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Would it be right to get back with my ex after he cheated? I still love him!,
Q. would it be rite to get bk with my ex after he cheated, i was seeing sum1 else to but didn't sleep with this guy while livin with my ex, he had a drunken 1 nite stand and i kicked him out. im now this the lad i was seeing an starting to have seccond ...
A. 15 May 2007: If you feel that you can (1) forgive him without holding it over his head, and (3) trust him without always wondering if he's going to do it again, then yes, you can get back together. But if you're always looking to spot the "other woman" (even if ... (read in full...)
I am offering her a life of happiness but she still stays tied to her abusive ex because of their kid!
Q. Hi. I know this woman wants me and she's said that I'm the best man she's ever met. Yet, she has a child from a previous relationship and her ex has started making more demands of her time, expecting her to take the kid to and from him for visits. ...
A. 15 May 2007: First, stop saying anything bad about her ex to her. It's a weird thing, but the more you say how horrible he is, the more she'll feel like she has to defend him (especially if you're right). You don't want her in that position anymore.
What ... (read in full...)
I wrote a few hours ago about my partner wanting me out of our house to live with my mum.
Q. I wrote a few hours ago about my partner wanting me out of our house to live with my mum. He is now threatening to treat my daughter (from previous marriage)who lives with us -horribly. He is saying he can't stand me and needs me to go. He has p...
A. 14 May 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen. Get a lawyer.
Tell your soon-to-be-ex that you'll move out as soon as you can come to a written agreement about the amount he owes you. If the $$ from your house went into his, then you own a lot more of the house th... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to be more liberal in bed?
Q. My boyfriend is very uptight in bed, but he doesnt mind me being open and I always lead him. Sometimes he just doesnt wanna have sex, but i always force him because we are not always together.... Sometimes I worry that he will think i am a whore, ...
A. 14 May 2007: You won't do anything overnight. Take it slowly, a little at a time. When he gets used to that, take it a little further. If you go too fast you'll push him away.... (read in full...)
He's younger than me and my friends say I shouldn't date a schoolboy! Should I listen to them?
Q. Hi There. I'm in urgent need of help. Im 21 and I'm seeing a 16 year old. He acts much older and is such a nice guy. I really love him and want this to last. We made love and it felt amazing. I though I might be pregnant and he told me he'd stan...
A. 14 May 2007: how would you answer this question if the genders were reversed? Something to think about.
In the mean time, invite him to be around your friends. If they get to know him, maybe they will understand.... (read in full...)
Will he finally come to his senses and we can work this out ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been broken up and after cutting me off completely we finally talked and stayed the night together and he told me how much he loved me and missed me, but at the same time he cant be with me again, will he eventually come ...
A. 14 May 2007: It's possible he may "come to his senses." But I wouldn't count on it. He's told you that he can't be with you again. I would believe him and move on.... (read in full...)
Would it be right for us to have a baby before the marriage?
Q. hi everyone i just need an advice from you guys, im with my bf for a year now then just recently he asked me for us to make a baby just to make sure that we could have one he's 30 and im 26, i told him that i wanted marriage first before anything ...
A. 14 May 2007: This baby would be a real person, with his/her own needs and wants. S/he's not a test of your relationship, and you can't take it back if the relationship doesn't work. And as a mother of 2 toddlers I can tell you your life will never be the same. ... (read in full...)
Ever since the fight my gf gives me vague answers. Did she loose interest in me?
Q. hi. i had a fight wit my gfriend 2months ago. since then we really talk and wheneva we talk most she has nonclear answers eg if i ask her if we still together she tells me she doesnt know. my qn is -is has she lost interst in me or she is playing ...
A. 14 May 2007: She may be on defense now. She may have been more hurt than she let on, and now is closed to make sure you don't hurt her again. Was anything said that was below the belt? What was the fight about? You need to get her to talk to you, and fast, ... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex with my bf...what are the risks that I am pregnant?
Q. Hi im a 15 year old female and had unprotected sex with my boyfriend wednesday night. he didnt ejaculate inside me but what are the risks of me still becoming pregnant...can anyone help or give some advice thanx...
A. 11 May 2007: It is possible, though not likely. He will release some sperm before he ejaculates, it just doesn't get the extra push that the ejaculation gives it.
Where are you in your cycle? If you're more or less regular, count the first day of your ... (read in full...)
I'm married to her but she has become moody and she's hard to love. I met someone else and I want more-what should I do?
Q. I've been married 9 months to someone who used to be lovely, but over recent months has become easily annoyed and moody, and very hard to love. just recently I met a girl who I get on really well with and we connected, but altho were good friends we ...
A. 11 May 2007: There's a big difference between between love and infatuation. Infatuation feels great. It makes your heart race and it's new and exciting. But it doesn't last. It can't. If you're lucky, love replaces it. Love lasts. And it's totally worth ... (read in full...)
I find it uncomfortable to make any first sexual moves toward my gf...how do I overcome this?
Q. Hello, I am 24 yrs old virgin guy. Am sort of confused on sexual matters between me and my girl. I find it uncomfortable to make any sexual moves towards my girl, simply because i have been compelled to be suppressive of all such desires ...
A. 11 May 2007: So you want to have your gf make the first move, and you want her to read your mind that this is what needs to happen? Sounds like you're setting the relationship to fail.
Talk to her! If you can't talk to her, you probably shouldn't have sex... (read in full...)
I can't help but feel she would compare me to other partners. Does this happen?
Q. Im having trouble when im not with my girlfriend I worry about every little thing, for example the other day we were shopping and a guy she only says hi to on the odd occasion came running up to her from across the shop (it was a big store) just to ...
A. 11 May 2007: Unfortunately, the only way to find out whether someone is trustworthy is to trust them. You need to just trust her. If not, you could end up pushing her away.
Everyone compares relationships. It's human. It's not like you can take your pas... (read in full...)
My gf is so spoiled by her Mom--will she ever change?
Q. My girlfriend is very spoilt, i've only just come to realise. She gets 'everything' done for her by her mother, such as breakfast in bed every morning and college work on occasion. She also gets a ton of gifts and stuff from her mum and her room ...
A. 11 May 2007: I don't know about others, but my mom stopped cleaning my room when I was 5. It's unlikely that she will change, especially if she has no reason to. (Would YOU want to change from having someone do everything for you if you didn't have to?)
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Because of the past I have a hard time trusting my bf. How do I get over this?
Q. i am currently with this amazing guy, who treats me well, and everything with him feels soo right! but, i have a past of bad relationships, being used, and being dumped.....and i have alot of anxiety because of all of that i worry about everyt...
A. 11 May 2007: Suzie767 is giving some good advice here; talk to your guy. On top of that, try not to punish him for the things that the old ones did. Come up with some kind of phrase that your guy can say lightly -- something that says "Everything's okay, I'm ... (read in full...)
Do other guys say explicit things during sex ?
Q. I'm a sixteen year old female. My boyfriend of two years is eighteen years old. About two months ago we became sexually active. Sometimes he'll say things explicit things during sex. It doesn't make me uncomfortable.. infact it kind of turns me on ...
A. 11 May 2007: Oh yeah. My husband does this. It really turns him on. As long as it doesn't turn you off, it's all a part of the fun.... (read in full...)
He's married and I like him alot! I am down because I know we'll never date...what should I do about my feelings?
Q. I have very strong feelings for a married man(38) with 3 children. I think about him all day, everyday. I work with him through a charity organisation so am in touch with him now and again and am always trying to think of reasons to contact him. I ...
A. 11 May 2007: I would NOT confront him in any way. If you care about him, remember that you want what's best for him. Telling him about your feelings would be to put a temptation in front of him that could destroy his life, family, and kids. Carina gave you ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he is 19 and I think I'm pregnant - can he go to jail?
Q. I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 19. We've been dating for 2 1/2 years. My parents do approve of us dating, but I think I'm pregnant. Can my boyfriend go to jail?...
A. 11 May 2007: After reading the link that Midge provided (great link, btw!) it seems that even if your parents don't turn him in, he still could be arrested. 'Age of consent laws are there to stop young people from being exploited by adults.' The laws don't ... (read in full...)
His family excluded me for no reason, now they have suddenly invited me again and I want to snub them, but my boyfriend wants me to go with him.
Q. Dear cupid, My boyfriend and i have been together a couple of years and are very close. I was accepted by his family and invited to everything, and suddenly, for no reason, his family stopped inviting to any family gathering. They simply e...
A. 10 May 2007: Tell your bf that you will go with him this time ONLY if he makes you a promise: he will never again go to a family function that you are not invited to. If he can't be bothered to stand up for you, then you can't be bothered to make an appearance ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he is 19 and I think I'm pregnant - can he go to jail?
Q. I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 19. We've been dating for 2 1/2 years. My parents do approve of us dating, but I think I'm pregnant. Can my boyfriend go to jail?...
A. 10 May 2007: Since your parents approve of you dating him, it's not likely that they will turn him in, but if they wanted to they could press charges and he'd go to jail. He's over 18 (an adult) and you're not yet. (In my state the age of consent is 18 -- you ... (read in full...)
Her ex wants her back! She's confused...how do I handle this?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a few months now. Her ex has recently got back in touch and says he wants her back. Shes still with me at the moment, but is confused, and I'm scared shes gonna go back to him. How can we over-come this? ...
A. 10 May 2007: Well, she's being honest with you -- that's a good sign. Tell her how much you love her and that you'll respect her decision, but you really want her to pick you. I agree with CD -- now's not the time to be passive. Now's the time to be very ... (read in full...)
I want to be with him as boyfriend and girlfriend but I'm too embarrassed and scared to even mention anything like that to him.
Q. hello, i'm 18 years old and i'm abit confused. because i met up with a friend today who's a year younger than me so that makes him 17. and we've known each other way over a year now. well we met up and went to the cinema, but he started kissing m...
A. 10 May 2007: Call him up and tell him you enjoyed the cinema the other day, and would he like to do it again? Then just be yourself.... (read in full...)
What should I expect when I'm with a boy and he wants to 'get off' with me?
Q. hi just a quick question! im kinda confused please can u tell me excactly what a boy expects when you get off with them? I haven't been put in this situation before and i want to know excactly what to do when it comes to it... please help i need to ...
A. 9 May 2007: Wow. In 'The Canterville Ghost' (1887), Wilde wrote: 'We have really everything in common with America nowadays except, of course, language.' Some things don't seem to change.
Thanks for correcting me! ... (read in full...)
I find my boyfriend embarassingly unmanly. What can I do?
Q. Hey, I've recently started dating a guy, I'm 15 and he's 14, but because he's in the academic year below me my boy "friends" think it's weird. Sometimes they go as far as hitting him and tripping him up, "as a joke" For some reason, when the...
A. 9 May 2007: If you can't stick up for your boyfriend, you don't deserve him.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will only love me if I loose weight. Should I dump him?
Q. My boyfriend told me that I need to lose weight. We just got back together after we broke up for a couple of months and he said that I looked like I gain weight. So I told him you don't love me the way I am? He said I'll love you if you lost some ...
A. 9 May 2007: I agree with the other aunts, especially Dr. Pete! You might also tell him that he's developing the kind of karma the will cause a woman to leave him when he starts to lose his hair. Jerk.... (read in full...)
How do I get past all the damage my alcoholic husband has caused?
Q. How do I get past all the damage he's caused? My husband is an alcoholic and we've had some major issues in the past. For the past 2 years he gets real mean and aggressive when he drinks a lot. I have left him several times and each time I come ...
A. 9 May 2007: The women's shelter idea is a good one, but I also recommend (again) starting with the Al-Anon meetings. The people there have been through what you're going through, and there will be women at the meetings who will know about your local resources, ... (read in full...)
What should I expect when I'm with a boy and he wants to 'get off' with me?
Q. hi just a quick question! im kinda confused please can u tell me excactly what a boy expects when you get off with them? I haven't been put in this situation before and i want to know excactly what to do when it comes to it... please help i need to ...
A. 9 May 2007: I should have said that "getting off" in the US means having an orgasm.
(No offense to my Canadian cousin -- and I understand why she WISHES it, lol, but USA is N.America too ... not that we remember the other countries often either)
I've ne... (read in full...)
I'm 6 months pregnant, we are in couples therapy but he is still sleeping with someone else! How do I walk away?
Q. I'm having a difficult time walking away from someone and I need to. I am six months pregnant and really love this man, but he is sleeping with someone else and he can't make a decision. We have been in a relationship for over 3 years and were pla...
A. 9 May 2007: Why should he change? You're allowing him to have his cake and eat it too. He won't change unless he's forced to. You have to give him an ultimatum, and MEAN it. And if he doesn't choose you, you're actually better off. You'll never be able to ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fake my sex experience with this guy who is way ahead of me in that area?
Q. Okay so I'm officially dating this guy, it's a secret though. We are crazy about each other, and we've been hanging out everyday afterschool, it's really hard though cause he lives on the otherside of town, were thinking about having sex, he's way ...
A. 9 May 2007: Oh, sweetie, don't do that. He's really not going to care, and the chance for him to teach you is probably going to be a turn on!... (read in full...)
My bf is on a long trip, how do I keep my urges curbed without him?
Q. My boyfriend is away on a trip and it's been three months. I have never gone this long without sex before and it is totally getting to me. I'm totally irritable and depressed. I wouldn't dream of cheating on him, and masturbation is just not working ...
A. 9 May 2007: There's always new toys. Also, the site has erotic videos (that have plots!), some of which are geared toward women. I find that sometimes just shopping the site (even without purchasing) makes me happy. Maybe I'm just easily amused...... (read in full...)
What should I expect when I'm with a boy and he wants to 'get off' with me?
Q. hi just a quick question! im kinda confused please can u tell me excactly what a boy expects when you get off with them? I haven't been put in this situation before and i want to know excactly what to do when it comes to it... please help i need to ...
A. 9 May 2007: 'Get off' usually means to bring to orgasm. What a boy expects if he wants to 'get off' with you probably varies with the boy -- some may want to have you do something that gets him off while others want to do something more mutual. It can even ... (read in full...)
Our sex life was red hot but now she's introduced all these "sex rules"!
Q. hi...ive been married now for about a year and a half and before my wife and i were married our sex life was hot and exciting. but now that we are married things have cooled off and she has started with all these rules. like no sex after 10pm and ...
A. 9 May 2007: I understand the "no sex after 10:00" thing -- and I think if you don't want her to start thinking that you only want her for sex, you might allow her to set rules for the usage of her body. I know that sounds harsh. But she's not saying she ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I'm introducing my younger sibling to these kind of games? Any views.
Q. To some this may seem out of wack ... but I'm 7 years older than my one of my siblings children and we play all those spin the bottle to the next level or strip spin the bottle kind of games with our own made up rules (no sex involved) with the...
A. 8 May 2007: I think the misunderstanding was in the way that you phrased the question. You talk about one of your sibling's children who is 7 years younger than you. (1)You didn't say adult-children, you said children, and (2) without knowing how old YOU are ... (read in full...)
I need help with premature ejaculation!
Q. Hi All I had problem of Premature Ejaculation with my only 2 out of 4 sex experiences with diffrent girls. Someone in this forum suggested me to stop masturbating which i normally used to do every day. Now i stopped completely because the pers...
A. 8 May 2007: I'm not sure that avoiding masturbation is your answer. I think that while you're masturbating you should work on lasting longer, rather than on coming quickly. Practice makes perfect, after all.
And the next time you're with a lady, focus on... (read in full...)
He told me that he doesn't love me, like I love him! Where can I go from here?
Q. I have two children, one with my boyfriend now and one from a previous relationship. My boyfriend has taking on both children like they are both his own and his is a WONDERFUL father but we have been struggling. I love him more than anything ...
A. 8 May 2007: First dealing with the perception of a marriage being "just a piece of paper."
My mother-in-law's long-term boyfriend went a decade without marrying her. He had a really bad prior marriage and he "didn't believe in marriage." Then a friend o... (read in full...)
He calls out his 17 year old daughter's name in bed and he likes underage porn! What is going on with this guy?
Q. My boyfriend has a giant porn collection that i discovered recently. he watches them when i leave the house even if its for a few minutes. some of the dvds are underage porn. i am worried because his 17 yr old daughter is coming to live with us. ...
A. 8 May 2007: Trust the alarm bells going off in your head. There is something to be worried about here. Do what you can to keep the daughter away from him, and distance yourself as fast as you can thereafter.
If you can't get away from him and still ta... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my much older neighbour to like me?
Q. I'm in love with my neighbor. He's way older than me and I'm only 16. I've hung out at his house, but nothing has happened yet. He's touched me, but never kissed me. I like him alot! What should I do? should I keep doing this or should I stop it?...
A. 8 May 2007: You need to stop. You could get him arrested. You're underage! If you care for him at all, do not press this kind of relationship on him.... (read in full...)
I'm 16, just lost my virginity and now my BF wants me to shave down there!
Q. hey am 16 and and i just lost it to my b/f who i have been with for about 2 years now and he said he would like me to shave all my hair on my pussy... would it make a diffrence if i did or not?...
A. 8 May 2007: Depends on what you mean by "make a difference."
If you mean make a difference to him, yeah it probably will. My husband prefers the "racing stripe." I hate shaving because of how it itches when it grows back. I do it for him sometime... (read in full...)
Why don't guys like tall girls?
Q. ok, im 13 and ive never had a boyfriend because of my height. Why don't guys like tall girls and i masturbate a lot it that normal?...
A. 8 May 2007: One thing I forgot: while you're waiting for the guys to catch up to your height, DON'T SLOUCH!
My father worked hard on both me and my sister to make sure we tall girls stood straight and proud. He'd say, "The most beautiful part of any woma... (read in full...)
How do I get past all the damage my alcoholic husband has caused?
Q. How do I get past all the damage he's caused? My husband is an alcoholic and we've had some major issues in the past. For the past 2 years he gets real mean and aggressive when he drinks a lot. I have left him several times and each time I come ...
A. 8 May 2007: Honey, I'm going to give you the advice that you really don't want, because it's the best I have for you. He's an alcoholic. You can't trust him right now. You need to protect yourself and your finances from him. And you need to let him hit ... (read in full...)
Could our carelessness have resulted in me getting pregnant?
Q. Heya This a question and worry of mine about sex Im 15, and have a lovely boyfriend. We have been together for 2 months, and this weekend we were having sexual fun. we were giving him a hand job and when he came he got some on his hand, he thn fin...
A. 8 May 2007: It is possible. It's really unlikely, though. What's probably happening is that you're nervous, and the stress is causing your period to be late. Go get a pregnancy test to be sure. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.... (read in full...)
why do I get a headache after drinking?
Q. Everytime i drink, i get a really bad headache about 3 hours after, and i have to make myself throw up to get it to stop. Do you have any idea causing this?...
A. 8 May 2007: It's possible that you have an allergy. I would talk to a doctor before drinking again.
Now, if you're talking about a hangover, that's different. Stop drinking so much, and drink a lot of water and some juice to re-hydrate. Also take a pain-k... (read in full...)
My bf is on a long trip, how do I keep my urges curbed without him?
Q. My boyfriend is away on a trip and it's been three months. I have never gone this long without sex before and it is totally getting to me. I'm totally irritable and depressed. I wouldn't dream of cheating on him, and masturbation is just not working ...
A. 8 May 2007: There's this great website that reviews toys (yes, sex toys). I like it a lot -- the reviews are humorous, too -- and I've ordered some of the toys. They're very discreet, though you might want to look at the site in a private place, lol. It's ... (read in full...)
Why don't guys like tall girls?
Q. ok, im 13 and ive never had a boyfriend because of my height. Why don't guys like tall girls and i masturbate a lot it that normal?...
A. 7 May 2007: About the height: I hear you; I had the same problem. As did my sister, who's taller than I am. Luckily for you the guys will catch up. At your age they just haven't had their growth spurt yet. There will be guys who are sure enough of ... (read in full...)
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