll just have to never lie again, and eventually the trust will return. In this case, actions will speak louder than your ... (read in full...)
My gf is a virgin so if we have sex how will I tell if the hymen is broken?
Q. okay, so i read the question about how to have sex with a virgin without hurting her because my girlfriend is indeed a virgin. my question is, how can i tell when/if the seal is broken?...
A. 14 April 2007: 99% of the time when you have sex it'll be broken afterwards. (As the previous poster said, it's frequently broken before her first sexual experience, it's pretty fragile. I lost mine riding a unicycle when I was twelve (I think) and didn't bleed ... (read in full...)
I like him a lot, but he has a gf! What should I do?
Q. This guy I met on the internet I really like and we are trying a long distance relationship but I added him as a friend to facebook and I saw that he was in a relationship with some other girl. We have been long distance dating since September and I ...
A. 14 April 2007: First, has he ever said he was dating only you? He may assume that while you're in different locales you're allowed to date other people. Decide if you're okay with that.
THEN talk to him about what you saw. Make him own it. If he told you... (read in full...)
Im totally at a loss here, Am I part of his future or what ?
Q. this is long story, but i'll try to cut it down as much as possible. i met this guy while on a placment for 2weeks, we got on straight away, i think i fell for him straight away. im now totally in love with him. we always asked how i was and if...
A. 13 April 2007: Since he's getting ready to leave, it's time to stop being coy. Say "I'd like to be more than friends. I think we'd be great together. How do you feel about long-distance relationships?" Then let him talk. And really listen.
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I'm 15 and still a virgin, but feel as though I'm the only one!
Q. hey im just after alittle advice, im 15 i have always been quite popular at school and i have had many boyfriends(not to be big headed) but all my friends have rushed into bed with guys and many of them have slept with 4,5,and 6 boys. they call me ...
A. 13 April 2007: You're not the only virgin. Don't give into peer pressure (and that's what's going on here). When you do make love, it will be worth the wait. (Making love is a lot more fun than having sex, especially when having sex can trash your ... (read in full...)
Im just naturally thin, and no matter what I do I cant gain weight! Is there anything I can do ?
Q. hey all. i am a 16yr old 5'4 girl who wears a UK size 6 or 4 (i have been thin all my life) and am finding it extremly hard to find clothes to fit me. i eat everything so i dont understand why i am so thin. when i was younger it wasn't such a big ...
A. 13 April 2007: I was this way too. Believe me, you'll grow out of it.
Take a look at all the super models -- they're really really thin too. Don't try too hard to gain weight; try harder to enjoy the way you look.
The grass is always greener... your... (read in full...)
Am I being sensitive over this remark he made to me, I feel as though hes referring to my class?
Q. i was in the car with my b/f and truck was by us delivering this beer and i did not know the name..i said it to him that i never heard of it. He looked at me and laughed at little--it didnt look like in a mean way or anything..almost like i was ...
A. 13 April 2007: Maybe you're being too sensitive. But maybe not. You should let him know that it's bothering you and give him the chance to explain. If you can't talk about something this simple, you may have bigger problems later on.... (read in full...)
I really like him, but Im not comfortable taking him to my neck of the woods as we are different races!
Q. Hi I met a boy in london one day and since then i have grown to really like him alot. But recently things have really bothered me since i live 50mins away from him and i come from a totally different background to him. Although im mixed race and...
A. 13 April 2007: You either need to move to his area, or get used to having him in yours. He's going to find out that he embarrasses you, and that will either hurt his feelings or make him mad. You should be willing to stand up for him. If you can't, you should ... (read in full...)
Married 6 years, together 11, he announced he no longer loves me and wants out of the marriage!?!
Q. I am married for 6 years now but been with my husband for 11 years, including the steady years, this past 2 months when i confronted my husband about his being always out of the house and has no time for me anymore... he suddenly burst out and told ...
A. 13 April 2007: I don't know whether this is your situation, but a school friend of mine did this to his wife of 5 years (they had kids, too). Two years later he came out (he's gay). He'd been pretending the entire time to love his wife because he wanted to be ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being paranoid!?
Q. How can I stop being paranoid about girl friends or girlfriends?...
A. 13 April 2007: This will be hard. You're obviously obsessing about this. But this is what I recommend:
Let her make the next move.
You're coming on very strong and you could easily push her away.... (read in full...)
My ex bf went out one night with friends and didnt come home. Found out he cheated, too. How do I cope with this?
Q. Hi, I need some help. Ive just got back with my ex after 15 months apart. He ended it with me. He went out one night with friends and didnt come home. He rang me the next day to say that it was over and swore that there was no-one else. He has just ...
A. 12 April 2007: Do not get back together with this man. He has lied to you in the past so it is very likely that he will do it again. You're worth much more than being his sloppy seconds when his cheating relationship didn't work out. Kick him to the curb; ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be thinking about marrying this woman someday?
Q. I have only been with my girlfriend for 10 months... and we are young. I have never met someone like her... as I am not your ordinary run-of-the-mill person.... in otherwords, I'm a little quirky. I've had my past relationships... but this one is ...
A. 12 April 2007: Depends on the "someday" -- you're not too young to be thinking about it. You are probably too young to pop the question however. Enjoy this time and don't be in a hurry to take it to the next step. You'll know if it's right, when you're in a ... (read in full...)
We broke up over something I did, he says he loves me but cant be with me, what can I do ?
Q. my boyfriend broke up wiyh me toyaly out of the blue, because of somethin wrong i did many months ago. he's been telling me how much he loves me lately, so i'm in total shock and don't know what to do. i love hims os much, but he says he just cant ...
A. 12 April 2007: The harsh reality of it is that he has tried to get over what you did and has discovered he can't. He is doing what he feels he needs to do to get over your betrayal. You need to give him the time and space he's asking for. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being paranoid!?
Q. How can I stop being paranoid about girl friends or girlfriends?...
A. 12 April 2007: I think giving her some space is a really good idea. It sounds like she's told you she doesn't want to be more than friends right now, and that she doesn't want constant contact. You need to back way off or you're going to put her into a place ... (read in full...)
I have a bf but have feelings for my best friend. What do I do?
Q. hi there,I have feelings for my best friend.he was a colleague of mine,but we both don't work at that company any more and for two years now we have become best friends..but I i'm totally in love with him!I can't get him out of my head,another ...
A. 12 April 2007: There's a big difference between love and infatuation. Because you don't have an actual relationship with your friend, you're caught in the infatuation stage. Infatuation feels great: your heart flutters and you can hardly catch your breath. But ... (read in full...)
Falling in love with my sugar daddy! Do I tell him and risk losing him forever?
Q. So I came across this sugar daddy site [website blanked in case this is spam] a few months ago and out of curiosity I joined. I had a good laugh at it at first, but then I thought ... since I'm single ... it may not be so bad finding a Sugar Daddy ...
A. 12 April 2007: You might feel him out first -- "So how is our arrangement working for you?" This might be perfect for him -- none of the mess. He might also open up to you.
If he's married, I agree with eyeswideopen, run for the hills.
If he's not, howeve... (read in full...)
Is there any other reason besides pregnancy...that my periods are late?
Q. Hello, I'm late on my period by about 5 days maybe 7. I've done 6 pregnancy tests and one at the chemist. All negative! Could I be pregnant as I’m late on my period or are the tests correct? Is their any other reason why I could be late? ...
A. 12 April 2007: There are many reasons you could be late. Stress is one of them. However, for my first pregnancy I had 3 "negative" tests and another one at the doctors' office. They are very unreliable in the first weeks of pregnancy. (I had been trying to get ... (read in full...)
Is there any other reason besides pregnancy...that my periods are late?
Q. Hello, I'm late on my period by about 5 days maybe 7. I've done 6 pregnancy tests and one at the chemist. All negative! Could I be pregnant as I’m late on my period or are the tests correct? Is their any other reason why I could be late? ...
A. 12 April 2007: There are many reasons you could be late. Stress is one of them. However, for my first pregnancy I had 3 "negative" tests and another one at the doctors' office. They are very unreliable in the first weeks of pregnancy. (I had been trying to get ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family that I love crossdressing?
Q. hi all im 16 and live in elland since i have been about 12 i have love to dress up im my sisters underwear how do i tell my family that i love crossdressing ...
A. 12 April 2007: Check out this website: http://www.tri-ess.org/cd01.html
It has some good stuff you can print out, highlight the parts that work for you, and hand to your parents. It also has some contacts for support groups. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
I hate my Father's pathological lying. It's made me too brutally honest..how do I find a healthy balance?
Q. My father is a pathological liar and i almost hate him for this and get angry every time i feel cheated. I have developed a personality that is very opposite to that of my father in that i am honest, but sometimes brutally so and don't care for ...
A. 12 April 2007: Before you tell the harsh truth, ask yourself what the point would be. For example: a friend is on the way to an interview. His tie is ridiculous. He asks you how he looks. Do you tell him?
If he has time to change the tie, you level with him... (read in full...)
I need advice on what to do with my hair! Any suggestions?
Q. HELP!!!!!!!! im tired of my old-fashoned-hairstyle. i have curly hair but i always blow dry it so it gets straight. i have above-the-shoulder-length and side bangs. a lot of people have told me to get the "V" haircut but i havent seen it yet. if y...
A. 12 April 2007: http://beauty.about.com/od/hairbasics/qt/perfectcut.htm... (read in full...)
Five years with this married man and he promises to leave his wife! But he hasn't yet-should I just bail?
Q. I have been seeing a married man for 5 and a half years, he has promised from the beginning to leave his wife but has not delivered. I have made this man my entire life and don't know how to contemplate a life with him not in it. I know everybod...
A. 12 April 2007: So you've believed him for 5 years that he will leave his wife? How are you on the Tooth Fairy? Please leave this man. He has a great thing -- his family and an extra. Why would he want it to change?
Also remember, if he cheats with you he w... (read in full...)
Her vagina muscles push me out before I can orgasm. What do I do?
Q. im 18 and i have been with my 17 year old girlfriend for the last 3 years, we lost our virginity to each other about 18 months ago but when ever were having sex the muscles in her vagina push me out just as were about to orgasm, loosing the ryth...
A. 12 April 2007: Check out this site: http://www.vaginismus.com/ It should help you.... (read in full...)
Sensitive problem needing advice please!
Q. My friend has a problem and she's not quite sure what the solution is. She is not willing to ask a doctor, because she wishes to remain unknown. She came to me for advice but i dont know how to help her. Her hymen was already broken so this ceases ...
A. 12 April 2007: You can spot any time of the month (it's called "breakthrough bleeding"). If it's brownish, it's been there a while. She really should go to a clinic if she's not sure, though.... (read in full...)
Does a girl need a PAP exam even though she's on birth control?
Q. If a girl is on birth control for her periods, does she still need to go get a pap exam if she isnt 18 yet?...
A. 12 April 2007: yep. you should have a PAP exam every year. It's testing for something completely different (cancer cells), and you need the exam. Some STDs can cause various cancers (paploma virus) and once you're on the pill you are likely sexually active.
... (read in full...)
My dad "touches" me but when I tell him no, he goes into a tantrum!
Q. Well I have had this problem since around age 12 I am 15 now. I do not like my dad touching me as he holds me like my bf on my hips want to hum him plevis to pelvis. He use to be worse by sometimes just opening the shower curtain on me and making ...
A. 12 April 2007: You do need to tell someone, but be careful about whom you tell. Teachers are required by law to report what you tell them (even in confidence) to the police. But if this continues, it is possible that that's the best.
The only other thing I ... (read in full...)
Does this Grandmother really have 'rights' to visit her grandchildren. Any thoughts?
Q. Sadly, my adult niece (35) and her Mother(55) don't get along and have huge, trust issues. My niece has two lovely children (10 and 12) and her Mother (the Grandmother) is demanding she be given the right as the Grandmother to have visits with ...
A. 12 April 2007: Unless a court has established that the mother is unfit, the grandmother has no rights at all (legally). Morally and ethically, the mother has the duty to keep her children from this caustic person -- who would ever bring there children to someone ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being paranoid!?
Q. How can I stop being paranoid about girl friends or girlfriends?...
A. 11 April 2007: It's a good question. If you go from talking every night to nothing in a week, your mind is bound to come up with all kinds of possibilities. Don't be too harsh on yourself.
As to this specific situation, what you do depends on (1) what you want... (read in full...)
I have a low self esteem and dont hold any of myself in high regard at all!! Please help!!!
Q. I really hate my body and my low self esteem is beginning to distract me from everything else that i should be focussing on. I actually feel a constant disgust from just being in my skin, i can't look at myself in the mirror without seeing all my ...
A. 11 April 2007: Try this site:
http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html
It has some great suggestions for improving self-esteem.
It has these three steps (with examples):
* Step 1: Rebut the Inner Critic
* Step 2: ... (read in full...)
Im 16 hes 40, I cant imagine life without him so how do I get him ot marry me ?
Q. I wrote yesterday "So many boys want to date me but I reject them all for my married neighbor who is 40! I'm 16. He is married but only see his family twice a mth over weekends coz they are overseas. We have been seeing each other almost daily for ...
A. 11 April 2007: I can't imagine WANTING to be a second wife, so I can't figure out why this would be okay with you. Second, even if you COULD make him marry you, he would be resentful if it wasn't something he wanted to do in the first place.
But here's what you... (read in full...)
My brother is protective of me, but I fancy his friend, last time his friendship suffered! What should do ?
Q. I can't get my brothers friend out of my head! wot can i do? my brother is really protective over me, plus i've already been out with one of his friends and it got serious so their friendship suffered and i don't think he would want that to hap...
A. 11 April 2007: Talk to your brother about this. Find out why he had such a problem last time. Talk to him about the friend you fancy. If you can get your brother on board first, maybe he can relax about it. He might even be able to help.
If he can't ge... (read in full...)
Im 18 and hes 26, worried that all he sees us as is sex, even though he talks about he future ?
Q. i am 18 and i am seeing 26 year old man and i am confused about what he really wants from me. He talks about the future but what about now what am i supposed to wait or just move on its hard because i have feelings for him that are strong.I caught ...
A. 11 April 2007: It's hard to get enough about your relationship from your question. Unless I completely understand you, it sounds like you aren't having sex yet; you want to but he doesn't. Is that right?
I think you should slow down. He's probably worried ... (read in full...)
We broke up over something I did, he says he loves me but cant be with me, what can I do ?
Q. my boyfriend broke up wiyh me toyaly out of the blue, because of somethin wrong i did many months ago. he's been telling me how much he loves me lately, so i'm in total shock and don't know what to do. i love hims os much, but he says he just cant ...
A. 9 April 2007: Let him go. He's either using what happened months ago as an excuse, in which case he's lying about why he wants out, or he's been stewing about it for months, and couldn't be honest with you about his feelings. Either way, this doesn't say great ... (read in full...)
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