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reader, confusedsoul +, writes (28 April 2007):
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reader, penta  +, writes (26 April 2007):
 The only expectations you need to worry about are your own. Decide what you want and go for it.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (25 April 2007):
 All in all, expectations that are not lived up to usually cause disappointment, and everybody deals with disappointment in their own way. So it's hard to say what happens if you cannot live up to people's expectations.
It depends on how high their expectations on you are.
For example, my parents expected me to study at the university, just like they had done, and they were mightily disappointed when I quit. In fact, they were so disappointed they didn't talk to me for a month.
I think most parents have expectations on their children, but not all parents handle unfulfilled expectations as badly as mine did. Most parents would understand that maybe their kid isn't meant to be a doctor or a lawyer.
But education and job expectations are just one type of expectation.
A lot of people put expectations on their friends' characters. Like I expect my friends to be honest with me and to be there for me if I need them, just like I would be there for them.
If these expectations are not met, then I try to understand why it happened if it's a single occurance, if it becomes a habit on their behalf, I re-evaluate the relationship.
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reader, Midge  +, writes (25 April 2007):
 I know what you say and there is only one answer for it, YOU DONT!!!
Parent have specific expectations for their kids and the bulk of the time, they are totally unrealistic. Most of the time, its things that they want for you, but you dont want for yourself, or you're not interested in.
My parents were very strict on us as kids. My parents thought that I had the brains to become a lawyer, and perhaps I do, but it wasnt what I wanted and so I never saught it.
It was a hard conversation telling them that I didnt want the same things that they wanted for me. And that no matter how much they pushed me, it wasnt going to happen.
A lot of people expect things of others, be it partners, business colleagues or parents. Its what you want that matters! Others cant make you change your mind about what YOU want, they can only steer you towards what THEY want for you. Its what you do to steer them to your way of thinking that will make all the difference!
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