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*lowerbud
writes:hi im feeling really confused,i was with my lesbian partner for 19 months on and off,we had a really rocky relationship,but we loved each other totally but just could not work through our problems,i was in a real mess i was totally depressed and cheated on her twice,i know my mental health is no excuse but i was in a really bad way,we ended. and i found some one new ive been with her for seven months now but i cant get over my ex,we stopped talking and texting for 2 months but that didnt help at all,the problem is i can not stop thinking about her every day,this makes me feel like im decieving my present partner am i?i founf my exs profile on a gay dating site recently and i felt really sick and just wanted to cry,i really dont understand my reaction to it,am i totally jealous of her still,well i think i am,but why?my present gf is great but there seems to be something missing and im not sure what it is,every one keeps telling me i need to forget my ex and move on,the problem is how do i do that?ive never felt like this with any of my exs before,im alot stronger now, not depressed i have become so much stronger in my self its unreal,i often think if i was this strong with my ex we might of made it,but i suppose u cant live ur life regrets can you,i just need to forget her but HOW? please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): Was she your first love? If so, that explains a lot. I would say that if you can't get over her then you are not in a position to start a new relationship. I have been in rollercoaster relationships before and I think lesbians love the drama. There is no challenge if you just "get on" with someone. There is always going to be a lack of passion. That said, it is also important to know when a relationship has too many ups and downs, you've got to get out. Ask yourself why you were depressed at the time. Was it her or your relationship that was getting you down? Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): I believe you truly love her and what happened was you just needed some time out to fix yourself and now that you did ... you need to follow your heart and go get her......
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Find redemption. Make peace by forgiving yourself. Went through the same thing with my ex. Basically, you have built up a future life in your head with that woman, and you need to say goodbye to that future, and build a new one for yourself.
Also, it sounds like there was LOTS of drama in your past relationship, and Drama is ADDICTIVE. It can be as deadly as a drug. How would your perspective on her change if you saw your interest in her like an addiction?
-Frank B Kermit
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