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writes:Well I have a problm. I'm friends with a guy, we'll call him J, and J is perfect amd amazing and deeply in love with me though we are currently not dating. I think this could really turn into something, but there's this other guy, C, whom I'm really attracted to. I don't feel the same about C as I do J but I think it would be wrong to start a meaningful relationship with J whilst still having feelings for C. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (7 May 2007):
Or maybe you could try being single and just friends with both of them. Who says you have to be dating someone at your age? The media?
You can have meaningful, platonic relationships with people that you are attracted to.
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reader, penta  +, writes (7 May 2007):
 Since you're not in a committed relationship with either man, there's no reason you can't date both. As long as everyone knows about it, there's no problem. If one of them wants to be in a committed relationship, then you'll have more information to make your decision with.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 May 2007):
 Does it have to be all or nothing? I mean can't you as a single woman go on dates with both of them? I mean after all it's not like you Have to have an exclusive relationship all the time. Also it would a great way to get to know them better. I never regretted playing the field when I was your age I had a lot of fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): ahhhh. i must say that i found myself in the SAME situation as you are. My C was older and well established which attracted me. One day my J basically gave me an ultimatum and it made me realize that I truly wanted to be with him. I knew the whole time that I liked J better but I needed to be told that he was truly ready to commit to me before I let my second choice go. I regret not making this decision earlier. I think you know what you should do especially since J has already expressed his feelings :)
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