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36-40,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend thinks very differently to me, he likes to take evry day as it comes, he doesn't feel the need to take me out for tea, or take me to cinemas, etc. he doesnt communicate very well, and doesnt really show his feelings, i have low self esteem and he isnt helping that, how can i be happy when im with him, and when im without him?
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reader, penta  +, writes (26 April 2007):
 Your bf isn't responsible for your self-esteem. You are. If you have to depend on what someone else thinks about you will always be less.
He may grow up someday and discover that you deserved better treatment, but he may not. Either way, it's not your problem. Do things for yourself. Work on your feelings for yourself. When you're feeling good about yourself, you'll draw a better relationship (like attracts like).
Stay with this guy or not, but don't expect him (or anyone) to prop you up. You need to do this for yourself. Good luck.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (26 April 2007):
 He sounds like a typical teenage boy to be honest.
If you have low self esteem, you should focus on yourself and improving that. Don't look to him for too much help in that regard. Your self-esteem is your responsibility not his.
I recommend the book 'Breaking the chain of low self esteem' by Marilyn Sorensen. If you are able I suggest getting hold of a copy.
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