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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years we broke up in March for 6 weeks and during that time he started seeing the barmaid of the local bar he drinks in. We got back together and she kept on phoning him even though he was back with me. It didn’t bother me because I know he loves me and would never have gotten back together with me if he wanted her. Eventually she stopped calling because she got engaged to someone (after a few weeks). He still keeps on drinking in the bar where she works, which does bother but he cant see a problem, then he got a phone call one day and it was the womans new fiancée wanting to go out for a drink with him even though they had only met a few times. I was really angry and he couldn’t see why?? Do you think its wrong for me to tell him not to go there anymore, (there are plenty of other places he could go where he has friends), or am i just being silly?
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reader, xxmissxx +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Im not taking sides here, just stating facts!
You were on a break, incase you werent entirely aware of the circumstances of being on a break it means for a certain amount of time (or forever), you are not together!
You both can do exactly as you please!
You take a break from eachother, in most cases, to make sure there isnt anything possibly better out there!
This is what most guys would class as a break anyway, i know women think a little different because our feelings are alot more stronger than males.
Although i seriously think you should give your guy some leeway! Let him drink where he wants because he will anyway. Once men have a decent boozer to go to where they enjoy the atmosphere, they wont let it go, this is inevitable for the typical male drinker.Or so i think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Well, boys will be boys I suppose. It's in their nature to spread themselves around a bit, but I take his side on this. You were not together at the time, and he wasn't to know you'd get back together then.Some of the lads I know wouldn't have a pub left to frequent which their partner was happy with, on account of the many 'friendships' made therein.He's with you, she's with someone else - where's the problem if he keeps his hands off her and his mind on you?Phil
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (6 September 2007):
 If it were me, I would NOT be going back to that bar. I think you are right to request that he does not.
If he does not get it, leave him. It reflects just as bad on you for staying with (and getting back together with) a guy like that.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (5 September 2007):
 Hi
Er no you're not!
But not being funny. 6 weeks and he jumps into someone elses bed tha quick?
How does that make you feel? And i take it, it was more than a one night stand?
All sounds bizarre to me.
It might be totally innocent, and he might get on real good with her new fella but perrrlease, how weird is this?
I bet you wont stop him going in there though.
Blokes will drink where they damn well please, quite often just to rile you and keep you on your toes. Thats why i wont date pub frequenters any more. I dont like the jack the lad types, they cant keep their eyes to themselves where tarty barmaids are concerned let alone anything else.
Good luck.
I do hope you get some joy there. I certainly wouldnt be happy.
C xxxxx
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