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My guy hasn't contacted me for ages now, should I try and reach him or consider the relationship over???
Q. My boyfriend (we'll call him Alex for the sake of the discussion) hasn't contacted me in 7 weeks now. The last time he called, I had not heard from him in 2 weeks at that time. He was talking about personal, family and work problems but would n...
A. 30 August 2007: I am cautiously optimistic. But I don't recommend taking the initiative at all at this point. Let him call you; let him come to you. Tell him when you do see him that after seven weeks you just assumed the relationship was over, and that if he ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. He's convinced me to have sex, I'm nervous, any tips???
Q. hi guys,well I'm a teenager and i have a great bf i no I'm under aged but he has kind of convinced me to have sex with him.i was just wandering because it's my first time and I'm slightly nervous any tips on how to actually have sex?i no that sounds ...
A. 27 August 2007: After reading Dr. Pete's response I need to change mine. This is not the guy to have sex with, and this is not the time. If he's hurting you, you need to find someone else. Please leave him. Run like your ass is on fire. Your first time should ... (read in full...)
My guy hasn't contacted me for ages now, should I try and reach him or consider the relationship over???
Q. My boyfriend (we'll call him Alex for the sake of the discussion) hasn't contacted me in 7 weeks now. The last time he called, I had not heard from him in 2 weeks at that time. He was talking about personal, family and work problems but would n...
A. 27 August 2007: Consider it over, and good riddance. You want to be with someone who can't wait to call you. Don't give this jerk another thought.... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. He's convinced me to have sex, I'm nervous, any tips???
Q. hi guys,well I'm a teenager and i have a great bf i no I'm under aged but he has kind of convinced me to have sex with him.i was just wandering because it's my first time and I'm slightly nervous any tips on how to actually have sex?i no that sounds ...
A. 26 August 2007: Okay, first of all, please don't feel that you have to have sex this early. Do only what you're comfortable with; your body your rules. You're worth the wait, and taking it slowly is worth it for you too. If he won't wait for you then he's not ... (read in full...)
Mixed race relationship. How can i get his family to accept me?
Q. Help!! i have been with my boyfriend for a year now and i converted to islam a month before we got together, and were now getting serious. he has very strong family ties and values. i have met his brother in law who basicslly interviewed me o...
A. 25 August 2007: They're probably not ever going to change their minds about this. You and your bf have some serious talking to do. He needs to be willing to stand with you and back you up against his family, for the rest of your lives. And you're going to have ... (read in full...)
She flirted with me, now ignoring me completely
Q. I want to know why she is ignoring my calls, yesterday we were together and had a good time, we made out and she flirted with me the whole time etc etc, so she seemed to be into me... when i left i kissed and told her i'd call today (we talk on the ...
A. 25 August 2007: Standing you up isn't very nice. I would write this one off. Give her some space, and if she comes around you can ask her. If she doesn't, you're not missing anything worthwhile.... (read in full...)
I work with my ex and she is being nasty and abusive towards me; all I wish is to get on with my life.
Q. Hi, a bit of a problem, Ex wont leave me alone...?!?! Im single for about 2 months now and I work with my ex for another month or so, but she is being nasty and abusive towards me. I'm trying to lose contact with her but no matter what I do sh...
A. 25 August 2007: Okay, first of all, stop talking to girls at work. The situation you have with your ex should show you why work-place romances are tricky at best and should be avoided altogether. That will take away some of the fuel from this fire.
Secon... (read in full...)
I broached the subject of getting engaged to the father of my daughter and he said he never wanted engagement with anyone, his rejection hurt.
Q. My boyfriend of 3 and a half years has never discussed us getting engaged or married. He moved in with me when our 11 month old daughter was born. The other day i broached the subject of us getting engaged on her pending first birthday and we ended ...
A. 25 August 2007: birdynumnums is right. talk to a lawyer. He has commitment issues, but he needs to commit to his daughter.
If he won't step up, you need to move on. The sooner you can heal your heart over him, the sooner you can do so.
Good luck hon.... (read in full...)
How do you stimulate yourself?
Q. Girls help me please. Okay this is gonna sound so dumb but I don't know how to masturbate. Well I know you can finger yourself. If you do that and people check your vagina will it look like you've had sex?? I want to masturbate 'cause it's ...
A. 25 August 2007: Oddly enough, eHow.com has an answer to this question:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2058284_masturbate.html... (read in full...)
He thinks he should try again, just to prove a point to her.
Q. Re: My boyfriend ex-wife is driving us crazy. My boyfriend has been divorced for 3 years, his ex-wife filed for divorce. He met me 7 months before his divorce was final and was having a very hard time. That is how we became good friend. We then...
A. 25 August 2007: He is putting her ahead of you; this isn't good. I would leave him to her and good riddance.... (read in full...)
I have a spot on my vagina lip about the size of a pea, how do I get rif of it!
Q. I have a spot on my vagina lip about the size of a small pea. Was wondering if there is any way i could get rid of it fast cause i dont want my husband to feel it. TA xx...
A. 25 August 2007: Why are you worried about your husband seeing it? I'm assuming you've been faithful, so there's nothing to worry about.
It does sound like a cyst, and though they can be painful, they're not contagious. (Here's a site about them, with a couple... (read in full...)
Not sure if I've ever been in love with my wife, now I love her sister...
Q. I have the same dilemma as a couple of guys who say they're attracted to their wife's sister. I find myself in the same perdicament. The difference with me is that I am not in love with my wife, and I have fallen in love with her sister. I did not ...
A. 24 August 2007: If you're not in love with your wife, then you need to end the relationship. But DO NOT go chasing after her sister. You would trash their relationship, too, and that's not fair to either one of them.
The position you find yourself in doesn't ... (read in full...)
She flirted with me, now ignoring me completely
Q. I want to know why she is ignoring my calls, yesterday we were together and had a good time, we made out and she flirted with me the whole time etc etc, so she seemed to be into me... when i left i kissed and told her i'd call today (we talk on the ...
A. 24 August 2007: Well, if you were only flirting & kissing then she's not "cheating" on you -- not enough of a relationship.
It could be a lot of things, anywhere from the phone battery is dead and she's away from the computer to she got scared about what happened... (read in full...)
She says he's just a friend.
Q. Am I being too paranoid or is something going on? I've (21) been with my girlfriend (18) for over a year now, things have been going great up until she started telling me that there is a chance we might have to end it, because of conflicts with h...
A. 24 August 2007: It's entirely possible that he's just a friend. But you're obviously second fiddle, and that's not fair. You should tell her that you're okay that she has a friend, and that you trust her, but you feel like as her boyfriend you should come first. ... (read in full...)
Scared because I think I may be a lesbian... and my christian family and friends are anti-gay!
Q. HI I THINK IM A LESBIEN IM 21YRS OLD AND SCARED STIFF, NOT MANY THINGS HAVE GONE RIGHT AT THE MIN. MY FAMILY ARE ALL AGAINST GAY PEOPLE MY FRIENDS ALL THINK IF YOU SWING THAT WAY YOU SHOULD BURN I KNOW ITS BECAUSE THIER ALL CHRISTIANS. ITS HARD TO ...
A. 24 August 2007: You have to be who you are; you won't be happy pretending.
First find out for sure whether you are a lesbian, and find some like-minded Christians to help you out: http://www.christianlesbians.com/
If you have to change churches, it's w... (read in full...)
He drinks and gets mad, said he has cheated on me...what should I do?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 20months and love him alot but im not sure i should be with him anyore he drinks every night and we always end up falling out because he has got pissed he always finishes the relationship but then says sorry the ...
A. 24 August 2007: If you need permission from someone to leave this guy, you certainly have it from us. Run like your ass is on fire. Or, the next time he leaves you, let him go. Don't answer the phone (change your number!) don't answer his text messages and don't ... (read in full...)
He accuses me constantly of cheating but I'm not! Is this truely a case of "the guilty doing all the blaming?"
Q. I am 20 years old and have 2 daughters. Ages 1 and 2. I have been with their father for almost 4 years now and since the beginning he has been a very jealous person. He is constantly accusing me of cheating on him and I just recently started going ...
A. 24 August 2007: Here is another good article that could help:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2064023_recognize-jealousy.html... (read in full...)
He accuses me constantly of cheating but I'm not! Is this truely a case of "the guilty doing all the blaming?"
Q. I am 20 years old and have 2 daughters. Ages 1 and 2. I have been with their father for almost 4 years now and since the beginning he has been a very jealous person. He is constantly accusing me of cheating on him and I just recently started going ...
A. 24 August 2007: There really isn't a way for you to prove that you're NOT doing something if he wants to believe otherwise. He needs counseling, desperately, and you should go with him. DO NOT let him make you quit school. If he can't trust you, then you don't ... (read in full...)
Not so much a question I suppose - more of a cry from the heart - even doing the right thing can hurt like hell.
Q. Does knowing the answer help the heartache? In short, I'm married, she's married, both have kids and work together. Recently we told each other how we felt - head over heels in love - and have been meeting after work or at lunchtime - purely to talk ...
A. 23 August 2007: I read the original post. He's in love with someone who is not his wife, though they've stopped short of any physical relationship. If I were the wife, I'd be devastated that my spouse was in love with another woman, even if he had never touched ... (read in full...)
I cant get a date and have become addicted to porn
Q. Hey I have a problem. I'm 19 and a couple of times I have tried to ask girls out but they all say no when i ask if they want to go on a date with me. I always asked them questions, and was polite etc. but it hasn't worked for me and it has led me ...
A. 23 August 2007: I'd say yes. The "real thing" is usually much more fun than the most interesting fantasy...... (read in full...)
Why can't I get pregnant???
Q. why cant i get pregnant!! me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for nearly 7 months and it just isnt happening it is cos im only 15 or is it just cos i cant have children. i really want one. me and my boyfriend have been together...
A. 22 August 2007: Having a baby now would be extremely selfish. Think of this person you'd be bringing into the world. Don't you want everything for it? Mommy & me classes (cost money), good education (costs money) nice toys (cost money) not to mention a good ... (read in full...)
I've had an attack of some sort of tummy bug, and I'm worried: my pill says that such things can make birth control ineffective!!
Q. I've had an attack of some sort of tummy bug, and I'm worried: my pill says that such things can make birth control ineffective!! What do I do to combat the possibility? My boyfriend and I are very active, and although while I'm sick of course I ...
A. 21 August 2007: You should use condoms until you're finished with this pill pack and start the next. BTW, antibiotics can mess with the pill, too. ... (read in full...)
How do I get over first time nerves?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been together for a couple of weeks and today, she undid my trousers but i wasn't ready. i've never had a sexual experince and i panicked. i got scared she'd judge my penis when it was small. i know it's a superficial ...
A. 21 August 2007: Sometimes it can be sexy for a man to grow in your hand, knowing you did that to him [grin]. When she feels it soft she's not going to be thinking size, she's going to be thinking "how can I get this hard?" with a smile on her face. And you're a ... (read in full...)
Since I broke up with my girlfriend I havent had any sex and I feel I am missing out and the best time of my life is being ruined
Q. I came out of what I thought was a very serious relationship before summer. We were together for 2 1/2 years and had all these great plans. Breaking up ruined that. It's been nearly 3 months since we split now, and I still really miss. The entire ...
A. 21 August 2007: If all you miss of the relationship is the sex, then there's no reason to miss her. Just get back into the game. And you have lots of years ahead of you for sex. Get reacquainted with your hand and stop worrying about it. You'll find someone new ... (read in full...)
He's asked to marry me and although I love him I can't see us getting married until he stops being so hot headed!
Q. I'm with my boyfriend 4 years, and 2 of these we have spent living together. We love each other very much and do consider us to have a future together. The other night my boyfriend drunkenly told me he planned on popping the question soon, and ...
A. 21 August 2007: All men are on their best behavior before the marriage. This will only get worse unless it's addressed. I say go with your gut, and don't marry this guy. ... (read in full...)
Not so much a question I suppose - more of a cry from the heart - even doing the right thing can hurt like hell.
Q. Does knowing the answer help the heartache? In short, I'm married, she's married, both have kids and work together. Recently we told each other how we felt - head over heels in love - and have been meeting after work or at lunchtime - purely to talk ...
A. 21 August 2007: You two are playing with fire.
I know you're technically not doing anything wrong, but you're also neither of you putting all your emotions into your marriages. You're skirting very close to a kind of emotional cheating, and the pain of it won't... (read in full...)
I cant get a date and have become addicted to porn
Q. Hey I have a problem. I'm 19 and a couple of times I have tried to ask girls out but they all say no when i ask if they want to go on a date with me. I always asked them questions, and was polite etc. but it hasn't worked for me and it has led me ...
A. 21 August 2007: Find something else you like to do and get involved in it. A club, a sport, a hobby, your church, anything. Get busy. Do something for yourself that will give you self-confidence. Confidence is sexy. And you might meet someone who shares your ... (read in full...)
He hasnt contacted me at all. Do you think he dumped me?
Q. hi i really need your help!my marrige broke up last year and since then iv met this lovly man iv been with him 5 months now and hes had to go away to work and comes back every weekend . now the first time he went he came stright back to me and we ...
A. 21 August 2007: If he wanted to be with you, he'd work to be with you. So yes, I think he dumped you, in a very cowardly way. If this is how he communicates, you're much better off without him.... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and want a baby!
Q. Hi everyone. My name is Robyn and I'm 17. I've been going through a lot lately and I don't know what to do. All last year I was very ill and I thought at one point I was pregnant. When I found out I wasn't, I was devastated. I want a baby so ...
A. 21 August 2007: You're the kind of person who wants to nurture. So make yourself the best nurturer possible. Wait until then.
You'll need to have the best situation -- enough money to pay for mommy-and-me classes, and enough money to stay home with the baby. Y... (read in full...)
How long after you take drugs can you give blood?
Q. heyy its my birthday in a week, and now since they lowered the age to give blood my mom wants me to give. I'm all for it, but the problem is around june i smoked some weed, i'm wondering how long i have to wait before i can give blood? and what ...
A. 20 August 2007: Just donated platelets this weekend. There were no questions of any kind regarding marijuana use. (Lots on injection drugs, and whether I've been in prison, had sex with a homosexual man, whether I've lived in a country exposed to Mad Cow disease ... (read in full...)
We're now going to colleges in different states, any advice to help make it work?
Q. Typical scenario: my boyfriend and I are high school sweat hearts and have been together for two years. Now we are both going to different colleges in different states. We both are still in love but realize that our decision to stay together is ...
A. 20 August 2007: If you can get him to agree to dating, that's best. Ask that one of the "conditions" be that anyone either of you date KNOWS that there is another important person in your life (it's more honest to the other people, too). As long as everyone is ... (read in full...)
Will eating only 2 apples a day make me lose weight quickly?6
Q. Hey.. ok well i'm planning to lose weight..So i'm going to eat two apples a day and that's it..iv done this now for 1 day..and I no that i'm going keep on doing it..how long will it take like before the weight all drops off?? i'm 9 stone and I hate ...
A. 20 August 2007: The URL needs to leave off the ')' at the end or it won't work:
http://www.annlouise.com/FatFlushPlan.asp... (read in full...)
Will eating only 2 apples a day make me lose weight quickly?6
Q. Hey.. ok well i'm planning to lose weight..So i'm going to eat two apples a day and that's it..iv done this now for 1 day..and I no that i'm going keep on doing it..how long will it take like before the weight all drops off?? i'm 9 stone and I hate ...
A. 20 August 2007: No. Your body will assume you are starving and it will stop burning calories as efficiently -- it will slow down your metabolism. And then you'll feel deprived and you'll cheat, and the calories from whatever else you eat won't be burned either.
... (read in full...)
What are the side effects of going on the pill?
Q. can anyone tell me the side effects [if any] of going on the pill please??? Just out of curiosity Thanks xxxx...
A. 20 August 2007: Depends on which pill you go on. But in general, here's a site that lists them: http://womenshealth.about.com/od/thepill/f/pillsideeffects.htm... (read in full...)
How long after you take drugs can you give blood?
Q. heyy its my birthday in a week, and now since they lowered the age to give blood my mom wants me to give. I'm all for it, but the problem is around june i smoked some weed, i'm wondering how long i have to wait before i can give blood? and what ...
A. 14 August 2007: Here's the FAQ site: http://givelife.rso.wisc.edu/faq.htm and here's the Q & A:
Q: Can I give blood if I have been drinking or taking drugs?
A: Smoking marijuana or drinking alcohol moderately will not disqualify you from giving blood as ... (read in full...)
I felt angry and jealous that he might want to look at a bunch of naked women with plastic jugs!
Q. I got pissed off at my boyfriend for glancing at a strip club when we were driving to dinner, is this psycho jealous of me? We've been seeing each other for 6 months and I've finally come around to accepting that he may look at other girls from ...
A. 13 August 2007: All guys like to look. It doesn't have anything to do with your relationship, or how much he loves you. Feel confident in your relationship and let this go. ... (read in full...)
I've been blindsided and just end up getting in terrible moods constantly because I want him, just not with a cigarette in his hand...
Q. I'm only seventeen, but I have been dating my current boyfriend for eight months. He isn't what you would call the perfect "bring home to meet mom" kind of guy but he's very sweet. The only problem is he smokes cigarettes. Now to most people this ...
A. 13 August 2007: Ask him to quit. Tell him it was okay when you were just having fun, but now that you're falling for him you need to have him make a choice. Tell him you'll understand if he chooses smoking over you, but you'll be gone because it's not a choice ... (read in full...)
She was forced by a guy she was dating for about 2 weeks to perform oral sex on a him
Q. You saw a girl that you like very much, she is sexy and attends college. When you are trying to know her, someone tells you that she was forced by a guy she was dating for about 2 weeks to perform oral sex on a him once. She leaves the guy after ...
A. 13 August 2007: (1) how do you know this really happened?
(2) if it's true, why is this a reflection on her? she was forced. get over it.
(3) if this still creeps you out then by all means, do the girl a favor and stay out of her life. Your loss, not hers. ... (read in full...)
Is there a possibility I could be gay?
Q. On a week long school trip a friend asked me to put suncream on his back, I got really turned on. Since then I have had gay fantasies about him. I have only told my closest mate about me being possibly gay Should I tell the person?...
A. 13 August 2007: Without knowing who else you're attracted to, it's hard to know. Human sexuality isn't binary (it's not just straight/gay), but it's along a bell curve. You could just be bi-curious. Have you been attracted to women too? I wouldn't worry about ... (read in full...)
Feeling odd after boyfriend told me about three some three years ago. Please help!
Q. Hi - My boyfriend who I've known for 18 months told me about something he did about 7 years ago which has left me feeling really odd towards him. He said he'd been out drinking with two female friends and a male friend. Three of them went back to ...
A. 12 August 2007: Has your boyfriend given you ANY other reason not to trust him? Has he been straight with you with everything else? If so, the person who should be upset right now is him. He confided in you and you couldn't handle it. That's sad.
And there ar... (read in full...)
My brother and I just pieced together that our father sexually abused us and our sibling. Now he may abuse his 3 year old and unborn baby - help!
Q. Hello my father abused his sisters child for 10 years from the ages of 4 to 10 she got as far as reporting it to the police but found it too traumatic an experience and couldnt face court. I always showed symptoms of abuse but when my cousin ...
A. 9 August 2007: If someone had been able to rescue your brother, cousin and you, but didn't, how would you feel about that person?
You need to make sure that nothing happens to your half-siblings. If you can't convince your cousin to help, you still need to ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I do not fancy him anymore and cannot face having sex with him, he does not turn me on at all, in fact it is more of a chore. What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17, I am now 23. At the time I did not think that anyone would like me and was happy that someone did. Recently I have been getting a lot of attention from men and it makes me wonder if I settled down too ...
A. 9 August 2007: Your significant other deserves to have someone who wants him sexually. If you really find sex with him a chore, he would be better off without you. Leave him and check out those greener pastures.... (read in full...)
My brother and I just pieced together that our father sexually abused us and our sibling. Now he may abuse his 3 year old and unborn baby - help!
Q. Hello my father abused his sisters child for 10 years from the ages of 4 to 10 she got as far as reporting it to the police but found it too traumatic an experience and couldnt face court. I always showed symptoms of abuse but when my cousin ...
A. 9 August 2007: Talk to the mother of these children. Now. You have to make sure he doesn't hurt anyone else.
If possible, go visit her with all the other people he's molested so that she can't deny it.... (read in full...)
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