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I thought, I didn't feel there was anything wrong with porn! But now that I caught my bf watching porn..it hurts me a lot! Any advice?
Q. Hi, i'm having some problems with a partner at the moment. we've been together for 3 1/2 years. He was a really loving guy to start with, sooo romantic but as time past he just can't be bothered. I recently discovered that he's been using my P.C in ...
A. 29 August 2007: Take your computer in to make sure that the virus/malware etc. and all traces of porn are removed. Ask them to put password access onto the computer. Don't share the password with your bf. You've asked him not to use your computer for this and he ... (read in full...)
When do u have to have smear tests?
Q. When do u have to have smear tests? Is it after the first time you have sex, because i really don't want one i just wondered?...
A. 24 April 2007: You should have them every year. I started when I was your age. You should have them even if you're not sexually active.... (read in full...)
Is my classmate pregnant?
Q. A girl in my school is pregnant and i knew that she still had her pregnancy test so, i asked her to see it just to compare it to mine and it turns out that she had two lines and just like me one line was dark and the other very faded but, still ...
A. 24 April 2007: The pregnancy tests are looking for a specific hormone. That hormone increases quickly as the pregnancy progresses. Early in the pregnancy, the hormone may not quite be there enough to give you a strong result on the pregnancy test. (I had 3 ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure but is this guy using me as a 'f**k buddy"?
Q. hiya a guy who ive known for a year and a bit , who i slept with a few times then broke it off when i began to fall for him ooh and also said how he has a girlfriend contacted me a few days ago . when i asked him if he was still with his girlfri...
A. 24 April 2007: I'm with Jay Jay on this one. Yes, you're his 'f**k' buddy. Whether that's a bad thing depends on what you want from him, or will want in the future. Having had one of those before, I can tell you that I'm a closet monogamist -- and I fell for ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that I think its her parents influence stopping us dating ?
Q. I am 25 years old and want to go out with a girl who is 18 in June. She likes me a lot, but she says she can't go out with me because I am too old for her; however, her parents are strict about her dating people my age, and I have a theory that the ...
A. 24 April 2007: Why do you assume "her parents' influence" is a bad thing? Some teenage girls do have good relationships with their parents and are more than happy taking what they say about a subject as the final word. Just because it's her parents saying ... (read in full...)
There is no trust, no affections and he gets aroused by gay porn! What is going on with this guy?
Q. Hi I need your advice as my relationship has come to a crisis point and am on the verge of ending it. We have been together two years. We are both in our late 40's. He has been previously married for 18 years, which he says he hated and he did...
A. 24 April 2007: Please run like your ass is on fire. The man you described is a user, and you deserve so very much better. Just from what you said, he
*is cold; doesn't trust and won't be close
*might be gay
*won't cuddle or hold you of his own will
*doesn... (read in full...)
Do I take my drinking husband back-I have to make a decision soon! Any advice?
Q. I have been with my husband for four and a half years and married for 21months, since we got married things have gradualy got worse. He has aquired a seriouse drink problem in recent months (we have two children aged 10 and 2) and does nothing with ...
A. 24 April 2007: I just noticed that the Al-Anon site I sent you to was for the US. Here's one for the UK:
http://www.aa-uk.org.uk/lists/Alanon.htm... (read in full...)
My bf never goes down on me! So I was wondering..Guys, do any of you simply not like to give oral sex to women? Does it smell or taste bad?
Q. Guys, do any of you simply not like to give oral sex to women? Does it smell or taste bad? My b.f. almost never goes down on me and I'm trying to figure out if it's too wet or he simply doesn't like doing that in general. He said it's both and ...
A. 24 April 2007: Some guys really like it; others don't. But tell him that you really enjoy it, and that just as he enjoys a good blow job, you'd like it to be on the menu sometimes. Or else blow jobs will be off the menu too -- fair's fair, right? You might try ... (read in full...)
Do I take my drinking husband back-I have to make a decision soon! Any advice?
Q. I have been with my husband for four and a half years and married for 21months, since we got married things have gradualy got worse. He has aquired a seriouse drink problem in recent months (we have two children aged 10 and 2) and does nothing with ...
A. 24 April 2007: Your husband is an alcoholic; you can't fix him. And you need to take steps to protect yourself, your kids, and your finances from him. His drinking is not your fault and it's not your responsibility.
Please find a local Al-Anon meeting (http://... (read in full...)
I thought, I didn't feel there was anything wrong with porn! But now that I caught my bf watching porn..it hurts me a lot! Any advice?
Q. Hi, i'm having some problems with a partner at the moment. we've been together for 3 1/2 years. He was a really loving guy to start with, sooo romantic but as time past he just can't be bothered. I recently discovered that he's been using my P.C in ...
A. 24 April 2007: Okay, first of all he's not using other women to get pleasure, he's using PICTURES of other women, and there's a BIG difference. And just because he likes masturbating to porn DOES NOT mean he isn't attracted to you.
Men just like porn. A... (read in full...)
I'm still bleeding 8 days after giving birth.
Q. I had a baby 8 days ago. I am still bleeding, like I am on my period. Also, I feel swollen and like all my insides are pushed out in my vaginal area. When does the bleeding stop, and when do you go back to normal? Do I really have to wait 6 weeks to ...
A. 24 April 2007: How long you wait depends on how you feel "swollen and like all my insides are pushed out in my vaginal area." With my first, I was seriously bruised and couldn't even sit on a hard chair for almost three months. With my second, I was up and ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's friend is a bad influence on her and I can't make her realize it! What should I do?
Q. Hi there, hopefully someone can help me out with this! I just need to get my head straight really. Simply put, my problem is that I can't stand my fiancee's friend. I don't have a problem with the rest of her friends, just this one. I use...
A. 24 April 2007: I'm afraid I agree with eyeswideopen here. Anything you do to point out this friends' flaws will cause your fiance to start defending her. Your best option is to try to be there when it falls apart.
In the meantime, you can try to invite f... (read in full...)
Took my pill too late and had unprotected sex--how long do I wait before taking a pregnancy test??
Q. well, i am 17 years old. i had unprotected sex and i took my pill too late and its too late to take the morning after pill.. how long do i wait before taking a test its been two days... the main problem is that i was going to break uo with my...
A. 24 April 2007: Most pregnancy tests make you wait until you've missed your period. There are a couple that will let you take the test 4 days before your period is due, but they're not reliable (unless they say you ARE pregnant).
When I was trying to get preg... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a child but why do I keep visiting my ex's MySpace profile?
Q. hi all, this is going to seem stupid it does to me but i suppose i just need to get it off my chest. a bit of background info on me;i have been with my boyf for over 3 years w have been living together for 2 ad we have an 18 month old daughter...
A. 24 April 2007: You need to recognize that there's a difference between "infatuation" and "love" and get over this, fast. It could really damage your relationship with your daughter's father.
Infatuation feels good. Your heart races and you're out of breath i... (read in full...)
Her new guy friend is attracted to her! As her bf, should I be concerned?
Q. I have been going out with my grlfriend for 2 years and everything was great, but 6 months ago she made a new friend. He is a male and I had no problem with this but after meeting him on a number of occations it is obvious that he is attracted to ...
A. 24 April 2007: Well, you don't have to trust him. You just have to trust her. Do you? It takes two for any relationship to work.
I have been in your situation before; in college a girl kept going after my guy. I told him that she was after him, and he didn'... (read in full...)
He gives me answers he thinks I want to hear. I am questioning his honesty, now! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 9 years has recently told me that sometimes when I ask him questions he gives me an answer that he thinks I want to hear. This has made me really start to have doubts about the validity of our relationship. How can I be sure he...
A. 24 April 2007: Turn this around and be completely honest with him. Tell him that you're no longer sure that he's telling you HIS truth, and it makes you question the validity of your relationship. Tell him you're more interested in learning the real him, not the ... (read in full...)
Menopause--my partner has no understanding about what I'm going through. Any help is appreciated!
Q. I'm in my early 50's and menopause has hit me full force. I am dealing with it well, but my partner is not. The nightsweats, the forgetfulness, the headaches, the mood swings (not severe-just sadder, more) are all part of it. I am under doctor's ...
A. 24 April 2007: Does he have a female friend who's going through the same thing? There's something about men that they'll believe anyone other than their partner. "Familiarity breeds contempt." When I was pregnant for the first time, the hormones did biz... (read in full...)
My gf's ex bf was a sexual predator and a very sick man. I want her to lay charges for what he did to her, but she won't! Any advice?
Q. I have been dating a 49 year old woman for just over 4 months now. While having an open discussion about our past relationships, she disclosed to me some very disturbing facts that occured during here past relationship. First of all, this past rel...
A. 24 April 2007: This is a very hard question to answer.
Good for you for being so supportive; her self esteem is probably shot and everything you can do for her to let her know that she didn't deserve to be treated that way is great.
This kind of a charge... (read in full...)
An old friend has come into my life and my bf wants to meet him. What should I do?
Q. i've been with my bf for nearly 5yrs, and have met an old friend who i was previously attracted to and he has come back into my life. I think he is gorgeous, and he has a really nice personality. my bf doesn't know about him, and he has asked me to ...
A. 24 April 2007: Tell you bf about him immediately, and ask if you could invite your old friend to dinner with the both of you. Do not, under any circumstances, see your friend alone. Even if nothing happens, your bf could find out about it then wonder at the ... (read in full...)
I said a horrible thing to him! And now I want him back..any advice on what I can do?
Q. I really love this boy and i said a really horrible thing to him that i didnt mean but i just want him back and i dont know what to do or say. could you please help me?...
A. 24 April 2007: If he's speaking to you, apologize to him. See where that goes, if anywhere. You will have to see at that point whether he's forgiven you, and whether he'll take you back.... (read in full...)
He stole from my friend, he lies and I got him fired. Now he wants to date me again. Should I?
Q. Alright, so i've been single for the past 6months or so and have been quite lonely. Well about a week ago someone from my past came back into my life. Around this time last year, me and my longterm boyfriend were on a seperation. Not a big deal for ...
A. 24 April 2007: In your heart you know the answer to this question, or you wouldn't be asking, hoping for a different answer. You can't trust him. If he steals something from a friend again you're responsible. What if he steals from you? You're better off ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I get home often and my dad has put all my stuff in the hallway! How do I talk to him?
Q. I'm quite a messy person, but will make sure that it's only my room that I leave messy, and it's more cluttered than unhygenic. My dad on the other hand, when stressed likes to tidy, I'm sure he's got mild OCD, as even if something is pretty c...
A. 23 April 2007: When my step-mom used to go through my things, she would tell me that it wasn't "my" room, that she and my father owned the house, and that she could go in there if she wanted. (She wasn't moving things around the way your father is, but she did ... (read in full...)
How many have had their long distance relationships work out?
Q. Hi all out there its just a quick question but how many of you out there have had long distance relationships work for you. I have never had one before and I have met a guy who doesnt live miles away bout 2 hours in car or hour half on train but I ...
A. 23 April 2007: I believe they can work, even though they haven't for me.
My HS sweetheart went to college at one of the military academies, so we weren't even in the same time zone. After 6 years apart, he got stationed in the state (8 hours from my home) an... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for normal people to masturbate?
Q. I just want to know is it normal for people to want to masturbate? Is their anything wrong with it aslong as it doesn't become excessive? I must admit I'm 14 and I find myself wanting to sometimes, I do it privately is this wrong? Chee...
A. 23 April 2007: You'll have to cut & paste the URLs below -- for some reason this site isn't marking up anything beyond the '?' in the URL, and that part is required for YouTube to know which video you're requesting...... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for normal people to masturbate?
Q. I just want to know is it normal for people to want to masturbate? Is their anything wrong with it aslong as it doesn't become excessive? I must admit I'm 14 and I find myself wanting to sometimes, I do it privately is this wrong? Chee...
A. 23 April 2007: it's natural! (cat's do it! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAx095dwORk)
and here's a really funny video clip from a showtime show called "weeds": http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWzOQTFwRBE... (read in full...)
He broke up with me last night again...he feels I should be with someone who can give me everything! But I want him--any advice?
Q. I wrote last week about my boyfriend having commitment issues and how he needed some space. Well, last night he broke up with me. He says he still loves me and cares a great deal for me. He told me that he doesn't think we're meant to be together ...
A. 23 April 2007: When someone tells you who they are, please believe them. This guy told you he's not the one for you. If he were, he'd be fighting for you rather than pushing you away. Please let him go. You'll be happier in the long run.... (read in full...)
I did anal sex with him and now he doesn't want to marry me because he thinks I did this, in my past?
Q. I have been engaged for 6 months. In the arab world, we tend not to get sexually active until after marriage. My fiancee and I had anal sex. He now wants to rethink our relationship because he thinks that I did this in the past with other men. I ...
A. 23 April 2007: Wow, NowWhat?, you really have your head on straight. GREAT ADVICE!... (read in full...)
I don't think women working has a positive effect on society. What's happening?
Q. I am frustrated about the entering of women at workplace and can't see it to be having much positive effect on the society. I am a kind of guy who wants his girl to need him, to be dependent on him for some reasons, may it be financial or emotional. ...
A. 23 April 2007: In our home I work and my husband stays home with our kids -- I make more $$, had better insurance, and he wanted to do it. If we had to live on his salary (and lack of insurance) we'd have lost the house and would have trouble eating regularly. ... (read in full...)
Should we buy this house together?
Q. Should we buy this house together? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years now and I love him very much. We have always had difficulties because we want different things and he is also bipolar but I am learning how to ...
A. 23 April 2007: When someone tells you who they are and what they want, it's important to believe them. The futures you each want are incompatible, and you can continue living his life while putting yours on hold -- or you can run like your ass is on fire. I ... (read in full...)
Together 4 months, ready for the next step (sex) But how do I tell him!?
Q. Hi i've been with my bf for 4 months now and feel ready for the next step with him (we have done other stuff but not that) i think he is too (it will be his first time not mine) just i don't know how to bring it up with him. Things had bee...
A. 23 April 2007: I like cd206's answer, but I'd like to add to it. Go get yourself on some birth control first. The pill works pretty well and I recommend it (it also has the benefit of regulating your period, bonus!). But you have to have a period so you can be ... (read in full...)
My wife, her friend, and I did a threesome two years ago. Our relationship has gone awry since then.
Q. About two years ago I had a sexual encounter with my wife and her friend. I was drunk and her friend was a very forward person that encouraged me that regretful night. To start off the story my wife and I have had fantasy talks about her with ...
A. 23 April 2007: So you're saying the booze made you hit on the other women, so you cut out the booze. Good first step! But your wife is still hurting, and you need to get her to talk with you about it. She's got a lot bundled up and it's festering.
Don't... (read in full...)
He has just revealed that he is seriously in debt and I'm not sure what to do.
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 3 months after meeting on a dating site. We're both taking things slow as we've both been hurt before. He has just revealed that he is seriously in debt and I'm not sure what to do. Half of me wants to run as I can't ...
A. 23 April 2007: What you do next depends on what he's doing about his debt. How did he get into debt, and is/are those conditions still around? What is his long-term plan to pay everything off? Is he working his plan well, or is he still bleeding money? If he ... (read in full...)
Why do my guy contradict his actions with me?
Q. I have been with this guy for like 10 months or so, we've been living together for that long, but seeing eachother for about a yr. And we were friends for like 6 yrs. before that. I'm 25 and he's 32. Anyways, we had a baby about a week ago, and ...
A. 23 April 2007: Well, I do have one reason. "Boys are stupid."
Seriously, he was probably overwhelmed and made a mistake. I don't think he has a clue about how BIG the mistake was -- he basically accused you of cheating without having the 'nads to do it to yo... (read in full...)
I hate the area we live and want to move but my fiance is adamant she wants to stay.
Q. I've been with my fiance now for two years, and I love her very much. Approximately eight months ago, we moved town and moved in together along with a new job that I acquired. She uprooted, found new work close to me and I was the happiest man ...
A. 23 April 2007: Pronoun trouble: "Basically you've gotten her to totally rearrange your life for her"
I meant to say that you've gotten her to totally rearrange HER life for YOU.
("He does not have to shoot me now" -- for the Bugs Bunny enthusiasts...)... (read in full...)
I hate the area we live and want to move but my fiance is adamant she wants to stay.
Q. I've been with my fiance now for two years, and I love her very much. Approximately eight months ago, we moved town and moved in together along with a new job that I acquired. She uprooted, found new work close to me and I was the happiest man ...
A. 23 April 2007: I don't have an easy answer for you. Basically you've gotten her to totally rearrange your life for her, and now you want her to do it again. As a woman who unsuccessfully tried this for a man, I can tell you it would take a lot to dislodge me ... (read in full...)
Would a girl say no to dating me, by saying her parents don't approve rather then telling me the real reason?
Q. This is going to sound a bit of a silly question: If you want to go out with a girl but there is an age difference, can she say no because of oher factors, like worried about parents, rather than what she really wants to do?...
A. 23 April 2007: Hey anonymous, I said that she'd dump you faster than "going against her parents" not than "going behind their backs." The difference is subtle. It depends a lot on her relationship with her parents, but I think you're an idiot if you knowingly ... (read in full...)
I had a drunken one-night-stand and the boy is spreading horrible things about me around school!
Q. What have i done! I feel like im at school getting bullied.. I had a one night stand a few days ago.. and now the boy i done it with is saying things that happened that i dont even no about because i was drunk.. its really getting to me because ev...
A. 20 April 2007: I had the almost the same thing happen to me when I was your age. I wish I had better advice to give you, but all I have for you is that years from now it really won't matter. Go about your life and don't get yourself into that position again.
... (read in full...)
Im male... How can I remove hair from my Scrotum area!?
Q. What is the best way for a male to remove all pubic hair? I have a hard time imagining a razor going over my scrotum......
A. 19 April 2007: My husband just uses a razor in the shower. He's been doing it for years ... and I REALLY appreciate it! ... (read in full...)
Would a girl say no to dating me, by saying her parents don't approve rather then telling me the real reason?
Q. This is going to sound a bit of a silly question: If you want to go out with a girl but there is an age difference, can she say no because of oher factors, like worried about parents, rather than what she really wants to do?...
A. 19 April 2007: At her age she'll dump you faster than she'll go against her parents. I was 17 and had a 23 year old boyfriend. One friday I stayed home from school (played hookey, really, but told my parents I wasn't feeling well and stayed home).
The house ru... (read in full...)
Gf of 5 years doesn't want sex anymore! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 1/2 years, we are living together. The issue i am having is we very rarely have sex anymore, i know you can get into a rut routine but we have not had sex for 3 months (Once in nearly ...
A. 19 April 2007: I guess I need to add to my answer. I am not orgasmic. I've never had one. I've tried things to help, but it never has. I can enjoy sex, but in the end there's no payoff. I'm wide awake and he wants to fall asleep. Feh.
I love my husband ... (read in full...)
He doesn't share my feelings...but do you think that there's the possibility of a relationship with this guy?
Q. I should probably say up front that both the person I'm talking about and I have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend, had sex or even kissed anyone. Also, if some parts of this post aren't clear, it's because I'm attempting to truncate a really h...
A. 17 April 2007: You'll never know unless you level with him. Tell him: "I think we could be really good together; I think we should try it out (for real) and see." See what he says.
He may be having a hard time with the mixed signals, and decided that if he ca... (read in full...)
My boyfriends is touching me more than I want him to, What should I do ?
Q. Hi!Well I have a really bad problem.well my boyfriend is really sweet and everything and I do luv him but the other day we were snogging like we always do and he tried 2 go a little further and I didn't want 2 go further he tried undressing me and ...
A. 17 April 2007: Okay, remember this saying: "My body, my rules." Don't ever let anyone do anything to you that you're not comfortable with. If he can't play by your body rules, then he's not worth keeping.
If you let him go further than you want, you'll n... (read in full...)
Gf of 5 years doesn't want sex anymore! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 1/2 years, we are living together. The issue i am having is we very rarely have sex anymore, i know you can get into a rut routine but we have not had sex for 3 months (Once in nearly ...
A. 14 April 2007: Ask her to go to counseling with you, and find a counselor that specializes in sexual relationships. Getting her to talk to you about what's going on with her is the most important thing.
Also, I don't know whether any of the ladies will back me ... (read in full...)
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