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I'm a married, 41-year-old, working mother of 2 sons, ages 2 and 3. I live in the S.W. United States, near the Pacific Ocean. We live on one income (mine); my husband is a stay-at-home father, and he's great with our kids.

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I thought that going to live with him would help our long distance struggles, but things are worse now!

Q.   i use to live in miami and i decided to go to school in gainesville, i had a long distant relationship with a guy from gainesville i thought when i moved up here things would get better they have just gotten more intense and fights and we cant stand ...

A.   29 August 2007: Oh hon, the reason that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is because they're not around to piss you off. Sometimes you put a distant guy on a pedastal because every time you see them it's a holiday, you're on your best behavior, and then you go ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to smell a little "down there"?

Q.   Hey i know this maybe too much but... I am 15 and am a virgin. I am worried about "down there" as i smell a little. Is this usual in anyway???? Pleasse help, i am worried and feel so dirty!! x...

A.   29 August 2007: Hey sweetie. No question that you really want an answer to is "too much" so don't worry. You'll definitely develop an aroma that is your own, and for the most part most guys will like it. Make sure that it's clean and you're good, no worries.... (read in full...)

My boyfriends little girl sees me as a threat. I dont want to come between her and her dad. Any advice please?

Q.   My boyfriend of 2 years has a 7 years old daughter. She is from his previous marriage that his wife ran off with another guy. The daughter is now living with the mom who just had a new born baby. I’m in good relationship with my boyfriend’s ...

A.   29 August 2007: I think I can give you another perspective. My parents divorced some 30 years ago, and even then I knew it was for the best. And they split amicably. The first time my mom had someone over for dinner, he was a family friend (he was not the ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and I crave sex all the time! How do I stop feeling like a slag?

Q.   how do i stop craving sex? every time i go to see a boy i feel the need to sleep with him. i always fee horny and kinky i always wanna have sex. im 15 so im not even old enough but i cant help it. i know ya probs think im a slag when you read thi...

A.   29 August 2007: Check out this site: http://www.sexaa.org/12ques.htm -- it gives questions to see whether you're addicted to sex. If so, you might want to see a counselor. If not, stop being so hard on yourself. Try getting acquainted with your hand, at home ... (read in full...)

Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends

Q.   Just a quick question, out of curiosity... Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends? I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to reiterate to past boyfriends that I would never cheat and that oth...

A.   29 August 2007: How you act around both of them makes a big difference. If the male friend or ex is just a friend, you should be able to invite him and your bf to the same place, and you should always make your bf feel #1 (and mean it) while the two of them are in ... (read in full...)

My wife has a low sex drive. How can we deal with this?

Q.   Hi everyone, I am married and have been in a relationship with my wife for over 10 years (married 2000). We are both around 40 and have a 3 year old boy and 5 year old girl. We have a problem where my wife has a low libido and is unwilling or...

A.   29 August 2007: Try this book: "101 Nights Of Grrreat Sex, Romance, Couples Guide, Self Help, Activity Book," by Laura Corn. It has sealed pages with sexy titles. 52 Pages are "For Her Eyes Only" and 52 are "For His Eyes Only" and one final challenge is "For Bot... (read in full...)

My friends guy kissed me. I really like him. Shall i tell my friend?

Q.   hi recently i kissed one of my friends boyfriends, i really like him and a couple of friends have told me he likes me more than his own girlfriend. he had made a pass at me a few times before this time and i rejected them, then finally i just gave ...

A.   29 August 2007: If he cheats WITH you, he'll cheat ON you. Do not continue this. As for whether you should tell your friend, reverse the situation. If you were dating someone and he was flirting with your friend and she finally kissed him, would you want her... (read in full...)

How do I talk to a girl I have never met? Tips??

Q.   hello pls how may i talk to agirl i have never met before...

A.   29 August 2007: Duce has it right. take an interest in her and let her talk. look her in the eyes a lot. LISTEN to what she has to say. And show your wit -- girls like guys with a sense of humor. (And also laugh at her jokes. We like guys who get our joke... (read in full...)

I thought, I didn't feel there was anything wrong with porn! But now that I caught my bf watching porn..it hurts me a lot! Any advice?

Q.   Hi, i'm having some problems with a partner at the moment. we've been together for 3 1/2 years. He was a really loving guy to start with, sooo romantic but as time past he just can't be bothered. I recently discovered that he's been using my P.C in ...

A.   29 August 2007: Take your computer in to make sure that the virus/malware etc. and all traces of porn are removed. Ask them to put password access onto the computer. Don't share the password with your bf. You've asked him not to use your computer for this and he ... (read in full...)

What do you think about affairs?

Q.   What do you guys think about affairs? Esp when someone has one when only in the first few years of their relationship. Does this mean generally they are unhappy, missing something? And if so once the affair has started and even stopped, will that...

A.   28 August 2007: I think affairs are dishonest. The time you should be putting into either fixing or ending the primary relationship you instead spend escaping with an outsider. The honest thing to do is to get out of the relationship that has somethin... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is jealous of my female friend. How can i deal with this?

Q.   okay well iv know this girl (lets call her lucy) from when i was little, shes only 14 and im 18. iv always been like a big brother to her an looked after her, messed around etc. and she always comes to me when she has a problem. the thing is i...

A.   28 August 2007: Your girlfriend deserves to feel like she's number one in your heart. This means you treat her best. It doesn't sound like she's getting this, so no wonder she's feeling threatened. Have a sit down with her. Let her know that she's first, a... (read in full...)

I either feel nothing, or pain during sex. This hasn't happened with other guys. Do i have a problem?

Q.   I've had sex about fifteen times. With several different partners. I am seventeen and now have a boyfriend who i have sex with regularly. His size is not a problem, he's not massive but not miniscule either, quite perfect. He can get me to orgasm ...

A.   28 August 2007: Sounds like you're tensing up; if you're always concerned that it's going to be painful, then it's a self-fulfilling prophesy. The next time you're getting ready to do intercourse, try going VERY SLOWLY. Have him finger you until you're a... (read in full...)

How do I help my partner have courage to stand up against his ex wife's divorce demands?

Q.   My partner and wife split 3 years ago. The kids are 21 and 20. He did not wrong her, it just all broke down. He is a loving man and tries to be a good Dad but , as to be expected I suppose, has been receiving loads of hatred. They have been ...

A.   28 August 2007: Sounds like she abandoned him a long time before he returned the favor. In addition to a lawyer, which is long overdue, I would recommend a counselor. He needs to know that he has a right to these things, which with a higher self-confidence, he ... (read in full...)

I've been paired for a project with a guy in my class. He fancies me but i dont fancy him. How do i let him down gently?

Q.   Im 14 and i go to a secondry school. well the thing is i found out a boy in a few of my classes likes me and well to put it bluntly i dont like him back but i dont want to hurt his feelings and he practically admitted he liked me in front of me ...

A.   28 August 2007: Be gently honest immediately; it's the kindest thing you can do. Once he knows there's no hope, he can move on. Avoiding the issue gives him hope and prolongs the pain. ... (read in full...)

How can I end my relationship with the married man I'm seeing?

Q.   I have been seeing a married man for the past 11 months, at first it was going out for drinks and clubbing. He is working in my town and soon his job will be over. He stays here all week and goes home at weekends, which recently is becoming less ...

A.   28 August 2007: Eddie was speaking in general, hon. He wasn't accusing you of having an STD, but rather the husband of sleeping around. When one person in a marriage sleeps with any other person, there is a risk to the faithful one that they don't deserve. ... (read in full...)

Do you think my teacher fancies me????

Q.   Does my tutor fancy me? Right now I'm in school, one of my subjects is tech design. I have this male teacher whos like 25 26ish. I spend loads of time in the tech rooms in my free lessons so i spend loads of time with him. A month or two...

A.   28 August 2007: It's possible that he likes you, but if you care for him at all cut him off. He will get fired if any HINT of a relationship between the two of you (real or imagined) gets to anyone in authority. I know its fun to have him as a suitor, especially ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to lose his virginity to me, but I dont want to be known as the 'bad first'

Q.   I am 16 and lost my virginty along time ago in the not the best circumstance , my boyf is 19 and is stil a virgin, it took him courage to tell me this and i respect it , now he says hes ready to loose it , but ive never been in this situtation ...

A.   28 August 2007: Sweetheart, just because you lost your virginity doesn't mean you're experienced. NO ONE is born knowing what to do exactly. We all experiment with what we like until we figure it out. Take your time with him; don't be in such a hurry to get to ... (read in full...)

I've been having an affair with an attached girl, I want her to leave him, can her relationship survive with him??

Q.   Just after some different opinions bout me problem. I know its bad but been having an affair wiv a girl whos got a boyfriend of three years. It was both emotional and sexual and quite highly charged. We became v close through it. Think it started ...

A.   28 August 2007: If she cheats WITH you she will someday cheat ON you. I would leave her to the other guy and try to find someone unattached.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hates other guys looking at me and chases them. Yeh HE can look at other women????

Q.   Why does my boyfriend look at other women but he goes crazy if another man looks at me. He's even followed guys home to confront them. I asked him what's the difference in him looking at another girls and another guys looking at me?I dress very ...

A.   28 August 2007: I usually advise women on this site that men look, and that it doesn't mean anything about your relationship with him. But I'm going to have to give you different advice. I may be wrong, but my GUESS is that when he looks at the other women he... (read in full...)

My dad has just died and my guy has finished with me, I cant stop crying. Help me out please?

Q.   Please help me, in the early hours of Friday morning my fiance finished with me, reason being that he simply doesnt feel the same anymore. We have been together almost 3 years, engaged for almost 1 - he proposed on christmas morning. The year ...

A.   28 August 2007: I am sorry for your loss. I wish I had better advice. Don't do anything to try to get this guy back. If he could leave you during this time then he's never going to be there for you when you need him. He seems to be honest about it, and he's... (read in full...)

My wife has a low sex drive. How can we deal with this?

Q.   Hi everyone, I am married and have been in a relationship with my wife for over 10 years (married 2000). We are both around 40 and have a 3 year old boy and 5 year old girl. We have a problem where my wife has a low libido and is unwilling or...

A.   28 August 2007: Try to have a calm conversation with her, when the kids are at the babysitters. Let her know how much you love her, and then let her know how this is affecting you. One of the differences between men and women is that women need to feel loved to ... (read in full...)

Any advice on painless anal sex.

Q.   How can it not hurt so much? My boyfriend and I have tried to do anal and it hurts alot. He really wants to do it cause he has never done it before but how or what can we do to not have it hurt so much. He gets it in a little way and then it starts ...

A.   28 August 2007: Lube and lots of it. Plus relax. Plus be aroused on other fronts. Plus take anonymous' advice: push against it like you're having a bowel movement. It relaxes you in the right ways and keeps it from hurting. Check out this site: http://w... (read in full...)

My mates been cheating on her guy and now I'm seeing the guy she's been sleeping with! What should i di??

Q.   Hi my best friend lets call her suzie said to me about three months ago that she really likes this guy she has known for two years, lets call him jake, and its only this year that he can return her feelings but now she has a bf! she keeps doing stuf...

A.   28 August 2007: (1) Stop seeing Jake. How would you feel if your mate started dating someone you had feelings for? If you want to be her friend, don't go with a guy behind her back. AND if he cheats with you, he will someday cheat ON you. You don't want any ... (read in full...)

I live in NC, he lives in Gorgia, should i continue to go out with him?

Q.   ok well i live in nc and i'm going out with a guy in gorgia. Should i continue to go out with him thax for all your help ...

A.   28 August 2007: I'm not sure we have enough information to give a good answer. How long have you been dating him? How long is he going to be gone? Will you be in the same place sometime in the near future? Are you willing to move if he's not coming back to your ... (read in full...)

I'm scared i wont be good enough in bed so i dont have girlfriends...

Q.   I'm scared that i may not be good enough in bed so i refuse to have a gf, is this a stupid excuse, but i feel that if i have sex with a girl hu has had a bf before i may not be able to pleasure her and she will tell everyone....

A.   28 August 2007: Some girls find a guy's virginity sexy; and when she knows you're a virgin, she's not going to expect you to be a great lover. You're in this to learn it -- NO ONE is born knowing how. Be willing to take direction (up, over to the left, THERE!) ... (read in full...)

I'm meeting a guy i met on the net and am taking my friend with me. I'm positive he will prefer her!!

Q.   I really like this guy, and we have been talking for about a month now over MSN and on the phone. We're supposed to be meeting on friday but theres something thats really troubling me. My best friend is coming with me, and I'm positive that he...

A.   27 August 2007: Why do you automatically assume that this guy prefers looks over the conversation he's had for a month? You've gotten to know him; is he really that shallow? And if your self-esteem is really that low, why are you bringing a looker to your dat... (read in full...)

I'm a mum of 2 and have met a great guy but cant help cheating with my FWB. How do i move on???

Q.   I am a divorced mum of 2 and last year i met a guy who i totally fell in love with. The only thing is, he only wants to see me for sex. He said he enjoys my company but doesnt want a relationship. I know this is wrong but i cant brake the habi...

A.   27 August 2007: As long as you're available for bad-for-you-guy, you're not letting yourself give good-for-you-guy a real chance. Cold turkey is your only hope. You need to get him out of your system to know whether good-guy and you have a chance (which y... (read in full...)

My girlfriend of a year has just found out i'm on probation, shes angry. What d i do?

Q.   My girlfriend of a year just found out I was on probation. Shes mad I didn't tell her. What should I do?...

A.   27 August 2007: I notice that all the other answers are from men, so let me answer as a woman. I would be mad too; really mad. A whole year and you didn't let her know about something that's that important? You're supposed to be able to talk with your partner, ... (read in full...)

My guy sends off signals that he cant be trusted, I've found some txt from another girl, do I contact her?

Q.   Hi. I have been together with my boyfriend for almost a year now but something about him sends off signals that he cant be fully trusted. Maybe it's that he constantly checks out other women in my presence. Anyway, I will openly admit that I am a s...

A.   27 August 2007: Tell him that his responses to your questions are making you insecure, and that you'd really like to be able to trust him. So in that light, you'd like him to introduce you to his friend. Maybe the three of you can talk over coffee. If she's JU... (read in full...)

In a casual relation with my ex; does he think I didn't trust him, am I wasting time?

Q.   I have been having a casual relationship with my ex (from three years ago) for just over a month. He is 25 and I am 24. He wants to keep it quiet and have some fun as fuck buddies (knowing that I love him and want more eventually) and see how thin...

A.   27 August 2007: Yes, you're wasting your time. If you're only "Fuck Buddies" then you have to honor that arrangement. Feelings for him are out, asking about another woman is out, being jealous is out, and expecting that he will ever have more feelings for you ... (read in full...)

Moving to a new town, I find myself in minority! How do I immerse in a society I dislike?

Q.   I just moved from NYC to a new town and I am really scared of trying to fit in here. I would love to have friends and have a life the problem is that people here are SO different to what I am used to. Please don't think I am a snob, but the only way ...

A.   27 August 2007: I'm with eddie; it's hard to know what advice to give you without knowing the specifics. Just be polite and pleasant, regardless of what people say, and see if you can find the gem or two to hang with.... (read in full...)

Is it normal for boys to stare at other girls while out with their fiancees?

Q.   Is it normal for guys to stare at girls while out with their fiancees? I understand that looking or glancing at someone of the opposite sex once in a while is natural, but my fiance just stares at girl for more than a few seconds while he is right ...

A.   27 August 2007: Most men look. They're better about hiding it, though. And I can't imagine that the objects of his stares feel good about it either. Don't worry that he looks; just tell him that being so obvious about it is disrespectful to you (and to the ... (read in full...)

What is the difference between a girlfriend and a fiancée?

Q.   today my partner introduced me as his girlfriend,yet we are engaged and have a 4 year history behind us,what would you say was the diffrence between a girlfriend and a fiance?...

A.   27 August 2007: Don't stew over this -- ask him. It probably just slipped his mind. Don't make it into something bigger than it is. (I'm sure you were his girlfriend much longer than you've been his fiance, and probably habit just took over.) BTW, when you... (read in full...)

I'm tired of my brother being friends with my ex!

Q.   Hi Ok, i saw a question on here earlier that drew my attention to my current situation and wouldn't mind a bit of feedback on it. My ex and i split 3 months ago now. I have no feelings for him apart from dislike and he is aware of this (i wont go ...

A.   27 August 2007: Don't feed your brother's addiction. Don't give him any more money. Certainly don't go into debt to give him a good time. Were you able to find an Al-Anon (or Nar-Anon) meeting in your area? These folk helped me immensely and could help you ... (read in full...)

I want to have sex, but I'm worried about my breasts. Any advice?

Q.   im sixteen and i have some concerns about having sex. This is going to sound very stupid but im really worried about my breasts. I was making out with a guy and he went under my bra and i kept pushing him out because one of my breasts has a sort of ...

A.   27 August 2007: Wait a couple of weeks (at least) until the ingrown hair has resolved. Don't worry about your breasts -- everyone's is different. (And NONE of us have the breasts of porn stars.) For most men, as long as you have them, they'll be happy. [grin]... (read in full...)

I'm tired of everyone calling me fat, what can I do?

Q.   why is fat the onli thing people can throw at me?? i am not overly big but not really too slim im 15 im 5ft 6 and size 14 clothes, and i am personally happy with the way i look. boys compliment me, friends compleient me and i am quite popular....

A.   27 August 2007: I like duce's advice -- F'em. You're not fat (and if that's all they can come up with, then they're not very bright). These are the kind of idiots who will still pick on you if you're thinner, so don't worry about your weight. If you want to ... (read in full...)

We dont have sex, he's got a small manhood, but everything else is perfect. Should i have an affair?

Q.   Hi, I'm in the same boat. Well, I haven't met anyone else but I married my husband in April of this year. We've had sex once in 12 months. We have a brilliant friendship, we have fun together, can talk about everything and he loves me like no one ...

A.   27 August 2007: If you're not willing to work with him on and talk with him about his sexual issues -- even to the point of reminding him that you have sexual needs -- then you have a real problem. I think rather than putting the effort/time into cheating on him, ... (read in full...)

How can I read his texts? He is sending suggestive texts to other women!

Q.   Can anyone out there with a recent Sony Ericcson cellphone instruct me how to open the text message box and go to the in box to read the texts. I tried to do it today but couldnt quite work out the keys. My boyfriend recently changed his phone and ...

A.   27 August 2007: You don't. You either trust him or you don't. Tell him that you'd like him, this once, to show you his inbox. Tell him that because of the past times you're really insecure. Let him know that after this time you'll let it go as long as the m... (read in full...)

I'm 21 and want to ask out a 17 year old boy, is there anything wrong with this?

Q.   I'm a 21 year old female and have a crush on a 17 year old boy. He acts very mature for his age and he has made it quite clear that he wants to hook up with me. Is there a problem with going for him?...

A.   27 August 2007: I don't think there's a problem as long as you're willing to take some ribbing from your friends, and back him up if that's the case. Once you're a little older the age difference will mean nothing. My husband is four years younger than I am. As ... (read in full...)

My inner lips are bigger than my outer lips! What will my husband to be think?

Q.   i'm a female i think that sth is wrong in my vagina,i mean that i have an inner lip bigger than the other(meaning libia minora).it disturbs me so much and i'm going to get married,will i find any problem in intercourse and how my husband will think ...

A.   27 August 2007: Lots of women have the same thing. It's as normal as different penis sizes is in men. Please don't worry about it.... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin. He's convinced me to have sex, I'm nervous, any tips???

Q.   hi guys,well I'm a teenager and i have a great bf i no I'm under aged but he has kind of convinced me to have sex with him.i was just wandering because it's my first time and I'm slightly nervous any tips on how to actually have sex?i no that sounds ...

A.   27 August 2007: After reading Dr. Pete's response I need to change mine. This is not the guy to have sex with, and this is not the time. If he's hurting you, you need to find someone else. Please leave him. Run like your ass is on fire. Your first time should ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin. He's convinced me to have sex, I'm nervous, any tips???

Q.   hi guys,well I'm a teenager and i have a great bf i no I'm under aged but he has kind of convinced me to have sex with him.i was just wandering because it's my first time and I'm slightly nervous any tips on how to actually have sex?i no that sounds ...

A.   26 August 2007: Okay, first of all, please don't feel that you have to have sex this early. Do only what you're comfortable with; your body your rules. You're worth the wait, and taking it slowly is worth it for you too. If he won't wait for you then he's not ... (read in full...)

I thought, I didn't feel there was anything wrong with porn! But now that I caught my bf watching porn..it hurts me a lot! Any advice?

Q.   Hi, i'm having some problems with a partner at the moment. we've been together for 3 1/2 years. He was a really loving guy to start with, sooo romantic but as time past he just can't be bothered. I recently discovered that he's been using my P.C in ...

A.   24 April 2007: Okay, first of all he's not using other women to get pleasure, he's using PICTURES of other women, and there's a BIG difference. And just because he likes masturbating to porn DOES NOT mean he isn't attracted to you. Men just like porn. A... (read in full...)

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