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Our sex life has really gone from bad to worse recently...is this normal?
Q. Hi guys, I've been seeing my girlfriend for over a year now, and she moved in with me last month (serious, I know!) - but our sex life has really gone from bad to worse recently, only making love once a month at the most. It just seems that she d...
A. 13 July 2007: BTW, waiting until she's in bed to make a move is the WRONG thing to do. By that point she's tired and planning for sleep. I don't think I said that very well before. The bed has to be a neutral place once sleep is involved, or she's going to ... (read in full...)
Our sex life has really gone from bad to worse recently...is this normal?
Q. Hi guys, I've been seeing my girlfriend for over a year now, and she moved in with me last month (serious, I know!) - but our sex life has really gone from bad to worse recently, only making love once a month at the most. It just seems that she d...
A. 13 July 2007: 2 things:
1. She may be overwhelmed by the amount of work she thinks she needs to do. Women with a higher sex drive would have jumped at the chance to blow off the ironing to take advantage of the romantic atmosphere. Try finding out what kin... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has feelings for me or if he is just controlling?
Q. For the past 3 years I have worked with D. We both have partners,but unhappy. We are really close at work. I have told him my feelings of love. We went out once and felt guilty...since then we have tried to maintain a friendship and work ...
A. 11 July 2007: Wow. You really are delusional.
Folks, I say we leave this woman to her own advice. She clearly only wanted permission to date the man who's bad for her, while disrespecting the father of her children and the other guy's partner. She's no... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has feelings for me or if he is just controlling?
Q. For the past 3 years I have worked with D. We both have partners,but unhappy. We are really close at work. I have told him my feelings of love. We went out once and felt guilty...since then we have tried to maintain a friendship and work ...
A. 11 July 2007: "We are paying for our mistakes and not letting our children like most people do."
This is PURE CRAP. You need to stop lying to yourself. You are showing your kids that a NORMAL relationship is one without love. You are modeling to your kid... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to go to third base with her. I'm not sure what to do.
Q. Hello, My girlfriend wants me to go to third base with her, like rubbing her under her pants, both back and front, but while I'm dont here. I'm not sure what to do, and we aren't interested in sexual intercourse. We both want to wait for the righ...
A. 10 July 2007: Well, first of all, your body, your rules. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want.
Second, if you've decided you want to do this. Some make sure your hands are manicured so that your nails don't hurt her. (I'm telling you, women ap... (read in full...)
I think my teacher fancies me but I'm not sure.
Q. I'm so confused! I think my teacher fancies me but I'm not sure. When I first started in his class, he was really nice and I figured that it must be because I knew about the subject before I started college (I was 21 at the time, I'm 23 now). The ...
A. 10 July 2007: Even though you're both over 18, ethically he shouldn't pursue you. He could get fired for dating a student.... (read in full...)
Questions about sex
Q. This is a very silly question. In fact will be asking more than one, even perhaps lack of sexual knowledge. 1.If someone has an Std, or HIV, can someone get infected by kissing passionately? 2.Is the only way to get a STD thru unprotected sex...
A. 10 July 2007: Hi there.
#1: "The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) considers open-mouth kissing low-risk for transmitting HIV, especially if both partners are without sores or cuts on the mouth or lips. Saliva has certain proteins that make it ... (read in full...)
We want to give up condoms and try to guess when it is safe--how do we do that?
Q. Hey all. I have a question. Let me just tel. you a bit about my question. K me and my bf have been having sex 3 time and we now want to do it without a condom and we both got some information. That if you do it within a average of 14 days after your ...
A. 9 July 2007: Okay, what you're considering is called the "rhythm" method. You can Google it for better instructions. It has to do with avoiding sex during her fertile period. It can be effective for a while, but they frequently call people who use this method ... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on my spanish teacher
Q. I have a huge crush on my spanish teacher. I'm 12 and he's in his 20s. It's been about a year since i started liking him. Everytime i see him he always says hi and asks how i am. I blush whenever he talks to me. My friends say that he's a perv but i ...
A. 8 July 2007: If you care about him at all DO NOT act on your crush. Whether anything happens or not, you can ruin his career.
That said, yeah, it's pretty normal to have a crush on a teacher. Enjoy the fantasy, just make sure you keep it to yourself... (read in full...)
Our family and ethnic backgrounds are different. He's going through a tough time. I'm indecisive. Should I give this a go or move on?
Q. Hi, Thank you for reading this. I've been dating a lovely uy for 6 months. Things were fine up until I told my family about him. They were not happy. He's been going through a hard time because of his own family, his parents are getting a divorc...
A. 8 July 2007: I would keep it light right now. Be there to talk with him, but don't be clingy. When he decides he wants more, be there. But don't push. Let him get through his issues first.
If you're comfortable with the idea, and you think he might be... (read in full...)
I also kind of resent the fact that he is considered so amazing and yet I feel like the wicked witch because I want nothing to do with his mind games. Why did he ask me out in the first place?
Q. My ex broke off our relationship nearly 7 months ago. He has got a possible learning problem/character disorder which has gone undiagnosed. He had split up with his previous ex and was devastated about it. I was a good friend to him to help him ...
A. 8 July 2007: You can't go with what other people think. Stick to your feelings. If you didn't like the way you were treated, you were right to leave. Move on and don't look back.... (read in full...)
I get mad when she mentions that she is going out with her friends because I get the feeling that she shouldnt be having fun without me and i get jealous
Q. I have a problem I have been living in another country for 9 months and that is also how long I have been away from my girlfriend. We are trying to make this work and we are almost there but the problem is that I get mad when she mentions that she ...
A. 8 July 2007: It sounds like you want her to be miserable if you're not there. You should want what's best for her, if you love her.
Don't put her into a position where she stops telling you about her life. Telling you that she's going out with her friends ... (read in full...)
Why do men still mastubrate when they have a very healthy sex life?
Q. I was wondering (my bf cant answer this) why do men still wa*k when they have a very healthy sex life? my bf still mastuerbates up to 3 times a week and we have an incredible sex life. i dont know whether to be insulted or flattered! please help! ...
A. 8 July 2007: Men like to masturbate. It's fun. The equipment is right there in reach, and it's a great stress relief. Why should they give that up?
If you walk in and he's masturbating, you're always allowed to ask him if he wants some company.
Don't t... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has feelings for me or if he is just controlling?
Q. For the past 3 years I have worked with D. We both have partners,but unhappy. We are really close at work. I have told him my feelings of love. We went out once and felt guilty...since then we have tried to maintain a friendship and work ...
A. 8 July 2007: Even if you don't call it adultery, it's still a form of cheating. You seem more concerned about D than you do about your partner, and you're feeling guilty that you went out with D even once.
You are not being honest with your partner, and that... (read in full...)
How soon after a breakup do you start another relationship?
Q. hello my name is charlemagne and my question is how soon after a breakup do you start another relationship because i recently broke up with someone who was cheating on me and now i am engaged to someone else who was way better person than my ex and ...
A. 8 July 2007: You need to talk to a counselor, and quickly. The last thing you want to do is drive away someone who treats you well because he's paying for what the jerk did.
If you're engaged, I recommend pre-marital counseling very highly. My husband ... (read in full...)
I think I fell in love with an ex coworker and I want to leave my husband for him.
Q. I think I fell in love with an ex coworker and I want to leave my husband for him....
A. 8 July 2007: If you're ready to leave your husband so quickly, what makes you think you won't be over your ex-coworker just as quickly?
I think you are confusing infatuation and love. Infatuation is the beginning stage where your heart pounds. It feels gr... (read in full...)
Just found out he has been cheating
Q. Just found out he has been cheating I feel so sick because only 4 hours ago I found out that the man I have been in love with and deeply committed to, open and honest with for 7 years is now seeing someone else. I also found out he lied to me about...
A. 8 July 2007: I'm afraid that the only way to find out whether someone is trustworthy is to trust them. But once you find out who someone really is, it's important that you remember it. You did the right thing leaving him; you know who he is now.
You were not... (read in full...)
My husband and I are separated. We are starting to communicate, but scared to get too close. Afraid he will run.
Q. My husband and I are separated. We are starting to communicate, but scared to get too close. Afraid he will run. What should I do?...
A. 8 July 2007: That depends a lot on what you want.
If you want him back and you think he will bolt, make sure that you don't push too hard. Let him know that you're there and that you want him but you'll stay in the background until he knows what he wants. ... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a guy but I've been sleeping with his cousin.
Q. ive been seeing a guy for the past three weeks and hes great and treats me like a princess, but ive been sleeping with his cousinfor the past 2 weeks, this guy is also my best mates boyfriend, i do feel guilty but i think the fear of gettin cought ...
A. 8 July 2007: So you're cheating on both your boyfriend and your best friend. Wow. It really doesn't pay for anyone to trust you, does it?
This has the potential to blow up in your face and really hurt the people you say you care about (though you know tha... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're really in love with someone?
Q. how do you know when your really in love with someone? Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time if you count the on and offs. We say we love each other on the phone and he does really care for me and is sweet and has done nothing wrong ...
A. 7 July 2007: Do you like the person you are when you're with him? Do you want only the best for him? Does the thought of spending your future with him somehow feel right? Can you see yourself being old together?
If you can say yes to these question... (read in full...)
How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change?
Q. How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change? I know everyone says being alone will be fine, but I have panic attacks just thinking about it. I know I am possibly a bit ...
A. 7 July 2007: First, remember that you are NOT responsible for him (even if he's not being responsible for himself). You only need to make sure that YOU are okay. His problems are not your fault and are not your responsibility. Maybe you leaving him will cause ... (read in full...)
My straight friend who has a girlfriend made out with me; I like him but I don't want to hurt anyone
Q. I am a comfortably gay 24 year old male. Recently I met a 23 year old straight male that I have hung out with a couple times and really have come to like (both as a friend but also am strongly attracted to him). We were out late last weekend and he ...
A. 6 July 2007: Let me ask you this: if you had a boyfriend and he made out one night with a straight female, what would you think?
Don't pursue this. People will be hurt, and you'll be the one doing it.... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my girlfriend to bring us closer but she wants to wait
Q. Hi there. Im a 17year old virgin. Well... ive been with my girlfriend for 5 months now. I love her so much but i wanna feel so much more. And we were discussing sex. And she says shes going to wait til she gets married. I heard sex takes your ...
A. 6 July 2007: If I were talking to a female friend of yours who you really cared for, and she said, "I love my boyfriend but he's pressuring me for sex; I really want to wait because it's important to me," what would you tell her?
I would tell her that if ... (read in full...)
Broke up with him because the sex was too painful... should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I broke it off with my boyfriend because sex with him was extremely painful. It was my first time and i felt he was not as gentle as i would have liked him to be. We never even kissed for he said he hates kissing and there was no fore play. wh...
A. 6 July 2007: Please remember this: Your body, your rules. If he doesn't want to kiss and you do, then dump his ass and find someone who wants to treat you better! The way you deserve. Please don't go back to him ever.
And if you struggled and he said he ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with paranoia?
Q. I suffer from extreme paranoia. What should I do?...
A. 6 July 2007: I'm not saying this to be flip, but: seek professional help. Seriously. There are medications that can help you.... (read in full...)
My best friend told my girl a lie that made her dump me; how do I win her back?
Q. my best friend told my girlfried sumthing that made her mad cuz i didnt say anything to him now she broke up with me and everything i say she shoots it down what do i do to fix this and get her back...
A. 6 July 2007: If she's not listening to you there's not a lot you can do. My best advice is to write a letter or e-mail her. That way you can at least give her your side.
Trust, once lost, is hard to get back (even if it's not your fault it was lost). ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he loves me like I love him, advice please!
Q. i emailed my crush and at the end of the email i put love ya and then i checked my email and at the end of his it said love ya 2. but i dont know if he loves me like i love him....
A. 6 July 2007: Don't push it. If you come across as clingy you might push him away. He said the words you want to hear; feel good about that. Leave it at that for now and don't worry too much. ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back; should I contact her or wait to see if she'll contact me?
Q. I have been broken up with my ex girlfriend (we dated for roughly six months) for 15 days now. Afew weeks before the breakup, she backpacked in Europe with a girlfriend of hers, and stated she felt a sense of independence upon returning. She ...
A. 6 July 2007: If you are able to keep the conversation light, I would call her. Be friends. Keep the door open. If she thinks you're angry or hurting she won't want to call you, because she might feel guilty.
You might mention that if she changes her mind... (read in full...)
What's the average penis size?
Q. what is the average penis length and girth im 6.5 in lenght and 5.5 in girth iv read so many websites and suryes and im still as confused as before as to what the average is iv never had any complaints and always asked women who iv been with how ...
A. 6 July 2007: Size really doesn't matter. It's all about how you use it. Your lady will be especially happy if you stop worrying about how big you are and start focusing on her.
BTW, when it's too big, most women run in the other direction. It hurts. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave him but he's getting violent because I don't feel like having sex
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years, and we have been engaged for five months. Although he's eleven years older than me, we've always gotten along together really well, with no problems. We have arguments every now and again, that don't ...
A. 6 July 2007: Run like your ass is on fire. NO ONE gets to hit you, EVER. If he loved you AT ALL it wouldn't occur to him to hit you. He's just using you for sex. Run. You're much better off without him!... (read in full...)
Our sex life has really gone from bad to worse recently...is this normal?
Q. Hi guys, I've been seeing my girlfriend for over a year now, and she moved in with me last month (serious, I know!) - but our sex life has really gone from bad to worse recently, only making love once a month at the most. It just seems that she d...
A. 3 July 2007: I agree that talking is really important. I'm glad you opened up to her. Keep the dialog going.
But let me ask you something: when you moved in with her, did you stop courting her? Do you wait until she's in bed to make a move on her (because... (read in full...)
Husband knows my one-night stand from 10 years ago!
Q. just told husband about one night stand i had 10 years before i met him. he seems upset because he also knows this person. what should i do?...
A. 3 July 2007: You've done nothing wrong. Don't let him think you have. This was a long time before he was in the picture. The fact that he may know the person might make him uncomfortable, but this is his problem.
I'm assuming you have been perfectl... (read in full...)
I'm just not happy.....could it be depression again?
Q. I have been very fortunate in life but i feel that there is something missing which is preventing me from being happy. I never feel happy and am only relatively happy when im drunk. I often jst burst into tears and feel incredibly lonely even when ...
A. 3 July 2007: First, please stop comparing your insides to other people's outsides. How do you know that other people are "normal and happy?" It could be that they're just putting a better face on it. If you compare yourself to others you will always give ... (read in full...)
Two months into a perfect relationship he has turned cold and says he needs time
Q. Hi there My boyfriend is in a wheelchair, it has been 6 years since his accident. We have only been together for 2 months, but the relationship has been 100% perfect, sexually and emotionally. Recently he has turned cold and says he needs time to...
A. 3 July 2007: I would move on.
It may be that the infatuation stage is over for him. If there isn't the beginnings of love, and infatuation has passed, there may be nothing for him to base a relationship on. It sounds like he simply doesn't have the words to... (read in full...)
We know there will be problems but we just fell in love
Q. Hi, I'm 17 years old, and I just started a relationship with a man who is 26. We both knew that we probably should not have, but we fell in love. I need help but I'm not even quite sure what I'm asking. What sort of problems does this relationship ...
A. 26 June 2007: Well, first off there's a power difference (he has it and you don't). You'll need to be aware of it.
Second, depending on the laws of your state, don't have sex (in my state age of consent is 18). You could get him into trouble.
Third, ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my female teacher
Q. I am a 16 year old girl and I have a crush on my teacher. That would be fine if it was a man, but it isn't. She's a very hot woman I just have to be around. I need help to get her out of my mind. What can I do? If my parents found out they'd shoot ...
A. 26 June 2007: For one thing, do not act on this crush under any circumstances, regardless of the gender of the teacher. You are a student, and a relationship with a student would END the career of any teacher. If you care for her, don't put her at this risk.
... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend and lost my virginity to another girl!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months. I'm in love with her(even though I haven't told her yet) and I ended up cheating on her with someone else. On top of that I was a virgin before it happened. The girl I was with was a friend of mine, ...
A. 26 June 2007: Have yourself checked for STDs, just in case. If you're in the clear, you can decide whether to tell her. I personally think you should (because if it comes from anyone other than you she'll never trust you again -- she may still never trust you ... (read in full...)
He sleeps with me but doesn't end his relationship--what do I do?
Q. Well, I'm gay, 20, and have fallen for this amazing guy who's exactly like me. We went on holiday for a month with 6 others (including his boyfriend) and well, on holiday we got to know each other more. We kissed and got really close. Once we came ...
A. 25 June 2007: If he cheats with you he will cheat on you. Leave him and find someone else. You'll be much happier.... (read in full...)
My fiance wants sex every night and gets angry when I don't provide!
Q. dear cupid, i am in trouble. my fiance wants to have sex every night, and if i don't feel like having sex he gets really mad and it makes me so unhappy. it's not that i don't love him because i am very much in love with him, but sometimes i am t...
A. 25 June 2007: You have to work toward some balance. As long as you're regularly having some sex (2-4x/week?) then he needs to give you a rest. He should be able to take care of his own needs when you're too tired or simply not interested.
This will only get... (read in full...)
I caught my 10-year-old daughter masturbating!
Q. I hope you can help me with this because i just dont know what to do! I have a 10 year old daughter who is very happy- go lucky and has lots of friends. Last week i walked into her bedroom to find her straddling her bedcorner and thrusting. I told ...
A. 25 June 2007: The problem is that you walked into her room without knocking. Masturbation is normal. If you have a problem with it, please don't make it her problem. And knock next time.... (read in full...)
Could these be genital warts (or something else)?
Q. Hi there, I need someones help! Last night i had sex with my boyfriend and we had to stop becuase it was hurting me. I had blood in my knickers the next time i checked too. Anyway, i checked it out myself infont of a mirror and around the en...
A. 15 June 2007: Go see a doctor. S/he may rule out an STD, and you'll have worried for nothing. It may still be serious, though, so you REALLY need to be seen. When you get your answer from the doc, come back here and let us know.... (read in full...)
Should I just accept this guy will be a primary friend in her life? Or is there more?
Q. Should I just accept this guy will be a primary friend in her life? Or is there more? Sorry for the length. My GF is recently divorced, I'm separated (my divorce final w/in 3 mos). We're both in our 40's. We dated back in high school/colleg...
A. 11 June 2007: She's hiding it from you because you told her you didn't like it. You said yourself that the text messages were innocent. You're driving yourself into a tizzy over nothing.
I have male friends. My husband has nothing to fear, and he knows it... (read in full...)
Could these be genital warts (or something else)?
Q. Hi there, I need someones help! Last night i had sex with my boyfriend and we had to stop becuase it was hurting me. I had blood in my knickers the next time i checked too. Anyway, i checked it out myself infont of a mirror and around the en...
A. 11 June 2007: See a doctor immediately. If it is genital warts you need to have it taken care of; as a previous poster said, you can get cancer from this. If it's herpes (as another poster said) then there is a medicine you can take to help clear up this ... (read in full...)
Anal sex-are there any risks? Can you get infections/std's by doing it??
Q. my husband of 7 years has asked me if we could try anal sex. we did try once b4 but it felt to painful and we give up.we are in a happy marriage,both in our 20's and both in good health. are there any risks? can you get infections/std's...
A. 11 June 2007: Here's a good source of information: http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/guides/anal.html
It's a good site for sex-toys, too; I have ordered from them and have good experiences.
Answering your Q's:
Yes, there are risks. If he has an STD you ca... (read in full...)
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