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writes:i've been with my boyfriend for a year and im 4 months pregnant. he already has another child who's 5. Lately he has been secretive with his mobile and panics anytime i go near it. when he was sleeping one night i went into his texts and seen that he had sent his ex videos of himself and he also had videos and pics of someone else in his phone. i really dont know what to do?
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reader, confused718  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 OMG! get out of there. he does not respect you. what you should do first is comfront him. if he says no, tell him you saw his phone. c what happens when he notices that the cat's out of the bag
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (7 May 2007):
The cat's out of the bag. Move back in with your parents and make your new child your priority in your life.
I knew this beautiful woman who dated a friend of mine. She had her child when she was still in high school. She continued to live with her parents, and with their help she raised her daughter well, went to school herself and obtained a Master's degree, and managed to build a life worth being proud of.
The moral of the story is that you don't have to stay with the bastard because he's the father of your baby. You have the choice to be a real mother to the baby and it is your responsibility to choose an environment in which to raise the child that is healthy and secure. And bettering yourself in the process will present you with many alternatives. I do believe my friends are getting married, and that the two of them will be very happy.
Think about it... Today isn't the end of the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx all your comments are really helpful. although i love him to bits and we never fight about anything and hes always so sweet to me he does anything for me and i do the same for him. this only happened within the last 2 weeks which is why i didnt no what to do. i no i have to confront him but its just doin that thats the problem for me. i think its because we really are good together just until this happened.
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reader, penta +, writes (7 May 2007):
 Confront him with the pictures. Ask for an explanation. If he doesn't have a good one, you need to decide whether you'll be able to trust him. It doesn't say good things about his character if he's straying while you're pregnant.
If you can't both trust him and forgive him, then you need to think of your baby. Talk to a lawyer about getting paternity established; your bf has financial responsibilities to the child. You don't want to stay in a situation where you can't count on your partner to be honest with you.
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reader, kim6906 +, writes (7 May 2007):
leave him i had the same problem i got cheated on when i was pregnant so i left you deserve to be with someone who respects u and wants to be with u and no one else if u are worried about coping with a baby by ur self then dont my little girl is 8 months now and we are doing fine please have respect for ur self and think of ur unborn child happiness i did and now i am so happy and u deserve to be as well
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