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What don't guys have that makes them not have kids?
Q. Hi, well this is going to sound qiuet like am a dope, and a bimbo but am really wondering this, I was watching a program and they said that the guy can't have kids, and i started wondering that they say a girl can't have kids if she never has had ...
A. 10 September 2007: That's hard to answer. There are a lot of differences. Guys don't get a period, but they get stuck with unwanted/embarrassing erections, wet dreams, overactive sex drives and testosterone-related aggression. This might help: http://www.kidsh... (read in full...)
I want to keep this relationship/friendship going but it's disappointing when the answers are postponed. He says we are soulmates, and we're both married.
Q. i've recently been in touch with someone i new in high school. we're both married and have grown children. we are very attracted to one another, and he has stated in one of his e-mails that we are soulmates, however, he is very slow to respond ...
A. 10 September 2007: He's married, and so are you. What you should do is block his e-mail and get on with your life.... (read in full...)
We all played spin the bottle and I ended up having sex! Help!
Q. i had a birthday party yesterday, well it was my mums birthday party and all my family came and all my mums friends came. me and my cousin got very drunk and we went upstairs out of the way, we was playing spin the bottle and the things where gettin ...
A. 10 September 2007: You've survived a "near miss." Now that you know what happens when you're had too much to drink, you're better prepared to deal with what could happen in the future. Don't put yourself into a situation again where there's drink and boys. "That ... (read in full...)
What don't guys have that makes them not have kids?
Q. Hi, well this is going to sound qiuet like am a dope, and a bimbo but am really wondering this, I was watching a program and they said that the guy can't have kids, and i started wondering that they say a girl can't have kids if she never has had ...
A. 7 September 2007: Guys don't have a womb (uterus).... (read in full...)
We are getting married but I don't feel good enough!!
Q. Hi. I am looking for suggestions, not to be judged or criticised. I am 26, my fiancee is 32. We're getting married next weekend. I am feeling like I'm not good enough and I have been feeling this way for a while now. We have a 4 1/2 month old baby...
A. 7 September 2007: Head to the doctor to make sure postpartum depression isn't a possibility. Then, once you have the next baby, don't stay home. I don't mean go out and get a job, I mean take the kids to places. Find a mom's group and hang out with them.
My hu... (read in full...)
Now that he has me, he doesn't try anymore! Help!
Q. Hi, I am 18 and I have been dating this new guy for about two months now. I have known him for six years previous and when we were not dating we spent more time together, were more affectionate towards each other ect. But now that I am his ...
A. 7 September 2007: What you accept becomes your standard. You're worth more than this. ... (read in full...)
Last week he confronted me on some things that I've lied about during the course of our relationship.
Q. Hi all, please help. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. We own a home together, have a 1 month old son, and I have a 4 year old daughter who he treats as his own. Last week he confronted me on some things that I've lied about during the ...
A. 7 September 2007: The following is from this site:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2040630_spouse-trust-again.html
(1)The very first thing you need to do is to STOP doing whatever behavior is hurting your him and/or causing him to find it difficult to trust you. In othe... (read in full...)
My children don't approve of me dating younger women!
Q. I am a sedate older guy and I like to date young girls (not under 18 young). My children (also over 18) always harrass me and my girlfriend saving I am perverted. My girlfriend and I get along well. We go out and on road trips every few months. I ...
A. 6 September 2007: I like Frank's answer. Make sure your will states that your kids get your estate. Make sure your kids are aware of it. Also set up medical power of attorney as one of your very close friends, so that your kids and your girl are protected from ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy?
Q. After breaking up 3 months ago an engagement of more than a year and a relationship of two years I'm fluctuating between happiness and feeling all motivated about my new single life and depressive crying spells when I remember about him. Am I ...
A. 6 September 2007: Nope. Sounds normal to me! Give yourself a chance to heal.... (read in full...)
One of my friends is at an all time low... she hates herself. How can I give her her self-esteem back?
Q. One of my friends is at an all time low... she hates herself. How can I give her her self-esteem back?...
A. 6 September 2007: The two of you should get involved in something that she's good at (preferably something that she's better than you are or where your). Anything -- a choir, a sport, a club.
Being active in something you are good at is a good way to build se... (read in full...)
How can I get smaller boobs?
Q. This may come as an odd question but it is dear to heart for me. How can you make your boobs smaller? I am only talking about appearence wise. I claim this as odd because all my friends want bigger boobs, yeah at times I do too, but for this I c...
A. 6 September 2007: Hey Em. Anything I recommend would interfere with breathing, which you need to do well to sing well. Getting a good sports bra is your best bet.
Better would be to concentrate on the singing and wear loose clothing (so that you can breathe)... (read in full...)
What is it called when a girl uses a sex toy on a guy??
Q. what is it called when a girl uses a dildo on a guy to shag them? me and my gf saw it during a porn vid we watched together and are extremely interested in trying it. If any1 has any experiences of this please can you give us sum tips to prep...
A. 6 September 2007: Fun? Inventive? Enjoyable? take your pick! (and good luck!)... (read in full...)
Should I just take a break with him and focus on my life?
Q. Should I break up with him? I really love him and he loves me we have been going out for 8 months now. I'm just not into anything sexual or anything like that, I like him more as a companion right now. It is also probably becuase I am a big ...
A. 6 September 2007: If you're only partly interested in him, why don't you agree to see other people? As long as everyone knows that there are other people involved, there's no problem (the honesty is important). Dating, so that either of you can see whether there's ... (read in full...)
What can I do to see him as just a buddy and not get attached?
Q. I'm falling for my sex buddy who has a girlfriend and I don't want to end it because I enjoy the sex so much and the idea of telling him is awful because I come across so strong minded and kinky, what can I do to see him as just a buddy and not get ...
A. 6 September 2007: Women have this habit of falling for people they're intimate with. If you continue to be intimate with him, you will only fall further.
Either come clean with him and hope he prefers you to his girlfriend, or cut him off cold turkey and let your... (read in full...)
He wants me to sell my jewellery to pay for HIS debts!
Q. I'm in real trouble please help me quickly, I'm married to a nervous guy who spends money around and at the end of the month he wants me to pay the rent; I'm not working so he wants me to sell my jewellery to pay his debts which he took from the ...
A. 6 September 2007: If you have someone you trust, move your jewelry to their location and tell your husband that you sold it (and give him a tiny/small/measly amount). Then don't let him know you have anything.
This guy sounds like a loser. Lose him!... (read in full...)
What should I do about the woman I love who already has a boyfriend?
Q. Hello. I am in a torrid emotional sexual affair with a woman who has a boyfriend. We kept ending starting again cos theres so much attraction. We are like best friends as well and can talk about anything. We decide its safer not to see each other ...
A. 6 September 2007: The woman you're in love with is unavailable. Until you get OUT of love with her, you won't fall for anyone else and you'll be miserable. Every time you see her or talk to her you're feeding your unhealthy love.
Cut her off cold turkey. ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant, but the father could be either my fiancee or his friend
Q. I have been in a relationship with my fiancee (we'll call him stuart) for nearly 5 years. I ended up having sex with a friend of his (we'll call him steve) while he was at work, and most of our circle of friends know about it. If Steve's girlfriend ...
A. 6 September 2007: If there's a possibility that it's the fiancee's (he wasn't away on a trip or anything) then you decide that it's his and keep your mouth shut. You don't want to hurt the innocents (and I DON'T mean you and your fiancee's friend.) You can do a ... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl be platonic "friends" and nothing more?
Q. I need opinions here! Do you think it is possible for a guy and a girl to just be friends or is there always/almost always romantic feelings at some time for the other person?...
A. 6 September 2007: yes, it's possible. I have male friends from college and my husband has female friends from highschool (20 years now). I get along with his female friends (and their husbands) and he gets along with my male friends (and their wives).
It's ... (read in full...)
My husband left me, now wants to save our family! Meanwhile I was dating another man who I felt happy with, except for the distance.
Q. i have been married for 20years i have 2 kids. my husband had an affair and told me he didn't want the marriage anymore he moved in with this women and her kids he lived with her for about 1 year. he has moved out of her home now. i started to date ...
A. 5 September 2007: He's not a nice guy if he calls you the c-word. I don't think I could EVER get past that. His actions show a basic lack of respect for you. Leave him and don't look back.
(I know, that's easier to say than to do) You'll be happier if you brea... (read in full...)
It's been 10 months and I'm still not pregnant! Any advice?
Q. i have been trying for a baby for 10 months and nothin.ive been on the internet and worked out wen i am ovulating and done it on the dates and still nothin. my mates have told me not to think about it and that im mayb trying to hard but how can i ...
A. 5 September 2007: My insurance allows women who've been trying for 12 months to go to the fertility clinic. You might call now and make the appointment to see whether there's a limit on how long. There are also other options to track your ovulation. Have... (read in full...)
What is the best way to tell a guy you messed up in a relationship??
Q. what is the best way to tell a guy you messed up in a relationship?? ...
A. 5 September 2007: Depends on why you're telling him. If it's just to clear your conscience, then suck it up and deal with the guilt. Don't hurt him just to get the forgiveness so you can feel better.
If it's to clear the air and work on the relationship, then you... (read in full...)
My ex said I didnt give him enough sex. How do I deal with this in future relationships?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for over three years and had an amazing sex life. We had sex atleast once a day if not more, but when he would get drunk and wanted to have sex he would be so ruff and demanding which was a complete turn off. ...
A. 5 September 2007: Sex EVERY DAY wasn't enough? Yikes! You were right to run from this guy. Most men are happy with 2-3 times a week.
(Well, maybe not at 18, but you get my point.)
When you get far enough along into a new relationship, you might confide in... (read in full...)
Is is too late to ask for a change?
Q. Ok I've been seeing this guy for about 7 weeks. It started off being some casual fun, but has since developed into something more serious, calling and txting several times a day. We agreed to keep things 'open' when we started. We both enjoy snogg...
A. 5 September 2007: If the choices are "ask for change" or "move on" then you have nothing to lose by asking. If the situation changes, then it's not unreasonable to ask for a clarification of the terms. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My husband is in the military. I want to join the military but I have an allergy to eggs. I'm pulling my hair out as I've wanted this so long. Should I just try to join anyway??
Q. Sorry my question doesn't have much if anything to do with relationships, but thanks for reading. I've been feeling really frustrated. Right now I am just starting college, but it's not what I want. I have wanted to join the military since I was 15 ...
A. 4 September 2007: When you're at chow you have to eat what they eat; they can't (and won't) make stuff that caters to one person. An egg allergy can be very serious. Don't "join anyway" -- you'd have to lie on the application, and if you ate something with eggs in ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is based on fun and non-commitment but I expect a bit of respect and time from him. Any ideas?
Q. I have been having an affair with a man for 9 months. He is never going to leave his girlfriend for me but I have accepted that. However, in the past few weeks he has become distant. When we do meet it is as good and as fun as always but we are not ...
A. 4 September 2007: I'm with eyeswideopen. What you're asking for (from him) only his girlfriend has a right to. You get the leftovers. If you don't like this situation, you should leave him.... (read in full...)
How can we have a good sex life with children living in the house???
Q. Me and my wife have always had a really active and healthy sex life but at the same time we also have two kids, one at 17yrs old and another at 3 yrs old. We have always felt abit awkward having sex with them there but when it was just our 17yr old ...
A. 4 September 2007: I used to listen to a morning radio program that had a "game" they called "Parent Poon." The object was to tell the last time you think your parents had sex, then they would call and ask. If the caller got it right, they got a prize. What was ... (read in full...)
I work my butt off and he watches tv. I am exhausted and frustrated, but I dont want to destroy my family
Q. My husband is beyond Lazy. We have been together for 17 years. For 17 years he has hardly made an income or effort to better himself. I am so exhausted i sometimes cry for hours in private. I would have left him many years ago but we have kids and ...
A. 4 September 2007: He treats you this way because he can. Unless you change your reaction to him, he's not going to change. Why should he? He has the best of everything. Call a family meeting. Let everyone know that you are tired. 70 hours a week is unreason... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt buy me presents and ignores important occasions
Q. Ok, in terms of problems this maybe isnt huge but it is playing on my mind a bit. i have been with my boyfreind for 2 years now...and he just doesnt treat me with the same care and attention he used to. Yesterday was my 23rd birthday....and i got ...
A. 4 September 2007: If this is a symptom of a general pattern? Or does he remember other birthdays of important people: his mom's or siblings' birthdays? He may be one of those date-challenged people. My husband is this way (he doesn't remember dates across the ... (read in full...)
My parents are blaming my bisexuallity on my boyfriend
Q. hey.... ive recently just told my parents i am bisexual, and that i have a boy friend. and i think it is best to say all was n ot taken very well!! im 16 and live in the uk, my b/f is 15 buh turns 16 in february, i no the age of consent over her...
A. 4 September 2007: You're right, they are using it as an excuse rather than facing the truth. You know who you are.
You might point out to them that this is about who you fall in love with, not what gender you want to have sex with.
At this age you can't really... (read in full...)
I am 34 and my clock is ticking. Will I ever meet 'the one'?
Q. Hi, I am a 34 year old woman who has been single for a while now. I have been in a succession of long term relationships, usually with older men, which have not developed into anything such as marriage or kids. I feel like my clock is ticking and I ...
A. 4 September 2007: First of all, you have time. I had my children at 37 and 39, and I know women who have done it in their early 40s.
Secondly, you need to do something that gives you self-confidence. Confidence is sexy, neediness (or desperate-ness) really i... (read in full...)
Do I move away and get away from her, or stay and help her out?
Q. Iv been with my girlfriend for 2 years nearly, her mums an alcoholic and its interfeared with our relationship a lot, but iv stood by my girlfriend to help her. But when we first got together my gf was also alcoholic at 16, but I helped sort her ...
A. 3 September 2007: Her drinking is not your fault and it's not your responsibility. You can't believe an alcoholic's promises that they won't drink. She has to fix this herself; you can't fix it for her. You should try to find some al-anon meetings (they're like AA ... (read in full...)
I am a virgin, but I haven't had my period in 9 weeks, what is happening?
Q. Hey I am 16 and I am a virgin and I havent been on my period in 9 weeks I wondered if anyone could help me explain why this is happening please help!!...
A. 3 September 2007: Just in case, you should go see a doctor. There's lots of things that could be going on. Have you lost a lot of weight lately? If you lose it too quickly you also lose your period. Also, if you're under a lot of stress you might lose it. Ther... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what is happening to my body, could it be mini heart attack? What should I do?
Q. i'm not sure what is happening to my body. Couple days ago i had pain on my left side of my temperals while i was talking. I just felt pressure. furthermore, for this condition, this happens on and off, i get these pain on my lower right intestine ...
A. 3 September 2007: Sweetheart, I don't know whether any of us here are M.D.s, but even if we were it would be unethical for us to try to diagnose you without seeing you. It could be anything from gas, to growing pains, to hormones, to a heart attack. If it's even ... (read in full...)
My husband left me, now wants to save our family! Meanwhile I was dating another man who I felt happy with, except for the distance.
Q. i have been married for 20years i have 2 kids. my husband had an affair and told me he didn't want the marriage anymore he moved in with this women and her kids he lived with her for about 1 year. he has moved out of her home now. i started to date ...
A. 3 September 2007: First you need to think about whether there's the possibility for a happy ending with your ex. Can you trust him not to cheat again? Not to hurt you again? Can you forgive him? If you honestly can't figure out how to do either of these things, ... (read in full...)
He wants to wait until we're in our late 40s to have children! How can I convince him he's wrong?
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26. Yesterday we were discussing about having children, and he said he wants to wait until we're in our late 40s - early 50s to have children. I've told him that's a bad idea, but he insists it will be better if we have kid...
A. 3 September 2007: Tell him he needs to find another woman (a younger one) if he really wants to wait until then. He's basically telling you he doesn't ever want them.
It will be extremely difficult, if not impossible, to conceive a child without help in your lat... (read in full...)
What could be wrong?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been fooling around for quite a while. We're having fun touching and feeling and kissing. However, when we try the real thing... it doesn't work. His penis just won't get in me. I am pretty sure nature was made so that par...
A. 3 September 2007: This sounds like "vaginismus":
"a condition which affects a woman's ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration, including sexual penetration, insertion of tampons, and the penetration involved in gynecological examinations. This is ... (read in full...)
Why do I hear women complaining about their first times, while I felt no pain?
Q. I always thought I would bleed when I first had sex and that it would be painful...but I didnt bleed at all and there was barely any pain at all. I always imagined it to be this horrible feeling and stuff, but it didnt hurt much at all. After my ...
A. 2 September 2007: It didn't hurt for me either. A little uncomfortable and certainly no fireworks, but no pain and no blood. All women are different.
It could do with your physiology, or it could be that your first lover took his time to make sure everythi... (read in full...)
I'm 13. Am I ready for sex?
Q. Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl 14 in two weeks an I'm stuck in a situation because I met this boy on msn and he's really nice to me an everything. I've seen him before but the thing is he wants to have sex with me and I am fine with that but I'm still a ...
A. 2 September 2007: If you're not very careful, your first time will hurt. You need to make sure he goes especially slowly, lots of forplay, maybe some lube, and don't just ram it home. If not, your first experience is going to be painful and bloody.
It won't pe... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 1 September 2007: Hey guys, can we get back to giving advice to the OP? The lengthy discussion should probably go private.
Ms. Anon, it's possible that if you don't blow your guy he may go elsewhere. There are people like that. But that's not the way to play ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my sister in law to have sex with me?
Q. Q. I am married for the last thirteen years but I am in love with my younger sister-in-law for the last eleven years. I always fantisize about her during sex with my wife. I have an obssessive compulsive disorder about her. I told her that I wanted ...
A. 31 August 2007: The way to let your heart let go of her is to stay away from her. Don't talk to her, don't visit her. Eventually your heart will heal. While you're doing this, try to work on your marriage. Talk to your wife about the little things, things you ... (read in full...)
He is not text-book attractive, however has a fantastic personality. Should I pursue a relationship with him, against the will of my friends?
Q. I need help!! Ive recently become intensely attracted to someone ive known for several years, but this is not where my problem lies. The issue is that this man is not text-book attractive. He's in his 30's, roughly five-ten, incredibly thin,...
A. 31 August 2007: You have extremely shallow friends. I think you're better with him than with them. (I'd be more concerned with your age difference, personally, but sometimes that works out.) If they harass you about dating him, cut them loose. You'll be better ... (read in full...)
He seems to enjoy the chase and we keep breaking up, only for him to be chasing me again, and the cycle continues. Is this going to go on forever?
Q. I am in this strange relationship for 2 years now. He chases after me, I feel intense feelings of joy and excitement (absolutely high), we get closer, I start chasing him, we become very intimate and then he pulls away, says his frightened. I feel ...
A. 31 August 2007: Some people are comfortable with a specific distance. If you get closer they will push you away, and if you walk away they will try to pull you closer. This is going to be his pattern forever. You're better off without him. Cold turkey is your ... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 31 August 2007: I went back down and re-read what Frank said. The bulk of his advice was right on, and the part about going elsewhere wasn't the main part.
He said:
"the only way to get good at something is to practice. ... Part of the fun is sex is learning,... (read in full...)
How can I convince my sister in law to have sex with me?
Q. Q. I am married for the last thirteen years but I am in love with my younger sister-in-law for the last eleven years. I always fantisize about her during sex with my wife. I have an obssessive compulsive disorder about her. I told her that I wanted ...
A. 31 August 2007: What about the sister-in-law's spouse? What will he do to his wife if you are successful in having her? Do you care about the consequences to her, to her children?
You really don't give a crap about anyone but yourself, do you? Morally reprehen... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 31 August 2007: If your boyfriend can't wait until you feel comfortable enough to do something, especially when you're saying "someday" and not "never," then he's a jerk and you should dump him. Anyone who LOVES YOU will wait until you're ready.
Your body, yo... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 30 August 2007: helskittn said pretty much what I was going to say, and in the order I would have said it, too [grin]:
(1) your body your rules -- don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to
(2) there is no wrong way to put your mouth on his gen... (read in full...)
How can I convince my sister in law to have sex with me?
Q. Q. I am married for the last thirteen years but I am in love with my younger sister-in-law for the last eleven years. I always fantisize about her during sex with my wife. I have an obssessive compulsive disorder about her. I told her that I wanted ...
A. 30 August 2007: Well, you start by getting treatment for your OCD. Then, if you still want this, you divorce your wife. You CAN NOT go after your sister-in-law while you're still married, not even once. It's dishonest, it's cheating, it's morally wrong. And you ... (read in full...)
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