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anonymous
writes:Hi,I recently discovered that my boyfriend chats with his friends about his ex girlfriend. He told me once that I turn him off in bed. And that his ex girlfriend was the prettiest and sexiest girl that he has ever met. He swears that he is not in touch with her. And says that he said it out of frustration, which arises because of our fights. Is this guy trustworthy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): no man is worth your tears,...and the one that is....would never make you cry
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): toss him out and fastttttt! don't justify it by telling yourself they don't have contact. thats irrelevant. he's not cheating but this may actually be worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): Those were cruel things to say to you. You know what, I recently found out to my shock that there are men who think there are more important qualities for a woman to have than looking like a supermodel and performing sex like a porn star.
Your guy may never learn this. Let it be his problem, not yours. I don't necessarily agree that a guy will always think his GF is "most beautiful woman in the world" - but you can find someone who loves you and would pass up the sexiest woman on earth because he'd rather be with you,
I don't know what you look like and it doesn't matter. He is damaging your self-confidence and even if you are a stunner you could start feeling ugly and not worthy of love from listening to him all the time. Let him live in his fantasy world and be cruel to someone else. No way do you deserve this treatment.
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reader, elsie  +, writes (30 April 2007):
 naaa he went to far and i think youll have real trouble getting what this horrid guy has said to you out of your head.the worse thing to say to a woman 'you dont turn me on'god almighty.that was a bit too original.duuummmppp him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): This guy is no good, what kind of a guy would do this to his present girlfriend ??? besides, you suppose to be the most beautiful and sexiest to him. What's gone is gone, you are there now. He is still hung up on that b...., he does not deserve you at all. Honey, I say dump his a..
I know that it's hard when you love someone even when they hurt you, but be strong dear, you deserve much much better, you deserve a guy that would think the world of you and that there is no other woman as beautiful in the entire world but you. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): He's saying it to make you jealous plus he probably still has feelings for her. He shouldn't be making you seem worthless compared to his ex and if he is making your self esteem drop then dump him. You should be the sexiest girl alive in his eyes, not his ex.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (26 April 2007):
 Sounds to me that even if he is not seeing his ex, he is still into her.
His current girlfriend should be considered the most beautiful girl he has ever met. Do not settle to be his second best.
He should be happy to be with you not just content.
Good luck
Angel of Love
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): This guy is a real loser. . . get rid of him.
You should really be with a guy that calls you
beautiful no matter what.
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reader, mcbirdie +, writes (26 April 2007):
 Do what penta suggests, but run a little faster.
Never let a man make you feel this way--it is completely unreasonable for him to expect you to put up with being compared unfavourably with his ex. Let him be frustrated when he is alone.
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reader, amiee +, writes (26 April 2007):
 i agree, for him to say that to you is absolutly descusting. i know its most probably not what you want to hear and that you probably would like to be reasured. but he must have issues.
1) he could be seeing his ex.
2) if not hes obsessed with her and is unstable.
hunny you know you can do much better then someone that puts you down and compares you to others. especially when he says that his past is better then being with the preaasent and the future.
he is obviously not making you happy and is making you concious of yourself and others. its not you that has anything wrong its him. it sounds as if he doesnt want to be with you, get there before he does. your arguments and descussions are obviously not getting you anywhere.
save your self confidence and your heart you can do better.
hope i have helpes amiee xxx
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reader, penta  +, writes (26 April 2007):
 No he's not. Run.
This guy doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve. Over time he will erode your self confidence. He has his ex on a pedestal and you will never measure up (no matter how attractive you are). His treatment of you will get worse over time.
Do yourself a favor and get out of this relationship now.
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