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My bf is on a long trip, how do I keep my urges curbed without him?

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Question - (8 May 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 9 May 2007)
A female United States age 36-40, *arinana writes:

My boyfriend is away on a trip and it's been three months. I have never gone this long without sex before and it is totally getting to me. I'm totally irritable and depressed. I wouldn't dream of cheating on him, and masturbation is just not working like it used to. I miss HIM. What should I do?

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A female reader, karinana United States +, writes (9 May 2007):

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karinana agony auntWe are very much in contact. We email every day and talk on the phone when we can. Emotionally we are very well connected. I can't wait for him to return because of our own trips we have planned. Our relationship is definitely not ALL sexual, but we do have a very healthy and amazing sex life and I miss it. But it's more complicated than that, because I can give myself orgasms with toys; I can't recreate his arms around me.

Penta, thanks for the link. I couldn't resist. Now I have a new toy on the way! I'll definitely check out the videos. Thanks for the tip!

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A female reader, Pork Hock Canada +, writes (9 May 2007):

First of all why do you miss him? Sexual desires or do you miss him? Talking to him, hanging out...it can't all be physical?

My Dad didn't have sex for the last five years of her life (my Mother) but spending time with her, talking with her, going away to do nice things together last longer than how many times you done it. Hate to be brutal but start occupying yourself and stop obessing on the physical nature of your relationship. Surely you would be interested in what he has seen, learnt, or what he encountered from travelling?

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A female reader, penta United States +, writes (9 May 2007):

penta agony auntThere's always new toys. Also, the site has erotic videos (that have plots!), some of which are geared toward women. I find that sometimes just shopping the site (even without purchasing) makes me happy. Maybe I'm just easily amused...

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A female reader, karinana United States +, writes (9 May 2007):

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karinana agony auntI have plenty of toys. He even gave me more before he left. They worked in the past just fine, but now I just get bored with them.

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A male reader, Royofthe Rovers United Kingdom +, writes (8 May 2007):

Royofthe Rovers agony auntYou need to help yourself in that department as Penta has suggested. Its good you have ruled out cheating, but treat yourself while he is away, and maybe when he gets back he can get involved. It will be a treat for him aswell.

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A female reader, penta United States +, writes (8 May 2007):

penta agony auntThere's this great website that reviews toys (yes, sex toys). I like it a lot -- the reviews are humorous, too -- and I've ordered some of the toys. They're very discreet, though you might want to look at the site in a private place, lol. It's http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/ Have fun!

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